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Positive Power of Words

Updated on January 8, 2018
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My passion is to inspire and coach people to achieve what they want to get out of life.

Words can Hurt


Words Have Power

“Your words have power. Use them carefully.” ~ Dr. Bill

Do the words you speak shape who you are? Of course, they do. Besides your appearance, you are judged on who you are by the words you speak. You may not think that others really listen intently to your words but they do. Many famous people have lost respect from the general public by words they have spoken.

Spoken words have a lot of power. Words can be very powerful, powerful enough to start global change, create a connection, gain respect, begin a war between nations, destroy strong relationships, kill a reputation, crush a personality and even break a heart.

Do word define how you are seen? For sure! The words that you utter out of your mouth determine how you view yourself and are viewed by others. Words influence your degree of self-confidence as well as the perceptions and opinions of others about you.

The words in general that you speak don't get the recognition that they deserve. The words actually create who you are as human. Words strongly alter and influence your own perception and opinion of yourself. Words determine your thoughts, behaviors, and how you emotionally react to everyday life situations. In fact, you are what you speak. Not enough focus or credence is given to the power of words and the major role they play in your life as well as the major function they play in the formation of your identity.

Power of your words?

How Do Your Words Influence You and Others?

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Be Viligant of What You Say

You certainly need to take stock of the words when you speak especially when your words are about yourself. Your words may come back to haunt you, even if we were just kidding or attempting not to be conceited. The words that you use to describe yourself can also deform or distort your identity for years to come.

You may minimize your words but others may not. Be ever vigilant of the language you express to others about yourself. Focusing on the unflattering words that come out of your mouth about yourself can damage your self-image. You should always be conscious of your words.

Little is known that if you change your words you can change your identity. Changing your words can alter how you are perceived, positive or negative, by yourself and others.

Words are Powerful


Words Form How You See You and are Seen by Others

You really need to be very mindful of the content of our words and the words you use toward yourself even if you are attempting to be humble.

I believe humble is, in fact, giving away what you were born with, what you worked to accomplish or practiced to acquired for someone else's feelings. I have learned that “the words that come out of your mouth go directly into your ears unfiltered”.

Many people who share their words with other people tend to express how negative they feel, their fears and their worries. These negative words cast a negative perception of them. Negative words also tend to push more positive people away.

So when the brain registers the words that are spoken, the brain responds with “if that is how you want it to be viewed then it will be so”. Understand that the human brain is a non-judgmental and is a non-emotional organ The brain believes what you say, period and what you say becomes your truth. So speaking negative words or your beliefs about yourself becomes who you are.

For example, if you say “Oh I am stupid", then your mind will manifest that you are stupid. If you say "I am.ugly " your brain will make you believe you are ugly. Saying "I am no good or worthless” your brain will make that your value of yourself, even though you did not intend for it to be a fact, you were just kidding or you did not really mean it. What you say about yourself will become part of our “true” identity over time and others will view you by your words, and as who you really are.

Influence of Words

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3 Tips for Positively Changing Yourself through Your Words:

Tip #1 Recognize

You can't change what you do not know. To start your positive change write down all the negative words, beliefs and statements that you utter a lot about yourself over a four day period.

Next, to each word, belief or statement note the feeling you have during the situation in which you uttered each word, belief or statement (Example: "I am stupid". Note: I felt embarrassed).

Then write the description of the situation: I did not want the person I was talking with to feel less than, I did not want to appear self-centered, I did not like me then).

Tip #2 Re-structure

Once your list is completed then on another piece of paper, write a positive word, belief, and statement to each negative word, belief, and statement on your first list. Then assign a new emotion you would like attached to each new negative word, belief or statement. Imagine and write down in what situation you would use the new word, belief, and statement. Lastly, visualize and feel yourself using you them in your mind.

Tip #3 Rehearse

In order for you to integrate your new positive words, beliefs, and statements and make them become a part of you and how you talk. You have to rehearse these new words, beliefs, and statements along with the attached emotions over and over again.

Rehearsing is simply a process of consciously practicing. Then integrate these positive words, beliefs, and statements as well as associated emotions into your daily language and situations. You will have to be focused and mindful of what comes out of your mouth for about 30 days to form a new habit of talking. Initially, it will take persistent consciousness and effort to “catch all the old negative habitual descriptive words, beliefs and statements along with the old feelings associated with each" and put them into the right context and situation. The effort will be well worth it. With consistency, discipline and time you will change yourself into a new identity.

© 2011 Bill Tollefson


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      Bill Tollefson 5 years ago from Southwest Florida

      CherylMardis - Your comments are so common among many of us. Please keep expressing your views and validating to others. This is more common than recognized. Welcome!

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      CherylMardis 5 years ago from South Carolina

      I am always so careful about what I say to others. But, never toward myself. While reading this I can think of so many times I have called myself "Stupid" to myself and out loud. Now that I realize I do that it will STOP!!!

      Thanks Dr. Bill

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      Bill Tollefson 6 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Latasha Woods thank you for your comment. We should be more careful to come out of our mouths. We really are judged by our words and the thoughts behind them.

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      Latasha Woods 6 years ago from USA

      Words and the thoughts that breed them are truly very powerful. Learning how to transform your life through the power of words is such a wise life tool. Thank you for sharing. I am glad that I came across your hubs. Very informative and well-written!!

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      Bill Tollefson 6 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Wysely - I hope you tell more people about this so it can touch more who do not realize. Thank you for your comment.

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      wysley 6 years ago

      Most people realize what they say to others can have quite negative consequences, hence the lesson "Watch what you say. Your mouth may just get you in trouble." Many of the words we speak about our selves may be uttered in silence, as well as those we speak in an undertone or outloud but are still "heard" by the brain, and frequently not of a positive nature and cause ourselves "trouble". It requires a great deal of effort to change the negative impact those words are having that we may not even realize.

      On the other hand we also know the positive effect words can have in building strong relationships, and the same holds true of the positive words we utter regarding ourselves.

      Thank you for pointing out the effect words have, and how to change them to ones that lead to enhancing strong, nurturing relationships with self and also others.