I smoke, Able to Quit Because I am not Addicted: My Personal Approaches
Here you go!
I accept it openly! Yet, I don't intend on promoting it!
I smoke, but I am able to quit if I so choose, because I am not addicted to cigarette and I hope with this piece I can help someone, get to a point of quitting or less addictive to it.
Since I started smoking in 2005, I have never shied away from the “Smoker,” label. But, you have to be really close to me to know I light up. This may be because I don't smoke all the time. I can go a whole year, months, days, and hours without smoking. Even belief I can permanently quit. It is all dependent on my mental state. As such, I am comfortable describing myself as a cigarette smoker, a ready to quit at any time because I am not an addict.
To the best of my knowledge, these are my personal approaches to it all:
- When I started smoking, my wife expressed the fear that I have “addictive personality”. Within me, I rejected and never accepted I do. Each time her voice to that respect rings in my brain, I willfully tell myself, it’s not true. It made me come to the conclusion that such is for defeatists. Instead, I have the power to overcome whatever I need to or engage in it, in moderation.
- I Strongly enforced the belief that I have control over cigarettes. This is instead of allowing the stereotypical idea that once one lights up, it invariably becomes the master and the person its slave over power me.
Do you think these will be helpful in anyway?
- I treat the brain signal to smoke as if it has a persona I can speak to. Rebuking it silently or loudly in a vehement manner if need be. I steadily make it know that, if at all I have to, it can’t tell me when and where to smoke. Rather I and I alone decides if, when and where to do that. And when I feel it is not convenience, I let it go.
- I smoke any brand of cigarette and that gets me not getting used to any.
- I associate smoking with drinking. So, I try as much as possible to smoke only when I am having an alcoholic drink. Since, I don't drink all the time, I fail to smoke or smoke less.
- I mostly ignore self gratifying or nerve suiting reason to smoke. I, instead find cogent reason to smoke and when it it not available, then there isn't need for it.
- I don’t keep cigarette with me in an environment where I may feel the urge to smoke. And considering it an absolute self-embarrassment to keep on asking others for a smoke.
- I worry more about my self esteem than smoking. So, if lighting a stick will present me wrongly before the people around me, I let it go. For instance, if the stench of a smoke will make those around me uncomfortable or think less of me, I postpone it.
- Yet, when I feel like smoking and don't think it’s the “feel good” brain chemical that is instigating me to smoke, I go for it without remorse. This helps me not feel obligated to smoking.
- I sometimes buy cigarette outside my smoke comfort type (light). It controls my smoking habit and frequency, since I will definitely feel terrible after inhaling smokes my system isn't comfortable with.
- I hardly try to finish a stick. At the middle of it, I always ask myself: Is that it? Remember, the first few drags gives you all the buzz you need. You are a long smoker if you accept it.
- I Never got comfortable smoking before my kids or letting them know I smoke. So, I made sure to lose that comfort. And since, I spend enough hours of the day with them after school, it definitely puts smoking out or really in check.
- I have never fancied sneaking, just to have a smoke.
- I don’t dwell in the negatives of cigarette smoking. I focus on the positives I get out of it if I do. Yet, I appreciate the negatives are more. Again, it reduces the draw to smoke.
- I never, never give in to the fret brought about by all the quit smoking campaign. I believe if I do, I will beat or set myself up for failure. I don't allow them to be the reasons to draw up absolute quitting plans. Instead I allow them only be a self-control reminder. In this I find more reason to stay off of cigarette for as long as I will.
- I Have come to appreciate the strength of cigarette, yet I cherish the strength in me to resist it even more.
These are my personal approaches to smoking and having the ability to quit which have worked for me so far. They are minimalistic yet effective approaches. Nevertheless, find your own tactics to allow you get to that point too, if you so choose. But, these approaches as I suggest works for you, then, adopt them. If it works for you, it will give me a huge gratification for sharing this.
Get this, never feel bad, dejected or accept the outcast label because you smoke. Yes, it is better not to, but guess what the others who don't smoke, have other habits that are harmful to health, which you probably don’t have. Dwelling on that feeling will keep you smoking less, with the appreciation that though others have negative habits, I don't have to dwell in mine.
Do all you can to have control over almighty cigarette. Don't let it make you an addict to its dictates. Its dictates can be forceful, but your self-will is much more forceful if you can just believe. If you do, you too can be a smoker, but not addicted. Or better yet, you can do better and become a non smoker altogether.