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Is Social Anxiety A Slow Poison?

Updated on April 27, 2020
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An author of the book" Aggregate 50", a frequent traveler, nature lover and a financial executive.

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Introduction

Social anxiety is like, you are building an Igloo house for you. Those people who are living in social anxiety are like they have built their own Eskimo houses where they can find the warmth and comfort of their own company and their loved ones but once they step out of their own house, the temperature of anxiety freezes them.

Let me ask you a few questions regarding this. Have you ever felt sweating, dry mouth, tense muscles when you are surrounded by a number of persons? No, I am not talking about the suffocating condition that may happen due to summer or any medical emergency. These symptoms can be felt anywhere even inside a comfortable environment also. And if you're answer is, "Yes" then it might be the case of social anxiety.

My Experience On Anxiety

Sometimes when we were surrounded by a group of people and you become the center of attraction on a stage and suddenly your heart starts fluttering at a faster pace just like a hummingbird flutters it's wings and things will not only stop there it will be followed by intense sweating also. Many people go through this.

Let me tell you one incident that had happened to me when I was in the fourth standard. We were doing the role-play exercises. A student would be randomly selected to come to the front and show off their English conversation skills on any given topic. I would hold my breath and physically brace myself as the teacher scanned the room. Thoughts like 'I will get a heart attack and probably I will die if she chooses me' keep on wandering on the loop in my head. The one time that I was chosen, I could barely able to introduce myself. I was freaking out so badly, aware that the entire class was starring at me.

Now the question is, Why couldn't I just get on with it like my other friends?

A similar incident happened when I was in my tenth standard. I was well prepared for a debate competition, I have been practicing on the topic the whole night. Next day when I went to the stage and face the mike. I realized the silence of the room was deafening and heart-piercing as I stumbled over the words as fast as I can. It was nagging and I was convinced that everyone was laughing at me.

But the good news is that these things never hold me back to make new friends or getting a job.

At a very early age, I understood what was happening with me, I accepted that I have a problem and act accordingly.

Here I am writing a few things that helped me to overcome this problem.


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Things That Helped Me To Overcome Social Anxiety

  • Accept that you have a problem: This is the first thing your mind should do before taking any steps. Accept that you are suffering from a problem, discuss it with your parents or friends regarding this so that they can help you. Remember you are not alone.
  • Read confidence-boosting books: These books always helps. They inject lots of knowledge inside you. and helps in confidence-building. They become your guide and if you follow them.
  • Face your fear: As someone has elaborated it very well, FEAR, false evidence appearing real. Face your fear with all your courage and it will disappear.
  • Get out of your comfort zone: Comfort zone prevents you from improving, it stops you from achieving all the things you are capable of achieving and it makes you miserable. So, make a decision today to change something in your life that you are unhappy with and start experiencing positive changes.
  • Make new friends: Making new friends help in reducing stress, build confidence.
  • Nurture positive thoughts: Positive thoughts give us the strength to fight against odds.
  • Ignore haters: Haters will say whatever they feel like saying be it good or bad. They will find bad in everything. So better ignore them.

Social anxiety can kill your will power slowly if not traceable at the right time just like a slow poison. Do not worry if you are going through this because you're not the only one who is suffering and the good news is it's curable.

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    • Suchismita pradhan profile imageAUTHOR

      Suchismita Pradhan 

      4 weeks ago from India

      you are right Mr.Murali certain things are important in life and balancing is a very important skill which is really tough to implement in practical life but one can do that if he/she can able to understand the true meaning of life.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 weeks ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I know of people who feel this way in situations and I can't help them it is hard to see how they behave. Interesting and important points made here.

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      Liz Westwood 

      4 weeks ago from UK

      Thanks for sharing your experiences to help others.

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      AndazeAkash 

      5 weeks ago

      The best part of your article is your personal experience. Whenever any article or any information has a personal touch, It leads to a very vast impact. Your article is also very helpful to cope-up with current days. The best line of the article is to come out of your comfort zone. The Comfort zone is always a barrier to one's growth. We cannot explore our self to that extent. So it is very necessary to come out from our comfort zone to achieve massive success. Keep writing and sharing.

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      Audrey Hunt 

      5 weeks ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Keeping busy, and remaining connected help to fight anxiety, regardless of the current situation. I took up rock painting and I place them throughout our small community to help cheer up others. I also offer free online singing lessons to residents which helps them as well as bringing a sense of staying connected with others. Planting a vegetable garden brings me peace and will feed me later on.

      Thanks for your article and stay well!

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      Halemane Muralikrishna 

      5 weeks ago from South India

      Problems of anxiety and its effect on physiology and psychology are well explained, Ms Suchismita. Maintaining calmness and balanced approach to circumstances is always good. We must take whatever comes to is for good and ready to work hard to achieve our goal.

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      Prantika Samanta 

      5 weeks ago from Kolkata, India

      Earlier, I was not quite comfortable while traveling alone, as I was scared of the crowd and used to avoid talking to people. However, during one of my trips, a co-passenger started talking to me and we struck an interesting conversation. This experience helped me a lot to overcome social anxiety gradually.

      Stepping out of the comfort zone, facing the fear, and building confidence help one grow individually and overcome social anxiety.

      You have explained well how to overcome social anxiety and following those suggestions, one can become more confident.

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      Prateek Jain 

      5 weeks ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      I hate to experience this problem in my childhood. I was really worried when I was in a picnic with my tuition teacher and other students. I was afraid to speak or sing in front of them while having a antakshari. At that time I read a book in which it is mentioned that in order to overcome your fear you have to face it. The more you do what you fear of of the less it will affect you. Thanks for sharing this amazing principles which are really helpful for everyone to overcome anxiety and move forward with confidence.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Had a bout with this for awhile. Now I just avoid people ;-) No, really recognizing it was the great first step and while it took time it was easier from then. And to think I was a trial lawyer and preacher before. Life is good.

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