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If Someone Doesn’t Appreciate Your Presence, Make Them Appreciate Your Absence!

Updated on April 8, 2018
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There are people in the world that will bring negativity into your life and not appreciate you, so they do not deserve to have the privilege of your presence. We have all been there - feeling victimized by the peoples we love the most, individuals who treat us poorly or unfairly. All the same, being appreciated by others should be the way we all live and behave. Unfortunately, it is not always the case, and people who are over-giver or nice to others are taken for granted.

When you allow people to take advantage of your niceness, it can lead to a feeling of hopelessness and support the false belief that you don’t deserve respect. It is time you stop ranting and raving because even when you do it all to no avail; it is time to put on a firm attitude. Learn to truly value your life as it is okay to be a good guy or a girl, but a person who is friendly one-day, sulks and withdraws the next means he or she needs boundaries. Set some ground rules to use your discretion and firm up whenever it is required.

An over-giver and a caring person are someone a self- centered person will never appreciate and they do not deserve to have the privilege of their presence. Self-centered people know the things that will make them happy, but they do not always understand what they have in a friend until they are gone. When a selfish person is too busy being blind to appreciate, your presence grants them, the absent, they deserve and befriend somebody who will maintain an even balance of you; a matcher. After all, people who are often blind to the truth have not gained the knowledge to see themselves objectively.

You can’t make anyone appreciate your absence any more than you can make them appreciate your presence. However, you can give them the opportunity to appreciate your absence. ~ Jahfree Harp

Are You an Over-Giver? A Person Who Give Too Much

An over-giving feels onerous because it is a one-way flow of energy. Are you an over-giver; a person who gives too much? Let’s define an over-giver? What is an over-giver? An over-giver is one who gives, and give and give and give and even when not, able they provide some more, the ones who give too much. An over-giver is usually under-appreciated and taken for granted. Be that as it may, it is not that giving is a ‘bad thing’ – it is far from that – but giving when you do not have usually caused great harm and No value to you.

Consider the following details to help you determine whether you might be giving too much:

  • You find yourself putting the needs of others before your own
  • If you are not able to “give” the way you would like to, you find yourself apologizing excessively
  • It’s possible you might be giving because you want to feel admired, loved, or fond of.
  • You see yourself providing and being the giver in almost every relationship.
  • You feel guilty when someone gives something to you, and you are uncomfortable at the thought of asking for something

After reading the above details, if they identify you as an over-giver, your over-giving is not healthy. And if you continue to give, it will leave you in a situation that will leave you feeling emotionally empty.

Never take anything or especially anyone for granted. Life can change in an instant, and leave us full of regret!

On the contrary, although giving can be a ‘good thing,’ it is a ‘bad thing’ when a person gives to ‘keep’ people around him or her. An individual who gives too much does not have limits or have not set boundaries. He or she generally offer too much in the wrong situations and to a corrupt person who will only step all over them like a doormat.

If you are an over-giver and wondering where to start in stopping, it is time you begin the search to stop doing these dodgy preventative measures. Moreover, since it no way to go cold turkey all at once, but you need to stop over-giving immediately, you can start with reducing, but bear in mind when you are over-giving you are giving away your self-esteem and dignity, and when you are giving it away, you are giving too much.

Life is too short to waste your time on people who don't know how to value your time and most of all — your big kind heart as well as appreciates you. Also, now, if you are providing with a view that the other person will attribute the same value that you do in your giving, you are in search of an ‘unfavorable outcomes,’ and all your excessive giving only means, you are giving too much.

If people truly care about you, they’ll value every second of you!

Now that you in search of a solution, the most valuable thing that you can do for yourself is to set boundaries and start making sure that you start getting the love and respect from everyone that is around you. After placing limitations and withhold giving too much to other people they will not regard you as a useful, valuable contributor anymore.

That may leave you feeling ‘scared’ now that you are thinking of stop giving. It also may leave you wondering where to go from ‘here.’ More than likely you are feeling ‘bad’ about stop giving, and at times it may be hard to say NO. Besides, you might even feel guilty as if good people do not know how to say no, you may even find yourself feeling as if you are letting other’s down learning to stop giving and walking away.

It is time to start getting something back in return and offset this liking to over-give, begin by thinking regarding what over giving are doing to you. Know that generous giving feels light and so joyful, it’s important to see how the tendency to over giving can result in feeling depressed. Although most over-givers are incredibly caring by nature and have exceptionally kind hearts, that’s the generous part. However, the trouble comes because you have difficulty setting limits and the takers have problems seeing how gracious you are. Finally, if this is something you find yourself tangled up in— whether it’s at work, in your community, with your friends—you might want to practice retaining from a tendency to over-give.

There’s an old proverb that states, “Sometimes it takes sadness to know happiness, noise to appreciate the silence and absence to value presence,” do you agree with this saying?

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