What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence and Intelligence Quotient
The one who can master his emotions can master his actions, he becomes the master of the future realities. When we hear the word ‘emotion’, the common words which come to our mind are love, hate, fear, sorrow and happiness. These are the feelings we experience on our daily bases. People having a good grip over their emotions possess the ability to understand their own feelings, thoughts and perception, and others as well.
Emotional intelligence is the potential of an individual to control and express his emotions. High level of emotional intelligence is necessary for claiming success in both personal and professional life, because if a person is very skilled in his career but has a disrespectful attitude toward others or gets depressed easily and is not strong enough to cope with the hardships of life, he cannot gain an honorable status in the eyes of the world. Practically, emotional intelligence is the capacity of being aware of how one’s emotions are connected to one’s behavior. So, our emotions are our feelings or sensations which drive our behavior.
EQ is a short for “emotional intelligence” or “emotional quotient”. Individuals with high EQ are emotionally stable. Unlike IQ, EQ is not an innate characteristic, one has to be smart enough to learn how to control his emotions.
Those who possess high EQ are well aware of how to balance different aspects of their lives and they can adapt quiet well to change because they are aware of the importance of it in their lives. They not only know how to manage their own emotions but they are also aware of what the other person is going through. Most important quality of high EQ individuals is the positivity in their thoughts and mind. They know that everything happens for a reason, either good or bad. They learn from their mistakes and the best of them are those who learn from the mistakes of others. They are eager to learn and they push themselves towards the better everyday. They don’t know how to give up, they only know how to give out their best. People with high EQ are curious and restless to explore the world, they know that this world has so much to tell and so much to show. Every choice they make and every path they choose is to move one step ahead from where they already are.
Emotional intelligence is divided into three sets:
- Emotional awareness – Empathy
- The capability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving.
- The competency of managing emotions which includes regulating your own emotions and also cheering up or calming down some other person.
Individual's lacking this ability have never learnt how to deal with emotions and that can lead to some serious issues, “Insecurity” due to lack of emotional intelligence where it becomes hard to understand the difference between yourself and someone else and it's even harder to connect that on emotional level to truly comprehend where someone else is coming from. In order to change that we need to consider emotional intelligence as a critical skill in our society and then also take time to work on it consciously. The kids these days don’t get the space to understand and learn “who they are” and connect themselves and to their emotions. The fundamental part of having good emotional intelligence is to know who you really are. However, before teaching this concept to them, we need to be emotionally intelligent ourselves first. For that you need to follow these steps that will hopefully make you emotionally intelligent:
- Acknowledge your Emotions as something valuable.
- Differentiate and analyze your Emotions
- Accept and appreciate Emotions
- Reflect on your Emotions and their origin
- Handle your Emotions
- Handle the Emotions of others
My opinion on this particular topic or how I face hard emotions is by taking care of myself. When I feel being pushed down by the world, I write it down because our beloved teacher once told us to observe keenly before relying on a shoulder to cry on. As someone once said:
“Half those people who wish you well, hope in their hearts you rot in hell”
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