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In Remembrance of Ellie Shipp

Updated on June 22, 2013
What I have left from Ellie are these bears, and many wonderful memories
What I have left from Ellie are these bears, and many wonderful memories | Source

First Impressions

I remember the first time I saw her. I went into a store, where I was hoping to work. She was an older lady - older than my parents, but younger than my grandparents. Her hair was like a marshmallow, white, and piled into a bun on top of her head. I didn't even know until months later that she had long hair, because she did not wear it down. She seemed serious at first glance, but once I got to know her, I recognized the mischievous twinkle in her eye.

This quote is what Ellie was all about. She seemed to have a good attitude no matter what happened in her life:

"Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitiude we bring to life."

By Denise Olivastri

I still have this bear that Ellie gave me one year.
I still have this bear that Ellie gave me one year. | Source

Reminders of Ellie

  • Red: She loved the color red
  • Roosters: Most of the time I bought presents for her, it had to do with roosters
  • Vegetable gardens
  • Homemade bread: hers was so tasty and warm
  • Teddy Bears: She gave me a couple one year, and I still have them

Memories of Ellie

  • I worked with her for over 8 years.
  • I lived just under 600 miles away from my family for the time I was around Ellie, and she was like a wonderful combination of a mother and a friend.
  • She was always there to listen to me, to give me advice, and to be there when I cried.
  • When I was going through rough times, she was there for me.
  • Her wonderful husband worked with us a few times temporarily throughout the years. He helped me move a few times, and I was always impressed by how strong he was. Not only physically, but mentally, too. He took such great care for Ellie. It was him I cried for when I found out she had passed away, as well as for their daughter. I felt the loss, but they will feel it on a daily basis.
  • Ellie loved to cook, and to bake delicious treats. Every holiday, and sometimes in between, she would bring food into the break room. Everything that came from her kitchen was decadent!
  • Ellie was a big part of my holidays. Year after year I had to stay home during the Winter months, due to the rules of my retail job, but she made those times of the year really fun when we worked together. Spending time with friends and loved ones of all kinds are what the holidays are all about.
  • She had a huge garden every year, with too many vegetables to keep to herself. She would bring in a grocery cart filled to the brim with vegetables in the Summertime! They were always big and hearty, and very tasty. On many Summer evenings half of my meal would be thanks to her.
  • She had a way of just knowing when something was wrong, or when I didn't have much money. There were a couple of times in my early twenties that I didn't have much food in the house, and she would bring me a box of food, or loaves of homemade bread. I didn't have to say anything.
  • She was spunky, and had more of an attitude than would be expected of her upon first glance. Because of this, you never knew what was going to come out of her mouth! She had so many stories that had us laughing!
  • She was always so proud to show us photos of her little grandchild, and she always talked about her family. She was a very good mother.
  • She was the strongest woman I have ever known. She went through so much, and always came through with a good attitude. She worked her tail off, and made our place of work a more pleasant place.
  • While I was there, I always thought that if I moved away, not seeing her anymore would be the hardest part. I always joked that if she wasn't there anymore, I would move away.
  • When I did move away a few years ago, she was on leave due to health problems. But I got to see her not long before I left, when there was a surprise party for her at a buffet restaurant.
  • I wrote to Ellie and her husband every few months, and kept in touch.
  • When I got the letter from her husband saying she had passed away, I cried. My heart hurt, and I felt so bad that I hadn't visited her while it was still possible. It was very sudden, because her health had been improving.
  • She passed away on March 15, 2012, and I will never forget her, or her part in my world.

Conclusion

No matter how much I think about her, talk about her, or write about her, she will never make an appearance. No matter how much I wish I could turn back time and make the visit I always planned on making "in the future", I can't. Who knew that if I waited too long, there would be no more chance to see her? But I can remember her, and I will.

I hope that every year her family hurts less, and that they will find pleasure in the simple things, and in the supportive people around them.

She may be gone from this world, but she will always be in the hearts and minds of the many people who loved her.

"Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them"

~ George Eliot


"A friend who dies, it's something of you who dies"

~ Gustave Flaubert

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Anna Haven,

      Thanks. She will always occupy a place in my heart, and giving her a tribute helps remind me of what I loved most about her.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a great weekend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Anna Haven 4 years ago from Scotland

      I'm sorry to hear about your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to a lady who sounds as if she was very special.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      PS,

      I'm glad you see how she has impacted my life. She definitely helped make me a more caring person. If she hadn't been around in that period of my life, I am sure I would not be the same person I am today.

      You're welcome, and thank you for taking the time to read and share your lovely comments.

      Have a fantastic Labor Day weekend! It is almost September (can you believe it?).

      ~ Kathryn

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      What a blessing Ellie was. You have explained what a lovely person she was so well, Kathryn. It is evident that she impacted your life and probably has made you the caring person that you are today. That comes across in your writings.

      Thank you for sharing such a lovely tribute.

      Angels are on the way today ps Shared

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Old albion,

      Thanks for reading and commenting on my very heartfelt tribute to my friend. I appreciate it.

      She is one woman who put a mark on my life, and I will never forget her. If I could be only a little like her, my life would be useful to others.

      Have a wonderful day!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Graham Lee 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Kathryn. A most heartfelt and deserving tribute to a wonderful lady. As you say she knew when things were tough. Without a word she was there. Such men and women are few it seems in our world today. Thank you.

      voted up and all / following.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Karen,

      That would be a very good hub to write. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman, and I love hearing about people who made a difference.

      Thanks for reading this, and commenting. I hope life is treating you well

      :)

      ~ Kathryn

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      Karen Szklany Gault 4 years ago from New England

      Very lovely hub, Kathryn. I am inspired to perhaps write a hub about a friend of mine who passed away way too young...she was tireless in her activism in favor of those marginalized by society, and was a lawyer who worked to make the world a better place. :0)

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      GwennyOh, thank you so much for reading and commenting. She was a wonderful woman, and I don't think anyone that knew her disliked her! Have a wonderful weekend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      GwennyOh 4 years ago from LaLa Land

      This article is a beautiful tribute to a beautiful spirit. It makes me wish I had known her too.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      AnnaCia, thanks, I will always remember her. I appreciate your encouragement. Have a beautiful day!

      ~ Kathryn

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Kathryn, this is a very nice tribute to your friend. Always remember her and feel her words of wisdom thru the breeze. You will see her in many occasions throughout nature.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thanks, R.Q. I was very blessed to be around her, and my memories of her are so dear. You're welcome, and thank you for reading and commenting on this tribute to Ellie. Have a fantastic weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      What a golden woman.You must have felt so blessed to be around her , and the special times which you shared together.The names of good friends are always fragrant, like a fine perfume, when we remember them, and you have made an excellent tribute remembrance, for a wonderful lady who was good for you, by being close by, at a time when family were so far away.Thank you so much for sharing with us, Kathryn.This is beautiful.

      Yours Sincerely,

      R.Q.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Azrestoexp, thanks. I agree, most everyone has experienced a loss of a loved one. It's bound to happen at one point or another, and it will happen again. It's how life goes.

      Thank you, it's nice to think of her smiling about me.

      Have a great weekend!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Suzzycue, I'm so sorry for your loss. May 19th wasn't very long ago, so your grief must be very fresh. Like you said, at least she's not suffering anymore. I agree, the hurt from such a great loss never really goes away entirely.

      You're welcome, and I hope over time your grief is eased, and that you can reflect on the memories and really enjoy thinking about your friend and mentor.

      Have a good weekend, Suzzy.

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      Arizona's Restoration Experts, LLC 4 years ago

      Beautiful tribute. I'm sure we have all felt that way about a special someone that has touched our lives in one way or another. I'm sure she's smiles when she thinks of you too.

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      Susan Britton 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Wonderful memories of your friend Kathryn. This hub reminded me of my friendship with Marylou. Marylou passed on, on May 19th/2013. I miss her but know she is resting and without pain. Marylou was also an older person whom I cherished for her wisdom, love, and wit. I looked upon her as an older sister , mentor, friend and hero . I don't know if the hurt of loss for your friend's family will ever fade. I will always probably feel heart broken. Thanks for the memories .

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      We never know... I always seem to find those special kind of friends where and when I'd least expect it. Gee, now you've got me thinking :D

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you for your words, Cat. Even though there will never be another Ellie, new friends can always be found. And who knows when my next truly meaningful friend will come along?! That is very encouraging to think about.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Kathryn,

      It's incredibly sad what an emptiness the loss of a loved one can create. I would imagine work has a much different feel to it. No one will ever replace your dear friend, but here's to making new ones!

      Have a great rest of the evening!

      Cat

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Cat, I'm very glad I got to walk with someone as wonderful as her in my lifetime. She was such a great friend, and helped me through some rough times. She definitely affected me, and I will always keep her in my heart.

      Right now I have a part time job at the same company I worked with her at (in a different state), and I think of her even more than usual. It's a little strange to work in a place that seems familiar, but with different people.

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on my tribute to Ellie. I appreciate it! Have a spectacular Monday :)

      ~Kathryn

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Kathryn,

      This is so touching! I believe people are placed in our paths, we either around them or walk with them. You were meant to walk with Ellie and she will have affected you for the rest of your life. She sounds like a wonderful woman and I'm happy that you got to walk with her.

      Beautiful!

      Cat

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      FlourishAnyway, thank you. I appreciate it. She was a great woman, and a great inspiration.

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      FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

      Kathryn, this is a beautiful tribute to your friend. May she inspire us all to be as kind and generous in spirit. So sorry for your loss.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Peggy, thank you for reading this tribute to my friend, and for leaving such a thoughtful comment. It's true, we need to always let others know we care about them, and cherish them, because we never know when we will run out of time.

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      Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

      What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful woman. Thanks for sharing a bit of Ellie with us. She will always be in your heart and memories. Wishing joyful memories of her for her family and friends like you who must be missing her dearly. Up and useful votes. We need to let those whom we care about know it as often as we are able. There may not be that tomorrow in which to do it.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thanks, KoffeeKlatch, I'm glad I have the memories.

      Thank you for reading and commenting on my article. I appreciate it.

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      What a beautiful tribute to what sounds like a wonderful woman. Every now and then we are lucky enough to meet someone who has a profound influence over our life. So sorry for your lost. As you said, she will always be with you in your heart.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I felt the warm wishes, Colin! Thanks for your compliments, you are always very sweet. I appreciate that you would read and comment on my tribute to my friend.

      It was in the 50's and sunny today, closer to Spring weather. I hope warmer weather heads your way.

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Good afternoon Kathyrn from Colin, Little Miss Tiffy and Mister Gabriel at lake erie time ontario canada 12:58pm and this lovely heartfelt tribute speaks as much about your friend as it does of your own beautiful heart and mind - and when it comes to reading a naturally talented writer like you the story becomes even more special.

      A cool southwest wind off the lake today making it seem cooler but sunny just the same and definitely early spring now.

      Sending warm wishes and good energy your way.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thanks, Eddy, I appreciate that you took the time to read and comment on this tribute to my friend.

      I hope she does have a big smile on her face. Just hearing you say that makes me smile. Thinking of her smile is a very positive thing. Thank you for your kind words.

      Have a wonderful day, too. Currently I am inside of my warm apartment, listening to the Wintry mix coming down. Since there's a coating of snow on the roofs and cars, it looks very pretty outside.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A wonderful share Kathryn and thank you for telling us all about this wonderful lady.

      A brilliant tribute to a great lady. I am sure she has a very big smile as she looks down today.

      I vote up and wish you a wonderful day Kathryn.

      Eddy.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      CharronsChatter, I was very lucky to have her as a friend, and I cherish the time we had together. Yes, there are some plushes that I would not dare to throw out. I may be grown up, but sentimentality wins.

      True, it makes me to think that when it comes to some things, maybe it is better to act on our intentions earlier. But still, time can "steal someone" even if you're on your way to visit them.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a beautiful day.

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      Karen Robiscoe 4 years ago from California

      A wonderful tribute. She sounds like a lovely woman, and you were lucky to know her. The teddies are great, too--I have a few sentimental ones, myself. I guess there are some things plush we never outgrow.

      Time. It has a way of stealing our intentions.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Cuttler, thank you, that is a sweet reply. Yes, she will always live on in my heart. I will never forget her.

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      Cuttler 4 years ago from HubPages

      Touching tribute. from your description, she was truly a remarkable, caring, and loving woman. Such people always live on in our lives. As George Elliot's quote state, Our dead are not dead to us until we forget them. A quote that is as true as its words.

      May she Rest In Peace and may her memory live forever more in the hearts of they that loved and still love her.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Rajan, you're welcome. And thank you for your lovely comment.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Au fait,

      Thank you, that is a very inspiring thing to say, and very true.

      I appreciate that you took the time to read and comment on my article!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      This is a lovely tribute to a fantastic woman. Such people always leave pleasant memories and are deeply missed.

      Thanks for sharing an insight into her caring personality.

      voted up and beautiful.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      A beautiful tribute to a dear friend.

      You can't change the past but you can change the future. Always let the people you care about know because you may not get another opportunity. No matter what, Ellie can always be alive in your heart and in your memories. Those who are dearest to us become a part of us forever.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Gypsy, I agree that everyone should have a friend like that in life. Friends make experiences much richer. It does make me want to reach out so some friends I have drifted away from, and reconnect while there is still time.

      Thank you for reading and commenting, and have an enjoyable weekend.

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      Gypsy48 4 years ago

      Everyone should be fortunate enough to have an Ellie in their lives, cherish the memories. A beautiful tribute to your lovely friend.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Willette, thank you for your wonderful comment. I appreciate that you took the time to read and respond to my tribute.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Unknown Spy, thanks, that's a sweet thing to say. It is sad. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment on my memorial to Ellie.

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      Willette 4 years ago from Michigan

      Hi kathryn: this is so beautiful. A wonderful tribute for a wonderful lady. Thank you for sharing.

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      IAmForbidden 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      when you mentioned she passed away..my heart felt a twinge. it was really sad.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thanks, MJ. This topic was in my heart and mind for so long, and even though most people here don't know her, I wanted to give this tribute to her.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a wonderful weekend.

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      mjkearn 4 years ago

      Hi Kathryn

      What a lovely tribute to someone who obviously meant a lot to you. This is a wonderful way to remember and salute those who we have loved and are no longer with us.

      Thanks for sharing,

      MJ.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Dream On, that is very true. I am glad that I had the chance to know such a wonderful woman, and thinking about her makes me feel better.

      Thank you so much for reading, and for commenting.

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      DREAM ON 4 years ago

      I am glad you shared your story of such a beautiful woman.I hope your sadness softens and thinking of her brings you close to all the things you love.It is the people like Ellie Shipp that make the world so wonderful.Thanx again.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you, Bill. I believe you would have liked her! I think of her sometimes when I hear people talk about gardening. I want to have one like hers someday.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm sorry for your loss, Kathryn! This is a beautiful tribute about a wonderful woman. I would have liked her. Thank you for sharing her with us.

      bill