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Humility and the traps to avoid.
If you need humility hike from where the picture is taken to the church
Humility is not a bad word, nor is it a saintly concept.
Humble yourself! What a concept. Humility is a two edge sword. Has anyone ever sat down with you and taught you how to be humble? Be honest. No they have not. Do you think humility is just an instinct? No it is not. So how did you learn to be humble? Just because you are brilliant and really smart? Be honest, no one ever taught you and you really never spent time trying to learn.
Well welcome to the weird world of Eric where I sit around and contemplate such matters in a state of Omphaloskepsis* Yes there are people out here that have degrees in philosophy and study sociology, anthropology, theology and general all around crazy things. We are really humble because daily we run up against unanswerable questions. I would say we border on humiliation.
Now let me give you two rules about humility: 1. never ever tell someone else to be humble. If it is from you, you are showing total lack of humility and it has to be an inside job. 2. Never ever think that humility is the opposite of strength. If you think such stop reading as this is too deep for you.
*Omphaloskepsis is contemplation of one's navel as an aid to meditation. The word comes from Greek omphalos (navel) + skepsis (act of looking, examination). thank you Wiki.
Obstacles should be in your vision -- not blocking it.
Humility must be viewed as freedom from self.
Humility is not putting yourself down. Humility is not there to stop dreams. Humility is not there so that we tremble and raise others up above us.
Humility is our friend. Humility is a tool to use to lesson the impact of our minds. Our minds build barriers or corals around our thoughts. Our minds will tell us our restrictions. Humility is the beginning of acceptance that we must reach outside ourselves to find strength and courage to change the things that we should.
/////// Let me back up real quick here. I am not addressing humility to your God. However if your God is that higher power outside of you -- then you are doing something right. Stick with that and nurture it in prayer and supplication. ///////
Humility blocks our ego. Our ego may sound like an empowering thing. But it has more restrictions than a holy roller Pentecostal church. When you can see the distinction always move toward humility and away from ego.
Humility is found in the wonders of man and nature
So what is humility?
Humility is a state or pleasure. Yes really it is. Humility is our acceptance of who we are not what we want to be or what we want to appear to be.
I had a great big 20 year old Cadillac. I called it La Bomba. Which was actually not like that song but like the fireman - Bombero in Spanish. This was after an old song. (see new version below) The car made me look poor. I guess I was. But I did not feel like it. I also dressed in rummage sale suits. Probably made me look poor. But I did not feel like it. My mind told me I was on top of the world. I was not humble. I made it and got rich. House on the bluff over looking the ocean. Corner office in a zip code to die for. New cars and a beautiful wife and children. But I was not humble.
Travesties and tragedies later I still was not humble. I did not lose my wealth I simply walked away from it. And I still could not find humble. I turned to the Lord for humility and still could not find humble. I kept looking outside to fill the void inside.
And when I had failed miserably I found humility. In the one place I never looked. Inside of me.
Humility is the acceptance of self as it truly is.
This guy is tough but he knows himself.
You are great in your humility
Power is often thought of as someone like the president of the United States. Yes maybe. But what power? Power over others? Big deal! Think about it. Power over someone or something else. Who cares? Maybe the people you have power over. Great. How transitory, how unenlightened how boring.
Nope, that kind of power is for boo boo heads. Real power is power over yourself. So keep yourself humble. And maintain that power over your self. Humility is the gateway to control and the ability to shape our destiny from within. It provides the pathway to determining how happy you are to be. As I said early on; humility is about pleasure.
Now here is a secret. I do not appear humble. Funny that. But if I were to make myself appear humble then I am working on my outside and not my inside. Do not get me wrong I really like self deprecating humor, I always teach my kids, "if you are going to pick on someone, pick on yourself, you will get over it quicker".
So humility is not a denial of your gifts, it is a celebration of those gifts. It is not putting yourself down or thinking you are unworthy. It is a "let go" of the outside and a hello to the inside.
Know this. I love you. Love yourself, not as a boast but as a tender caress. Say to yourself "man, I am really cool and I do not need to prove that to anybody but me". This is humility.
Do you like yourself?
Can you look in the mirror and tell yourself --- I love you!
As promised. I am the fireman
I have a very busy day.
So I am going to start it off by doing some nice things for others. Why? Because doing nice things for others makes me love my self more. I know I know that is selfish. So hire a lawyer and sue me. Meet me at the courthouse I will buy you a cup of coffee and show you the sites before you crucify me in front of the judge.