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I Must Be Crazy-10 Skills I Refuse to Learn

Updated on February 28, 2010

Am I Crazy?

Many are the times in life people ask my if I am crazy. I will not lie, I will not cheat...if I get too much change from a store I bring it back. People say I am crazy. I say if I am crazy it is a good type of crazy and more people need this disease!

What ever happened to personal pride? When did it change so much I can no longer see it? Why is it suddenly (OK, maybe not suddenly, but to my cluelessness it is) OK to hurt others? When did this movement begin? How did I miss it? In the words of "Amityville Horror" "WHAT'S HAPPENING!"

I live life on a different plane. I do not want to leave my plane although many people try to bring me down. My way of life is a celebration! What would you call yours?

I Cannot Lie

Is there something pathologically wrong with me. I cannot lie. I see lies as taking away others choices. If you are lied to you cannot make an informed decision. Decisions based on lies are not informed, therefore they are not valid. Lies are anathema to truth. Truth brings people up, truth begets trust, truth is honest.

I Cannot Cheat

Whether it is cheating on a test; or cheating on a boyfriend, I cannot do it. Cheating cheats the cheater! When you cheat, you take away all that is good and replace it with all that is deceitful. I have already stated how I feel about deceit.

My other problem is I cannot cheat you out of $10 dollars. What is wrong with me? How did I miss this boat? Why can I not do these things??!!

Greed is Bad

I cannot understand the number of people in America who think greed is good. When did greed become good? When did this become something we should shoot for? Oh well, one more train I missed and I am glad. What excuse is there to be greedy, but for "I"? Is this all we want to live our lives for..."I"? Do you want to be old and alone? Maybe not...if not you may be giving, not greedy.

Ignore Friends

Many people now-a-days do not really understand what friendship meants. I do not mean this phenomenon only exists with young people, I mean all over. How many times in your life did someone say they were your friend, only to have you do one thing they did not like and find out that they were not really a friend, but just an aquantence.

Friends take care of friends. They do not talk behind their friends back. They do not gossip in kindness, they take care of each other. They watch out for each other. When there is no-one, they are there.

What can I say? Friends are easy to find. True friends, the ones that put up with you through thick and thin, are very, very, very hard to find. If you ever find one...never ignore them. Better to be annoyingly there, then not there at all.

Put Yourself First

Many people can put themselves first. No matter what, if it takes lying, cheating or little bits of half truths, people do it. They want to build themselves up by taking another down. This is one of those things I will never understand. How does stepping on someone else's reputation make you better? Please, these are things I need to be successful it seems, but tell me how you do this?


Everyone hates to be gossiped about, but it seems that nearly everyone loves to gossip.  How can you expect something you do every day to not come back and bite you in the butt?  Who really thinks they are that much better than anyone else?  To me, the people who gossip, show how insecure they are.  They also seem to gossip about things they have problems with  (as if we didn't know, LOL)  However, if you listen to gossip, you really are as bad as the gossiper.  They could not do it without your help!


Do you judge others? We all do. However, do you judge them unworthy, or do you judge them as needing help? So often we judge people on our first impressions. We do not take the time to get to know them. "They are jerks," we say. Never do we realize they are the same jerk we are.

Do not judge other people, lest someone judges you. None of us live in a glass house. Do not throw the first stone. Try to understand, and you may find that someone you hated was much like you. They just showed it different. The same racism, pride, hate, fears as you hold, may exist in others. None of us want to be judged, and there are very few instances we should judge another.

Hate is too Strong

Do you hate someone? Forgive them. Until you do, you will be under their control. Who wants to be under the one we hate's control? Do not hate others! Hate is an extremely useless and draining emotion. Hate is sure to tell how petty you are.

Politics-The Root of All Evil

I know a few people who love politics. I guess I should not be surprised, living in the DC area. They love, absolutely love, drama. It is hard work to put up with this kind of person. Even when everything is going well...some part of their lives is excruciatingly bad.  It drains you in the end...keep away from these!

Put Down to Build Up

You should never put someone down to make yourself feel better.  In America, so often, someone will put down someone else to feel better about themselves.  This will come back to haunt you.  Always, (can I say it again?) always try to build other people up.  We should  be there for each other.  Even when they pull you down, after you tell how they were mistaken, try to build them up. 


Do you remember the "Golden Rule"? Treat others as you would be treated. I can guarantee that others will not always treat you this way. I will guarantee that people will make fun of you. But, I will also guarantee that you will like your self at the end of the day.

What is more important? Personal pride and liking ourselves...or money and greed? Do you want to like yourself...or do you just want to be successful? There are ways you can like yourself and be successful, they are just harder to find.


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    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      9 years ago from Ohio

      camden2bailey, You said it exactly..."I choose to be who I am and act accordingly. I have no regrets." I'm glad I'm not the only "door mat" out there. :D

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      9 years ago from Morganton, NC

      Great thoughts and glad you've put it out there for all to read. I too have a deep need to make sure everyone else is treated fairly and honestly. I haven't been able to grasp the "take care of me first" philosophy and have been told I shouldn't be a door mat for others. Yes, I've been taken advantage of because of my giving nature but I choose to be who I am and act accordingly. I have no regrets. Thanks!

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Betty, Thanks! I'd bet your friends think the same of you! :D

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      Betty Reid 

      10 years ago from Texas

      What a lovely hub! I have some friends who always seem to be cool and calm and doing what they are suppose to do. It is so relaxing to spend time with people like you.

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Yes, you must like yourself first! :D

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      Cam Anju 

      10 years ago from Stoughton, Wisconsin

      If that makes you crazy, then it makes me too... (thinks about it for a second) oh, that was already known huh? If your not happpy with who you are then there isn't a chance to have anyone else to like you for you.

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Cam, That's why I'm crazy...I can't do it any other way...LOL,hard or Popeye says, I am who I am!

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      Cam Anju 

      10 years ago from Stoughton, Wisconsin

      Good for you K@ri, it would be... but as I always say, stick to your morals above all else. Even if it's hard. 

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Cammie, These are good things not to learn, which is why I's just that I know I could make my life easier (not happier!) if I would learn them. I guess I like happy and hard!

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      Cam Anju 

      10 years ago from Stoughton, Wisconsin

      Very nice K@ri!

      Personally, I think they are good things not to anyways. :)

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      James, I'm glad you agree! I agree it is good to be an active citizen in politics. It is one of our rights as Americans and one we should participate with. I meant more like office politics and the drama that surrounds it. :D

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      James A Watkins 

      10 years ago from Chicago

      You have compiled a fine list of pitfalls to avoid.  I am with you 100% except that I do enjoy being an active citizen in politics.  This is a great article and should have a positive influence.  Thanks!

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      LRobbins, I agree, just knowing someone's name does not give friend status. That is why I am on hubpages, but no others! :D

    • LRobbins profile image


      10 years ago from Germany

      Great hub and so true! I find with social media sites like "Facebook" and "Twitter" true friendships are getting harder to maintain, as some people assume knowing what you're up to through a web site is being a "friend",

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      shamel, I need to stay crazy to remain sane in this world sometimes. So many people cannot understand why it is important to build others up...tell the truth...not cheat...and since I won't call others names, I will just have to say I am the crazy one! :D

    • shamelabboush profile image


      10 years ago

      Well, sometimes being crazy is very useful believe me. I can call this as: creative craziness bcz you bring nice stuff. You are right in everything here but you hit the bull's eye with the skill: "Put Down to Build Up", this is what people often do unfortunately.

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Catlyn, I am very sure this is a large part of it! I couldn't be who am I today without my parents. :D

    • Catlyn profile image


      10 years ago from Somewhere in the OC

      Perhaps the reason you are the way you are is because you were raised by two loving parents? They instilled solid core beliefs and values that rooted and beared good fruit in your life!

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      ralwus, I so agree, honesty and friendships are two of the most important things in life, we need to cherish these! We all make mistakes, but it is all part of the learning curve called life. All we can do is pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and try to stay on the path. :D

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      10 years ago

      k@ri, ya brought me to tears ya did. I love ya even more. I too take back any extra change. I have returned a 20 dollar bill to the bank before. We all are prone to make mistakes, but honesty and friendhips are not to be dallied around with.

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      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Thanks jay! If we are crazy, it's a good crazy with lots of good friends. :D

      1kmjs, We all have to live with ourselves each and every day. I can say I don't have the path down pat...but I try everyday to keep on it!

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      10 years ago from Iowa

      Kari, your hub is a good recipe on what human life on this planet should be. Really liked your words about liers and the effects on both people. You seem like you have the righteous path down pat. Karma can really do a number on ya if you dont make the right moves. Keep up the good path and dont let the dark side of humanity crush you.

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      10 years ago from India

      Wonderful hub Kari. You are not at all crazy, I agree with most of your points that you have discussed. Even Iam crazy then lol. Cheers to your honesty.

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      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Tom, I don't do campaign promises...however, if you need my vote, why don't you just ask? LOL, not for twenty or ten...but maybe for free!

      ljrc, It is very hard to live up to. But we can try! :D

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      Laura Cole 

      10 years ago from Michigan

      k@ri, I have always tried to live by the golden rule my whole life and find I have waivered in the past couple of years; it is so hard to live up to it all but I keep striving to.

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      Tom rubenoff 

      10 years ago from United States

      For ten dollars, I'll mail you something worth twenty dollars, if you'll agree to vote for me. Did I say twenty? I meant two. Please. It was a campaign promise. Would I lie to you?

    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      ethel, Great point because these are easier to idealize that do. But the main thing is the trying, the learning, the attempting. :D

      May, Ya!!!! But if we are good, we should try to help others who may not feel so well. However, there are some people who dwell in drama and try to suck others down. These we need to keep away from!! May, sometimes I feel like you are a younger sister to not waste your time with complainers and whiners, they will only keep you down.

      Elena, I have no doubts, what-so-ever, that you believe these tenets! However...knowing you love politics...:D LOLOL! You would! I still do not believe you would hurt someone knowingly...or climb over them to the top. I have read much of what you write...I don't believe you can be that far from your thoughts! :D

      Frieda, Thanks! That video is pretty old. I am glad you thought it fit. I put off publishing because I wanted a video, but couldn't think of any. I thought of this one this morning getting ready for work and put it on. I love that song!! :D

      fortunerep, for me it is not a way of is a way of life! Thanks! :D

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      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Jim, I understand that they are the crazy ones...we need to be there for each other and to build each other up...not tear each other down! I don't deserve a pat on the back...we all need to pat each other's backs when we care! Thanks!

      Triplet Mom,, it seems that you fully understand how hard it is to stick to these guns! And I agree, stick to them we must. There is no other way to make the world a better place! Thanks for being there! :D

      dohn, LOL! Actually I know I have the makings of a great Buddhist! I love the Buddhist way, it is very, very appealing. Peace is great in any world! :D

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      Dori S Matte 

      10 years ago from Hillsborough

      Kari, I love this and it is so true. I can relate to your way of thinking!


    • k@ri profile imageAUTHOR

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      ameliehub, Thank you! These are things I feel very strongly about. I cannot understand why everyone does not.

      MindField, You hit it right on the nail. We need to care for each other! There are so many people and so little time...but a smile, a kind gesture may make the difference for someone. I don't think it is "too many rats in a cage" as much as society telling us we must get ahead, we must be thin, it is OK to step on others to get what we want. Much of this I will blame on TV!

      Connie, Thank you! I am who I am...and not many know me. I do love justice and equality!

      Cindy, Thank you!

      erin, you are really much too kind! :D But I like it! :D

      R Burrow, You are so right. But, we both know there is an "absolute truth". Whether people want it to or not, one day IT will catch up with them. Thanks! :D

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      Frieda Babbley 

      10 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Holy cow, what a fantastic list. That video at the end was great. I've never seen it before. Boy did that make some points; and all true.

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      10 years ago from Madrid

      K@ri, I love politics --- should I take issue? Laugh!

      Silliness aside, I have a golden rule, "do unto others....", and I can prove I said id before I read this, 'cause I actually wrote about it in a hub a looooong time ago :-) Amen to you and this hub!

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      10 years ago from North Carolina

      We need more people like you around here! I'm so sick and tired of dealing with people who just whines and complains all day. I can only cheer them up but so much, ya?

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      Ethel Smith 

      10 years ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

      All the good traits I would like to have but sometimes find difficult to adhere to. We should all try to though

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      10 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

      Hey, K@ri- Did you know that you have the makings of a good Buddhist? Great hub.

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      Triplet Mom 

      10 years ago from West Coast

      K@ri - If you are crazy then stay that way because too many people are just the opposite of you. I think its great that you stick to your guns if only more people would do the same.

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      10 years ago from ma

      You deserve a great big pat on the back. Unfortunately today it seems like more and more people are just looking out for themselves. I avoid politics too. It just seems way to corrupt for me.

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      Ray Burow 

      10 years ago

      Kari, the problem is, people are living their lives as if there is no 'absolute truth'. A whole set of new rules are being followed. Too bad. The ' Golden Rule ' is supreme. After all, it was given to us by the embodiment of TRUTH Himself.(Matthew 7:12) Thanks for a good hub. Keep on living that Golden Rule".

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      erin boote 

      10 years ago from Wilkes Barre, Pennsylvania

      If only K@ri more people had their own set of "personal rules and ethics" to follow, this world would be a much better place. Great job, yet again. and again, and again. Everytime I turn around you are writing something better!

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      Cindy Vine 

      10 years ago from Cape Town

      Well written and well-said, Kari!

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      Connie Smith 

      10 years ago from Tampa Bay, Florida

      Great hub, K@ri! I detest liars and I always give the extra change back too. I can see that you are a very good person and your friends are lucky to have you.

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      10 years ago from Portland, Oregon

      Kari - a huge and growing issue. I'm glad you have written about it with such eye-opening power.

      Like you, I can't understand how so many can blithely ignore the well-being of others. Is it the "too many rats in a cage" syndrome?

      For me, it comes back to John Donne's famous words, which I used in my most recent hub: No man is an island. Here is more of his quotation: "All mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated...As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon, calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come: so this bell calls us all: but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness....No man is an island, entire of itself...any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee."

      We cannot stand apart from every other living soul on the planet and act as if only our needs are important. When any child goes hungry, when any elderly person is alone and uncared for, when jobs are lost and people grieve and suffer and fear, we are bidden by all that is good to find an answer.

      Fair play, kindness, sharing, forgiveness - The Golden Rule! - you are so right, Kari. Real progress won't begin until we fully embrace the fact that whatever cruelty or neglect we inflict on others equally harms us because we are all one.

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      10 years ago from UK

      I see I am the first one to comment on this hub of yours. Really true. Kari Hats off to you. How simple you have pen down every thing. These little things mean so much in life we never pay attention to them.


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