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Life Laughter and Loss - Dealing with Death

Updated on February 8, 2012

AN 32

The aircraft that went missing
The aircraft that went missing

Dealing with death

There is no better life than the life in the forces. A fact that I stand by even today. Yes there are risks and they are no worse than any where else. I told my mother that as I married an air force officer. Being an army wife herself she had no major objections and was indeed happy for me. Yet the tensions that she has suffered did lead her to warn me about them. The tension of looming death.

While every one is bound to die one day, it is always sad to hear about a young soul dying. Most professions are not as dangerous as the defence forces. Naturally a soldier is exposed to far more dangers than a civilian. Yet each time a needless accident occurs, it brings home the mortality of humans to all of us.

As I type this out the aircraft wreck has been found. The bodies have burnt along with the shell. There is nothing to distinguish the bodies from the plane. The relatives who have gathered wait to see one distinguishable part of their loved one. Some thing that they can place in the casket to hold a funeral.

Given the nature of the crash, it is highly unlikely that they will find anything at all but the bones. As I hear story after story of the air crew that has perished I feel heavy and uneasy. It is easy to say that most of them would not have realized what happened. The first crash would have killed them before the bodies began to burn.

It is horrible to imagine what went through the minds of the flight crew as they realized that they had lost control of the aircraft. That the huge plane was going to crash and take them all to an early death. What does a man do in the final seconds before his death? What does he think of?

Now my heart bleeds for those left behind. The twins of the captain who will grow up with out him. The young wife who must now deal with being a widow. The mothers of the two youngsters who were on their route clearance sortie. The others who have lost a father, a husband, a brother and a son. And how they will deal with the loss.

Then there is the dread, that it happened at all. That it happened to friends, to acquaintances. That it could happen to family, to my own husband. It is his aircraft the AN32. After all an AN32 is not a fighter jet or combat aircraft. Its a transport plane. They are not supposed to crash. But they do. God help the bereaved families.

The Wreckage


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    • cashmere profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from India

      Thank you Candie, yes it is amazing this bond we have developed. I cherish you as a friend.

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      Candie V 

      9 years ago from Whereever there's wolves!! And Bikers!! Cummon Flash, We need an adventure!

      This is why we must remember to tell our special ones they are loved, every day, without fail. 

      Thank you Cashmere.. You are a special friend!

    • cashmere profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from India

      Thanks Cris. It was just playing on my mind and a hub was a good way to exorcise it.

      Frieda its when things like this happen that our vulnerability gets exposed.

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      Frieda Babbley 

      9 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Beautiful article. Death of a loved one can happen to any one at any time. Realizing this fully can make us appreciate so much more what we have, life and laughter are not taken for granted, and shouldn't be, reguardless of whether you're married to one in the forces, or not. Thank you for this reminder.

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      Cris A 

      9 years ago from Manila, Philippines


      Indeed deaths from such tragic events raise questions that seem to have no answer and we are left to our own device as to how to deal with the loss. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the tragedy.

    • cashmere profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from India

      FP, the tensions are not so bad in the transport fleet. The fighter wivess have it worse.

      Yes Brian, it is ordained.

      Alekhouse its the kids I feel worst for. They will never know the wonderful man their father was.

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      Nancy Hinchliff 

      9 years ago from Essex Junction, Vermont

      These crashes are terrible, and there have been so many lately. I really sympathize with the loved ones left behind. What an ordeal to have to deal with!

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      Brian Stephens 

      9 years ago from Castelnaudary, France

      Any loss of life is always a sad event but we all know that one day it will be us and it is fate that determines when that will be.

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      Feline Prophet 

      9 years ago

      I can imagine the anxiety you live with everyday...but cashmere life is full of uncertainties...we can't allow ourselves to be held ransom by them.

    • Vibhavari profile image


      9 years ago from India


      I agree with you that it is the ones that are left behind, that have to deal with the 'loss' for the ones who died have moved on. Of all the mysteries of life- birth and death are the biggest and most lives life yet knows so little about it.


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