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Is There An Easy Way To Get And Stay Sober?

Updated on August 10, 2013

How to Go About Getting Sober

For anyone that has an addiction to drugs or alcohol, they may ask themselves, "is there an easy way to get and stay sober?"

The best answer I can give is don't start abusing drugs or alcohol in the first place and you will never have to worry about getting sober! I wish I thought of that statement years ago, then I wouldn't have to write articles such as this to tell you about addictions and how to get and stay sober.

I know you are probably thinking I am nuts, but the truth of the matter is that if we don't let ourselves get to the point of being addicted to drugs or alcohol then we have no worries. We just have a drink or two and call it the evening, and not drink and drink until we are totally drunk and not ourselves. That was my problem all along as it is the problem with any person addicted, we just don't when to stop or when it is enough.

Easier said then done right? Once we allow our bodies to want and need alcohol we will find it will be harder to get and stay sober. Once our addiction takes hold of us it will indeed be hard to get away from the demons that now control our life.

As far as drugs, I had never used them, and I am so glad I didn't. I can't imagine being addicted to a drug of any sort. It was bad enough fighting my addiction to alcohol for many years let alone fighting a drug addiction too. So, I can't really talk about drugs because I have no experiences with drugs, BUT I can write about something I know and love and that is alcohol.

First Things First!

First off, do you really want to get and stay sober or is someone trying to make you stop drinking against your will? Do you sincerely want sobriety back into your life or is someone giving you a choice?

The choice I am referring to, is maybe your spouse, partner, family, parents that are giving you the choice, them or your addiction.

What I learned through all the years of drinking alcohol is that I was threatened, told they were going to be out my life if I didn't stop drinking, but the thing was, even with those choices, threats etc. I didn't have it in my heart to stop drinking at all. I didn't want sobriety and wasn't ready to say goodbye to the addiction that was a huge part of my life for so many years. You have to want sobriety so bad that you will do anything to achieve it and you need to want it, not be forced into Sobriety.

I was very fortunate that I never had to attend AA, 12 Step Meetings or Counselling. I might of got sober the harmful way and would not recommend going cold turkey as I did. I never knew how dangerous it could of been for me by detoxing without proper Professional Help. So if you really want sobriety, do it the correct way and ask for the proper help to get sober the healthy and safe way. I went cold turkey and just lucked out that nothing happened to me that was harmful or dangerous. God was on my side and watching over me. That maybe wouldn't be the case with others that would go cold turkey and want sobriety in their life, so be very careful Please!

DO YOU THINK THERE IS A EASY WAY TO GET SOBER?

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Ask Yourself This

Ask yourself these questions when you have gotten out of the denial you have been living in and want sobriety back into your life:

  • Are you willing to never touch a alcoholic drink for the rest of your life?
  • Are you willing to say goodbye to your addiction forever?
  • Will you do anything that will help you get sober and stay sober?
  • Are you willing to tell yourself and others you are an alcoholic and need help?
  • Are you willing to go into a Rehabilitation Center for treatment?
  • Are you willing to give sobriety the best chance without relapse after being released from a Rehab.
  • Are you willing to listen to your Councilor 110%?

On Day and One Step at a Time

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Nothing in Life Is Easy

When I asked the question, " is getting and staying sober easy" what was your first thoughts? Nothing in life just falls in your lap without lots of hard work, and getting and staying sober takes hard work.

You will not just wake up one morning and have sobriety back into your life. First and foremost, you MUST want sobriety in your life and not be addicted to your choice of drug, or should I say POISON!

Nothing will happen without you wanting it to happen in the worse way. There can not be any cheating whatsoever. None of this stuff, "I'll just drink alcohol on weekends, special occasions and Holidays. That will never work for anyone that has an addiction to alcohol.

It certainly didn't work for me because I went that root and failed a couple of times. IT'S ALL OR NOTHING AND NO HALF WAY STUFF! REMEMBER: ALL OR NOTHING!

If you are willing to stop drinking 100% and have it in your heart that you want to be sober for the rest of your life, then you have taken that first step towards your new life.


The recovery process will be long and hard. At least it was for me, but as the weeks and months passed by it got easier and easier to be without my crutch and my demons. Sure our demons will hang around in us just waiting for us to relapse, but our job is to never mess up and relapse. Think of this recovery process as a job, because for me it was and still is a job to stay sober.

All of us will come about problems in our life. Someone dear to you may pass away. Financial problems may happen down the road and so on. Nevertheless all these things that may happen to us, the alcoholic right away thinks about alcohol and if he/she would take a drink it will solve all problems that we are experiencing. Believe me it doesn't work and never will!

We the addicted need to ALWAYS BE STRONGER than our addiction, whatever you are addicted to. You can not break and give up after all the hard work you did to get sober and stay sober in the first place.

I thank God everyday that I have not relapsed in four years and pray I never do. It is very well possible for any of us to relapse, but like I said, "our job is to stay sober no matter what happens in our life and no matter how bad your demons are telling us inside, Just have ONE drink!"

HAPPY SOBER DAYS TO ALL!

MARK


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    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Doc- you lucky girl :) I am happy you had a great beach day. I just had a snotty comment on the hub I wrote last night. Can't please everyone I guess.

      Take care Dear and have a great week!

      Mark

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      It's cool Mark. I don't pay attention to that. July and August are perfect beach weather down here. Thanks. Hope you are having a lovely Sunday afternoon:)

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Doc - Thanks so much for getting back to me. I think you may be right about the followers. No problem about replying late. I do the same to you lol. Sounds like you had a lovely day at the beach. You are so lucky Marlene. The one big thing I feel bad about is not reading or commenting on your hubs. I have to make a point to get to your hubs and read a few. I am sorry Marlene.

      Enjoy your Sunday as I am off to work again till 7:30

      :) Mark

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      Hi Mark, I am sorry to hear that you lost two more followers. you know what? don't even sweat it. they are probably just hating on you. your articles are very well-written and informative. I notice that many people tend to misunderstand others and the reason is because they don't take the time to read the actual words that the author has written. Skimming through a hub is not actually reading it. I can tell when someone reads my hubs or not by the comments that some people leave me. Thank you Mark. Your friendship means a lot to me too. Sorry for the late reply. Of course, it would be an honor to meet you and your wife if you're ever down here in sunny Florida. The weather has been awesome lately. I went to the beach today. It was the perfect August Day... Not a single cloud in the sky, light breeze, sea gulls gathered in the shore and some waves. Anyways, keep those hubs coming and forget the haters. Haters hate what they can't imitate. Lol. Have a good weekend:) Doc

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Marlene, thanks for getting back to me and to tell you the truth I just lost 2 more follower. I am started to get freaked. You know the first thing you think is did I do something and then I think NO I do nothing but write good content from my heart. I guess they just don't have much of a life. I would just love to know how they are. As far as people replying fast I think that they don't work and sit at the PC all day and night. That is my thoughts lol. You are a good friend Marlene and if I ever get to come to sunny Florida I would love to look you up if that is okay. Have a great week too :)

      Mark

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      Hi Mark, It's hard to keep up with all of the comments and back and forth replies. I wonder how some people do it.. LOL. It's okay if it takes a while to respond, that doesn't mean that you are ignoring someone, it just means that you have a life outside of hubpages. When you log on to hubpages it will take you to the feed, go to your profile page and check the number of followers and hubs that you have written. If you know that 260 people are following you but then you log on tomorrow and you suddenly have 258 then you know you lost two. You could also scroll down where it says your followers and those who are following you.. click on following you and you can see who is following you. Hope this helps. Have a great week too:) Marlene

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      lovedoctor926 - Thanks for getting back to me and that's okay for the late response. I think you hit the nail on the head. There was a time lately it took awhile to respond to a couple comments. Maybe that's why they unfollowed me. I am very busy at work and maybe they have nothing to do but stay on PC and HP writing. How can you tell who unfollows you? Let me know please. It would be interesting to see who it is. You have a great rest of the weekend too Marlene. Work early tomorrow, catch up later :)

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      Hi Mark, sorry for the late response. just read your last comment. I've had fans unfollow me before. As a matter of fact, someone who I admired and respected as a writer unfollowed me and never told me why. Some people get overly defensive and spiky when someone disagrees with them. For instance, I like to stir the pot sometimes and write on issues that stir debate and this rubs people the wrong way. Your hubs on alcohol addiction are really good and informative. I understand why you would feel upset, I have also felt disappointed when I've lost a follower always wondering if maybe I said or did something to piss them off; however, that is not always the case. There are times that people unfollow you if they haven't received a comment from you or if you take to long to reply. Take care, have a nice weekend

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Pamela- Thank you for reading this and your comment. I am happy your dad found sobriety and had a great life for 40 years.That is so wonderful. Take care and thanks again :)

      Mark

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      5 years ago from Sunny Florida

      This is a very good article. I have a few alcoholics in my life and they are all sober. It wasn't easy for any on them, and they didn't always make it on the first try. My father died sober after 40 years of sobriety thanks to AA.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      lovedoctor926- Thank you so much -:) You know what upsets me is when hubbers unfollow me. Have you ever had that?

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      Your welcomed:) your hubs are very well-written and interesting. keep it up..

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      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      peachpurple- Thank you for reading and commenting. Keep that positive attitude and sobriety will come your way. I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. Stay strong..you can do it, I did

      God Bless

      Mark

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      5 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      lovedoctor926- Marlene first I have to tell you thank you so much for always commenting on my hub and for your kind words to me as well. I really hope my articles help others. You are right, my ex drinking buddies said that to me."one beer won't hurt you, go ahead and have one." Sure glad I have that will power to say NO.

      God Bless you and thanks again my friend.

      Mark

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      peachy 

      5 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      great article. I don't know when will i get sober. Lots of things to think about. Voted up

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      A very powerful message indeed. " All or nothing and no half way stuff." A good principle to apply in every aspect of your life. I will remember this one. I agree that you must have it in your heart to quit drinking and stay sober. You need to stay strong and have enough tolerance and will power to say no because there will be people out there who will try to convince you to have that one drink just that one drink, one beer won't hurt type of thing. Staying sober is the hard part, but it can be done. The staircase example is good too.

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