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Unleashing Your Inner Leader
You are an individual
A person who remains calm and composed in hard situations is the type of person who radiates confidence from their core. But to get to this point you need to be willing to accept who you are and begin loving yourself. Yes, you read that right; I said: “love yourself.”
People have stated throughout history that the way you are and your behavioral traits are a mixed end product of your inherited traits, your upbringing and your environmental surrounding such as your spouse, your company, the economy, even your circle of friends. However, in my opinion, most of these “traits” refer to your character and temperament rather than who you are.
One thing you need to accept about yourself right now is that no matter what influences may have shaped your upbringing, you have, and always will have your individuality.
Look at it this way…
Let’s say your father was a complete loser who didn’t amount to anything. Does this mean you are going to be a loser as well? According to the society, our upbringing and who we surrounded ourselves with as we grew up would lead us to believe the answer would be yes. You’re going to be a loser. But, believing you will become a loser if your father was a loser and that your behavioral traits are basically a mixed end product of your inherited traits, etc., is a complete misconception we have all been lead to believe.
Everything we experience in life (past, present, future) are occurrences to be learned from; by realizing this, you should begin to understand that life gives you these lessons so that you’ll never have to make the same errors as someone else, for example, your father.
Everything we experience in life (past, present, future) are occurrences to be learned from— Cage J Madison
Secrets of How to be a Great Leader
We’re all lead to believe the notion that leaders or those who think optimistically are born and not made. A fairy-tale. Both of these are personal choices of the individual. In my opinion, leadership is firmly at the core of every person who has the willingness to aid others in managing themselves and reaching their full potential, and this is something a real leader values greatly. After all, finding people these days to guide the next generation into adulthood is something that is in grave demand.
It appears in this day and age that there are not many drawn towards being good leaders or thinking positive. Okay, perhaps I might be misreading the situation, but if you take a good look at social media sites, it won’t take long before you start finding pictures stating this fact. For example, how men in 1945 were running up hills towards the onslaught of bullets and men in this day and age are cowering in corners or spending most their “downtime” playing games or watching TV, growing their hair long, tying it in a bun, and coloring it blue!
Seriously, these guys look like my little ponies rather than actual men in my eyes.
Being a great leader, having a strong sense of confidence and maintaining a positive mindset is often associated with the possibility of mundane activities, the same old routine and a whole range of left-brain pursuits for which there are very few if any, credit. Or at least, this appears to be the general idea on the subject.
The Ignorant Manager
A particular manager of a company I worked for once stated that his perception of leadership was that "not every individual can be a leader". I believe this view to be untrue.
A leader can be anyone and to anyone.
- A child looks up to his father for leadership.
- A wife can sometimes seek direction from her husband.
- A co-worker may require leadership from another colleague.
Look, just because an individual may not show the certain skills as a real or great leader, does not mean he isn’t a leader in some parts of his life.
The manager who told me this inaccurate view of leadership was, in fact, supposedly my leader at the time. Now if I had taken his opinion on board and allowed his small mindedness to “lead” me, do you think you’d be reading this article now?
My honest view of a leader is that they do require certain sets of skills that differ from others, but regardless of this, I also believe any man, woman or child can be a leader to others in their way. As long as you remove any small mindedness and judgmental attitude and learn to co-exist with others for any change to occur efficiently, anyone can grow to become a great leader.
The manager who made his statement to me was the type of man who was unable to harmonize himself with anyone he “led”. His attitude towards his team was atrocious, to say the least. This man wasn’t a leader in my book, but a man who had let power and control go to his head.
I spent a long time trying to show him that there was a better way to exist, but, sadly, I cannot win them all.
Personal Leadership Traits
Initiative and Innovative
Vision and Foresight
Obtaining a resilient character and learning how to unleash your inner leader is like a hand and a glove. Put them both together; they make a great partnership.
But, as we are all aware, in life it's hard to remain tough at the best of times. There are going to be outside influences such as everyday problems and people who are determined to pull you down. So what can we do when we step on to the battleground? Choose the correct weapons and armor to use, preferably armor that is invincible.
You need to understand that life gives us all options and with these options come even more options. Look, through life you are going to get hit, and you’re going to get bruised, there’s no question about that, but how long you stay down and how bruised you get defines the type of person you are going to become. It’s not your father or your spouse or your friends or even your bank account. What defines you as who you truly are is what sort of robust armor you’re wearing at the time.
Wearing this invincible armor ideally refers to self-change, and it is this type of change that comes from inside us all. It is this shift that builds the central leader and unleashes the confident, optimistic leader onto the world!
Constructing a leadership mindset will eventually lead you down the path to self-improvement. But no one can even begin that step without first learning to become responsible for who they are, what they have in their life and what they have accomplished.
Building the inner inferno…
Building confidence and a positive mindset are like a flame of a bush fire that gradually spreads across the woodlands as the wind gives it the push it needs. You have to find that drive within you, discover that wind and then lead it to your inner flame until it burns like an inferno. When you find this push, you start to take charge of your purpose in your life, your values and you begin to develop discipline within yourself.
Establishing the mindset of a great leader brings about the self-improvement you are looking for, and it raises a valid assessment of who you are rather than relying on what others have said about you based on their view of you.
And it brings forth a determination that cannot be broken by anyone…ever.
© 2017 Cage J Madison