Imagining your future
What kind of life do you want?
Ask yourself these questions if to help yourself determine whether you're living the life that you want or not.
- Do I like my job?
- Is everything I do just a means to an end?
- Do I really enjoy being married to my spouse? (this one might be harder to be honest about)
If you don't like your job, what justifies you staying at it? The economy is bad. It pays the bills. It's what you're skilled in. Those three things I just mentioned are are common justifications for staying at your job. If you quit without something lined up, you might end up homeless... or not. If you've got a family to support as well as debt to pay off, its probably too risky for now.
Are most things that you do just a means to an end? Do you go to church so that "God" will not punish you, or to please people in your life? Can you take some enjoyment from mundane tasks like household cleaning? I'll stop the questioning for a moment and volunteer that information that *I* do not go to church. It would please a few people in my life, but that doesn't mean its worth it. I sometimes moan and groan about washing the dishes or vacuuming, but I happen to feel productive while I'm doing things like this and I make sure to daydream about something pleasant while doing so. Another idea for boring tasks or everyday parts of life like driving, is to think about nothing at all but just focus on the present.
Do you enjoy marriage? If you don't enjoy being married for whatever reason, what's keeping you in this relationship? I know that divorce sounds heartbreaking, but if it seems like nothing is working out, would you consider it? I'm not implying that you should. The outcome might be much worse, even if it doesn't seem all that horrible from the start.
Is your life different than what you imagined?
Did you imagine it as being better, or worse? Did you imagine it as being more complicated, or less? Children don't have a very realistic view of the world because of their limited life experience, but some people might pursue the dreams they had as a kid and end up getting that in due time. Some people might not pursue their childhood dreams because it sounds childish or unrealistic (whether they're right or not).
When I was a kid, I didn't have any expectations for what life what be like right now (I am 27 years old.) So, I don't have much to say about it.