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Updated on April 21, 2018
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Lies destroys relationships


He often told lies and I believed him.

He pulled the wool over my eyes and blinded me by his smooth talking conversations.

That led me to believe it would all be nice out there.

In fact, the tough side of things was kept silent from me.

I was happy to go there but had no idea what it would be like because he told me life was good there.

It was not easy or good I found that out for myself.

The liar was for himself. He wanted something from me, my trust, and was out to destroy me. I did not give him a chance to get what he wanted.

When I found out, I stopped being that so friendly person he once came across.

Is it their backgrounds that makes them that way, or do they choose to be liars to get what they want from other people?
I know people from my gut feelings, and when I come across liars, I instantly detect lies in their speeches.

I have heard those words before, and believe it or not nothing turned out okay.

They just say those words to cover up what they know won't be.

When a liar wants to get something from you they will be the sweetest in conversations.

Everybody lies or has lied at some point in their lives including me but how far would you go to be that liar?

I lied about colors like if something was red I said it was green is that a big lie?

Some people think lies don't hurt others. I found out it will hurt and trust is lost from their lies be it to their wives, husbands, lovers, family members, or in the workplace.

Anywhere in public places at schools or at home lies can be told.

Whether, it is a white lie, or a big lie when you choose to not, to tell the truth, you have ruined your relationship with that person.

It can be your loved one or a good friend.

To get out of bad moments lies are easily told, to get out of an embarrassing moment, and when you want to keep your good side up to please others.

Liars don’t want anyone else to know what they have done wrong or have gone through in life.

For example:
Health issues or jail sentences are not easily spoken.

They hide their not so good side and decide to tell lies about their new characters.

This is to make a false identity.

To act like the less problematic ones.

Why liars prefer such liars?

Liars are better off telling lies to others to maintain their personalities and self-images and to avoid others from knowing their true characters mainly if they have had many faults.

It means a lot to tell lies and in making others feel they are the perfect individuals, especially in these cases.

A liar wants the best from their career and chooses to be upfront only with lots of lies.

They weave their way through society to be on top and feel proud of themselves.

Also, hardships explain their lies and that is not understood by many people. Lies to cover up your bad side is not the way to be in society.

People learn from each other and you can also learn from a liar.

Can you be that liar over and over and still be brave enough to move on?

Would you admire a liar?

You believe in yourself but with many lies to make you do believe that is you.

Liars think they have a perfect life with lies but instead have a false life, and personality.

When do the lies begin?

You start telling lies the moment you stop being the real you.

People who have a low self-esteem tell lies to themselves and to others about themselves.

A false personality is created with such lies.

They want to be who they are not and that is easily formed once they practice their daily efforts.

The individual shows themselves in another character and their true being is not at all focused on.

A liar will go on telling lies because that person has failed, and is not happy with themselves.

Liars live a fake kind of life without any satisfaction.

In this process of telling lies, the individual actually destroys their being, their personality and is not trusted by anyone.

In trying to accomplish good friendships, that is a NO!

Relationships developed fall apart and liars become lonely people.

Liars are gradually abandoned by their family and friends

Liars tend to be with the same kind of people those who tell lies stick together.

They understand each other better and prefer their lives that way with not many choices.

When in the accompany of others the liar feels lonely

One can be addicted to lying, like when one becomes a drug addict they lie to get that drug and would do anything to get what they want.

A liar would do anything to protect them and will continue to lie.

When you lie who are you lying to?

You are lying to yourself, right!

A liar will not change. It is most difficult to change just like most addictions lying is one of the hardest parts of one's life.

The lying gives them great pleasure.

I think everyone has lied at some point in their lives but not everyone is an addictive liar.

Liars listen to each other.

At first, you lie to yourself. If you choose a career that you don't like what you are actually doing is trying to be something you are not.

Do you tolerate liars?

If someone lies to you would it most unbearable?

It all depends on what the lie is and what makes one want to tell such lies.

Are writers good liars as actors are perfect liars?

Lying starts from a young age from childhood and if that lying goes on to adulthood you become a pathological liar.

You just can't stop lying to yourself and others that grow in you.

Once your lies start to hurt your loved ones or other people, you know you should start paying attention to what you are doing to you and others.

Liars can be quite convincing and know just how to work their way through your mind.

Don't overlook such liars keep away from these liars they are out to hurt you for sure.

Being lied to is not a good feeling, it brings on disappointment and emotionally you can feel weak and stop trusting people completely.

It won't be easy for you to trust again that alone can hurt you the most in all your life.

A bad experience touches you emotionally. When you believe liars that is another part of your life to deal with, from your side.

Communication can become helpless to liars.

No matter how much you communicate with a liar, you would get the same response lies and lies.

I know not to believe liars they are more of the smooth-talking type.

I look out for the following behaviors:

Liars lie about money problems.

They lie about health issues which is extreme lies.

Conversations never correspond to a liars conversation.

To gain your attention they will go out of their way in lying.

Insecure minds allow them to lie even more.

Don't feel good about themselves their low-self esteem constantly puts them down.

It becomes a habit or they become addicted to lying.

Liars are not trustworthy.

A liars life is a fantasy that only they know how to hide.

Lies can hurt loved ones

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you

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      jtrader 

      4 years ago

      You are right about the fantasy life. Liars lie to themselves first and some really think that they are fooling others when they aren't.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Monis Mas thank you very much

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      Aga 

      4 years ago

      I absolutely despise liars. I stay as far away as possible.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad greatly said and thank you for all such positive comments and for the vote up.

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      Harish Mamgain 

      4 years ago from New Delhi , India

      Can a lion eat grass ? Lies are hard to digest if one is honest and straightforward in his all dealings. Lies are like crutches for weak minded and credulous guys, whereas the brave ones walk gracefully upon the earth ! Great article, Devika. Voted up.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you very much for stopping by here I appreciate your kindness

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker greatly commented thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      grand old lady thank kindly for stopping by your true words makes feel pleased with this hub.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mel Carriere that is my point ''The real problem is when lying becomes a psychosis that manipulates and harms people.'' So glad you heard mean know what I really mean thank you

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Telling lies can certainly ruin a relationship and destroy trust. I think that honesty (combined with kindness) is essential for the development of a good relationship between individuals. The kindness part is essential, in my opinion.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Honey Child I lie. There it is. I told my wife that she was beautiful and she really looked like dogfood. I told my son it was a great picture and it just sucked. I love life. It is not my job to go be mister honest about everything. I coach and I preach and I tell everybody they are great. What a liar I am.

      Please take it easy with us liars.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      4 years ago from Philippines

      This hub reminds me of the book, People of the Lie. It was the first clinical study of evil, and the book concluded that evil is not comprised by doing evil deeds. Evil is the art of living a lie. Because you' can't do evil acts if you believe they are bad things to do. You have to lie to yourself to justify what you're doing. Great hub. It truly presents something to think about.

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      Mel Carriere 

      4 years ago from San Diego California

      I think, as you mentioned, that we have all lied at one time or another and frequently tell the "little white lies" to get out of awkward situations. The real problem is when lying becomes a psychosis that manipulates and harms people. Great hub.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      The puzzling thing about liars is their belief that the lies would not be found out. Pathological liars need doctors, not friends.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      All of my friendships are based on trust and love. Break that trust and you break that friendship. True words in this article.

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