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Lack Self-Esteem

Updated on March 30, 2015

Many people lack self-esteem because of certain past experiences. You might have done some things in the past which had turned out to be a huge mistake. You may also have started some new endeavors which have failed badly. All these negative experiences of the past can harbor in your mind for long. This can ultimately lead you to lose confidence in your abilities and have a very low self-esteem.

People who do not learn from their past mistakes will have extreme trouble in moving on with their life. Such people tend to make the same mistakes again and again. For example, you may fall again for somebody who is not suitable for you or might again take up a job that does not offer any progression. These incidents can further lower your confidence level.

The first step in getting out of such a situation is to realize your incapability to get on with life. See whether you find yourself in detrimental situations in a repetitive manner. Are you tired of receiving the same advice again and again from your family and friends? Do you tend to forget the mistakes as soon as you make them? Do you suffer from recurring diseases which you do not know the cause of, and do you tend to make a mistake by selecting a wrong partner again and again?

If your answer to all these questions is ‘yes’, then do understand that you are stuck in a loop of incidents from which you are not learning anything. This will not help you in any way, but instead make you a redundant person who has a very low level of self-esteem. Do not let this happen, but try to learn from these mistakes and move on with your life.

Do acknowledge your mistakes as soon as they happen. Admitting your mistakes and thinking about them will make it easier for you to learn from them in the future. This is a better and a healthier option than trying to forget about these mistakes and going about as if nothing has happened. If you find it difficult to acknowledge these mistakes by yourself, then you can get help from a dear one. This can be anyone from your family or your friends. Those who are close to you and really care for you will provide you with an honest opinion about your behavior. You can also ask them to keep track on your behavior and to alert you immediately if they notice any unhealthy behavioral patterns that are being repeated.

You should also not treat the mistakes that you make as failures in life. Understand that you are not alone, and each and every human being on this planet makes mistakes. But the success lies in acknowledging these mistakes, learning from them, and not repeating them again in the future. Studies have shown that if we try hard, we’ll have more potential to learn from our past mistakes than from our past successes. Do not let a simple mistake undermine your confidence levels. Instead, think about the changes that you should make in your life and the steps that you should adopt to avert such a scenario in future.

Understanding your mistakes, analyzing them, and taking steps to avoid them will definitely help to improve your confidence levels and make you a better person.


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