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It Is over, It Is Done. How to get over it.

Updated on January 2, 2014

Do not stop with things left unfinished.

This is our brain with unfinished business.
This is our brain with unfinished business. | Source
Resting on this lets us move on for real.
Resting on this lets us move on for real. | Source

Unfinished business

Over and done is a phrase we should use more and pay attention to more. "It is over" is commonly just ignored in our heads.

How often we hold on to that which is finished. And keep it unfinished?

We use the term "move on" and that is basically rubbish. On course we "move" on, for it is impossible to stay physically in the same time as far as we know..

But we remain stuck on an issue or job that is finished, for it is quite possible for our minds to stay stuck in time.

How do we leave behind that which is finished?

"We grow" that is the short and most direct answer and we could stop right there. But we might need to look at that more closely. This is fun: Am I stuck on the answer? Should I just admit it is finished and move my mind on to other things?

I hope that illustrates the difficulty that we some times face. Wisdom to know when it is finished requires judgment and discernment. That comes from experience and paying attention. Notice that if we are stuck on finished business we cannot pay attention to the here and now. Therefor when we remain in the past on business that is finished we cannot grow.

Oh sure we can say like we do in board meetings; "OK that covers that now let us move on to 'new' business". But I can guarantee that there are people on the board or attending that are in no way finished with the old business. Saying helps but does not get the job finished.

It is time to say goodbye!

So here we are and we need to get over there.

Make mistakes. Go ahead please, make mistakes. When we are too afraid that we have not done something well enough we go back and back and fix and fuss. That is unfair to being in the moment. Unfair to bosses, lovers, children, and yes even unfair to readers.

It is said that Jesus told his people: "Forgive 7 times 70". This lesson is not only about forgiveness in the spiritual sense it is about not remaining worrying about how many times. You could not forgive 7 times seventy if you were still back on 13.

So as you are thinking correctly, I need to stop and move forward and leave this business finished.

But just think of sports, if the athlete(s) can not be done with the last competition where they lost, they cannot possibly become a champion because they remain in defeat.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      For me, it takes forever. (and we often need to do that whole grieving process thing) But it is getting easier with practice. Thank you for reading and leading a great comment.

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      Ryem 3 years ago from Maryland

      Moving on takes a great deal of growth and strength, but it is sometimes easier said than done. This hub is brilliant, there is a lot of great advice.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Each other right here and right now is a good start. Thank you jpcmc

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      JP Carlos 3 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      We will always find difficulties. We just need to know how to get over them.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise you for sure are OKAY.

      (let us not push it and say that I am ;-)

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I know that I have that problem, getting stuck on business that is finished, worrying about whether or not it was "good enough." Allowing myself to experience change is sometimes painful, yet change is progress, and it is okay. I'm okay, you're okay, right?!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you. I am having some difficulty with my eyes. So I do appreciate it very much.

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      Rui Carreira 3 years ago from Torres Novas

      Hi Eric! The description reads: How often we old on to that which is finished. And keep it unfinished?

      Is the "old on" on purpose? Just wanted to let you know in case it is not :D

      Good one!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Cam8510 It is funny you should say that as I think I write more to remind myself than as a decent writer ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Eddy, thank you much. And I will let you know about story time using your great hub today.

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      Chris Mills 3 years ago from Maple City, Michigan

      Great message here, Eric. I'll keep this one tucked away for future reference. Up and sharing.

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      A powerful and very interesting hub Eric.

      Voting up and sharing for sure.

      Eddy.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well for danged sure -- you and I ain't finished. Yahoo let us go get 'em!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Breakfast with Eric! My first hub today and an important message. I don't think there is any quit in you; I know there isn't in me.

      Have a fabulous day my friend.