Improve Your Likeability
Have you ever met somebody and immediately like them? Or maybe you know someone who’s just a likable person? On the likability scale from 1 to 10, where do you fall, where do you see your likable self? Be honest with your answer. Maybe today, you’re like 1 to 3 or 4 to 6. Well, this article has only one goal, to help you turn your likability up - to 11.
While some people are naturally more likable than others, it is a fact of life that no matter how nice, how giving, or how generous you are, not everyone who crosses your path is going to like you.
Not being liked by every single person on the planet is normal. Some people will just naturally “get you”, others won’t.
Because most of us think that being likable comes from a natural traits that not all of us have -like being good looking, being social and talented. It is a mistaken belief. In fact, being likable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EI).
And YES, there is something you can do about that.
And here are some tips to help you more likable.
1. HAVING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
Always remember this, overcoming obstacle starts with a positive attitude. A strong and positive attitude creates more things than any other, because life is 10% how you make it, and 90% how you take it. Having a positive attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can’t be done. Watch your attitude. It’s the first thing people notice about you. So if you have a positive mental attitude, people tend to like you more. Because attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.
2. BE PASSIONATE
People with great passion can make the impossible happen. You must be passionate, you must dedicate yourself, and you must be relentless in the pursuit of your goals. If you do, you will be successful. Everybody likes passionate people. Everybody likes successful people. Because you’re not just dreaming on your dreams, you’re also living in it and you’re taking actions in order to achieve your goals. And guess what, if you are passionate, people will tremendously like you.
3. HAVING A SENSE OF HUMOR
A good sense of humor is an escape valve for the pressures of life. It is a major defense against minor troubles. So if you are not getting any troubles, of course, people like you. Who likes a “always getting into trouble” person? Because people with a good sense of humor have a better sense of life. Always remember, sense of humor can make you more awesome. Develop a good sense of humor, and people will absolutely like you.
4. CONTROL INSECURITIES
We all have insecurities. But being able to control it, is another story. Because nobody wants to hang out to a person that always second guessing or people who are insecure about themselves. Because insecure people try to make you feel smaller. Insecurity kills all that is beautiful. It is an ugly thing. It makes you judge people that you don’t even know. And nobody likes to be around with that judgmental person. And so if you want to be liked, control your insecurities.
5. BE A GOOD LISTENER
Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you. Be a good listener. I know most of us are not a good listener, and it is something we need to practice. Because listening is an art. It requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, and others over self. People like talking and talking and talking. And they need someone to listen to them. Because who would love to talk when nobody is listening. So be a good listener.
6. BE HUMBLE
Nobody likes a showoff. Nobody likes to talk to a person who always talks on how great they are, and make it to the point where they humiliated or make fun of other people. Just imagine, you’re in an event and they are two guys giving speech. The first guy said: “I just want to thank my mom, my dad, my 3rd grade history teacher because without you, I am not here in front, talking to you”. And the other guy said: “I would like to thank nobody, but myself, because I’m awesome”. See the difference. So everybody, let’s be humble and practice humility.
7. GIVE COMPLIMENTS
The art of complimenting makes a bigger impact on a person you’re complimenting. Saying like “hey, you look gorgeous” or maybe “hey, I like your shoes”. Is it that good to hear? Having someone gives a compliment on you? Of course yes, it sounds great. So always give people a compliment when you have something to compliment on. Don’t make it to the point where you make fun of the person because it is not complimenting, it is disrespecting. If you don’t have good to say, just leave on your mind. Give compliments to something you really meant.
8. ALWAYS SMILE
Always put a smile on your face. It makes you more approachable. People will immediately think that you are a friendly person. Use your smile to change the world but don’t let the world change your smile. Always smile, let everyone know that today, you’re a lot stronger than you were yesterday. Whatever problems or trials that come into your life, do not forget to smile. Having a problem is a blessing, it means that you are alive. Smile can make a lot of difference.
And that’s it. 8 tips to be more likable. Implement this tip to yourself, it will not just raise your likability but it can also change your life. Don’t think that because you are not just as hot as Johnny Deep on his younger days, you are not as handsome as David Beckham, then you are not a likable person. Always remember that being a likable person is always under your control.