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Advantages of Thinking Positive and Letting Go of Negativity

Updated on January 12, 2019
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Robie is a mother, a wife, & an incurable romantic who believes in the power of focusing on your goals, being positive, and open to change.

Train yourself in recognizing when your mind is drifting towards worrisome and depressing thoughts. Make the choice to switch gears and focus on something good instead.
Train yourself in recognizing when your mind is drifting towards worrisome and depressing thoughts. Make the choice to switch gears and focus on something good instead. | Source

8 Tips for Focusing on the Positive Side of Things

  1. Understanding the source of your fears is an essential step in overcoming anxieties. The best way to let go of the past and the baggage of negativity that you are carrying within you is to rationalize over them. Look at what caused them.
  2. Accept that all the past failures did not happen in vain. With the sadness and fear that they created in your lives, they also gave you new wisdom on how things work and, in many cases, of what does not work.
  3. All mistakes can be view as learning opportunities of some sort. And the positive thing is that you would have never learned those lessons if you did not make mistakes or fail.
  4. Every time you face a conflict, a lot of stress is created, and that's bad, right? However, stress can also push you to do your best and be more efficient. Periods in which you have to fight for something, are usually those in which you have the best growth opportunities.
  5. It would be nice if everybody liked you. But reality is that there will always be someone that does not like you, as there will always be someone trying to boycott what you are trying to achieve. Back-stabbers and haters are very painful to face and fight, but looking back they all teach something, they can be viewed as your teachers.
  6. Many times when a situation ends drastically and badly, we feel like a failure, but each undesired ending opens the door to several potential very desirable beginnings. Keep your head up and be open to opportunities, they come when you less expect them, often disguised as something you had never considered doing.
  7. If you keep calm and serene on the inside, you’ll see how the world will appear calm and serene on the outside.
  8. When you are calm, you make better choices, which will lead you to meet better people, and recognize some great opportunities opportunities.

Every time you worry about something you don’t want to happen, or every time you mistrust the favorable circumstances in your life, you visualize and empower exactly the things that you don’t want.
Every time you worry about something you don’t want to happen, or every time you mistrust the favorable circumstances in your life, you visualize and empower exactly the things that you don’t want. | Source

Control Your Thoughts, Control Your Life

You attract in your life whatever you think about.

Negative thoughts are like poison. Entertaining with negative thoughts gives them power. Giving power to negative thinking will attract exactly those things that you fear into your life.
The recipe for happiness and success is to think only positive thoughts. Or try to, anyway.

Your thoughts are so powerful that by gaining control over them, you can control the direction of your life and make great opportunities come to you.

Every time you worry about something you don’t want to happen, or every time you mistrust the favorable circumstances in your life, you visualize and empower exactly the things that you don’t want.

Train yourself in recognizing when your mind is drifting towards worrisome and depressing thoughts. Make the choice to switch gears and focus on something good instead.

We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.
We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. | Source

The Power of Feeling Thankful

It is difficult to switch off negative thoughts. When something bad happens it often feels like the end of the world. How do I keep positive when facing harsh difficulties or serious illness?

One powerful way to stay positive and halt negativity is to fill our being with thankfulness.

Thankfulness is very similar to love, it fills you of positive feelings and can be a big help to switch from negative to positive thoughts. The instant we feel thankful for something, there is no space for negativity.


Hold yourself dear and treat yourself with compassion, care, and patience - especially through the hard times. You attract in your life whatever you think about. Negative thoughts are poison. Thinking negative thoughts gives them power.
Hold yourself dear and treat yourself with compassion, care, and patience - especially through the hard times. You attract in your life whatever you think about. Negative thoughts are poison. Thinking negative thoughts gives them power. | Source

What Can I Be Thankful For?

Sometimes life is so hard on you that it's truly difficult to find those positive thoughts and things to be thankful for,

But there are always many, just start by thinking small, every day things, and go from there.

We all have many things to be thankful for, no matter our general condition.

Think about all the things that you enjoy every day and possibly take for granted: from the simplest to the biggest blessings in your life, like waking up, breathing, walking, having a home, having loving family and friends, and good health, food on your table, money for the necessities, your intelligence, your sense of humor… you can keep adding anything that applies to you.

Some mornings I wake up worried about something, and before I allow myself to get out of bed and start my day, I choose to list in my head the things I’m thankful for.
Still lying in bed, I go through a mental list of the blessings I have in my life, and only when I’m feeling better about myself and my life I get out up and start the day.

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.

— Marcus Aurelius

The Law of Attraction of Positive Thoughts

There are lots of writings and talks about the power of positive thinking and how happy thoughts attract good things in our lives. One main belief on how that happens is the powerful Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction in a nutshell says that our thoughts project energy into the universe and determine the kind of response we get, as far as what is going to happen in our lives.

Learn to Be Less Judgmental About Yourself

Most of the times you are your own worse critic; you see all of your flows and weaknesses, often overestimating other people capabilities, feeling that you are their inferior, for some reason.

Learning to be less disapproving of yourself and less hypercritical of your limitations is an indispensable path to serenity and happiness.

Look at your fear, pain, rage, conflicts, and disappointment with tolerance and understanding.

Nobody is perfect; we are all bound to make mistakes, some more than others. But even if you find yourself making mistakes more than you’d like, don’t fall in the trap of feeling weak or wrong. Instead of condemning yourself, accept your errors and use the experience to make yourself a better person.

Focus on seeing the good, and to do this you have to see past the bad, don’t get stuck on what is going wrong.

If you stumble, make it part of the dance.
If you stumble, make it part of the dance. | Source

Practice Self-Compassion

Dismiss all thoughts of not being worthy, or not having some skills: practice self-compassion.

Self-judgment has deep roots, and is hard to eradicate. Switching from being a harsh judge to being compassionate and accepting of who you are is not easy.

Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has to face difficult challenges. Even those that appear confident and smart have fears and make mistakes.

When you are facing a difficult situation, think that others went through the same thing and had to face the same challenge. They may be the very ones that you overestimate and judge better skilled than you, but you don't know the insecurities and fears they had t overcome to appear that way.

When something really bad happens, it might help if you consider that you are not the only one to experience major disappointment and pain. Humans have dealt with it for thousands of years, we are built resilient, we can overcome all kind of things.

Focus on calming down and getting the best out of a crappy situation.

Recipe for a great life: become calm and serene on the inside, you’ll see how the world will appear calmer and more serene on the outside. Start every day expecting it to be a Great Day.
Recipe for a great life: become calm and serene on the inside, you’ll see how the world will appear calmer and more serene on the outside. Start every day expecting it to be a Great Day. | Source

© 2012 Robie Benve

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    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      4 years ago from Ohio

      Hi Perspycascious, I take depression quite seriously, and even though I doubt that just reading articles about "thinking positive" can be a solution, they can sure help. Depression is curable, and I agree that in the cure it's very important to acknowledge the problem and find the will to get better within us. Thanks for your very valuable feedback. :)

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      Demas W Jasper 

      4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Quoting from here: "....only when I’m feeling better about myself and my life I get out up and start the day." I think that explains why some well-intending folks with depression choose to stay in bed.

      You have done a good job in this Hub, and even depressed folks can take heart by incorporating some of your observations into their lives.

    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      5 years ago from Ohio

      Hi rileon42, I'm glad you enjoyed my writings. It's not easy to choose optimism, especially in a difficult situation, and it's then that we need all our brain cells power to take the right decision. Ironic, isn't it?

      Thanks a lot for your feedback

    • rlleon42 profile image

      rlleon42 

      5 years ago from United States

      Great viewpoint. I really appreciated your article. So true that we make our best decisions when we are calm.

    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      Hi Riviera Rose, I'm glad to hear you are a fan of positive thinking as well. Thanks a lot for the support! :)

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      Riviera Rose 

      6 years ago from South of France

      Loved this hub, and I agree with one of your earlier readers about my favourite part being failures not happening in vain - it can be hard to keep perspective on such things but you're so right! Voted up and beautiful.

    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      Thanks all for reading and the great feedback, appreciated! :)

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      freedomspirit 

      6 years ago

      @louisa, such a good point!

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      H Lax 

      6 years ago

      Great advice and well taken on this night when I was feeling a little too anxious! Breathe in and breathe out and think about the things I'm grateful for and viola I feel better already. Thanks for sharing. Voted +++

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      freedomspirit 

      6 years ago

      Great hub, sharing

    • Louisa Rogers profile image

      Louisa Rogers 

      6 years ago from Eureka, California and Guanajuato, Mexico

      My favorite part of this hub is the line "the past failures did not happen in vain." That is so powerful. I try to view my mistakes, regrets, disappointments etc. as useful information, or as you said, a discovery. Thank you & I hope you ave a happy, warm Thanksgiving.

    • ChitrangadaSharan profile image

      Chitrangada Sharan 

      6 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Nice hub about positive and negative thoughts. Truly inspirational-----though to shed negative thoughts are a bit difficult at times, but they must be dropped by all means.

      Thanks for sharing.

    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      Phew. you took it well, great! I was afraid you'd tell how weirdo I was... :D You're welcome.

    • Cathy Fidelibus profile image

      Ms. Immortal 

      6 years ago from NJ

      I'll try it, thanks!

    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      Cathy Fidelibus, though I'm not THE expert, I can tell you what have worked for me to cut off on bad memories and anger feeling. It can be useful to detach yourself from anger and anxiety when other things have failed. (It may sound strange, but I got it from a Feng Shui book.)

      I envision a purple cord coming out of my chest and connecting me with the person/memory. I stiff my fingers and use my hand and arm as a hatchet or sword to cut off the invisible cord, several times, I envision the connection being severed, freeing me from the bad influence of those thoughts/memories.

      Thanks a lot for your comment. :)

    • Robie Benve profile imageAUTHOR

      Robie Benve 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      Thanks Carol7777, I truly appreciate your feedback and support. :)

    • Cathy Fidelibus profile image

      Ms. Immortal 

      6 years ago from NJ

      Thank you for this post. I love it, and am a big believer of LOA

      I try to live by the LOA philosophy and know that anger gives power to the person it is directed towards and and also drains you of yours. But I have met my challenge where this is concerns. Try as I may, I can not stop these powerful feelings of anger. I can not forgive or condone this persons actions (not that they care) the worst part is this person will always be a part of my life to some extent, so the angry feelings are brought forth more than usual.

      Do you have any suggestions or strategies to help me.

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      carol stanley 

      6 years ago from Arizona

      All really good advice and thoughts. And we all know when life turns a bit bad it is difficult to feel good and positive. And the reality is that stuff happens all the time, and as we get older sometimes it is more difficult to deal with. I am going to bookmark this and read it again ...I do take time to count blessings but sometimes the bad stuff creeps in. Great hub and voting UP.

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