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Illness as a Blessing

Updated on May 3, 2010

"The Gift"

The first time I heard someone refer to their illness or cancer as a "gift", I was in shock and disbelief. I learned in my psychology classes people often justify a traumatic or negative experience so I reasoned that this must be why I heard people with cancer, chronic illnesses, amputees, etc say they are a better person for it. How could the negativity of tragedy transform into a positive?

I remembered back to one year when I suffered the loss of a boyfriend and best friend to sudden accidental deaths and I felt transformed in a positive way. I grieved, but I also found, and concentrated on, the positive. It wasn't until my recent diagnosis of Rheumatoid Arthritis that I realized, justification or not, it must be turned into a positive as well. I will not suffer for no reason. I am not a cancer patient or survivor, but I have found the gift in living with a chronic and painful illness.

 

The Good

So many of us live in terrific health only to simultaneously fear that ill health is lurking around the corner. This fear is about as close to feeling alive as we get- we live as if being alive is fearing death, avoiding illness, and seeking pleasure. I now think that being alive is accepting pain and suffering and appreciating the good days more. Because of my illness, I am in a beautiful state of transformation while others either live in fear or on autopilot.

People who have suffered posess an astounding gift to offer others in the way of support (groups) and first-hand information that doctors can't supply. They can be an inspiration to others.

Children are effected in positive ways when they grow up witnessing the challenges and courage of a parent or close relative that has an illness. My 2 yr old daughter knows that I have limitations and my hands hurt or are "sick". Many children of parents with an illness grow up to participate in foundations and charity specific to the illness that effected their parent. It's the best tool for teaching compassion.

Humility; needing help from others and asking for it, becoming acutely aware of our limitations, and asserting our boundaries. I can't keep a running count of how many times I hear, especially women, about how much they accomplished in one day, one hour or how much they have yet to accomplish- it's exhausting. Many autoimmune diseases are found in women. Coincidence- oh, I don't think so. If you saw my Friends' Facebook posts and how many of those women and mothers who practically climbed Mount Everest before breakfast, it's no wonder we exhaust ourselves to illness.

Putting our energy into something meaningful. How much energy gets wasted on the little stuff? Apparently none of us learned from the book series, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" because I think that's easily an epidemic creeping alongside obesity. Having an illness forces you to put your energy into only the biggest bang for your buck- it's the way to live.

Getting to know, and take care of, your body. When we were children, we had our mothers around to tell us when to put a jacket on, when to take our medicine, etc but somehow when we grew up we lost our ability to prevent or recognize symptoms, take precautions, and take care of ourselves. We ignore the bad until it gets worse and we have a decent excuse to be excused from our relentless duties.

Pulling the weeds. Illness is negative in nature so most everything else needs to be positive. This means focusing on keeping positive people in your life- letting go of bad relationships and reeping the benefit. Focus energy on healing and excusing those that drain our energy from our life.

I read in a book about a doctor who stated the secret to longevity is having a chronic illness- it's truly a blessing in disguise. Why? Because it forces you to listen to your body, treat it well, be more aware of what toxins and the environment do to your body, and harness stress and emotions before they become more serious. Chronic illness flare-ups give you distinct warning signals and people without illness have a hard time listening and following through taking care of themselves.

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      Laura Irwin 7 years ago from The Great Northwest

      Thank you for the wonderful comment. I find that Buddha's thoughts on suffering are very applicable in my life. It's not good or bad, it just is, and you deal with it for what it is.

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      Goodpal 7 years ago

      Illness, pain and suffering are the things that connect us with ourselves.

      Humility will not be known to a person who has not been humbled by suffering that also connects us with feelings of gratitude and love.

      An ancient super-scientist of suffering, Buddha, appears to be speaking through your mind.

      A Great down to earth, well articulated hub. Look forward to more such hubs.

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      Laura Irwin 7 years ago from The Great Northwest

      Thanks Joe and hypno!!

      Truly unique and great compliment Joe and it's good coming from a thinker like you- I respect, although not always agree with you.

      I love inspirational people who write about their struggles and optimism and lately my favorites are Montel Williams who has Multiple Sclerosis and Michael J. Fox who has Parkinson's. Most people have a struggle here and there in their life and they usually cope and come through ok, but people with disabilities go through that struggle and coping roller coaster every day. Each day is a hardship and each day you find your way out on the positive side- for the most part.

      Hypnodude- It's amazing how resilient people are and how strong the human spirit is. I know you know about infinite possibilities within the human mind.

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      Andrea 7 years ago from Italy

      Good and interesting hub. Everything has a positive side, illnesses too, even if sometimes it's hard to find it. Rated up!

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      JOE BARNETT 7 years ago

      ya know, you are a thinker, a logical thinker you truly think things through,and that my friend is an exotic quality.thats good!

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      Laura Irwin 7 years ago from The Great Northwest

      Thanks Will Benson

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      Will Benson 7 years ago

      This puts illness in perspective and is a very comforting HUB. Stay strong and best wishes for you.

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      Laura Irwin 7 years ago from The Great Northwest

      THanks for stopping by putz ballard

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      Putz Ballard 7 years ago

      A very great read. Thanks for sharing these great insights.