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Is There An Easy Way To Get And Stay Sober?
How to Go About Getting Sober
For anyone that has an addiction to drugs or alcohol, they may ask themselves, "is there an easy way to get and stay sober?"
The best answer I can give is don't start abusing drugs or alcohol in the first place and you will never have to worry about getting sober! I wish I thought of that statement years ago, then I wouldn't have to write articles such as this to tell you about addictions and how to get and stay sober.
I know you are probably thinking I am nuts, but the truth of the matter is that if we don't let ourselves get to the point of being addicted to drugs or alcohol then we have no worries. We just have a drink or two and call it the evening, and not drink and drink until we are totally drunk and not ourselves. That was my problem all along as it is the problem with any person addicted, we just don't when to stop or when it is enough.
Easier said then done right? Once we allow our bodies to want and need alcohol we will find it will be harder to get and stay sober. Once our addiction takes hold of us it will indeed be hard to get away from the demons that now control our life.
As far as drugs, I had never used them, and I am so glad I didn't. I can't imagine being addicted to a drug of any sort. It was bad enough fighting my addiction to alcohol for many years let alone fighting a drug addiction too. So, I can't really talk about drugs because I have no experiences with drugs, BUT I can write about something I know and love and that is alcohol.
First Things First!
First off, do you really want to get and stay sober or is someone trying to make you stop drinking against your will? Do you sincerely want sobriety back into your life or is someone giving you a choice?
The choice I am referring to, is maybe your spouse, partner, family, parents that are giving you the choice, them or your addiction.
What I learned through all the years of drinking alcohol is that I was threatened, told they were going to be out my life if I didn't stop drinking, but the thing was, even with those choices, threats etc. I didn't have it in my heart to stop drinking at all. I didn't want sobriety and wasn't ready to say goodbye to the addiction that was a huge part of my life for so many years. You have to want sobriety so bad that you will do anything to achieve it and you need to want it, not be forced into Sobriety.
I was very fortunate that I never had to attend AA, 12 Step Meetings or Counselling. I might of got sober the harmful way and would not recommend going cold turkey as I did. I never knew how dangerous it could of been for me by detoxing without proper Professional Help. So if you really want sobriety, do it the correct way and ask for the proper help to get sober the healthy and safe way. I went cold turkey and just lucked out that nothing happened to me that was harmful or dangerous. God was on my side and watching over me. That maybe wouldn't be the case with others that would go cold turkey and want sobriety in their life, so be very careful Please!
DO YOU THINK THERE IS A EASY WAY TO GET SOBER?
Ask Yourself This
Ask yourself these questions when you have gotten out of the denial you have been living in and want sobriety back into your life:
- Are you willing to never touch a alcoholic drink for the rest of your life?
- Are you willing to say goodbye to your addiction forever?
- Will you do anything that will help you get sober and stay sober?
- Are you willing to tell yourself and others you are an alcoholic and need help?
- Are you willing to go into a Rehabilitation Center for treatment?
- Are you willing to give sobriety the best chance without relapse after being released from a Rehab.
- Are you willing to listen to your Councilor 110%?
On Day and One Step at a Time
Nothing in Life Is Easy
When I asked the question, " is getting and staying sober easy" what was your first thoughts? Nothing in life just falls in your lap without lots of hard work, and getting and staying sober takes hard work.
You will not just wake up one morning and have sobriety back into your life. First and foremost, you MUST want sobriety in your life and not be addicted to your choice of drug, or should I say POISON!
Nothing will happen without you wanting it to happen in the worse way. There can not be any cheating whatsoever. None of this stuff, "I'll just drink alcohol on weekends, special occasions and Holidays. That will never work for anyone that has an addiction to alcohol.
It certainly didn't work for me because I went that root and failed a couple of times. IT'S ALL OR NOTHING AND NO HALF WAY STUFF! REMEMBER: ALL OR NOTHING!
If you are willing to stop drinking 100% and have it in your heart that you want to be sober for the rest of your life, then you have taken that first step towards your new life.
The recovery process will be long and hard. At least it was for me, but as the weeks and months passed by it got easier and easier to be without my crutch and my demons. Sure our demons will hang around in us just waiting for us to relapse, but our job is to never mess up and relapse. Think of this recovery process as a job, because for me it was and still is a job to stay sober.
All of us will come about problems in our life. Someone dear to you may pass away. Financial problems may happen down the road and so on. Nevertheless all these things that may happen to us, the alcoholic right away thinks about alcohol and if he/she would take a drink it will solve all problems that we are experiencing. Believe me it doesn't work and never will!
We the addicted need to ALWAYS BE STRONGER than our addiction, whatever you are addicted to. You can not break and give up after all the hard work you did to get sober and stay sober in the first place.
I thank God everyday that I have not relapsed in four years and pray I never do. It is very well possible for any of us to relapse, but like I said, "our job is to stay sober no matter what happens in our life and no matter how bad your demons are telling us inside, Just have ONE drink!"
HAPPY SOBER DAYS TO ALL!