Life Lessons Learned: Part 1 (How To Love)
Different Side of Me
For those of you who have been following me for the past few weeks, you are well aware that I enjoy being funny and witty when it comes to my writing approaches. I love to make others life, especially my friends. Although I love being funny and making others laugh, I also can be serious at the same time.What I am going to attempt to do here(and in the sequels to come) is to pull a 180 and head in the other direction(that direction being serious)
I know, I know, just take a deep breath, and try to relax(if you feel like you are going to pass out, just dial that hotline number from my recipe hub. If you have forgotten for some bizarre reason or failed to take notes, the number is 1-(800)-the-chef and we can offer you some medical assistance) Sorry, I couldn't resist, had to throw one funny comment in there. I promise no more funny for me from now on, that is at least until this hub is over.
Well, here we go on an adventure ride through some of the experiences I have had over the years.
Short Life In Comparison
I will be sharing with you some of the life lessons I have learned over the past several years of my life. If you know me all ready, or have visited my introduction hubs, you are well aware that I am 25 years old. With that being said, I know I am younger than several of the hubbers out there in the community. But, that is all right, for I am not going to step down and have a quiet voice. I want to rise up and take the challenge, for although I may still be young, I have had the opportunity to learn incredible things through hardships, schooling, and life in general. I may not be as experienced in life as some, but I have gone through a lot and feel it necessary to share that information with you. So, I hope you can leave this with some insight to take with you.
Unconditional Love: Lesson 1
Right of the bat, I want to inform everyone that I am not perfect in this area, but am working at it every day. I am giving it my best of efforts, and have both feet pointed forward.
Over the years, I have had many opportunities to share love with those around me, as I am sure you can attest to as well. We have these opportunities everyday. When I say unconditional love, I want you to be aware that I am not just referring to a relationship only. Love is necessary everywhere, whether it be someone you meet in the grocery store, your children, your boss and co-workers, or your spouse. Before I move forward let me ask this question: What is unconditional love? This kind of love has no limitations, no physical boundaries. It is not a if you do this for me type of love, or if you do that for me type of love. Once the "if" is mentioned, a condition has been added to the equation. Unconditional means no matter what, I will love you. I will love you, even if you don't love me back.
Year Of Travel
The greatest opportunity I have had to spread love over the last few years was when I took a year off of college and traveled with a group of ten guys along the east coast of the United States and overseas. Love is one of the many lessons I learned that year, but I will refrain from delving into the others at the moment. I know the reader can only handle so much reading at a time. For those of you who have ever traveled for any length of time, you will be able to relate when I say that it gets rather difficult to love the people you are with. People begin to invade your space, popping your bubble, so-to -speak. To give you a glimpse into what I am referring to when I say I have traveled for a year, allow me to share with you what a normal day would like in our busy schedule.
3:00-8:00 Travel to destination and eat dinner
8:00-9:00 Set up sound equipment and practice
10:00-10:30 Tear down
10:30:11:00 Say goodbye
11:00-12:00 Drive to new host homes and meet them
12:00-6:00am Rest only to repeat the same steps over again
Now, you may have a better understanding of what I mean.
6:00-6:30am Wake up and eat breakfast at host home
6:30-7:00am Pack up and say goodbye to hosts
7:00-11:00 Travel to destination
11:00-12:00pm Set up sound equipment and practice
2:00-2:30 Tear down
2:30-3:00 Say goodbye
Throughout our travels, I had several opportunities to spread love to those in my group. In order to love my friends effectively, I had to realize one important aspect. And that was if and when I gave love, it might not be given back to me. I can't love to be loved, that is not the meaning of unconditional love. I love to love, and that is it.(I only wish it were as easy as saying it is) Loving with no expectation in return. That is unconditional love.
Bond Of Friendship
Our group of guys developed a unbreakable bond of friendship that year. We had our ups and downs, but that was the glue to our friendship. Our love for each other is what held us together. I loved these guys dearly and still keep in touch with a few of them today. There were days when loving each other were hard. Maybe it was the immaturity(this was five years ago), or the rude comments, you know, the typical stuff that happens when you are living with someone for a year. Or, in this case not someone, but ten guys! There were moments that I wanted to slap them across the face, but fortunately for them I chose to resist. Because of our love for each other, our bond of friendship was able to last.
Like I have all ready mentioned, I am not perfect in this area of unconditional love. In fact, I am probably farther away than where I would to like to be if I am honest with myself. But, I will not let that stop me from pushing forward and making every effort to love those I come in contact with. You see, unconditional love is not something that comes naturally. It must be constantly sought after. This type of love does not take place overnight. It is not the natural approach either. I don't naturally want to love everyone I come in contact with, and unfortunately I don't. But I am learning and working hard at this, for it is a never-ending process.Unconditional love takes practice, hard work, and dedication. I am giving it my best efforts every day.
I hope this has helped you in some way, shape, or form. Unconditional love is something we all struggle with if we are blatantly honest about it. We need to work together as a community, or else this type of love will begin to deteriorate. It is not the norm in today's society. We live in a give-to-receive world. And the only thing that will stop that from remaining the norm, is to take on this type of love with everything we can muster! Are you with me?