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Ladies Mind Series: Lady With a Healthy Mind

Updated on November 13, 2012

Welcome to the “Ladies Mind Series.” I want to take you on a journey into the lives of ordinary women who's lives have been dramatically transformed into a life worthy of honor. The first woman on the roster is Bonita Shelmon. Bonita’s story in the Ladies Mind Series will help you understand how she dealt with a health issue that many women face - fibroids. She will explain why and how she chose to have a hysterectomy. We will end by telling you how she found a new freedom of mind, body and spirit.

In the midst of Bonita's recuperation from the hysterectomy surgery, she encountered a life-threatening condition, and you don't want to miss her account and outcome. So let’s get down to business as we chat with Bonita.


Bonita Yvonne Shelmon: Age, 51

Marital Status: Married 25 years

Mother: Three Children - 2 College students, 1 High school

Education: Bachelor’s Degree, Florida A & M

Occupation: Image Consultant, Sales Associate

Lifestyle: Health & Wellness

Other Interest: Gymnastics Booster Volunteer & Toastmasters Member

Motto: “Keep It Moving” – “I’m Rockin’ Me”, “Enjoy The Journey”

Enjoys: Spending time with Family & Friends, Reading, Girl Get-Togethers, Swimming and Meeting People.

Bonita 'Rockin' a New Life
Bonita 'Rockin' a New Life | Source

Treasuresofheaven: Thanks for taking time out of your schedule to join me in a candid conversation about your journey. I will begin by asking you to greet my audience in expectation of your story.

Bonita: My quality of life had been affected by my fibroids. I was not experiencing the quality of life I should have had. It was starting to cause other health problems – the fibroid was lying on my kidneys. A decision to take care of that is where my journey began, and how I became the free person I am today - who says, “I’m Rockin’ Me.”

Treasuresofheaven: Tell me, how long you were challenged with these health issues, and what steps did you take to seek help or to improve your situation?

Bonita: Probably about 2005, I began to have symptoms of perimenopause, that’s when the heavy blood flow started. Heavy periods, and occasional missed – irregular cycles. Jump to 2008, the fibroids had grown a significant amount, which caused me to become anemic. But I was determined not to do anything; I was going to just let nature take its course.

Treasuresofheaven: What does that mean? “Nature take its course."

Bonita: Fibroids tend to shrink once you enter menopause, and I was hopeful that would occur for me. However, after I went to a new doctor, we discussed and settled on a couple options.

Bonita has recovered, and doing well.  She revisited the hospital where she was taken to 'emergency,' and where surgery was performed.
Bonita has recovered, and doing well. She revisited the hospital where she was taken to 'emergency,' and where surgery was performed. | Source

Treasuresofheaven: What were those options?

Bonita: I was first given a pill I would take around the clock every 8 hours, from the first day on – and it was supposed to decrease the flow of my cycle. Then I took a low-dose birth control pill. The doctor told me that if these options did not work, that a hysterectomy would be something I might have to consider.

Treasuresofheaven: What was your state of mind during this trial and error process, with these doctor recommended options?

Bonita: I have always tried to remain optimistic and not let my physical issues get in the way of doing things, but I had had enough. It made me look forward to, once again, be able to enjoy vacations and activities (like swimming) without having to always be prepared for a "lady's day."

Bonita: The first pill I took, was only successful for several months, and became ineffective. The low-dose birth control pill gave me problems too. That's when I suffered a setback. The day I decided to say, “no more birth control pills, was the same day I was taken to emergency by my sons because I was suffering excruciating back pain. It was more pain than I experienced during labor – with all three of my children.”

Treasuresofheaven: At this point, you had to be emotionally distraught, worried, in pain, and wondering what it is going on. Tell us, what were you thinking?

Bonita - home recuperating.
Bonita - home recuperating. | Source

Bonita: Initially my first thoughts did not go to my fibroids, I thought it might be my appendix, or it just might be related to my fibroids. After all kinds of tests were completed, it was determined that my fibroid was lying on your kidneys and starting to slightly enlarge them. The Emergency Medical Doctor mentioned that I might need a hysterectomy.

Treasuresofheaven: How soon after this discovery did you make the decision to have the hysterectomy?

Bonita: Immediately, I knew a hysterectomy had to be the option. I didn't want the fibroid to cause other problems. My mom had one, and it wasn’t anything new to me. And considering the fact that I was going on 51, there was no doubt in my mind.

So I had the hysterectomy because I was at peace, and due to my faith that God was going to see me through this. I kept positive things and people around me that had the faith. I had the support of family and friends who kept me uplifted, plus I had done my homework. I was happy to have the surgery because my stomach would go down; I was excited about losing a dress/pants size. It was freeing to know that I would have “no more flow.”

Bonita: All went well, great, doctor said everything went well. Now for the recuperation.

Bonita with husband, William
Bonita with husband, William | Source

Treasuresofheaven: We would be remiss, at this point, if you do not share with my readers, your life-threatening condition that happened a week after your surgery.

Bonita: A week later I had to be re-admitted through emergency for excruciating pain and shortness of breath (but on a different side now – left side now), which was diagnosed as blood clots in my lungs. I never would have imagined, I was shocked and I was scared. I was placed on medication – blood thinners. I was released from the hospital a few days later. My girlfriend brought me home; now I was recuperating from the hysterectomy and the blood clots.

I started asking God, “What’s next for me?” What is Bonita going to be doing once she’s healed, after all this is over”? Still feeling a little pain, I put on praise and worship music and thanked God that I was here today, and the pain went away.

Bonita said, "Only God," could have shown her the new job she has in retail.
Bonita said, "Only God," could have shown her the new job she has in retail.

Bonita: Now, I’m thinking what’s next. Being a stay-at-home mom, I had tried entrepreneurial things, but without much success. I was asking God – I know what I have, in what capacity am I supposed to use it. So I really had to get honest with me. “Maybe you need to do something totally different – so, “seek a job.” I reasoned: God this has to be about you, and I began to think about retail.

After my 6-week check up, I stopped at a national women's retail chain in my neighborhood to get an application. One week later, I was interviewed and hired “on the spot”, on my 51st birthday. Wow what a birthday gift! I was really happy and ecstatic about it! The mission of this company is in line with my mission in life – it is a perfect match! It's only 2 minutes from my house – it was only God. I truly love what I'm doing; I don't even feel like I am working. I don't know what's next, but I'm enjoying the journey!

Treasuresofheaven: One final thought to the audience to help them keep a positive mind at a difficult time in their lives.

Bonita: Remember to keep God first, and that his promises are true. We must take care of our bodies--get retular check-ups, eat right and exercise. I always say, I'm doing my part, and I let God take care of the rest.

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    Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

    What an awesome story, Sima. I can relate to both what Bonita went through and the 'freedom' after she healed, and the woman in the video. When it was time for my hysterectomy I did something similar-only it was I who wrote the letter to my uterus, in gratitude, for serving me so well. Rated UP/A/I I think this series is a magnificent idea and I am curious if Bonita is a relative or special friend?

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    Sima Ballinger 5 years ago from Michigan

    revmjm, I do like interviewing and finding the best in women. Next installment coming soon! Stay tuned. Thanks for stopping by.

    teaches12345, it is always a pleasure to hear from you. I am glad you provided some feedback about your similar experience. Bonita stepped out on this one! Thanks so much!!

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    Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

    Bonita is such an inspiration to many with her faith and optimistic view of life. I had a similar exprerience and can say that the process of healing takes time. I enjoyed her story. Thank you for posting.

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    Margaret Minnicks 5 years ago from Richmond, VA

    Great human interest story. This seems to be your niche: interviewing and writing women's success stories. Looking forward to reading the next one.

    By the way, Bonita is beautiful!

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    Sima Ballinger 5 years ago from Michigan

    MsDora, thank God for creativity! I am glad Bonita has provided much inspiration to those who read. The reality is, women have health issues, but they can be appropriately addresses to have a more meaningful life. Thanks for your thoughts.

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    Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

    Your series is a wonderful idea, and the interview with Bonita is great. She's an inspiration and her testimony is proof that God takes personal interest in us. Thanks for sharing your creativity!

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    Sima Ballinger 5 years ago from Michigan

    Hi Eiddwen, glad you loved this piece. There is more coming, and much more to share. My goal is to help and inspire those who read. There are alot of powerful, as well as, precious women in the world whose story needs to be told.

    You have a great day as well Eddy!


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    Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

    What a geat read ;I loved it and look forward to so many more;have a great day.


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    Sima Ballinger 5 years ago from Michigan

    Thanks Bobbi L Johnson. Your thoughts are appreciated. My goal was to make this story real and come alive. I like when you say, it's a "feel good," positive story. Good subjects like Bonita, make my job easier.

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    Bobbi Lynne Johnson 5 years ago from Red Deer AB

    Excellent article! I especially like that it is first hand information which adds to the authenticity. It's a "feel good", positive story. Bonita has a great attitude which I'm sure will help and inspire ot