Is Social Anxiety A Slow Poison?
Social anxiety is like, you are building an Igloo house for you. Those people who are living in social anxiety are like they have built their own Eskimo houses where they can find the warmth and comfort of their own company and their loved ones but once they step out of their own house, the temperature of anxiety freezes them.
Let me ask you a few questions regarding this. Have you ever felt sweating, dry mouth, tense muscles when you are surrounded by a number of persons? No, I am not talking about the suffocating condition that may happen due to summer or any medical emergency. These symptoms can be felt anywhere even inside a comfortable environment also. And if you're answer is, "Yes" then it might be the case of social anxiety.
My Experience On Anxiety
Sometimes when we were surrounded by a group of people and you become the center of attraction on a stage and suddenly your heart starts fluttering at a faster pace just like a hummingbird flutters it's wings and things will not only stop there it will be followed by intense sweating also. Many people go through this.
Let me tell you one incident that had happened to me when I was in the fourth standard. We were doing the role-play exercises. A student would be randomly selected to come to the front and show off their English conversation skills on any given topic. I would hold my breath and physically brace myself as the teacher scanned the room. Thoughts like 'I will get a heart attack and probably I will die if she chooses me' keep on wandering on the loop in my head. The one time that I was chosen, I could barely able to introduce myself. I was freaking out so badly, aware that the entire class was starring at me.
Now the question is, Why couldn't I just get on with it like my other friends?
A similar incident happened when I was in my tenth standard. I was well prepared for a debate competition, I have been practicing on the topic the whole night. Next day when I went to the stage and face the mike. I realized the silence of the room was deafening and heart-piercing as I stumbled over the words as fast as I can. It was nagging and I was convinced that everyone was laughing at me.
But the good news is that these things never hold me back to make new friends or getting a job.
At a very early age, I understood what was happening with me, I accepted that I have a problem and act accordingly.
Here I am writing a few things that helped me to overcome this problem.
Things That Helped Me To Overcome Social Anxiety
- Accept that you have a problem: This is the first thing your mind should do before taking any steps. Accept that you are suffering from a problem, discuss it with your parents or friends regarding this so that they can help you. Remember you are not alone.
- Read confidence-boosting books: These books always helps. They inject lots of knowledge inside you. and helps in confidence-building. They become your guide and if you follow them.
- Face your fear: As someone has elaborated it very well, FEAR, false evidence appearing real. Face your fear with all your courage and it will disappear.
- Get out of your comfort zone: Comfort zone prevents you from improving, it stops you from achieving all the things you are capable of achieving and it makes you miserable. So, make a decision today to change something in your life that you are unhappy with and start experiencing positive changes.
- Make new friends: Making new friends help in reducing stress, build confidence.
- Nurture positive thoughts: Positive thoughts give us the strength to fight against odds.
- Ignore haters: Haters will say whatever they feel like saying be it good or bad. They will find bad in everything. So better ignore them.
Social anxiety can kill your will power slowly if not traceable at the right time just like a slow poison. Do not worry if you are going through this because you're not the only one who is suffering and the good news is it's curable.