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It Is over, It Is Done. How to get over it.
Do not stop with things left unfinished.
Over and done is a phrase we should use more and pay attention to more. "It is over" is commonly just ignored in our heads.
How often we hold on to that which is finished. And keep it unfinished?
We use the term "move on" and that is basically rubbish. On course we "move" on, for it is impossible to stay physically in the same time as far as we know..
But we remain stuck on an issue or job that is finished, for it is quite possible for our minds to stay stuck in time.
How do we leave behind that which is finished?
"We grow" that is the short and most direct answer and we could stop right there. But we might need to look at that more closely. This is fun: Am I stuck on the answer? Should I just admit it is finished and move my mind on to other things?
I hope that illustrates the difficulty that we some times face. Wisdom to know when it is finished requires judgment and discernment. That comes from experience and paying attention. Notice that if we are stuck on finished business we cannot pay attention to the here and now. Therefor when we remain in the past on business that is finished we cannot grow.
Oh sure we can say like we do in board meetings; "OK that covers that now let us move on to 'new' business". But I can guarantee that there are people on the board or attending that are in no way finished with the old business. Saying helps but does not get the job finished.
It is time to say goodbye!
So here we are and we need to get over there.
Make mistakes. Go ahead please, make mistakes. When we are too afraid that we have not done something well enough we go back and back and fix and fuss. That is unfair to being in the moment. Unfair to bosses, lovers, children, and yes even unfair to readers.
It is said that Jesus told his people: "Forgive 7 times 70". This lesson is not only about forgiveness in the spiritual sense it is about not remaining worrying about how many times. You could not forgive 7 times seventy if you were still back on 13.
So as you are thinking correctly, I need to stop and move forward and leave this business finished.But just think of sports, if the athlete(s) can not be done with the last competition where they lost, they cannot possibly become a champion because they remain in defeat.