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What's the Deal with Loneliness? Ten Authors Tell

Updated on January 4, 2018
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MsDora, a six-year online writer, shares poetry, creative writing, and reflections on how writing and writers influence our lives.

Loneliness is a popular topic for writers. They share from their own experiences, from the experience of others they observe, and sometimes to give expert counsel to those who seek it.

Here are ten brief summaries of authors who have written on different phases of loneliness. Since it is unlikely that any two of them will make identical presentations, people who habitually get bored and lonely might find options on how to offset the next threatening episode.

(1) Julie-Ann Amos: Loneliness at the Top

Lonely at the Top on the summit at Mount Sinai.
Lonely at the Top on the summit at Mount Sinai. | Source

Amos prepares the corporate executive and business owner for loneliness which comes with high positions in the corporate world.

She states: Often, these [camaraderie, team work, advice] are things which we take for granted, until of course, we find ourselves sitting alone in our ivory towers knowing that the buck stops with us. . . Those at the top of an organization are much more likely to be privy to confidential information which can’t be shared.”

There is definitely less time and opportunity for camaraderie, proving the concept that it is lonely at the top. She recommends executive coaching for the leaders and executives who experience feelings of loneliness.

(2) Greensleeves: Loneliness and Depression

He writes: "Despite the truth that the subject is close to my heart, I did actually enjoy putting my thoughts down on paper - it is so much better than bottling them up!"

He shares five very short reflections in which he reveals the emotions and behavior patterns which accompany the state of depression caused partly by loneliness. He reveals that depression and loneliness rob their victim of energy, motivation, self-respect, and other qualities necessary for productivity. They offer hopelessness, sadness and isolation among other negative emotions. His counsel is to embrace the present, which has no regrets, but possibilities of a good future.

(3) Chuksm: Loneliness after Loss

Whether the loss is caused by death or divorce, Chuksm gives great advice in How to Overcome Loneliness . . .: "It is essential that you take the necessary actions required to overcome loneliness before it takes control of you, overwhelm and overtake you, and result in depression."

He suggests taking care yourself, discovering interests and hobbies, investing in career, and seeking professional help, if necessary.

(4) Luis E Gonzalez: Friendship and Loneliness

Image of Loneliness
Image of Loneliness | Source

Gonzalez promotes the use of photography to document and compare two opposite situations: friendship and loneliness. He states: “Photography can capture images of both which can be use side by side as comparisons. This theme can also be used as a study of the human condition and society as a whole.”

He gives detailed suggestions for capturing images of both friendship and loneliness in people, animals and inanimate objects. The exercises he describes make great activity for the lonely person.

(5) Accofranco: Liking Loneliness

Alone and enjoying it
Alone and enjoying it | Source

“My lonely times has [sic] proven to be my most creative moments in life, both in writing solid short stories, thinking positively and in meditation.”

This is accofranco’s testimony in How To Spend Your Lonely Times Positively. He proposes that the problem is not loneliness, but how the lonely time is spent. His article includes some of his important achievements, all done during his time alone.

He introduces principles to help the reader adopt a healthy attitude toward loneliness, and he makes a passionate, preventative plea to readers who might consider doing something stupid because they don’t know what to do with their time.

(6) Ramkimeena: Loneliness through Ignorance

Photo by Vivekbisht109
Photo by Vivekbisht109 | Source

(6) Ramkimeena: Loneliness through Ignorance

Loneliness is Sick is the title of his article. He believes that lonely people invite their own fate because “they do not know how to enjoy the company of other people."

He discusses briefly the symptoms of this kind of loneliness and suggests that it could lead to hatred for God and to drug addiction. Then he prescribes the “magic cure” having to do with our attitude toward other people and our interaction with them. He suggests welcoming strangers, befriending and helping them.

(7) Meloncauli: Loneliness and Depression

Meloncauli is an anxiety management therapist and writes extensively on mental health issues like panic attack, phobias and stress. She writes: "Loneliness and depression can result [each] from the other and are often seen side by side in terms of suffering. Both promote alienation and the isolation that results becomes a big part of a self-perpetuating cycle."

She suggests participation in family gatherings, social networking and community volunteer projects, but also reminds the reader not to depend on others to make them happy. Much depends on how we feel about ourselves.

(8) Bhargvi Sharma: Loneliness to the Extreme

Bbhargvi Sharma claims that the situation she describes in Loneliness: My Only Friend is real. Here are a few lines from her poem:



add up to my personality. . .

Smile rarely comes on my face."

Bbhargvi does not express any longing for company. She just accepts her loneliness shrouded in darkness. She makes the reader want to comfort her although she does not ask.

(9) Joshua Zerbini: Dark and Lonely

Dark Lonely Room is a poem by Zerbini, in which he reflects on his life with all its past trials and visualizes his journey as an attempt to escape from a dark, lonely room toward freedom. Eventually, he decides that the dark room is the place where he learns life’s meaning and gains wisdom.

Josh’s poem is inspirational and encourages his readers how to find contentment in their circumstances.

Loneliness in the United Kingdom (UK)

  • The number of people living in one person households has increased dramatically from 17% in 1971 to 29% 2013 (that's 7.7 million people).
  • Half of all older people (about 5 million) say the television is their main company.
  • Extreme loneliness can increase an older person’s chances of premature death by 14%.

- from Evangelical Alliance

(10) Victoria Jean Moore: Lonely and Learning

The author draws from her experiences of “handling life alone” and gives the reader insight into the way she prepares mentally for her “solitary excursions.”

She concludes: "To reach my true evolution of self I need to appreciate the activities I enjoy independently and gain what I can from them to become a better person and companion when I'm not alone."

© 2012 Dora Weithers


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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Word, thanks for reading and sharing your personal insight. Just catching up, so I'm sure I'll have some articles from you to read.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hi Dora, This is another super great article of yours. You never fail to amaze me with your content. Been living alone for 3 years now but am not lonely, amazingly because of God in Christ dwell in my life daily. People are only lonely because the neglect to allow The Lords (God in Christ) to dwell daily in their lives. I always say, "boy or gee whiz," if they only new the goodness of the Lord they wouldn't feel lonely because they'd be connected to the main source of life. Thanks for sharing, my wonderful friend. I see that you wrote this before I joined here.

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Alun. This article comforted me initially when I realized that there are so many different ways to look at and understand loneliness. Your comment is a very helpful addition.

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      Greensleeves Hubs 2 years ago from Essex, UK

      Nice of you Dora to put together this compilation of perspectives on loneliness - useful, particularly on a subject such as this because loneliness takes many forms.

      Loneliness can exist for the rich and powerful and for the poor or oppressed, it can exist for those who are single, and for those who are seemingly in a happy relationship, and it can exist for those who are alone in their home, and for those who are in a crowded room.

      It is an awful feeling to have, and hopefully anybody who is suffering from loneliness and who reads your review will find comfort or good advice in at least one of the ten articles. I shall be taking a look at several of them. Voted up. Alun

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Ignugent, I'll say it just like you said it, "I am not really a fan of being lonely but that is reality." Thanks for your input.

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      ignugent17 4 years ago

      Thanks for sharing all of them. I am not really a fan of being lonely but that is reality. Some point of our life we gets lonely.

      Have a great day! :-)

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Lastheart, I know exactly what you mean. "Alone with God" is a precious experience. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Good job MsDora. I love loneliness time to time. It relaxes me and charges my internal battery. I think (by my own experience) that some people feel loneliness in a negative way, because they are not fulfilled with God's presences.We cannot deny that surrendering to God will give us the miracle of making true the words written in: John 14:18 "I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you."

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thelma, nice meeting here on HubPages. Hope the many perspectives of these wonderful hubbers interest you as much as they did me. Thanks for commenting.

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      Thelma Alberts 5 years ago from Germany

      This is a great colections of hubs MsDora. I ´ll check this later after this comment. Thanks for sharing.

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      What a great loss, Unknown. My heart goes out to you with prayers that caring, compassionate people and circumstances will find you and uphold you. May God bless you with inner strength to cope.

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      My mom and dad and my brothers and sisters all 10 of them died in the 2004 Tsunami when i was 11 years old and if this massages gets blocked one more time i will err on Alex Jone

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      And a great discussion it would be starting with your comments, ahorseback. Thanks for your input.

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      ahorseback 5 years ago

      Msdora , I think that there is a huge part of lonliness that manifests from self exile , whether by nature or by life circumstances . We all get there that's for sure ! But you're right it can be a most creative place for writing, by nature I have always been a stand offish kind of guy , a bit of a social misfit . A Loner even , in each and every relationship sooner or later I tend to islolate myself . And it is a lonely place that we gift to ourselves . Exellent hub for discussion!+++

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Alcosin, I believe there's enough information on each one to help you select the one's that right for you. However, you highlight the fact that what cures one may not necessarily cure all. Here's to your better condition!

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Thanks for this collection of hubs since I do get lonely once in a while. I hope they help improve my condition though, rather than make it worse. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Nikki. Glad you like the ones I pick.

      David, thanks for your encouragement. Hallelujah, indeed.

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      David Samuel Davis 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Yes, MsDora ...... but be encourage, we have a saviour that is closer then a brother. Specially when we lose a love one, no one can understand that Kind of loneliness except Jesus, when He went to the cross and carried every emotion and burden imaginable. That's why He says lay your burdens upon Him his yoke is easy..... HALLELUJAH!!!!!

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      Nikki Major 5 years ago

      you've picked some really great hubs.....

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      David, you're right. Imagine Jesus being lonely; I think we'll all have our turn.

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      David Samuel Davis 5 years ago from New Jersey

      MsDora, your right, we can reflect the night when Jesus was with the disciples in the garden, and Jesus asked them to watch and pray, as he went off alone to pray too the father, because His hour has come. I can't imagine the overwhelming loneliness Jesus felt, as he came back twice to see that the disciples couldn't even stay awake.

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Hi David, thanks for reading and commenting. Of course, there are great benefits in being alone--one being that we hear God more clearly. Still, don't be surprised if loneliness overwhelms you one day--or night. for some unexplainable reason. It is human to miss human company.

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Dee, I think I understand how you felt being away on your birthday. That feeling of loneliness comes unexpectedly; that's why we need to plan ahead how to deal with it. Reviewing these hubs was a blessing! Thanks for commenting.

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      David Samuel Davis 5 years ago from New Jersey

      MsDora, very well written, for me I love the presents of being alone, because it inspires me to spend time with GOD. Even in the Bible Jesus had to get alone with the Father . I believe that's the only time GOD can tune out the noise of this world...... Great Post, Thank You MsDora!

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      Dee aka Nonna 5 years ago

      What insight you have provided here by pulling together this list of hubbers who have written on the subject of lonliness. Like you MsDora, I am around people so much that when given a chance I really enjoy my own company however, I have had my moments.

      One example is being away from my family on my birthday on year. I was working on an assignment across the country from everyone. I felt so alone....which is so unusual for me. My friend and co-trainer has some friends in the area and organized a little dinner helped but just wasn't the same.

      Great hub! And, such a wonderful way for you to combat your own lonely moment. Bravo, MsDora!

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Happy to offer this collection, Deborah. There are so many more, and you're right. We writers need them.

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      Deborah Neyens 5 years ago from Iowa

      Hi Ms. Dora. Loneliness is an occupational hazard of writers, I guess. This is a nice collection of hubs. I will check out some of them.


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