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Updated on March 7, 2012

How To Stay Calm In Difficult Situations

© Adrienne Manson All rights reserved permission must be granted by the author before any part of this article can be reproduced. Links may be used to link back to the article.

Let's face it everyone has faced a difficult situation that made your pot just want to boil over. So what do you do to stay calm? Do you take a breathe to give yourself time to process what just happen before you react? Some of us do, but alot of us may have not reached this point yet. Here I am going to list different scenarios that are difficult with examples of ways to stay calm before you react.

Scenario 1: You and your co-worker are working on a project together. Both of you were assigned different tasks to do; two days before its time to turn in the project you find out your co-worker has not completed 40% of her share of the work what do you do?

Scenario Background: The project is a multi-million dollar real estate development deal for Big Brother's Real Estate Development Corporation. The project was for you and your co-workers to do a focus group in the near by communities to find out if people who live in the community are for or against the particular land being developed into a bowling alley that has a trip mall which includes a drinking establishment.

Your co-worker Susan was supose to do research of the community to find out all the demographics, and how the community how changed over the past 5 - 10 years. This information is important because it will tell your boss whether they want to move forward with the deal or hold off.

Your Reaction

Ok your first response is to panic, and yell thats only human to panic, but you dont have time to waste in panicing. To stay calm you stay focused on what you have to do to finish on time. You regroup, and gather your thoughts for a moment before you speak with your co-worker of what you have just learned. When you go to your co-worker remain focused, don't point the finger in asking the whys it won't help. Be compassionate tell her you understand she has alot going on outside of work with family. You sit down with her and make a game plan to get the work down on time you tell her you are willing to do an extra 20% of her work load, and you stress she must complete her portion and to give you updates at lunch what she has completed and again at the end of the day. You can hold her accountable, without making her feel worst than she already does because she didn't come straight to you and admit there was a problem.

Scenario 2

You and your husband has just discovered your children not just your son, but your daughter as well have been smoking pot after school. What do you and your husband do? Your children are 15 and 16 how do you stay calm, and deal with the situation?

Reaction: Before you and your husband let your children know what's going on you gather information from professionals on how to deal with teens and drugs, you and your husband know this is not a quick fix situation and you decide to join a parent's support group to give you encouragement even before you talk to your children. Parents lose it when it comes to their children lets be honest your first reaction is to really give it to them by grounding, yelling but you and your husband know it is not going to do any good and its time to face it your children are teenagers with real teenager problems of peer pressure.

Scenario 3

You are a single parent that has a baby sitter who is realiable, and always calls if something happens or changes with her schedule occure. This time she didn't its the day of a big auction event that you are hosting for your charity event. You are getting ready and Ann still hasnt called its three hours before the event. She usually does to help out with the baby. What do you do?

Reaction: Of course you are dialing her cellphone, and getting her voice mail, with no return call within 2 minutes the way she normally does. The problem is you have put must of your eggs in this one basket. Ann has been with you for 2 years without her missing a beat, and list of people for backup sitters is really, really short.

Action Plan

You take a breathe, for 10 minutes, stay calm, breathe in and out get your address bood and look for people who you can call, who you trust to leave your baby with. You go through your book and have contacted veryone on your list with no answer. Now what?

You mull over your family members, and neighbors, and you already know everyone have R.S.V.P.ed that they are attending the auction. Now what? You feel really backed in a corner the clock is counting down with only 2 hours to find someone you have run out of options. Now what? How are you going to find a dependable person in 2 hours. You start to pray asking the Holy Spirit to help you remember someone who you may have not thought of. You also pray for the Holy Spirit to keep you calm and not to worry and fret. Just as you begin to cry out to the Lord for help the holy Spirit reminds you that your Uncle Bill never goes to any events. The only problem with Uncle Bill is he's more than an 1 1/2 hours away. You rush to the phone to get a hold of Uncle Bill, he answers, but his buddies are over having a game night he tells you he would but he cant leave you tell Uncle Bill you'll bring the baby to him but you know you're going to be over 30 minutes late for the auction.

You call your assisstant who helped you plan the event that you had an emergency and tunning late, and to carry on. Assured the guest you are due to arrive in 30 minutes. Your assistant is quick on her feet she knows how to entertain and smoosh for 30 minutes without people getting restless. You make it to Uncle Bill's to find he ended game night early, and you are so thankful to the Lord for His help in this situation.


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  • Vinaya Ghimire profile image

    Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

    Your exercise appears very useful, I will surely try this. However, I mediate to stay focused and calm.

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    Adrienne F Manson 5 years ago from Atlanta

    Thanks Ahern for the nice comment.

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    FordeAhern 5 years ago from Broadford, Co. Limerick. ireland

    I loved your hub. Thank you for the advise on teenagers smoking pot because if that happened to us I think I would have not known what to do. I look forward to reading another one of your hubs. Voted up and useful.

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    Adrienne F Manson 5 years ago from Atlanta

    Hi Laura, thank you for leaving such a beautiful comment. You really touched my heart, and encouraged to keep writing, you just never know who your stories will uplift.

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    Laura Matkin 5 years ago from Laceys Spring, Alabama

    Great Hub! All to often I loose it when it comes to my children! It's so hard to watch them make mistakes. I wish I could save them from every disaster life throws their way, pick their friends, teachers, clothes, makeup, etc.... I don't but you know what I mean? KIDS.......... Thank you for the great hub I needed this today. One of the best pieces of advice I heard on parenting was from Oprah's life class. Look at your child when they walk in the room and smile! It really has helped my relationship with them and their feelings of importance. I stop what I am doing and recognize them. It's such a simple thing I am amazed that I and so many others had to be told...