- Quality of Life & Wellness
I’ve Reached The “Summing Up Time”
Summing up life's experiences....
I’ve Reached The “Summing Up Time”.
What good are life's experiences, if they have meaning only to me?
What have I learned from all my life’s experiences?
It is too easy to waste time.
My mother’s favorite saying was repeated and repeated to me: “If you love life, then waste not time, for time is the stuff life is made of.” But for all of her teaching, I would hate to put a percentage on the amount of time in my life I have wasted. I could probably make two more lifetimes from my one life, had I not wasted too much time on such things as waiting, watching, and wondering.
Testosterone and other hormones are over-rated.
We are designed by the master designer to procreate and the hormones that drive that urge in some men and some women obscure their more rational approaches to life. None of us will procreate to the levels we seem set for, but that urge, if allowed to constantly trouble our thoughts, obscures the pro-creativity that might otherwise lead us to accomplish so much more in life. Sex has its season and place.
Self-discipline is an element of character which is best learned early in life.
A lack of self-discipline leads too often to unfocused efforts, a scattering of talents governed more often by impulse and procrastination. Impulse can be “a shotgun approach to life” whereas self-discipline allows precisely hitting the targets we set for ourselves as well as those life pops up along the way. Granted, even self-discipline mastered late in life is still worth the effort, but how much better to have had it all along.
Love goes where it is sent.
It takes some time to realize that love goes where it is sent. The only love we have control over is the love we have to give. Look carefully at an excited and happy child. There are times when their love bubbles over as if they were a pot boiling over on a hot stove. Their supply of love seems endless unless smothered by someone putting on too heavy a lid with all the dangers doing so poses to their health.. The expression “spread love” can characterize a life of smiles, devotion, service, and happiness. Life’s finest moments have love at their core, and we are born to realize that the more loving we are, the more likely we are to find happiness. Everyone wants happiness, but too few want to pay the price of admission.
We have basic responsibilities to one another..
When life gives us bouquets of flowers, we should get busy passing them out. There is inevitable sadness, sickness, and poverty in this world. If life is giving flowers, it is for a purpose. All flowers shrivel and die in a relatively short time. Their beauty is meant to be shared, and that is where love and happiness come in. “Seize the day!” Yesterday’s good can’t be done today, but today’s can be. Tomorrow there may be nothing we can do for someone else who needs us today. Someone needs a smile, a chuckle, a good laugh, a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, a loving thought or act. Why not fill a lifetime with memories of being that kind of person? There are enough bouquets to go around, if we share them.
The two smallest words besides "I" are "Me" and "My".
Ego separates us from others and guarantees less happiness than we might have had by controlling ego. Some maintain that egoism is simple self-interest and that it motivates, even validates, every conscious act. Beware of ego. It is the stuff of stuffed shirts, it can separate one from the love, care., and friendship of others as quickly as a knife separates pieces from the cake. The selfless person has ego under control and looks outward more than inward, seeing opportunities the egoist will never see.
The egoist wastes time, gets caught up in responding to hormones, fails to discipline self, hoards love, and minimizes their responsibilities for others.
Oh, yes; and then there is money.
Money is inert. It will sit where it is left, until someone moves it. In my lifetime some actual money has come into my hands and then gone out of my hands. It could have gone to many places, some good and some not so good, some wisely chosen and some not. It is never too early to save for greater needs, bigger goals, and unexpected situations. Money in some respects represents time, the time it took for it to come into our hands from any of a myriad of sources. It represents time invested or wasted when it goes out of our hands. Be careful and thoughtful when you let money go. You need not be a miser in order to save for a rainy day or a golden opportunity, but you do need to spend wisely and save often for both of them. "Teach your dollars more cents (and yourself more sense.)"
Other lessons from life's experiences?
There are surely other lessons I am still learning, for I am still here, still living and experiencing just as you are. But this “Summing Up Time” urged the sharing of this bouquet which you can pass along….or not.
© 2012 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved.
Are there "life lessons" from your experiences you would add? (If so, please add a comment below.)
How does your list compare to mine?
- A Few Things I Am Thankful For
Make a list of some of the things you are thankful for, and then compare it with some of the things I am thankful for. How many match? Are there some things you haven't thought about in awhile?