What's the Deal With Loneliness? Ten Authors Tell
Loneliness is a popular topic for writers. They share from their own experiences, from the experience of others they observe, and sometimes to give counsel to those who seek it.
Here are ten brief summaries of authors who have written on different phases of loneliness. Because the presentations are all different, they offer ten different approaches to individuals who might be facing another threatening episode of loneliness.
(1) Julie-Ann Amos: Loneliness at the Top
Amos prepares the corporate executive and business owner for loneliness which comes with high positions in the corporate world.
She states: "Often, these [camaraderie, team work, advice] are things which we take for granted, until of course, we find ourselves sitting alone in our ivory towers knowing that the buck stops with us. . . Those at the top of an organization are much more likely to be privy to confidential information which can’t be shared.”
There is definitely less time and opportunity for camaraderie, proving the concept that it is lonely at the top. She recommends executive coaching for leaders and executives who experience feelings of loneliness.
(2) Greensleeves: Loneliness and Depression
He writes: "Despite the truth that the subject is close to my heart, I did actually enjoy putting my thoughts down on paper - it is so much better than bottling them up!"
He shares five very short reflections in which he reveals the emotions and behavior patterns which accompany the state of depression caused partly by loneliness. He reveals that depression and loneliness rob their victim of energy, motivation, self-respect, and other qualities necessary for productivity. They offer hopelessness, sadness and isolation among other negative emotions. His counsel is to embrace the present, which has no regrets, but possibilities of a good future.
(3) Chuksm: Loneliness after Loss
Whether the loss is caused by death or divorce, Chuksm gives great advice in How to Overcome Loneliness . . .: "It is essential that you take the necessary actions required to overcome loneliness before it takes control of you, overwhelm and overtake you, and result in depression."
He suggests taking care yourself, discovering interests and hobbies, investing in career, and seeking professional help, if necessary.
(4) Luis E Gonzalez: Friendship and Loneliness
Gonzalez promotes the use of photography to document and compare two opposite situations: friendship and loneliness. He states: “Photography can capture images of both which can be use side by side as comparisons. This theme can also be used as a study of the human condition and society as a whole.”
He gives detailed suggestions for capturing images of both friendship and loneliness in people, animals and inanimate objects. The exercises he describes make great activity for the lonely person.
(5) Accofranco: Liking Loneliness
“My lonely times has [sic] proven to be my most creative moments in life, both in writing solid short stories, thinking positively and in meditation.”
This is accofranco’s testimony in How To Spend Your Lonely Times Positively. He proposes that the problem is not loneliness, but how the lonely time is spent. His article includes some of his important achievements, all done during his time alone.
He introduces principles to help the reader adopt a healthy attitude toward loneliness, and he makes a passionate, preventative plea to readers who might consider doing something stupid because they don’t know what to do with their time.
(6) Ramkimeena: Loneliness through Ignorance
Loneliness is Sick is the title of his article. He believes that lonely people invite their own fate because “they do not know how to enjoy the company of other people."
He discusses briefly the symptoms of this kind of loneliness and suggests that it could lead to hatred for God and to drug addiction. Then he prescribes the “magic cure” having to do with our attitude toward other people and our interaction with them. He suggests welcoming strangers, befriending and helping them.
(7) Meloncauli: Loneliness and Depression
Meloncauli is an anxiety management therapist and writes extensively on mental health issues like panic attack, phobias and stress. She writes: "Loneliness and depression can result [each] from the other and are often seen side by side in terms of suffering. Both promote alienation and the isolation that results becomes a big part of a self-perpetuating cycle."
She suggests participation in family gatherings, social networking and community volunteer projects, but also reminds the reader not to depend on others to make them happy. Much depends on how we feel about ourselves.
(8) Bhargvi Sharma: Loneliness to the Extreme
Bbhargvi Sharma claims that the situation she describes in Loneliness: My Only Friend is real. Here are a few lines from her poem:
add up to my personality. . .
Smile rarely comes on my face."
Bbhargvi does not express any longing for company. She just accepts her loneliness shrouded in darkness. She makes the reader want to comfort her although she does not ask.
(9) Joshua Zerbini: Dark and Lonely
Dark Lonely Room is a poem by Zerbini, in which he reflects on his life with all its past trials and visualizes his journey as an attempt to escape from a dark, lonely room toward freedom. Eventually, he decides that the dark room is the place where he learns life’s meaning and gains wisdom.
Josh’s poem is inspirational and encourages his readers to find contentment in their circumstances.
Loneliness in the United Kingdom (UK)
- The number of people living in one person households has increased dramatically from 17% in 1971 to 29% 2013 (that's 7.7 million people).
- Half of all older people (about 5 million) say the television is their main company.
- Extreme loneliness can increase an older person’s chances of premature death by 14%.
- from Evangelical Alliance
(10) Victoria Jean Moore: Lonely and Learning
The author draws from her experiences of “handling life alone” and gives the reader insight into the way she prepares mentally for her “solitary excursions.”
She concludes: "To reach my true evolution of self I need to appreciate the activities I enjoy independently and gain what I can from them to become a better person and companion when I'm not alone."
© 2012 Dora Weithers