Keep It Real: Be True to Yourself
Copyrighted by Jennifer McLeod writing as jenjen0703, all rights reserved. Some photos are under CC under Share and share alike. October 1, 2011
Who Am I?
As children, we go through many experiences trying to figure out who we are as people. Life experiences, people in our lives, and what we are taught influence who we become as adults. Who am I? This question must go through the minds of most people. Or, better yet, who am I supposed to be? What are my beliefs? What do I choose to stand for in this world? This big question might be difficult to answer, if you don't have the basic groundwork laid out in your life. Without these ground rules, there is a strong chance that chaos might become evident in your life, as a result.
The Basics of Living
1) Keep it real - be honest! There is nothing more irritating to me than people who lack the ability to be honest. In reality, it's not that they lack the ability, they just don't care. They are self-centered and say what they want, irregardless of the consequences or who it hurts. I have learned two things about dishonest people. Most of them cannot look you in the eye while they are lying; they break eye contact. And, if it sounds too good to be true, nine times out of ten, it usually is. The best con-artists, from my experience, have the best sounding stories, excuses, and they never are at fault. Honesty is a lifestyle. Just be honest and say it like it is. Keep it real. Telling the truth has three advantages: you never have to keep track of your lies, you can have conversations with others with respect and good eye contact, and if you are truly straightforward, then people trust you. Trust is vital if you want solid relationships with your loved ones.
2) Set your own standards for your life! What do you believe to be right and wrong? The manner in which we treat other people, do we treat others equally? Or are we part of a niche that is close-minded and biased against others who are not like them? Are you a follower? Or a leader? When you are with your friends, are you going to "go along with the crowd" because that is the "cool" thing to do? Or will you stand alone against your friends if you do not want to partake in risky behavior? The basic principles by which we base right and wrong can help to lay a solid foundation for your life. If you live by these principles, you will know how to handle certain situations when they arise, rather than getting caught up in the chaos of it.
3) Love to be Different! In today's world, we see many variations of hairstyles and wild hair colors, body art (tattoos and piercings), and other expressions of people. I am not against these things, so long as what you do is not negative or "inappropriate for some viewers." I have three tattoos, and one of them says "Jesus" in Chinese. I have had body piercings and currently have one on the right side of my nose. Express yourself, be yourself, but do it in a manner so as not to cause other people to become hurt or to stumble. Some folks are so afraid to come out of their shell, or "comfort zone." This inhibits them from living the dreams tucked into the back of their minds.
4) Don't Live Up to Other's Expectations! If you aspire to be a brain surgeon, but your father demands you to become a lawyer so you can be a partner in his firm,, then I say be a brain surgeon. You, and only you, have to live with the decisions you make for your future. If you want a career and life that you can love, then go after your deepest dreams. The only person who can keep you from living your dreams is yourself. Don't listen to others when they try to talk you out of what you want to do. Some people do not want to see others succeed in life because they do not feel they are succeeding in life.
5) Keep Living the Dream! There will be times in life where you are not going to feel like you are "Living the Dream," but when times get tough, "fake it 'til you make it." Living the dream includes the footwork you put into your life to be successful. Attitude is a huge factor in life and how we perceive it. Let your attitude shine. Be that shining start! Your smile and positive attitude, even through the tough times, can make life feel much easier and tolerable. Things will not always go the way we want them to and understanding that everything happens for a reason can help keep you from feeling unsuccessful.
Go For It!
In short, be who you are inspired to be. Do not let others hold you back. The people who are supportive are the ones who care about you the most. Keep your head held high and be proud of who you are. You can be whatever you set your mind to being.