- Death & Loss of Life
In Remembrance of Ellie Shipp
I remember the first time I saw her. I went into a store, where I was hoping to work. She was an older lady - older than my parents, but younger than my grandparents. Her hair was like a marshmallow, white, and piled into a bun on top of her head. I didn't even know until months later that she had long hair, because she did not wear it down. She seemed serious at first glance, but once I got to know her, I recognized the mischievous twinkle in her eye.
This quote is what Ellie was all about. She seemed to have a good attitude no matter what happened in her life:
"Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitiude we bring to life."
By Denise Olivastri
Reminders of Ellie
- Red: She loved the color red
- Roosters: Most of the time I bought presents for her, it had to do with roosters
- Vegetable gardens
- Homemade bread: hers was so tasty and warm
- Teddy Bears: She gave me a couple one year, and I still have them
Memories of Ellie
- I worked with her for over 8 years.
- I lived just under 600 miles away from my family for the time I was around Ellie, and she was like a wonderful combination of a mother and a friend.
- She was always there to listen to me, to give me advice, and to be there when I cried.
- When I was going through rough times, she was there for me.
- Her wonderful husband worked with us a few times temporarily throughout the years. He helped me move a few times, and I was always impressed by how strong he was. Not only physically, but mentally, too. He took such great care for Ellie. It was him I cried for when I found out she had passed away, as well as for their daughter. I felt the loss, but they will feel it on a daily basis.
- Ellie loved to cook, and to bake delicious treats. Every holiday, and sometimes in between, she would bring food into the break room. Everything that came from her kitchen was decadent!
- Ellie was a big part of my holidays. Year after year I had to stay home during the Winter months, due to the rules of my retail job, but she made those times of the year really fun when we worked together. Spending time with friends and loved ones of all kinds are what the holidays are all about.
- She had a huge garden every year, with too many vegetables to keep to herself. She would bring in a grocery cart filled to the brim with vegetables in the Summertime! They were always big and hearty, and very tasty. On many Summer evenings half of my meal would be thanks to her.
- She had a way of just knowing when something was wrong, or when I didn't have much money. There were a couple of times in my early twenties that I didn't have much food in the house, and she would bring me a box of food, or loaves of homemade bread. I didn't have to say anything.
- She was spunky, and had more of an attitude than would be expected of her upon first glance. Because of this, you never knew what was going to come out of her mouth! She had so many stories that had us laughing!
- She was always so proud to show us photos of her little grandchild, and she always talked about her family. She was a very good mother.
- She was the strongest woman I have ever known. She went through so much, and always came through with a good attitude. She worked her tail off, and made our place of work a more pleasant place.
- While I was there, I always thought that if I moved away, not seeing her anymore would be the hardest part. I always joked that if she wasn't there anymore, I would move away.
- When I did move away a few years ago, she was on leave due to health problems. But I got to see her not long before I left, when there was a surprise party for her at a buffet restaurant.
- I wrote to Ellie and her husband every few months, and kept in touch.
- When I got the letter from her husband saying she had passed away, I cried. My heart hurt, and I felt so bad that I hadn't visited her while it was still possible. It was very sudden, because her health had been improving.
- She passed away on March 15, 2012, and I will never forget her, or her part in my world.
For any of you who are grieving over someone right now, Vicki has many good articles on bereavement. Here is a good one to start with:
- Bereavement - How to work through the pain
Trying to cope after death and the loss of your loved one often seems like an impossible task. Goal setting and succeeding one step at a time is the way to succeed in putting your life together again.
No matter how much I think about her, talk about her, or write about her, she will never make an appearance. No matter how much I wish I could turn back time and make the visit I always planned on making "in the future", I can't. Who knew that if I waited too long, there would be no more chance to see her? But I can remember her, and I will.
I hope that every year her family hurts less, and that they will find pleasure in the simple things, and in the supportive people around them.
She may be gone from this world, but she will always be in the hearts and minds of the many people who loved her.
"Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them"
~ George Eliot
"A friend who dies, it's something of you who dies"
~ Gustave Flaubert
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