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Positive Power of Words and How to Enhance Your Power

Updated on October 8, 2014

Words can Hurt


Words Have Power

“Your words have power. Use them carefully.” ~ Dr. Bill

Do the words you speak shape who you are? Besides how your appearance, you are judged on who you are by the words you pick to speak. You may not think that others really listen to intently you words but they do. Many famous people have lost respect from the general public by words they have spoken.

Spoken words have a lot of power. Words can be very powerful, powerful enough to start global change, create a connection, gain respect, begin a war between nations, destroy strong relationships, kill a reputation, crush a personality and even break a heart.

Do word define how you are seen? For sure! The words that you utter out of your mouth determine how you view yourself. Words influences your degree of self-confidence as well as the perceptions and opinion of others about you.

The words in general that you speak don't get the recognition that they deserve. The words actually create who you are as human. Words strongly alter and influence your own perception. Words determine your thoughts, behaviors, and how you emotionally react to every life situations. In fact, you are what you speak. Not enough focus or credence given to the power of words and the major role they play in your life as well as the major function they play in the formation of your identity.

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Be Viligant of What You Say

You certainly need to take stock in the words you speak whether it is about yourself, because words may come back to haunt us, even if we were just kidding or attempting not to be conceited. The words that you use to describe yourself could deform or distort your identity for years to come. You may minimize them by others may not. Be ever vigilant of the language you express to others. Focusing on the unflattering words that come out of your mouth about yourself or others and you should be conscious of them.Little is known that if you change your words you transform our identity and whether you are perceived as positive or negative.

Words are Powerful


Words Form How You See You and are Seen by Others

You really need to be very mindful of the content of our words and the words you use toward yourself even if you are attempting to be humble. Humble in fact is giving away what you have already accomplished or acquired. I have learned that “the words that come out of our mouths go directly into your ears unfiltered” because they are yours.I word with many people that share with other people how negative they feel, their fears and worries. This casts a negative perception on them but also push more positive people away.

So when the brain registers the words that are spoken, the brain responds with “if that is how you want it to be then it will be so”. Understand that the human brain is a non-judgmental and is a non-emotional organ The brain believes what you say period, and it becomes your truth. So speaking negative your words or your beliefs about you become who you are. For example if you say “Oh I am stupid", then your mind will manifest. If you say "I am.ugly " your brain will make you believe it, Saying "I am no good or worthless” your brain will make that your value of yourself, even though you did not intended to be a fact (“I was just kidding” or “I did not really mean it”), will become part of our “true” identity over time and others will take it as who you are..

Influence of Words

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Tips for Transforming Self through Words:

Tip #1 Recognize

You can't change what you do not know. To start write down all the negative words, beliefs and statements that you utter a lot about you over a four day period. Number each one.

Next to each word belief or statement note the feeling you had during the situation in which you them (Example: "I am stupid". Note: I felt embarrassed.

Then the situation: I did not want the person I was talking with to feel less than, I did not want to appear self centered, I did not like me then).

Tip #2 Re-structure

Once your list is completed then on another piece of paper write a positive word, belief and statement to each negative word, belief and statement on your first list. Then assign a new emotion you would like attached to each new negative word, belief or statement. Imagine and write down in what situation you would use the new word, belief and statement. Lastly visualize and feel yourself using you them.

Tip #3 Rehearse

In order for your to integrate your new positive words, beliefs and statements and make them become a part of you, you have to rehearse them over and over again. Rehearse is simply consciously practicing. To integrate these positive words, beliefs and statements into your daily language you will have to be focused and mindful of what comes out of your mouth. Initially it will take persistent conscious effort to “catch the old negative habitual descriptive words, beliefs and statements along with the old feelings associated with each" and put them into the right context and situation. The effort will be well worth it. With consistency, discipline and time you will transform your self into an new person.

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    • wysley profile image

      wysley 5 years ago

      Most people realize what they say to others can have quite negative consequences, hence the lesson "Watch what you say. Your mouth may just get you in trouble." Many of the words we speak about our selves may be uttered in silence, as well as those we speak in an undertone or outloud but are still "heard" by the brain, and frequently not of a positive nature and cause ourselves "trouble". It requires a great deal of effort to change the negative impact those words are having that we may not even realize.

      On the other hand we also know the positive effect words can have in building strong relationships, and the same holds true of the positive words we utter regarding ourselves.

      Thank you for pointing out the effect words have, and how to change them to ones that lead to enhancing strong, nurturing relationships with self and also others.

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      Bill Tollefson 5 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Wysely - I hope you tell more people about this so it can touch more who do not realize. Thank you for your comment.

    • Latasha Woods profile image

      Latasha Woods 5 years ago from USA- United States of Aspiration

      Words and the thoughts that breed them are truly very powerful. Learning how to transform your life through the power of words is such a wise life tool. Thank you for sharing. I am glad that I came across your hubs. Very informative and well-written!!

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      Bill Tollefson 5 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Latasha Woods thank you for your comment. We should be more careful to come out of our mouths. We really are judged by our words and the thoughts behind them.

    • CherylMardis profile image

      CherylMardis 4 years ago from South Carolina

      I am always so careful about what I say to others. But, never toward myself. While reading this I can think of so many times I have called myself "Stupid" to myself and out loud. Now that I realize I do that it will STOP!!!

      Thanks Dr. Bill

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      Bill Tollefson 4 years ago from Southwest Florida

      CherylMardis - Your comments are so common among many of us. Please keep expressing your views and validating to others. This is more common than recognized. Welcome!

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