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Happiness is a Choice. Not being miserable is a Choice. You choose the life you want to live!

Updated on October 9, 2018
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We exist in a nation where we get to choose the type of life we want to live, and if happiness is a choice, why would anyone choose a miserable life?

The only answer I can perceive from a person deciding to be miserable over happy is that the person does not know they have a choice.

Yet, the implication is clear; sad people are to blame for their misery. Being that happiness doesn't just happen, it's an option and of course, it all about choosing to understand that there will always be gloomy days.

Still, regardless of how grim things may seem, a person can yet pick a happy life in a world where happiness is a choice — Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Happiness isn't something that will happen to us by pure luck. It is by choice. Think about it not only do bad things happen to good people and good things to evil people, and it clear that being a person with moral does not guarantee a happy life.

Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin

We cannot change external circumstances, but we can choose to do things to cope with life's disasters. We can deal with tragedies by selecting to do things to make us happy - stuff like deciding to live a happy, meaningful life by not dwell on what’s already happened to us.

Moreover, we should want to have a precise understanding, so we can learn to appreciate what before us, choose to stop worrying and obsessing over things we can’t change, our happiness depends on the quality of our thoughts. Just like happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Our exceeding happiness does not depend on the circumstance of life in which we encounter, but it consists of how we choose to deal with the situation and all we have come after us.

What is excellent, we always have choices and doing things to be happy - all we need to do is make an intelligent decision as to what is best for us.

The decision like whether to eat healthily or continue making a poor decision by eating fast food. What career to pursue, who to love, where to rent a home or own one.

Although all of our decisions won't be good as some are based on our sincere desire to be happy, it up to us to start making choices that will bring about happiness over the one that could end being miserable.

Sometimes we don't find the thing that will make us happy because our happiness has everything to do with the deliberate choices and the severe amount of work we put into living a compelling life.

Bear in mind to sincerely be happy and flourish, prosper and stay satisfied even while you may be dealing with some of the most hopeless situations. We have to remember happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.


The surrounding questions are, do you believe happiness is a choice? Or does miserable exist because people cannot sustain happiness?

Many may or may not be able to answer the two surround question as some does not know that happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

I indeed believe happiness is a choice and unhappy is a part of people lives who choose to allow life circumstances to take over it.

We do have the ability to build a genuine and lasting happiness for ourselves. Just like happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Choose to be happy – The Path to Achieving happiness!

• Using positive self-talk for inner strengths

• Overcome fear using favorable self-talk

• Positive thinking

• Balance life

• Free of negativity

• Participate in meaningful activities in your everyday life

• Finding reasons to be content

• Refuse to worry and stress

• Learn to be gratified

Perfect happiness is a beautiful sunset, the giggle of a grandchild, the first snowfall. It's the little things that make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in sips, not gulps. Sharon Draper

Five Steps to Becoming a Happier Person

Step 1: Don't be concerned with life’s trouble, choose to be happy

Step 2: Reject negative thoughts and state of mind

Step 3: Come to know forgiveness

Step 4: Have true friends or find new real friends

Step 5: Bear in mind, money cannot bring or buy happiness

Major happiness substitutions that come to mind are:

• Being wealthy

• Having a luxurious sports car

• Having a huge house

• Dressing in lavish clothes

Of course, some things can make you temporarily happy, but they will not make a permanent bearing on you or bring happiness.

They may, however, influence how other individuals see you. You can be incredibly wealthy and entirely unhappy. Stipulations may mean that your wealth has placed distance between you and others.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. Denis Waitley

Think of owning millions of dollars and having to determine whether people like you because of you, or whether you are liked because of your wealth.

Many wealthy people go through this and are incredibly lonely, and it's hard for them to find real happiness. This may be because their principles are profoundly screwed up.

Wealthy peoples put prominence on possessions and money than the focus on actually enjoying life and being happy. Not anything can make us happy until we decide to be happy.

In short, life’s circumstances can affect the happiness you desire, but your life is how you live it- because happiness is a choice, you are the one who decides your joy.

Happiness is a Choice. Not being miserable is a Choice. You choose the life you want to live

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Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give - pleasure, possessions, power - but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy. Dada Vaswani

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      20 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much Ladybird33, for your comment and I am happy you enjoyed reading my article

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      20 months ago from Fabulous USA

      Enjoyed reading your article. Very insightful. Thank you for sharing


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