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Humility and the traps to avoid.

Updated on October 25, 2013

If you need humility hike from where the picture is taken to the church

Take on challenges you can not "succeed" at doing.
Take on challenges you can not "succeed" at doing. | Source

Humility is not a bad word, nor is it a saintly concept.

Humble yourself! What a concept. Humility is a two edge sword. Has anyone ever sat down with you and taught you how to be humble? Be honest. No they have not. Do you think humility is just an instinct? No it is not. So how did you learn to be humble? Just because you are brilliant and really smart? Be honest, no one ever taught you and you really never spent time trying to learn.

Well welcome to the weird world of Eric where I sit around and contemplate such matters in a state of Omphaloskepsis* Yes there are people out here that have degrees in philosophy and study sociology, anthropology, theology and general all around crazy things. We are really humble because daily we run up against unanswerable questions. I would say we border on humiliation.

Now let me give you two rules about humility: 1. never ever tell someone else to be humble. If it is from you, you are showing total lack of humility and it has to be an inside job. 2. Never ever think that humility is the opposite of strength. If you think such stop reading as this is too deep for you.



*Omphaloskepsis is contemplation of one's navel as an aid to meditation. The word comes from Greek omphalos (navel) + skepsis (act of looking, examination). thank you Wiki.

Obstacles should be in your vision -- not blocking it.

Humility must be viewed as freedom from self.

Humility is not putting yourself down. Humility is not there to stop dreams. Humility is not there so that we tremble and raise others up above us.

Humility is our friend. Humility is a tool to use to lesson the impact of our minds. Our minds build barriers or corals around our thoughts. Our minds will tell us our restrictions. Humility is the beginning of acceptance that we must reach outside ourselves to find strength and courage to change the things that we should.

/////// Let me back up real quick here. I am not addressing humility to your God. However if your God is that higher power outside of you -- then you are doing something right. Stick with that and nurture it in prayer and supplication. ///////

Humility blocks our ego. Our ego may sound like an empowering thing. But it has more restrictions than a holy roller Pentecostal church. When you can see the distinction always move toward humility and away from ego.


Humility is found in the wonders of man and nature

"I" hiked the pyramid and the volcano. See how that lacks humility?
"I" hiked the pyramid and the volcano. See how that lacks humility? | Source

So what is humility?

Humility is a state or pleasure. Yes really it is. Humility is our acceptance of who we are not what we want to be or what we want to appear to be.

I had a great big 20 year old Cadillac. I called it La Bomba. Which was actually not like that song but like the fireman - Bombero in Spanish. This was after an old song. (see new version below) The car made me look poor. I guess I was. But I did not feel like it. I also dressed in rummage sale suits. Probably made me look poor. But I did not feel like it. My mind told me I was on top of the world. I was not humble. I made it and got rich. House on the bluff over looking the ocean. Corner office in a zip code to die for. New cars and a beautiful wife and children. But I was not humble.

Travesties and tragedies later I still was not humble. I did not lose my wealth I simply walked away from it. And I still could not find humble. I turned to the Lord for humility and still could not find humble. I kept looking outside to fill the void inside.

And when I had failed miserably I found humility. In the one place I never looked. Inside of me.

Humility is the acceptance of self as it truly is.

This guy is tough but he knows himself.

Understanding our limitations is good.
Understanding our limitations is good. | Source

You are great in your humility

Power is often thought of as someone like the president of the United States. Yes maybe. But what power? Power over others? Big deal! Think about it. Power over someone or something else. Who cares? Maybe the people you have power over. Great. How transitory, how unenlightened how boring.

Nope, that kind of power is for boo boo heads. Real power is power over yourself. So keep yourself humble. And maintain that power over your self. Humility is the gateway to control and the ability to shape our destiny from within. It provides the pathway to determining how happy you are to be. As I said early on; humility is about pleasure.

Now here is a secret. I do not appear humble. Funny that. But if I were to make myself appear humble then I am working on my outside and not my inside. Do not get me wrong I really like self deprecating humor, I always teach my kids, "if you are going to pick on someone, pick on yourself, you will get over it quicker".

So humility is not a denial of your gifts, it is a celebration of those gifts. It is not putting yourself down or thinking you are unworthy. It is a "let go" of the outside and a hello to the inside.

Know this. I love you. Love yourself, not as a boast but as a tender caress. Say to yourself "man, I am really cool and I do not need to prove that to anybody but me". This is humility.



Do you like yourself?

Can you look in the mirror and tell yourself --- I love you!

See results

As promised. I am the fireman

I have a very busy day.

So I am going to start it off by doing some nice things for others. Why? Because doing nice things for others makes me love my self more. I know I know that is selfish. So hire a lawyer and sue me. Meet me at the courthouse I will buy you a cup of coffee and show you the sites before you crucify me in front of the judge.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We are the lucky ones who can look inside.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I love myself and can will always love myself your hub says all about ones inner self often people don't look deep their souls before talking of others.

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      NiaLee 3 years ago from BIG APPLE

      Eric I am happy my experience sharing is interesting to you... yes, teaching this or letting children in on these concepts through games, short conversations and stories is great, they get one or many steps ahead in life not hurting themselves or others unnecessarily.

      I still travel in there and get lost sometimes, like any being, but I have a flashlight and a candle...lol

      Love and peace to all

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Isn't it strange that we are just supposed to know this stuff. Thanks for dropping by. And inspiring me.

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      Suzette Walker 3 years ago from Taos, NM

      Great article and the first one I have read on this topic. Very interesting and informative. Thanks for your perspective on this!

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      Country music? Eric, you know me and country music have issues. :) But, I liked the song you chose to represent this hub. You put it perfectly when you said, "man, I am really cool and I do not need to prove that to anybody but me". Knowing you're a good person, but having the feeling that you don't have to prove it is so basic to humility.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Brian, I kind of think "the hard way is the only way" and if your head is as hard as mine ---- maybe that should be "hard ways". Thanks and isn't that a funny concept -- oops got to go clean some lint out.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I have been waiting all this time at the courthouse. Oh well, no one seems to care anymore ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Martin, I do not know of your when you think you shined. I know a man now that shines bright so that others can see.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Faith, thank you for coming by and inspiring me. This was about that inside. But there is always that outside in God.

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      Interesting advise. thank you. I tried hard to curb my ego. But people kept boosting me up. As a mason (when I really shined) I took the lowest jobs (for free). Yet even cleaning tables couldn't mask out my glories.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Eric,

      I must say this is profound insight here you have written ... yes, we must look inside of ourselves ...yes, indeed, dear Eric.

      Up and more and sharing

      Hugs and love to you from southern USA,

      Faith Reaper

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise at first blush I hope it sounded crazy. It was so foreign to me and backwards that it took me years to get it. My wife still looks at me with crossed eyes when I speak of it. My students seem to get it but I have been with them since the turn ten.

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      This is a point of view of humility I hadn't heard before, but it makes sense. If I understand you correctly, humility is accepting myself as I am, no pretenses. Thanks!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      NiaLee I felt great contentment reading of you. Thank you much for sharing your truths.

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      NiaLee 3 years ago from BIG APPLE

      Yes, humility may seem difficult in a world where people worship, live by and believe that your value is in your EGO!

      I started realizing that my ego was blinding me when becoming an adult. I couldn't understand why I allowed this ego to destroy so much and block so much good things and people in my life. So, I decided to get to know my Ego that seemed to be linked and fed a lot by fear, ignorance and the COLLECTIVE EGO. You know that thing that is supposed to keep us together and motivate us??? I then started really praying, it helped a little but the wrestling and the restlessness were not gone for long, they would show up uninvited with the Lord Jesus and with Jah himself: I would see myself and others brag about our relationship with God, being blessed, being better than others... and realize that my EGO had just found new hosts, it hadn't gone anywhere.

      That is when I started meditating. I took the time to observe myself at different moments and places and finally caught the tail of the monkey jumping on my shoulder. The process is so enjoyable and observing others too helps see when we do the same things, when we let the EGO get out and devour the best our ourselves and our lives.

      Living in another conscious and as a seer I have laughed and cried at myself and learned so much, just the beginning of a great journey toward LOVE AND PEACE... HAPPINESS.

      Now, I am at a place that words can not define, explain, feelings, thoughts and places are beyond words... journey.

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      Brian Prickril 3 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Good hub. I was fortunate enough to learn this lesson the hard way (I'll spare you of the long story). But I have learned that if you believe you're better than others, you simply haven't failed enough. Oh, and I like the omphaloskepsis reference. I hadn't heard of that one before. Take care.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My first mentor taught me about humility and I've never forgotten it....gotta run; I'll see you at the courthouse. If you get there before me I'll take a vanilla mocha please. :)