View Of Healing-Part 5 Acceptance
Acceptance is the final stage of healing. In effect, accepting the facts for what they are is techinically considered being healed. No person ever fully heals from being raped, but coming to terms with the event and accepting it is the closest one will come. Unfortunately, not every rape victim will make it to this landmark.
There are some victims who never regain the ability to trust again. There are some who were unable to see the hopeful light at the end of the painful tunnel and either take their own lives or break mentally. There is no easy way to be a loved one watching the person you care about lose their minds over an attack that he, or she or they, have already forgotten about and moved on from. The mental anguish suffered by rape victims leaves a lasting mark. Some wear that mark around their neck like a weight that they cannot lift.
Then there are those victims that have sought counseling, whether professional or friendly, and chose to fight back. These are the people who may not talk openly about their attack, but they can talk about it if need be. They can sleep again, go out socially without fear, maybe even date again. That last one may take longer than the rest but the point is that they have realized that they cannot change what happened and staying depressed and failing to move on means that their attacker has won. Rape is not a sexual act-it is about control. So many fail to understand that and they get hung up on the sexual aspect. By not facing the world again out of fear or loss of self-worth, the victim remains a victim always.
A rape victim who reaches acceptance has made a major milestone and should be respected for that. It does take a great amount of effort combined with solid support to get there. Getting there may take months, years, or even a lifetime, but as long as they got there, then they have won! I encourage all rape victims and friends and family of victims to take a stand and fight. Fight for justice, fight for yourself-you are worth it, fight for the power to win. Fight for acceptance!