In Order to Change The World, First You Must Change Yourself.
Many people want to change the world, but few actually do. Why is this?
Changing the world seems like an unachievable task and when we tell ourselves that it is, we begin to give up on our dreams.
Have you ever had dreams of your own, but rather than working towards them—you gave up? Maybe you replaced those dreams with "realistic" goals that other people set for you? I know I have.
Although I've had dreams of my own about becoming a Published Author one day, society saw differently. When I first began writing in 2016, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. Without prior knowledge, experience, or preparation, I created my first blog on WordPress. Within the first couple of days I realized that it wasn't for me, and I gave up on it. It took nearly a year before I considered creating a second blog on TheOdysseyOnline in November of 2017. I remember posting an article on their platform and asked myself "What am I doing? I'm not going to get anywhere with this."
On the morning of March 16th, 2018, I had an epiphany. "This is my last chance..no matter what happens or where writing gets me, I am going to give my absolute all." That is when I found HubPages—a blogging community that I have been a part of for ten months now. Of course there were people that had their fair share of doubts, but I didn't let their opinions consume me. I knew what was best for me, but I also knew that if I wanted to become sucessful in accomplishing my dreams, that I had to change myself—for the better.
Maybe you are someone that went through a similar experience and now you are here reading my article.The truth is, we have the ability to change the world. However, in order to change the world, you must change yourself first.You have to change your mentality, your actions, and your habits. Although changing yourself isn't easy, it is necessary if you want to make a positive impact.
You can change all thing's for the better when you change yourself for the better.— Jim Rohn
You might be wondering "How exactly do I change myself?"
While there is no clear explanation on how a person should change themselves, I have narrowed down three steps that you can take to change yourself in a positive way to create a positive impact on the world.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Most people have the tendency of comparing themselves to others. Nowadays, this is done through social media. If you go onto Facebook or Instagram, you might see other people living these "amazing" lives that you wish you had. Maybe you see a friend of yours posting pictures of their recent wedding. Maybe you also see a friend posing in front of a luxury car that they just bought.
What some people don't understand or realize is that there is a secret about social media (especially pictures-based social media). Most of what you see on social media is based off of people pretending to be something that they are not. You don't know about what’s going on with people except what is going on in the pictures — and that can leave out a lot of significant context. “It must be nice to be able to afford a luxury car”.
But as I said, there’s more context to those pictures than what you see. What you don’t realize is that your friend might spend their money impulsively and is struggling to keep up with monthly payments on their new car. Your friend might also even have to work extra hours every week at a job that they absolutely hate in order to make those payments on a car that they could barely afford in the first place. Does it still seem like they are having fun?
My recommendation to you is to take a break from using social media and see what kind of a difference that it makes. After doing so, you will most likely find that your mental health has improved (as did mine). You might also be surprised to discover all the free time you didn’t know you had because you were previously spending it scrolling through your news feed.
Be as Genuine as Possible
Let’s go back to my previous example of social media. As I mentioned before, many people use social media as a way to portray themselves in a more favorable way than they would normally be. This has unfortunately also led to a lack of authenticity in human beings. When I say be as genuine as possible, I mean be yourself. Don't lose sight in your beliefs, morals, or values. People should never lie in an attempt to make themselves look better.. people will always be more accepting of you if you are authentic.
Generosity and Empathy Go a Long Way In Life
Generosity and empathy are incredibly undervalued tools nowadays and some people simply don't understand how to use them properly.
Generosity is about giving to other people without expecting anything back in return. Many people view generosity one-dimensionally, unfortunately. Many view generosity as the act of giving money away, often to things like charities. However, this is a very limited view of what generosity truly is. People can be generous just by giving someone advice, doing something good for their community, or simply offering a helping hand.
Empathy is about the ability to listen to others and understand what they are going through. You’d be surprised at what people are willing to tell you when you simply become empathetic to them and allow them to be vulnerable. Learn to always have open ears and listen before speaking.
When you are empathetic and generous with others, it allows you to grow closer to the people that matter in your life. Even without an expectation of return, you’ll find that your generosity and empathy will be rewarded eventually.
Recognize that you have the ability change the world — simply by changing yourself. The three steps that I’ve talked about in this article are absolutely critical to making a positive impact on the world.
Now go out there, chase your dreams, and make a difference in the world!
© 2019 Ashley Riley