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Happiness is a Choice. Not being miserable is a Choice. You choose the life you want to live!

Updated on April 15, 2018
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We all live in a nation where we get to choose the type of life we want, and if happiness is a choice, why would anyone choose a miserable life? The implication is clear; sad people are to blame for their own misery. Being that happiness doesn't just happen, it's an option and of course, it all about choosing to understand that there will always be gloomy days. Still regardless how grim things may seem, a person can yet pick a happy life in a world where happiness is a choice — Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Happiness isn't something that will happen to us by pure luck. It is by choice. We cannot change external circumstances, but we can choose to do things to make us happy - stuff like deciding to live a happy, meaningful life by not dwell on what’s already happened to us. Also, we should want to have a clearer conscious, so we can learn to appreciate what before us, choose to stop worrying and obsessing over things we can’t change, our happiness depends on the quality of our thoughts. Just like happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

The key to happiness is choosing it. Although it’s not a simple choice all the time, and it very well may be the last option a person who is experiencing a challenging life might pick. While we all desire to be happy — being happy nowadays can be one big struggle. All of us has different ways of achieving happiness. Happiness and fulfillment are within your grasp, although there will be many various obstacles to get in the way.

To gain satisfaction in the present world, we need to give up on the toxic things. If we are to realize and maintain happiness, we must recognize there are different essentials which work to create the perfect scales balance. Moreover, what everybody needs in their lives is a balance. The type that will set the scales for the amount of negative and positive allow attaining happiness that is worthwhile. After all, life’ how you live - because happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

The favorite social sites like facebook, twitter, vine, instagram and myspace have made it possible for society to control the way peoples are viewed. The “real social world” as people perceive it, is repeatedly wrong…so why take the opinion of others to be more important than your own? When we consider the view of others, we give up our identity, and they impact how we see ourselves. To steer the social world, some feel the need to know what others think of them — although the most precise view depends on how you see yourself. Did you know the essential part of your identity is how you identify yourself? It’s important to understand that your identity answers the question, “Who am I?”

When a person knows and understands who they are it improve the way he or she looks at life as well as interact with others which are a vital part of being happy. Yes, understanding who you are is the key to dictating how people learn about the potential that is connected to every human being on Earth and that contribute to happiness.

How to Know When You Are Traveling the 'Right Path' Most of us have the potential to make the mystery and wonder of our journeys in life beautiful, smooth, and exciting and as we distinguish how to travel the mysterious “right path” it won't be a sign that you're on the right track. The common thread I found in all those potential paths is a few steps ahead of you there will begin to appear evidence when you finally discover the road you've been searching for all along. Although the search you ’re actively looking for may not have a resume means to find your purpose toward happiness. And it is not front nor center; but if you align yourself with the career path that’s best for you, it could be the “next” significant obligation — like fulfilling a dream and finding happiness in today’s world.

If you find yourself continually second-guessing your route instead of traveling a smooth, straight road, you have more than likely chose the blind, difficult-to-navigate wrong path and you have gotten off course. Although moving in the right direction does not mean you won't encounter a small feeling of intimidation because you are putting yourself in new situations and unfamiliar territories. Nevertheless, you will find yourself reflecting a lot less about the past and becoming a lot more familiar with the journey that leads to the future.

Here’s a few ways to know if you on the right path. If you find yourself wondering, "Am I on the right path?" or how do I get started traveling the 'Right Path?'— begin by asking yourself questions. Matters like when I wake up each morning to go to a job does my life seems complete? Am I doing what I am most passionate about and am I happy and fulfilled or do I feel like my life are in crisis? Knowing whether you are on the right path or not is nearly not hard as you think. Tell-Tale signs that you're on the right path, you enjoy a reduction in your everyday stress levels, although responsibilities will always be demanding you continue to strive each day maintain stability and enjoy life.

The world consists of two type of people, those who choose to be happy, and those who want to be miserable. The question is how do happy people maintain joy? Contrary to the current belief that happiness comes from fame, wealth, and material possessions, it comes from within choosing to be and keep a positive outlook on life. Sometimes the wealthiest person in the world is facing misery while a person without richness could be happy and gratified.

Choose to be happy – The Path to Achieving happiness!

• Using positive self-talk for inner strengths

• Overcome fear using favorable self-talk

• Positive thinking

• Balance life

• Free of negativity

• Participate in meaningful activities in your everyday life

• Finding reasons to be content

• Refuse to worry and stress

• Learn to be gratified

Five Steps to Becoming a Happier Person

Step 1: Don't be concerned with life’s trouble, choose to be happy

Step 2: Reject negative thoughts and state of mind

Step 3: Come to know forgiveness

Step 4: Have true friends or find new real friends

Step 5: Bear in mind, money cannot bring or buy happiness

Whether you believe it or not, some people think that their actions will not determine if they are happy in life. Not only does a person action control their happiness, to some extent, how an individual behaves in life will have a bearing on the level of joy they obtain. In spite of this, this is only part of the details happiness is like a delicate butterfly. A person can hold it in their hand and turn their head for a moment, and it will change direction by the time you turn back around, or it is gone.

Happiness Replacements

There have been alternatives for happiness since the beginning of time, though there are even more apparent today than they ever have been because of the world that we live in nowadays.

From the instant a child is born, there are happiness replacements that are made known of his/her life that also give the notion that happiness is something which can be achieved or be subjected to something temporarily irresistible or by purchasing some product that will enhance life.

Major happiness substitutions that come to mind are:

• Being wealthy

• Having a luxurious sports car

• Having a huge house

• Dressing in lavish clothes

Of course, any of these things above may make you temporarily happy, but they will not make a permanent bearing on you or bring happiness. They may, however, influence how other individuals see you. You can be incredibly wealthy and entirely unhappy. Stipulations may mean that your wealth has placed distance between you and others. Think of owning millions of dollars and having to determine whether people like you because of you, or whether you are liked because of your wealth.

Many wealthy people go through this and are incredibly lonely and it's hard for them to find real happiness. This may be because their principles are profoundly screwed up. They put prominence on possessions and money than the focus on actually enjoying life and being happy. Not anything can make us happy until we decide to be happy. In short, life’s circumstances can affect the happiness you desire, but your life is how you live it- because happiness is a choice, you are the one who decides your joy.

Happiness is a Choice. Not being miserable is a Choice. You choose the life you want to live

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      13 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much Ladybird33, for your comment and I am happy you enjoyed reading my article

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      Enjoyed reading your article. Very insightful. Thank you for sharing


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