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Incredible Journeys in Life Changes

Updated on March 23, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Life is beautiful in peaceful surroundings

A beautiful sunset close to my home.
A beautiful sunset close to my home. | Source
A view overlooking the town close by Cavtat.
A view overlooking the town close by Cavtat. | Source

My life and my experiences

The new life and experiences!

I did not know of a foreign culture and of Croatia. I learned lots through my experiences.

Most of all, my challenges made me who I am in this present time.

Life is what you make of it!

I know writing has opened my mind to all experiences.

Writing has healed me in me in many ways.

Only, I can tell you that for sure and open up to what has held me back for a while.

My old life was good and happiest.

I can't go back, but talking about my past life is my better way of starting my new life.

I had my loving family close by, and grew up in a safe environment.

I only knew what I had grown into and that life was just too good to be true.

Sometimes I think my old life was like a fairy tale kind of life.

I had a normal life and I lived happily and wasn't not pressured into doing anything I did not want to.

I was taught to do what I wanted and liked to.

It was always up to me!

There were no restrictions in my life. I had to be responsible and reliable.

Being the oldest of five children my responsibilities grew quicker, and so did I.

My childhood years were happy and that is what gave me a fine adulthood.

I preferred to be on my own and live according to my decisions.

My life felt free from within myself.

I realized much more about the changes in my country, South Africa.

I felt safe while growing up in my teen years, but when I got to the age of about twenty,

I saw and feared going out with friends. I immediately, felt a bit unsafe.

Many events made me see how the lives of other individuals became somewhat restricted, and more fearful.

The old life was good when I did not understand and know the actual meaning of apartheid, and all those changes that connected to the whole system.

Life felt normal to me because I was led to believe that was how people lived separately from each other.

In not realizing how affected I was by this system I was fine with it all.

  • What can be the same for me again?

I don't see much of anything that can be the same for me, except for me getting back my true happiness from within.

Too much slipped away from me.

My life slowly slipped into another life, and in a different way.

I know I will never have that life again, but will treasure those memories.

I have traveled to many destinations in around South Africa and felt like I had not appreciated those times like I should have at that time.

I miss that life of easiness and quality.

Home is always the best no matter where else you choose to live. The heart tells it all truly.

Nothing can be the same and I have seen that a long time ago after my stay in Croatia.

I lived a happy and positive life throughout.

Living with my family was pleasant.

We spent lots of good times together until the day my whole life changed forever.

My travels have opened me to another country and lifestyle.

I did not want to live in Croatia; all I wanted was a holiday.

I don't regret my move or any act thereafter just the longing for my old life and home.

Time has given me another chance to live again.

I can't change the way I feel, but I can make my life happier by staying focused on my new changes.

Challenges have got me this far.

I did not give up!

My incredible journey opened my mind to many challenges and the way I approached these challenges has made me free and more of a loving person.

I know my old life can't be while in Croatia that I would have to look forward to on my visits back home.

I accepted my life and enjoy each day as I see it.

I call South Africa my home, it is my place of birth and for me it will always be that way.

  • Some people don't understand why I feel this way, I do!

  • What got me here?

Croatia is a very different country, and for me to adjust to this life in the way I did still surprises me even till today.

I came to live in Croatia after my marriage to a Croatian gentleman.

I speak a foreign language which I have never spoken before, and have a life of freedom.

The original kind of life I had was my way of life, the way I can only talk about now to others.

I did not think of what I had until I had lost it all.

Starting over has its ups and downs, and coping with these obstacles had played a very important part of me.

I write to share my experiences with my readers!

When focused on writing I felt less-stressed.

Precious moments don't disappear easily.

Old times are often held within and are difficult to get out in the open.

At one time everything hurt and felt sad for me.

As the years went by most of what hurt me no longer hurts.

I could not open up my album to take a peep at old photos, and now I can do so with no pain.

The painful moments have certainly passed me by.

I think and know my life has changed for the better.

From one place to another, and from one life to another I have become this other person, and life has shown me too much of reality.

It was no great feeling for me when I left my once so beautiful life.

I packed bags, and moved away from everything I knew and had that good for me.

I did not know what will be in a new place.

People talked, and advised but that did not matter when my mind was made up to leave.

I turned a deaf ear to all their opposed thoughts.

It felt like an adventure in the beginning, and as time passed by I knew it was time to get into this different life. It no longer was just an adventure I had to face up to reality.

The excitement lured me in and took me by surprise.

The whole experienced has broadened my knowledge of another country, lifestyle, and culture.

What I saw for the first time made me like the rest of the experiences.

I missed my old life each day, and each day, I cried hoping for the best, and here I am today proud of my achievements.

I fully understand the point of my move, and the decision did make my life feel much easier from all my actions.

I learned to be more appreciative and happier with life.

The little events changed the way I think and do.

I soaked in the language greatly and have no regrets.

It is different everywhere in the word how you choose to cope with a change is important for you. My values mean more to me now than it did in my past.

Everything I learned taught me to live in the moment. Living in the moment made me feel unplugged in life.

I value my experiences and with an open mind.

  • What was the hardest change I had to make in my life?

I had to live in a different culture.

Changing my mind was harder than I had expected.

I had to take responsibility for my actions which involves self-awareness. The behaviors, habits, and the whole outcome of my life had me concerned.

Just as well there was no ultimatum, or finish line for me to reach any goal.

I did whatever I could, and managed to prove to myself I have the ability to move on.

Religion, people, habits, behaviors, mindsets, conversations, debates, political issues, including the change of heart, had affected me.

I allowed me to see my life from a different perspective.

Making new adjustments made my life harder and simpler.

I created a life of my own and love the way I chose to live.

Life journeys

How would you cope with another lifestyle in a foreign language?

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© 2015 Devika Primić

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ktnpti thank you very much for stopping by

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      ktnptl 2 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Very nice hub. Life is an ongoing struggle, you dealt with one, move on and face another. That is the life. Very intense topic explained in a nice way.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sunilkunnoth2012 thank you very much for stopping by so kind of you to share whats on your mind. I appreciate the voted up and shared.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Akritis Mattu so glad to have read another great share from you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Padmajah Badri thank you for sharing your kind message I appreciate the vote up

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      Padmajah Badri 2 years ago from India

      Very interesting hub portraying the positive aspect of life .Verses are motivational.Voted up .Thanks for writing

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      Akriti Mattu 2 years ago from Shimla, India

      I respect people who know how to stand up for themselves. Your optimism is refreshing. Keep it up. Nice post :)

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 2 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      Your positive outlook and approach well reflected here. As usual you do a good job with your excellent writing skill. Voted up and shared.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      justmesuzanne thank you for stopping by I appreciate all votes from you.

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      justmesuzanne 3 years ago from Texas

      Interesting and inspiring! Voted up and awesome!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CrisSp Thank you kindly for sharing such a lovely comment.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Smilealot, thank you kindly for stopping by. My positive outlook is the way I chose to live my life.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      denise.w.anderson thank you kindly for sharing your comment always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Velur, I appreciate you stopping by so glad you shared your comment. Thank you.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      You're not only one adventurous soul, you are also a very brave woman. I wish you well in life and may you continue to share your life experiences with us.

      Love from the sky~

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      Smilealot 3 years ago

      It must be extremely difficult to move to another country and have to learn a different language. Your positive outlook has seen you through the difficult transition...your story is an inspiring one:-))

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      It is amazing the things that you have been able to accomplish!

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      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Your outlook towards life is so positive and refreshing. Great hub, enjoyed reading.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. You are so right! Thank you for all votes.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      aesta1 thank you for stopping by I appreciate your kind comments.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rajan jolly thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ocfireflires thank you very much for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AudreyHowitt, thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you for sharing your mind here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hiocfireflies thank you kindly for commenting on my hubs. I appreciate the kind comments.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Hello Devika-Your last line " I created a life of my own and love the way I chose to live" sums your personality determination and outlook on life superbly. Another interesting look at your past life and how you have coped admirably with the 'new' one. Voted up,interesting and useful.

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      Mary Norton 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I can understand how you feel having move to another country because of marriage. I feel more at home now but that's after 25 years. Keep going as you do now and express yourself in your writing.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      I can understand how difficult it must have been not only life after you understood what apartheid was but after you shifted to a new way of living and culture.

      Hats off to you and I hope you can always return time and again to your roots to relive the pleasant memories.

      All the best Devika.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is an interesting hub, Devika. Your life certainly changed when you left South Africa for Croatia! The change must have been dramatic, but it sounds like you dealt with it well.

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      ocfireflies 3 years ago from North Carolina

      Devika,

      Your pictures are beautiful. Great views indeed.

      Thank You,

      Kim

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      Audrey Howitt 3 years ago from California

      You really do have a positive outlook!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      B.Leekley you are right about the changes affecting one as it has for me. Great views indeed thank you

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      You are very adventurous. I can never imagine marrying someone from another country or way of life and certainly not moving for them. It takes a great leap of faith to pick up and go like you did.

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      ocfireflies 3 years ago from North Carolina

      Devika,

      It takes lots of guts to travel and take on new adventures and challenges.

      Just the fact that you have learned another language is awesome in and of itself. So glad to have you here on HP and see you as not only a strong female role model but an amazing writer.

      Blessings,

      Kim

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Homeplace Series.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring, thank you for stopping by here. I appreciate all comments from you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mel Carriere, thank you for stopping by. South Africa is a beautiful country and lots to entertain you with. The weather is great all year round.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Sally I listen daily to the local radio station online and know how corrupt SA has become. I don't regret leaving! I love my life for the way it turned out and feel so free here. I so agree with you. It is sad to see a beautiful country go down in such ways. Thank you for stopping by. Have a good day!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc staying positive is what got me to move on thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Bobbi Purvis thank you for showing interest in my book I do have a few kindle books, please take a look on this link: http://www.amazon.com/Devika-Primic/e/B002YMSWSE/r... Your trip to Africa can be most enjoyable providing the necessary precautions are taken seriously. I am glad to have met another kind hubber. All my best to you and take care now!I appreciate your trying to help me gain more traffic toward my books.

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      William Leverne Smith 3 years ago from Hollister, MO

      Don't know how you do it, but, thanks for sharing! ;-)

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      Ruby Jean Richert 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I admire you for adapting and moving on with your life in a new environment. You have showed great courage. It must have been very difficult in Africa during the apartheid. Best wishes...

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      PurvisBobbi44 3 years ago from Florida

      What a wonderful life experience you've had in such a short time. I wanted to visit Africa since I love animals. It would be wonderful to take my cameras and ride through Africa.

      However, I know there are dangers in doing that even if it was possible.

      Please tell the name of your book again and where it is sold. I want to share it on my Pinterest board: Sharing Great Writings from Friends. And, maybe it will bring you more traffic for your book.

      I enjoy your hub very much and keep writing and sharing.

      Bobbi Purvis

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      Mel Carriere 3 years ago from San Diego California

      You have had a very interesting life and have adapted well. Someday I would like to visit South Africa. I have been to Kenya. Africa is beautiful. Great hub!

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 3 years ago from Norfolk

      South Africa as it is today! Crime ridden and corrupt. Eskom, unable to meet electricity demand and a tortuous schedule of rolling blackouts known as “load shedding” are light years away from what you and I left behind. I still cannot open a photo album to sneak a look at those or the life I left behind. I so admire how you have adapted to your new life.

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      Brian Leekley 3 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      South Africa to Croatia and 20th century to 21st century are big adjustments. I'm glad you have coped so well. I expect that it helps a lot that Cavtat and the surrounding countryside and sea coast is a beautiful location, as shown in your photos and in a Google Earth view.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love your positive outlook on life.

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