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It Was A Pleasure And An Honour To Serve You....

Updated on June 14, 2012

Pictures of my dad

This is dad in his wheel chair getting a home visit from the local barber
This is dad in his wheel chair getting a home visit from the local barber
Joey gave dad a cigar for nostalgia :-)
Joey gave dad a cigar for nostalgia :-)
Dad and mom at the rehab
Dad and mom at the rehab
A good picture of dad taken several years before his death.
A good picture of dad taken several years before his death.
This is dad working on MY car. At age 79! This was like a year before he started declining. It's obvious he loved to help.
This is dad working on MY car. At age 79! This was like a year before he started declining. It's obvious he loved to help.

I recall just the other day when speaking with a friend how when we serve each other, we are serving God too. 'Whatsoever you do unto others, you do unto me.' "When I was naked, you clothed me, when I was hungry you fed me" "When I was lonely you comforted me"

Of course, I was never thinking of the above when I helped my father through his last three years on earth. But I really felt good to do it. I remember I used to go downstairs at night, while he was living in our home, and visit with him and talk. He always did all the talking during the day, but was more receptive and less argumentive at night, so I really enjoyed that time LOL and it was a good time for me as well, since I was up late quite often.

Talking with dad about little things, my thoughts and dreams, and maybe his childhood or something or other. I love doing things voluntarily for people. I was never assigned chores as a kid, dad used to yell when the sink was full of dishes and get us to help. But whenever I was inspired, I would do things like clean the dining room table which was very full of clutter and needed to be cleaned for Thanksgiving dinner or Christmas.

I used to help my father make the turkey stuffing and watch him cook. He let me help him. Even when he was in his wheel chair, in his last years, he was very strong and independent. He wheeled himself around the kitchen, insisting he make breakfast himself. Every morning he made the same: eggs, toast, bacon, coffee. I do love that myself. It's probably a lot of people's favorite breakfast. Lol. I think it was good also that he enjoyed his food. I don't think older people have to eat a perfect diet when they are on their way out, I think it makes them more cheerful to have a tasty meal :)

Dad was never affectionate with us, but as I got older, I became very affectionate and when he was in rehab I used to visit and always hug and kiss him on the forehead before I left. At one point, I was with my mom, and said "I love you, dad" and he said "Thank you for saying that". I know I was told that the two most important things in life when people get older/elderly is "did I love" and "did I love well"

Many people may not be good at expressing love for others in words. Jesus expressed his love for us by being born and dying- for us.

Parents, I was recently told, are never perfect we know, but God makes up for that imperfection by creating strengths in us, for example, my mother didn't really teach me how to live except to pray. I learned all about prayer which has served me well, but she didn't teach me about how to deal with certain things or how to clean or cook or socialize. But later as I recall, I'm told I'm very empathetic because my parents, who had their own problems, used to ask me and my siblings for advice which is weird, it's supposed to be the other way around. So, maybe that made me empathetic or understanding towards others? I seem to be very in tune to other's emotions and it may be that it was because I had to help my parents out that way. Some say this is a gift. Sometimes it feels the opposite lol.

The most enjoyable times with my dad towards the end were, putting lotion on his legs and bringing him gingerale, at night when he had no one. He used to say "You're so kind to do that". Well, I don't now how to reply to that. I'm glad he appreciated my care. It feels great to be appreciated and I do appreciate him for all he did for me too.

one of the songs at church. Dad went on Sundays, he didn't really pray but at the end he recited the Our Father with me on several occassions

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    • schoolgirlforreal profile imageAUTHOR

      schoolgirlforreal 

      6 years ago

      Oops! 2uesday, how did I miss you? Thank you :) I cry a little time to time and it is nice to think happy thoughts.

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      schoolgirlforreal 

      6 years ago

      Thank you, frogyfish! that means so much and such a lovely thing to say!! I look forward to meeting our good God in heaven, yet while on earth we do have the time and opportunity to do what we can.

      God bless you!! ;))

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      frogyfish 

      6 years ago from Central United States of America

      Your title speaks volumes from your heart, and your written expression of this story is touching, encouraging. Be complimented for your dedication to doing right. You will be rewarded in time and eternity for your caring and giving!

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      2uesday 

      6 years ago

      A nice tribute, pleased you had a special dad and he had you to care about him. Still miss mine, but sometimes I think of the things he would have said and I have to smile.

    • schoolgirlforreal profile imageAUTHOR

      schoolgirlforreal 

      6 years ago

      Thank you American Romance, Mours, and jpcmc!

      xo

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      schoolgirlforreal 

      6 years ago

      Thank you again, kashmir,

      Yes..my uncle Paul said after the wake, "Your dad would be proud" , I didn't know if I would handle all that stuff well. But I was able to.

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      JP Carlos 

      6 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      It's nice to have fond memories of people we love. Memories keep people alive as long as we have them.

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      mours sshields 

      6 years ago from Elwood, Indiana

      Great hub! And, a great tribute to your dad!

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      American Romance 

      6 years ago from America

      Great hub, voted up!

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      Thomas Silvia 

      6 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Rose, this is such a beautifully written hub and i am sure you father loved you very much in his own way, and glad to hear it made you feel good to take care of him and help him as well. More young people should do more of that when they can.

      Vote up and more !!!

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