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Living Simple: What Will Your Legacy Be?

Updated on August 27, 2013
Exploring an old graveyard.
Exploring an old graveyard. | Source
Bev on the hunt for history.
Bev on the hunt for history. | Source
Another of our great finds on one of our drives in the country.
Another of our great finds on one of our drives in the country. | Source

Bev and I are quite fond of drives in the country when time allows. We grab our cameras and head off to sites yet unseen in hopes of finding memories for the future. Inevitably we will stop to take pictures of old barns as we both have a love of all things old. The other place we can be counted on to visit is any cemetery we have previously not seen.

For years I have roamed cemeteries, reading the tombstones, trying in some small way to divine what each person must have been like during life. Usually I am disappointed because so little is written on the tombstone and it leaves me with a feeling of emptiness, like meeting someone you think you will like but never getting the chance to form a meaningful relationship.

When I was younger I would not have been able to explain this hold that cemeteries had over me but as I have grown older I think I understand a little bit better. I have grown to appreciate the human race and I now find fascination where once there was condemnation. I have come to realize over the years that we are all imperfect and we are all capable of acts of debasement but also incredible acts of kindness and love. We are, in fact, a marvel to me and I strive to hear or read as many stories of people as possible.

THE WHOLE PICTURE

To try to understand a person based on one act or several years of their life is a foolish undertaking. We are such complicated beings and the whole picture of a person cannot be seen simply by watching several frames of the movie that is their life. Imagine going to the movie theater and watching five minutes in the middle of the movie and then leaving for home where you will write a movie review for the local newspaper. How can that possibly be done? And yet so often we make a snap judgment about others based on one act or just a small portion of their life.

Rather a person is the sum total of all of their experiences, all of their thoughts and words and actions, and in order to truly know that person one must attempt, and here I am borrowing an old chess term, to see the whole board rather than just the movement of one or two pieces on that board.

WHAT IS A LEGACY?

Webster’s tells us that legacy means: something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past<thelegacyof the ancient philosophers>. In other words, a legacy is something passed down to others and in most connotations we are referring to something passed down after death, i.e. Jesus left a legacy of ’love thy neighbor’ to his followers.

Note that ‘love thy neighbor’ is one quality, belief or teaching used in this case to describe the whole man known as Jesus. There can be very little doubt that the life of Jesus was made up of hundreds of thousands of actions, words and thoughts but his legacy is generally considered having to do with a general them of love. In a similar vein it could be argued that the legacy of Martin Luther King was racial equality even though his life was much more complicated than that; if one were to take individual moments from King’s life one might see a different legacy, but viewed in totality the legacy becomes something altogether different.

WHAT IS MY LEGACY?

I would hope that I still have some time left on this planet in which to add to my growing legacy. I would also hope that my legacy is not based on any one action, word or thought taken from my life. This morning I yelled at the dog for chewing on my pant leg; I would hope that based on that action alone my legacy would not be that of an animal hater for in fact I have owned and loved many animals over the years.

What is my legacy? It is an interesting question to ponder as I skip down the road of life. Without a doubt I have had my dark days when I did harm to myself and others. Is my legacy those dark days when alcohol ruled my life? Is my legacy one of divorce and failed businesses? Perhaps my legacy is one of broken hearts, lies and promises left unfulfilled?

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Alcoholism-My-Personal-Story

On the other hand my legacy may be of the love I feel now, a love that is given equally to everyone I meet. It may well be a legacy overflowing with kindness and acts of service and mercy.

From my standpoint the beauty of all this is that I still have time to choose what my legacy will be and make no mistake about it, this is a matter of choice. I made the choice a little over five years ago to turn my life around. Gone is the alcohol; gone is the ego that so controlled my life. In their place I have substituted humility and empathy, compassion and love. I still have time, or so I hope, to re-write my legacy so that it is something I can be proud of when my days come to an end. It is my choice!

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Lifestyle-Choices-A-Matter-Of-Priorities

WHAT WILL YOUR LEGACY BE?

I will repeat a statement of fact: you can choose what your legacy will be. I have known some incredible people during my lifetime, people who have overcome horrible lives, some of their own making, and emerged pillars of humanity. They made that choice. One does not just wake up one morning a changed human being. Change so monumental as to be noticed during one’s lifetime and after death requires a decision to make that change.

Fate does not determine our legacy; fate is at times a determining factor or impetus that brings about change but the final decision is ours. I know people who have tragically lost loved ones; they had every reason known to man to become bitter and depressed and see only darkness and yet they have moved forward and not allowed the light to disappear from their lives. We often read stories in the newspaper of mothers who have lost children to cancer; instead of wallowing in grief they have taken up the cause and promoted cancer research. They made the decision that their legacy was not going to be one of grief but rather one of education and support for other cancer victims.

So I repeat: WHAT WILL YOUR LEGACY BE?

THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND YOURS ALONE

I have said often that I value empathy and compassion much more than I value sympathy. If I am able to understand how a person feels then I can act accordingly and be of some value to that person. To simply give sympathy and move on is to me a hollow act. It is much too easy to simply say “I am sorry” and then move on un-impeded to make my next sympathetic statement. Conversely, it takes some real effort to take the time to understand how someone feels, to share in that feeling and then lend a helping hand if wanted and needed.

Having said that I can tell you all that I completely understand grief, guilt and self-loathing. I have visited the darkness and allowed it to nearly smother the life out of me. I have chased the Almighty Dollar and I have gathered enough possessions to feed a thousand egos. It all left me empty inside and longing for something more, some glimpse of the light that had always held so much promise.

I found that "something more" when I embraced the Living Simple Philosophy.

Today I have found the light and it will guide me as I go about fashioning my lasting legacy. We all have the choice to do the same. The final chapter of our legacy will not be written until we have drawn our last breath and only then will the legacy be spoken about and remembered for time eternal.

The choice is yours! What will it be?

2012 Bill Holland (aka billybuc)

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http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Saying-Goodbye-To-A-Life-That-Wasnt-Working

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Billy ~ Wow, I love this. I have also written about what legacy will we leave behind. And I'm currently working on another piece as well. I truly believe that people need to continuously think about this ~ which will allow us time now to make changes if so desired.

      You dear, are a perfect example of re-writing your legacy. Of course, people may also remember the time you really hurt them or made an ass out of yourself, etc. But that is not the total YOU.

      You are consciously making new choices that are changing your legacy ... overriding the negative that will no longer be the first thing someone thinks about. Your compassion and empathy absolutely shows through everything you write. It is quite inspirational.

      I for one am SO glad you are here on HubPages. Sharing your life with us and the changes you have made (and are making) is a very special gift. You are proof that people can change. And it is all about choices. I loved how you reiterated "the choice is yours, what will it be." Thank you for sharing so much of yourself.

      Sharyn

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      tarajeyaram 5 years ago from Wonderland

      great hub billybuc. I love old things too. Human race is very complicated and judging them in few minutes or few days is unfair. Voting up and thanks for SHARING.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sharon, your words touch me and bring tears to my eyes. There is so much joy in my life right now and it is all because I made a choice. Thank you so much for this comment which truly did touch my heart. Blessings to you and I think I need to go read that hub of yours about legacy.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tarajeyaram, you are very welcome and thank you for taking the time to leave a meaningful comment. I so appreciate all of my followers and I wish you the best on your travels today.

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      Jason R. Manning 5 years ago from Sacramento, California

      Billybuc,

      Terrific hub, always a timely subject when we let our lives spin out of control. With instant media and instant gratification, I seriously doubt many young and middle aged folks think in terms beyond sound bites. I know I may be unusual in thinking about this as I age, but I certainly want to know I helped more people than I harmed. Hopefully you are able to end this chapter the way you wish. Great presentation. Cheers.

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      The Frog Princess 5 years ago from Florence area of the Great Pee Dee of South Carolina

      I enjoyed every word on your hub and enjoyed each turn along the way. Thanks for an excellent hub.

      Donna

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      Michele Travis 5 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Billybuc, once again a wonderful hub. Being able to remember the joy in your life is a gift from God, one we should never let go of. Thanks for this hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jason, thank you for a very insightful comment. I'm glad you enjoyed the hub and I applaud you for your outlook on helping others.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Princess, thank you for the compliment. I write for others and to know that they receive it well is comfort to me. May you have a peaceful weekend filled with love.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, you are a very kind person and I appreciate your kind words. Go in peace this weekend and find happiness wherever you go!

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      AnnaCia 5 years ago

      I like this article a lot. You are able to cover so many elements that form out legacy. I see those elements as pillars in our lives. We are big part in determining our own paths. Question, How much importance should we give (if any) to what others think about what our legacy is?. Voted up. I would love to share this article with others.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, I can truthfully say that I don't let the opinions of others dictate my actions. I once did but I am free of that now. Your insights are right on and I thank you for dropping by and your kind words.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      great legacy billy...i am too contemplating of the same...being a teacher and being able to impart my knowledge to my students would be a great legacy...

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      You are right about our legacy now really surfacing until we are gone. My parents left a great legacy for their children. They survived many troubles, raised a large family, helped many people and modeled what it took to live a life of integrity. I enjoyed your hub and the challenge. Be well and safe.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Raciniwa, it is an excellent legacy that you are leaving. One of the things I am most proud of is the job I did teaching. Hooray for you! Thank you so much for being a teacher and caring so much about the kids.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Teaches, I have no doubt what at least a part of your excellent legacy will be. Anyone who teaches with passion has left a remarkable legacy. My best to you and yours and may you have many more years to build on your legacy.

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      Cynthia Calhoun 5 years ago from Western NC

      I think, billy, your legacy will also be one of incredible writing that has inspired many - already - to look hard at themselves and ask the questions that will better their lives. That, my friend, is one heck of a legacy to bestow upon the human race.

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      Jools99 5 years ago from North-East UK

      Billybuc, another wonderful hub. our hubs always leave me thoughtful about my actions with other people and that is always useful. Trying to be kind to people is something I think is very important but sometimes that can be hard at times because life is so blummin' complicated. Excellent hub, voted up and shared.

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      Graham Lee 5 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Another first class hub Billy. What my legacy will be I do not know, but yours will be your writing which is an inspiration.

      Albion.

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      Another gem Billy and you are drawing people close to you with your words and messages.

      Not just here on HP either but you have drawn forward many other in need of a guiding hand and you have helped.

      My second book to be published My Beautiful Rock Rose is very near to completion;maybe two to three weeks or maybe even less.

      The poems in the book are in memory of my beautiful daughter Erin and it will hopefully show others that there is life after bereavement;no matter who we are grieving for or how heart broken we are. I know everyone copes in different ways and I would not dream of imposing my beliefs and ways on others;but it is a book from deep in my heart for others to read.

      I am in the middle of writing my first novel;which is fiction but based on true events;it is about the abuse a young girl suffers when only a child at the hands of a sadistic father.

      However not all doom and gloom because all obstacles are overcome and always will be;it is a gift from me to the world telling everyone who has suffered that it is still possible to walk onwards and upwards with our heads held high and to turn and tell those abusers (whether alive or dead)that we made it;they didn't grind us down.

      No one has the right to take away our happiness and to rob us of living our lives as a whole person.

      So Billy this will be my legacy to the world;something that I feel so so strongly about.

      I want it in book form so that it will live on after my lifetime as well.

      All your hubs and your messages Billy fit into my mind so easily and they feel right!!

      Thank you again my friend for sharing this one too.

      Take care and I wish you a wonderful weekend.

      Eddy.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, that was a very nice thing for you to say and I'm smiling because of it. Judging from my dropping numbers I would say I'm not reaching as many people as I had hoped. I always felt that I was just the flavor of the month and now it appears there is a new flavor out there and I'm just plain old vanilla. But I will keep writing and supporting you and life is good. Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jool, I love that....blummin' complicated! Yes it is my friend; no doubt about it at all. Thank you for your kind comments and I will stop by and visit you later on today.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Old Albion, I'm going to have to ask: where did your screen name come from? Anyway, if I were to venture a guess from my little contact with you I would say your legacy will be that of a kind man who supports others. Pretty impressive if you ask me. Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, you simply must tell me how to get one of your books; please send me information on it...if you like we can trade books; I'll show you mine if you show me yours. :) Or I will simply purchase yours because I consider you a rare talent and a beautiful human being. Your line "no one has the right to take away our happiness" is beautiful and oh so true. Have a wonderful weekend my dear friend and let me know about that book of yours...peace and love, Bill

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      Karen Silverman 5 years ago

      Ah, Billy - why am i not surprised that your fine writing is infused with an even finer message? If more gave a thought to their legacy - they might give a second thought to their actions today! Keep them coming, sir - the world needs more of you! voting and tweeting..

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      H C Palting 5 years ago from East Coast

      You have written another great hub Billy. I must agree with ImKarn23 in that many people might act a lot differently if they thought of the legacy they were leaving behind and what truly matters in life. As for empathy and compassion, those with these traits (genuine and not faked) tend to have more strong social/work connections and further reaching legacies than those who do not.

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      You are a star Billy and I am so looking forward to reading your novel.

      I have replied to your comment on my last hub if you would like to take a peep.

      Take care my very dear friend and I hope you and Bev enjoyed your drive and taking photos..

      Eddy.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      ImKarn...I won't use your real name just in case I would be mentioning something you don't want mentioned...I appreciate you greatly. You write from the heart in a no bullshit way and I respect that more than I can say. Thank you so much for your kind words my friend...keep doing what you are doing and I will do the same.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Express, your words help me greatly at a time when I wonder if I am writing what anyone wants to read. I have always said it is lonely being a writer and I'm feeling that today. Thank you so much for giving me a boost in confidence when I most needed it.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy my dear, I will check that out and thank you. You are one of a kind and I am proud to call you a friend.

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      Sparklea 5 years ago from Upstate New York

      billybuc: LOVE the topic, as I am working on a speech regarding legacy. You are SO correct when you say, "you can choose what your legacy will be." I can so relate to "to give sympathy and move on is a hollow act." Asking (in your title)"what will your legacy be?" is great to get readers to truly ponder their lives, what they have done and where they are headed.

      A friend of mine, and I, love to take pictures of old barns and visit cemetaries with old tombstones. There is a certain type of karma that I feel in the air when in a cemetery. I wonder about the lives of those who have lived and gone on.

      I think you have addressed an excellent topic, and, in between my daily duties, I will be checking out more of your hubs.

      You are an excellent writer. I can feel your genuine heartfelt sincerity in all the hubs I have read. God bless you real good, billybuc! Blessings, Sparklea PS: voted up, beautiful and interesting :)

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      picklesandrufus 5 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      You give us a lot to think about Billybuc! You picked a very interesting topic and I enjoyed it thoroughly! Vote up!!

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      Graham Lee 5 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Billy. Reference my name old albion. It is an early name for Great Britain. It was used in the first century A.D. by the romans. I think it was originally from a Greek term and it was translated from that in the B.C. period. So today one might interpret it to be Old England. I thought it to be ideal for me as I am 68 later this year.

      Graham.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      This is a thought provoking hub. What will my legacy be? I hope it will be known that i had compassion. We all have times that we wish we could have done it differently, but we learn as we grow. I was pleased When i read that you and Bev like to search in old cemeteries, your are not alone, I enjoy the same. Thank you for a most enjoyable topic....

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sparklea, you are a genuinely nice person and I greatly appreciate you AND your comments. I love when I meet someone else who loves cemeteries and barns. I had to work my way through a session of self-doubt about whether I am taking the right approach in my writing; maybe I should try to be more commercial. Your comments helped me greatly! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, that's what happens when I roam a cemetery; I become introspective and start thinking about stuff like this. :) Thank you once again for taking the time to visit.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Graham, thank you and now I am slightly embarrassed as I should have known that being a history buff. Thank you, sir, for letting me know without making me feel ignorant. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hello always and as always, thank you! :) There is just something about old cemeteries, isn't there? One can almost feel the history wafting through the air. Thank goodness I am not alone in that feeling.

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      Karen Silverman 5 years ago

      Thank you for YOU kind words, Billy! I have no concern with your using my name - you should deduce that i'm not overly shy about my opinions, altho - i try not to scream them...just whisper them here from my little hubs..lol..my first name is truly karen, btw - or - i'mkar'n for i'm caring..lol..(now that ya know everything i'm gonna have to kill ya). I'll try to hold up my end here on hub - altho - sometimes my shoulders hurt so much - i can't reach it! (omg...somebody stop me...) lol

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are a wicked kick in the ass of society and as such you will always have my respect. :) See you down the road, Karen, and you might try BenGay for those shoulders....or a damn good shoulder rub from someone you like. :)

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      Pollyannalana 5 years ago from US

      I don't feel that good about my legacy. I like visiting graveyards though; my husband and I do that too and wonder about those passed on so long ago.

      Great hub.

      Polly

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pollyannna, the beauty of it all is you still have time to add to your legacy and that is very cool. Thank you for stopping by and best of luck to you!

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Billy, as always, another great hub! I love the way you bare your soul, no matter how it may be perceived. It's a way of "cleaning out", as I call it. I relate to every hub I've read of yours.

      It's unfortunate and very unfair that, too may times, we are judged by a single act rather than the culmination of who we are and how/why we got where we are; whether positive or negative.

      I choose to live life thru rose-colored glasses, meaning I see beauty in everything and I expect no less from others, which oftentimes ends in disappointment, shock and sadness.

      We need to open our eyes to ourselves in order to open our eyes to others. We need to be honest, open and try to put the shoe on the other foot before we judge anyone.

      I hope my legacy will be one of overcoming my self-destructive past resulting in the woman I am today. I'm pretty proud of me. And I love me.

      We all need to open our eyes and truly see.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Brave, the greatest thing you wrote right there was that you are proud of you and you love yourself. That warms my heart! I, too, see the beauty in everything and everyone but I will not be dragged down by those who refuse to live a good, positive life. I hang with the winners now and try to help all who really want it. Thank you for some beautiful insights.

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      Sonya L Morley 5 years ago from Edinburgh

      Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful and interesting life experience here, it is always a joy to read your work. I am currently without the use of my own internet connection so only have a few minutes at a time, but I am so happy I found this hub. Lovely, as always, you bring light to your readers.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sonya, considering the fact that your internet time is limited I'm honored that you spent it reading my hub. I'm glad you liked it and look forward to your next work. As always, your friend...Bill

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      jpelczar 5 years ago

      There is something very peaceful about a cemetery. It is a great place to think. When I lived near a cemetery I would go jogging through and would have peace of mind for hours after the run. Great post.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jpelczar, maybe I'm not as strange as I thought I was because quite a few people share our love of cemeteries. Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Billy I am so impressed. my legacy I hope it would be kindness and love towards others and helping those that I can the love of Jesus. I really like your hub,

      Voted up my friend

      Take care

      Debbie

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Debbie, coming from a fine writer like you that means a great deal to me. Thank you and I have no doubt that your legacy will be as you described.

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      Joanna McKenna 4 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      Bill, I realized a long time ago I didn't want my legacy to be a few totally inaccurate stories passed down to my descendants, who would then judge my worth as a person by a few misguided moments. My autobiography will be titled "Great-Grandma Was No Angel" (because I wasn't by a long shot!) in which I'll relate events in my life as they really happened. Until I get around to writing it, though, I simply leave snippets all over HP as hubs or comments, and on my blog as posts, all to be gathered later into The Book. Those from my past who think they "know the real me" only from those misguided moments mentioned above are then free to read the hubs, comments and posts, and perhaps form a different opinion. Or not. Their choice. But it's out there.

      As for cemeteries, I might look at fifty headstones before one "grabs me". Sometimes it'll have nothing on it but a name and the birth and death years, but I **have** to find out everything I can about that person or family. Call me weird, but I'll spend hours combing the internet for tidbits about someone who, until I saw the headstone and began searching, was a total stranger.

      Perhaps it's true that one never dies as long as he/she is remembered by someone. Technically, of course, I can't possibly "remember" a person I never met, but I sense that examining whatever I can find about them serves the same purpose. That for a brief time, in my mind at least, they DO live again. Does that make any sense?

      Voted this hub up, awesome and beautiful! ;D

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jama, it makes perfect sense. I wrote a hub in two parts called "Sam's Legacy" about an old couple that lived next door when I was growing up. By all appearances they were just a lovely couple but after many hours of hearing their stories they were incredibly fascinating people with lives that needed to be remembered...thus my short story about them.

      I think it is incredible that you do internet searches to find out more about people after their deaths. I can learn valuable lessons from anyone I meet, dead or alive, if I take the time to find out and have a willingness to learn.

      You are a very interesting person and I'm pretty damn proud to call you my friend. Thank you my dear!

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      Joanna McKenna 4 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      Well, I'm proud to call you my friend, too, Bill!

      I'll most certainly be checking out "Sam's Legacy"! After being "adopted" a few years ago by a now-86-going-on-30-yr-old great-grandma, I know all about and love the fascinating stories lurking under those white hairs! The woman is legally blind, but with the help of a "zoom" program on her computer, types out her memories as they come to mind. I should probably be recording our phone conversations, too, because she relates so many childhood memories in them.

      As for what one can turn up by researching the name on a tombstone, my "Carnival of Souls" hub is an example that still surprises me! ;D

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I will be reading it Jama; have a peaceful sleep and we will chat again soon.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      I think what is so interesting about you among many things is your honesty. You look at yourself without a veil and certainly no denial or excuses. So you have a legacy to leave..mostly to me is that with the right commitment we can turn our lives around at any point. Amazing and a voted up.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, the days of playing games and hiding behind a mask are over for this guy. What you see is what you get, and I hope what you see is good. :) Thank you for visiting this hub; I have a special fondness for this one.

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      Nine 4 years ago

      Thank you for yet another wonderful piece. Being young, I hope I have time to cultivate my legacy. But, I'm not waiting around. I hope everyday, if nothing else, I share life and happiness with those around me.

      And when I forget, I can find something you've written, to remind me of the "big picture". Thank you for your honesty and truth.

      I feel like I can not say it enough: thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nine, those are kind words. You are a caring individual and I appreciate your awareness and kindness.

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      Audrey Hunt 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Bill - You are pure inspiration. I think about lifestyle choices and the legacy I will leave behind. I would hope with all of my heart that it would be to love everyone. Preferably, unconditional love. This past year has been a difficult one. Not nearly as difficult as the year I lost my beautiful boy. This past year has been a huge challenge health wise. It is during these challenges that we form our legacy.

      It is easy to show love when everything is going well. It becomes a bit harder when living in pain. But that is when we have an opportunity to test our strenght, endurance and patience. These hard times indicate our real capacity to think not of our selves and our own pain but of others. Thank you dear Billy for an amazing hub and I voted up and across and will share.

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      This is a wonderful hub Bill. As a younger person I never thought of what my legacy might be. As I get older, I do wonder what people will think of me after I am gone. I hope that it will be that I was a kind person to all, a mom that loved her children more than herself and a person that loved nature. Just those three things would satisfy me.

      This is a wonderful, thought provocing hub. Voted up and awesome!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, you make me tear up every single time I read your comments to me. Thank you! I feel so strongly about this....there is nothing more important than love....and society is just running out of control away from love. I need to keep doing what I can to reverse the trend.....that is what drives me!

      Thank you for the share but more importantly thank you for being who you are.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      sgbrown, then you can rest assured that you have met your goals. Your legacy will be a darn good one. :)

      Thank you my friend!

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      WhydThatHappen 4 years ago

      Great hub- i found myself curious about your trips to the cemetery and before i knew it i was caught up in the questions of legacy.

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      Barbara Kay Badder 4 years ago from USA

      This is a good motivational hub to change our lives. My kids and I use to visit the cemetery because it was just down the street and it was so peaceful with big pine trees which made it quiet. We'd make up stories for the people when we found unusual stones, just guessing at the people's lives.

      You've stirred me to try to do more for my fellow man. Thanks.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Whydthathappen....thank you! I think often about my legacy....I'm glad you enjoyed this and I hope you have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Barbara, if I have done that then I am a happy Hubber. I love the cemetery...and I love that you made up stories about the lives of the people there....great comment.

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      jellygator 4 years ago from USA

      Billy, I love your movie analogy about watching 5 minutes in the middle and trying to write a review. This is something I struggle with because sometimes withholding judgment can lead us to be very vulnerable to exploitation.

      Another question, too. If I don't have a kindle, but can read your book on a computer, please send me a PM on how. I will order both of your books if I can figure out that desktop thing that has me confused.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jelly, thank you so much. To tell you the truth, I'm brain dead when it comes to technology. The Kindle thing...I don't even own a Kindle....LOL....but I know that Microsoft has a free application that takes a Kindle book and transfers it to your computer....it should mention it somewhere on the Amazon site.....if you can't find it, email me at holland1145@yahoo.com and I'll find out how to do it for you. Thanks again!

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      mythbuster 4 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide

      Great hub - words of wisdom here. Nice vid selection to go with this content, too! Thanks for sharing.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mythbuster, thank you very much. I appreciate your visit and kind words.

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      Robin Grosswirth 4 years ago from New York

      Beautiful heartfelt writing and on a very important topic, one's legacy.

      The beauty is that it is never too late to leave a legacy. Each day we have an opportunity and clean slate in front of us with the ability to write our own stories in which to pass on.

      I agree that tombstones don't aptly relay the true essence of the soul that has passed. Mainly what is etched upon those stones are mere demographics. The writers in all of us would desire a more heartfelt epitaph.

      In any event, Billy, you have come full circle and know the path you must take. Good for you!

      Voted up and Tweeted.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Robin, thank you! I do know my path and I couldn't be happier. I will be satisfied when I am finally done; If I am remembered as a good and loving man then I will have done my job as a member of this species.

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      Gail Sobotkin 4 years ago from South Carolina

      Just finished reading your Lifestyle Choices ebook and thought it was great!

      Anyone who likes this hub should love the book as this is a great example of your writing style.

      Good luck with sales on the ebook.

      Hub Hugs,

      Gail

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Gail, thank you so much! I really appreciate that....you have been a wonderful supporter! If you are ever out west stop by and we will make you right at home.

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      Gail Sobotkin 4 years ago from South Carolina

      Thanks Billy,

      If Fred and I are ever out west I'll hold you to your most generous offer. LOL

      Check your emails, I just sent you a copy of a 5 star Amazon.com review that I wrote for "Lifestyle Choices."

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I got them Gail and thank you so much! You made an already great day even better.

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      Skarlet 4 years ago from California

      Another great hub by billybuc.

      I actually love to visit the cemeteries too. I could spend quite some time wandering around and reading headstones. The grave yards in Europe can be very interesting because they are sooooo old.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Skarlet, some day I hope to see those graveyards in Europe. The oldest I have seen were in Vermont when I lived back there, and they were sensational. Thank you my friend; I really am overdue for visiting you.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      I hope when my time comes, I have built a legacy of good choices made before hand that can be beautifully passed on.

      Just like you sir billybuc, I like the 'old' stuff. I admire the countryside and that is the place I want to be on trips, not the city life. I've visited cemeteries to find really old writings on tombstones and it amuses me and my boyfriend to find them because these are interesting stuff, put aside the eerie feeling I get when I am walking deeper inside a cemetery though I like the sense of thrill, but it scares me if I can't find my way back to the gates. I go the cemetery to pick up fallen Maple leaves in autumn too, it is where I find a good variety, lol. In the countryside, I love the views of farms, barns, horses, cows, open fields and rolled up hay bales over sunset and my favourite 'fish & chips'! A drive through McDonald's on the way to the country is not enough. I have to get my fish and chips!

      Great hub, billybuc. Voted! Have a good day!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Coffee, you are a woman molded from the same stuff as I.....I have no doubt your legacy will be one of a caring, compassionate human being who understood what is important in life. Thank you my friend and enjoy those ifsh & chips. LOL

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      ....I've come to visit one of the resident superstars of the Hub - and love your thought provoking mind and how you encourage and promote your readers into thinking and debating.

      I will leave behind no legacy however in my life - other than the fact I have loved my cats and have been a good daddy and friend and provider to them. That's it. I've made no money at the Hub and my personal life has been a disappointment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Colin, I don't believe that at all. You leave behind the beauty of your words each and every time you write. Thank you, Sir, for the kind words!

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      TattooKitty 4 years ago from Hawaii

      Beautiful hub that forces you to truly think about your impact (both positive & negative) in this world. Thank you for the pondering (and planning) this hub has initiated!! Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Kitty, and thank you for the following. I really appreciate it!

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      frogyfish 4 years ago from Central United States of America

      '...to see the whole board...' That struck me, as I want to live that way, because seeing the whole board means including Eternity too. Beautifully expressed truth, honorable desires with feet put to them.

      Video song spoke it well also. Thank you so much for your faithfulness to truth and the wonderful way you placed it out for us.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Frogy, I only know one way to live now, and that is the path of truth. Thank you so much for your kind comments.

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      rdsparrowriter 4 years ago

      You are an excellent writer :) I always learn something new from you :) Thank you and may God bless you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you rdsparrowriter....we writes live for comments like that one, and I appreciate it very much. God bless you as well.

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      Heaven L Burkes 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Voted up and Kudos across the board! Shared on FB as well!

      Thank you so much! I just bought your ebook - and look forward to reading!!! Beautiful article.

      I love visiting cemeteries as well. I thank the souls for having been on Earth in their lifetime, and who knows, maybe their spirits have returned to create yet another legacy. I especially send love to the children's souls, who barely had a chance to live. I've never been scared in cemeteries - I just feel that there is so much peace and opportunity for gratitude there.

      Many thanks to you - thank you for your beautiful legacy of Light and Love, and please give your dear Bev a big hug from me! :) You two are true soulmates. ;)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leigh, that was a lovely comment and I thank you! And thank you for buying my ebook; I greatly appreciate that gesture.

      No, I have never been afraid in cemeteries; like you, I find them to be quite peaceful, filled with stories past and love given.

      Thank you again, Leigh!

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      Sarah Carlsley 4 years ago from Minnesota

      It's always the most endearing people that leave a legacy in my opinion. The most understated, those are the ones most remembered. Beautiful hub.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pink, that was a great comment! You summed it all up in three sentences. Well done my friend, and thank you!

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      Shasta Matova 4 years ago from USA

      This is so inspiring Bill. The way we treat others doesn't just impact them now, but it impacts them even after you are gone. Hopefully the people under those gravestones have people who remember them. I am glad that you emphasized the fact that you can choose what kind of legacy you leave, and that it isn't too late to change. Voted up and across.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tips, thank you my friend! You know what I miss? That series you did on Sundays.....there are some hubs that are just too good to have disappear. :) I appreciate your kind words and I firmly believe that we can all alter our legacy if we so choose.

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      Suzette Walker suzettetaos 4 years ago from Taos, NM

      You pose a very important question that everyone should ponder in their lives - what will my lasting legacy be? That is so important. What will we leave behind to others, not in the material sense, but as our life? I think you have discovered your legacy, Bill. Knowing you here on HP, i find it amazing you were ever an alcoholic. But, I certainly don't pass judgment on you, because I think it helped to get you were you are today. Sometimes the bad brings the good in us and to me that is what happened in your case. I admire you for admitting your problematic past and learning and growing from it it be the man you are today. We all benefit from your lessons, Bill, and I listen to you as much as I do to a Thoreau or Siddharta. Thank you for sharing your life lessons with us, and how you have found serenity.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzette, what a lovely comment to wake up to this morning. Thank you so much! I think people respect the words of someone who has lived the life they speak about; it's one thing to do an academic discussion of hardship, but I'd rather hear from someone who has lived it and somehow survived. There was a day not that long ago when I would have never opened myself up to complete strangers.....but now I have serenity, and if someone wants to judge me harshly, well, then let them. I am happy and contented!

      Thank you my friend and have a great weekend.

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      FreezeFrame34 4 years ago from Charleston SC

      Great hub as usual; I always enjoy reading your work!

      We should all be worried about what we are leaving behind for our ancestors. We all worry about money, but we should worry more about our positive image, examples taught, and traditions passed down.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Freeze, you hit it right on the nose, but it seems to be a tough concept for some to learn. I'm just glad I learned it before I was too old to remember it. :) Thank you!

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Life experiences brings wisdom, from there you have written such interest article. The moment I became a mother all I had in my mind was the word "legacy". I am more than a mother and my "legacy" interests have expanded to other aspects and people. Thanks for helping direct my thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lastheart, it is always a pleasure having you drop by; you are spoiling me of late. I think we all need focus from time to time; I know I certainly do!

      Thank you my friend!

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      Break of Dawn 4 years ago

      This is truly a beautiful hub. Fine writing indeed! What truly matters here in life is how we treat others. If we are compassionate, kind, loving and sincere to people, animals and the nature that God has given to us, then I believe, we never have to worry about our legacies.

      Thank you and my blessings!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dawn, so good to see you my friend! I have to keep reminding myself who you are. LOL Thank you; these things are what I believe, as I know they are for you as well. It is the only way to live.

      bless you my friend,

      bill

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      AudraLeigh 4 years ago

      I rarely go to cemetaries. However, I went to my Grandparents plots recently in the Jewish side where they are berried. After I left a stone on the top of their plot, I wandered past a plot that read the date of Birth 1897; date of death 2003. He was 106 years old and lived in three centuries...wow! It really made me think about him and what his life was all about! That is rare. /You are right in what you said about watching 5 minutes of a movie..it is not the whole picture! / Legacy...mine and yours..a lot to think about! / What a wonderful read and fragile.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, Audra, I would hope I am judged over my whole performance, and not just my dark years when all I cared about was alcohol. :) I'm trying to make up for it one person at a time.

      So good to have you back; I like to surround myself with quality people and you, my friend, are quality people.

      Thank you!

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      Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Legacies are left behind whether known by just a few or by many people. It all depends upon the connections made in this life. One does not have to be famous to leave a lasting legacy upon future generations. Influence upon lives can be made by family members or others like teachers or even from people never personally met like writers. You may be impacting people long term whom you will never meet personally by your thoughtful writing and good tips about living simply and honestly. What more could be desired for a good legacy? Sharing!

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      AudraLeigh 4 years ago

      Bill :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Friends are a wonderful treasure, Audra! :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Peggy, thank you, and that is my sincere hope. Long after I'm gone, if someone reads one of my articles, and is helped by it, then I'll have left a great legacy! :)

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      Ann Carr 4 years ago from SW England

      Yet another good one billy! I totally agree with your philosophy and hope that my legacy is a good one. The older I get, the more I value my children, my grandchildren, my partner and my friends (including the online ones I've never actually met). The more of those I can help and make happy, the better. It's so much more rewarding too, to see others' joy and comfort, not that a reward is necessary. By the way, the image of you 'skipping' down the road of life brought a smile to my face! Voted up etc. Off to catch up on your other words of wisdom! Have a good day! Ann

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, I may not skip as quickly as I once did, but I still skip! :) I love life today, and I want everyone else to love life as well. My legacy, I guess, will be the amount of love I can share in this lifetime.

      Thank you again, Ann! Have a great weekend!

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      Highland Terrier 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Inspirational again. well done and well written. And to add a little cheer

      I've bought the novel.

      So enjoy your day and the same to Bev.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Highland, what a wonderful thing for you to do. Thank you so much; I truly appreciate it.

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      Catherine Taylor 4 years ago from Canada

      Always food for thought in your writing bb. I love your message of hope and transformation. What a wonderful world we would live in if all people considered what their legacy would be.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thunder, I'm afraid that would require some introspection and reflections, and for some people those are dirty words. :) I'm glad you enjoy my stuff; I appreciate you stopping by twice today.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Oh yes my dear friend Billy another true gem;we are indeed kindred spirits.

      I also have an interest in visiting cemeteries and the first time myself and Dai spent a weekend away together we traveled to Bristol and surrounding area to comb the cemeteries as he was studying his family tree!!There is a story here and I think I have published a hub on this particular adventure!!!It is so interesting to read some of the inscriptions but as you say often there is not enough.

      Now then what would I like my legacy to be ???

      I know without a doubt that I have to share my journey from a badly abused little girl to being married to an abusive alcoholic for 26 years ; coping with the passing of my beautiful sister and my wonderful daughter. All this sounds so horrendous but this is not a story of a victim ;it is not a story of acute sadness and failure;it is indeed a story of overcoming;of surviving and of finally living my life as ME.

      Despite the bleak days I have so many happy memories as a child of running free in the countryside with my Beagle Lassie and learning so much from my beloved Mother Nature.

      I also have so many happy memories of bringing up my six children;of sharing my love of Mother Nature with them. Memories of being the mother I had always secretly wanted for myself as a child.

      Today I stand proud and tall beside my soul mate Dai; amongst my wonderful family and also surrounded by my friends for life and one of these you are without a doubt Billy.

      You have inspired me ;you have shown kindness and care and you are so admired by everyone on here.Everyone loves you Billy and Bev is one very lucky lady;but I am sure she knows this.

      I can remember thinking at one point that I was repeating my story a little too often and people would get fed up of hearing about it all but I always remember your advice that we have to do this in order to share and to help others.

      Your FB page H.O.W Billy is what you are all about : a man with a big heart and I know that it is going to go from strength to strength and I hope I can play a part in its success.

      Thank you billybuc for being you.

      This will be your legacy.

      Lots of love and thanks to you my dear friend from my little corner of Wales.

      Eddy.

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      LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Beautiful piece! My lagecy will probably as blank as my tombstone, with not even my name on it! Ok, Ok, I am a pessimist! :) but seriously, never gave it a thought! And I know for sure you have created quite a legacy here, my friend, and it's all good! Enjoyed reading this very much; great food for thought...... Sharing and everything!

      Have a great new years.....

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzie, I don't believe that for a second....your legacy will be one of love and compassion, and that is a darn good legacy. Thank you and Happy New Year to you as well.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, what a lovely message to wake up to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

      No my dear, I do not think you can tell your story too often. It is a story of overcoming and persistence....a story of love and compassion....people need your story....we need you....and I hope you keep tenderly sharing your story with us all.

      I hope my legacy is one to be proud of; I think it is, and there is still time to add to it. :)

      love,

      bill

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      Billy,

      This is an awesome hub and I applaud you for the lifestyle choices you have recently made. My father never thought much about his legacy until he was in his late 70s. At that time he found peace with God and declared himself a "born again Christian." When you talk about legacies, a lot of people want to be known for how much money they had or the accolades they accumulated in their work. I guess people write books because they want their writings to be part of their legacy. Why do people donate money to charities? Maybe a plaque will be engraved on a wall or a building with their name. Still other people aren't really concerned about how successful they were in life or where they graduated from college. When I read the remarks of my classmates at the 50th reunion which I didn't attend, I saw that many people just wanted to be remembered as a great caring father or mother or grandmother and grandfather. As for myself, I hope to remembered as a very good teacher who inspired at least one person in their life. Voted up and shared with followers and on Facebook. Also Pinning.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Paul! Can you imagine, inspiring one person to lead a better and more enriched life? What a tremendous legacy of love and compassion that is! Thank you for a great comment my friend.

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      Audrey Howitt 4 years ago from California

      An interesting and introspective hub--you raise important questions for us to think about--

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Audrey! Just some random thoughts I was having one day.

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      MargaritaEden 4 years ago from Oregon

      Bill, I just love your writing, I truly enjoy reading your hubs, "I have come to realize over the years that we are all imperfect and we are all capable of acts of debasement but also incredible acts of kindness and love." that is so so true 100 % agree with you! It is interesting reading writing on the headstones in the cemetery, you can learn something from reading them.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Margarita! You and I got separated somehow over the months and I'm sorry about that. I like you as a person and enjoy your writing. I'll try to be more diligent about visiting you in the future.

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      MargaritaEden 4 years ago from Oregon

      Oh Bill it's just I have not been writing lately that much, life got really busy, so I was not on here very much at all. But I think I will start visiting Hubpages more often again :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Margarita, that's good to know. I thought it was my fault. LOL I'm glad you are back.

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      Live To Write 4 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      I sooo often ponder the questions that you brought up Bill, and I must say the answers that come I pray they are right... but mostly i'd rather people let my actions speak louder

      you for one will leave an incredible legacy... you works haven't gone unnoticed and this article is a testament to that

      Well done...

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Laurinzo, that is my hope as well, that my actions speak louder than my words. Thank you my friend. I hope you are well and happy.

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      skye2day 4 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      billy buc. unforgettable. Well my friend you have touched many hearts and that is only the ones I see at hub pages. Keep on brother. Keep the light shining. Amazing how our legacy changes with age, as you mentioned. I can only hope and pray that I touch hearts with the truth found in Jesus. He took our sin so we could be made right with God and have eternal life, Amen. It is a choice we make in this lifetime. I pray I pass that message of hope around to lost and hurting hearts. God turned this wretched sinner into a new creature.

      He does work all things for the good for those that love Him. Thank you for writing this wonderful works bill. Keep pressing on my precious friend. You will Phil 4:13 Love you in Christ, your sista Skye.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Skye, you are a doll, and I say that without the utmost respect. Thank you! I'm just writing what's in my heart; the words form themselves when we allow our heart to deliver the message. :)

      Blessings to you, and keep spreading the message of love and compassion for others.

      bill

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      DREAM ON 4 years ago

      Every hub you write it is so in depth and so insightful.I just want to give you the deepest sincere thank you.You raise questions and with that I have to go look for answers.I run out of time in my day but I give it one hell of a try each and every day.My legacy would be on my tombstone.I would put a window in place of my headstone and say when you think you know every thing there is to know look again.Each day is different and bring out the good and throw the bad back in to make the good even better.We are all live so many different lives and the common bond that makes me feel the greatest is I get to share what I don't know and never stop asking Why?Then when that day comes where I meet my end.I look at it as one wild ride where I get off and you get on and then the ride goes on once again.So we all go on to live and inspire not just today but every day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dream On, I love that comment. Yes, I like and appreciate your kind words, but I love the last part...we all go on to live and inspire not just today but every day. How cool is that?

      Wonderful comment my friend. I would say you have this reflection thing down pat. :)

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      Ruth McCollum 4 years ago from Lake Oswego, Oregon

      Hopefully my legacy will be my family. Hopefully I will live thru each of them, a little part of me inside..... Having said that I too have a fondness for old barns, cemetaries and exploring things I haven't seen! great hub as always Billy!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rusti, I have no doubt that your legacy will be one of love. :) Any lover of old barns is a friend of mine. Thank you!

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      Ruth McCollum 4 years ago from Lake Oswego, Oregon

      Awww billy that is so sweet, thankyou.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rusti, sweet and true. :)

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      Anna Haven 4 years ago from Scotland

      This was open, honest and spoken from the heart. The very fact you have turned your life around is something you must be so proud of and the huge amount of support and love shown in your comments from everyone must make you even prouder. An outstanding hub with an insight into the uplifting legacy of a man who believed in change and then made it happen :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, thank you for this gracious words. I have been blessed on HubPages and the comments prove that, but I have also been blessed in life. It all could have turned out much worse if it were not for some people who would not stop loving me. :)

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      Anna Haven 4 years ago from Scotland

      You are indeed a lucky man then :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I am, Anna, and thank you!

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      LaDena Campbell 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

      Bill - love this! I also worry about the legacy I am leaving behind. And I love taking drives through the country looking at cemeteries and old buildings. My favorite finds are old schools!

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      Gary R. Smith 4 years ago from the Head to the Heart

      Billybuc,

      You seem to me a man who has grown much in wisdom and understanding, with a well rounded view of life and humans.

      Your honest and compassionate approach is greatly valued. I will reflect on your statement 'I have grown to appreciate the human race...'

      Presently I am more wondering at the human race than fascinated by it. Helpful though to see the jewels of beauty in the midst. The direction one focuses on plays a role. I seem to re-integrate each day, through insights picked up and self-reflection. Thank you for the gift of your insights.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LaDena, thank you for stopping by. Old barns are my favorite. I really need to go for a drive soon.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Emanate, that was a lovely comment. Truthfully, I am not always appreciative of the human race, but I am at least on the plus side of the ledger now. :) Thank you my friend.

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      Linda Rogers 3 years ago from Minnesota

      Dearest Billy~every time I read one of your hubs, I find myself deep in my heart. I think, I feel, etc..you always get me so in my heart and thinking of what I need to do to make my life and others lives, better. You are a true master of the written word. You teach and touch those that read your down to earth, yet wisdom filled, articles. Your the best my friend and I feel blessed to know you. Your a healer in every sense of the word. Writing is your mission to help and teach others.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Twin, all I can say is thank you. I have a hard time accepting such kind words, but I know they are genuine and they mean a great deal to me. I am a teacher and a writer, and my hope is to empower others to feel as good about themselves as I feel about myself. If I have done that then I am a very happy writer. Thank you!

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      Denizee 3 years ago

      Very diverse and thought provoking piece. Indeed the "hearts" of adventurers and those that live life with passion take it one step further in searching for things others take for granted in life. In tune with your write I imagine that only the famous leave well-known legacies when they pass; but to families such as mine who have lost family we know and we keep their legacy alive in memory. My worst nightmare was the loss of my oldest son at the age of 29. I'm still finding ways to heal - but for him I believe he found his niche in life by volunteering for a local fire department at the age of 16 then rising through the ranks to be sworn in as Chief of Fire/Rescue/EMT services by the tender age of 27. He was a 9/11 First Responder and he spent his time in life well by saving other people. He made that his life and with it found happiness. I pray I can only leave an impact in some way when it's my time and an impact should be equal to a legacy for all of us. Thank you for such depth, imagery, music and photos.

      Voted up.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Denizee, thank you for sharing your personal experience, pain and healing. I choose to believe that most of make a huge impact during our time here.....we often don't realize that fact, but we do. :)

      I would have liked your son.

      bill

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      Beth37 3 years ago

      That's a great hub. I need to start asking myself this. I went thru so much for the past few years where I just wanted to "get thru" this life, but now I need to live again, and I need to ask myself what my legacy will be. Thank you BB. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beth, I think it's an important question and that few ask. Thank you for visiting and I hope you are well and happy.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      I have to say I have mixed feeling when I find a hub of yours that I have not read...is it because I was not paying attention, because you wrote it before I knew you, or did I just miss it? Anyway, I found this now.

      You know me fairly well so it should come as no surprise that my legacy, at least I hope, will be one of love and compassion...with a little humor thrown in on the side. We pass through this way once and though it may not seem so it is all too quickly. There isn't enough time for hate or selfishness.

      As always, Bill, you make us stop and think!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, there is no way for you to keep up with all of my writing. You do, after all, have a life to live. LOL I appreciate any time you find to visit my site. And no, there is not enough time for hate or selfishness.

      I feel pretty good about your legacy, Mary. :)

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      Heaven L Burkes 3 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Just stopping in to say HI, since I was notified of the new comment. I LOVE your legacy of giving and kindness! Much like someone else I know and admire! :) Blessings to you, dear BillyBuc! :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leigh, I feel terrible. You have slipped through the cracks and I have not been by to visit you in awhile. I hope you are well and thank you for taking the time to visit me.

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      The Frog Princess 3 years ago from Florence area of the Great Pee Dee of South Carolina

      Enjoyed. And I might add my life is so much more down to earth today. I do stop and smell the roses and know that life can be relaxing as each new day takes us to many new turns in life. As we age we come to realize what adventures we have had along the way while stopping to take a rest and see what God has brought before our eyes in nature, man made and life itself. Enjoyed your outing as if I were a fly upon your shoulder for the ride. Thanking for you great pen and pencil or should I say today for great laptop keys today:)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Frog Princess, thank you for visiting. I just took a look at your site....two years and four hubs? I'm honored you took the time to stop by here and comment. You are so right about growing older and enjoying it all. I am having the time of my life and it's all because I simplified. :)

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      Sonya Artis 3 years ago from Kansas City, MO/Ft. Lauderdale, FL

      Excellent hub. I don't take the gift of life lightly either, and I always say when I pass on I want to leave more than just a tombstone that a handful of people will remember me by. Voted up.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sonya, with that attitude how can you fail? You are already a winner my friend. Thank you!

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Another fantastic hub. This part hit home a great deal "I know people who have tragically lost loved ones; they had every reason known to man to become bitter and depressed and see only darkness and yet they have moved forward..." I know only one person who has truly moved forward without taking their frustrations out on other people and I've commended her for that ability. I have personally tried to accomplish that same feat and while I may have come close once or twice, I'm still not there. But I'll always move forward! Thanks for writing this. It's one of those hubs that'll leave me thinking about exactly what my legacy is. P.S. I take pics of old cemetaries as well. There's one about 1/2 hour-some tombstones have names and some just have a patch of dirt.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning Liz and thank you for reading one of my old hubs. Living simple is the only way for this boy, and trying to leave a good legacy is always on my mind.....as, I think, it should be for everyone. We are judged by our actions and how we treat others....I hope I pass the test. :)

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      NiaLee 3 years ago from BIG APPLE

      Say, say, say, Billybuc, what a pleasure to read you and dive in a piece of your mind, in your experience and wisdom. That is a conversation I would have had (in part) with my dad. I would love to leave a thread of Light, Love, Peace, Compassion...and my enthusiasm for music, writing, arts and fellow humans. Love and peace to you and all

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nia, thank you for stopping by and I'm glad you enjoyed this piece of my mind. :)

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      Deborah-Diane 3 years ago from Orange County, California

      Thanks for stopping by one of my hubs to say "hello." I love this hub that you have written. I agree that material possessions leave us feeling empty inside. We really do need to think about the legacy we leave behind ... and that living simply can enhance that legacy. Thanks for a beautiful, thoughtful post.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hi Deborah-Diane!

      I will never forget that you were my first comment after I joined HP....I'm just finding it hard to visit all of my followers these days. :)

      I agree with what you say....and we are living proof of it here at our home.

      Thank you so much.

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      Jatinder Joshi 3 years ago from Whitby, Ontario, Canada

      I really enjoyed reading this hub - it is plain brilliant. You have so very rightly emphasised that the right to choose rests with the individual, in every circumstance but we go about blaming external circumstances. Your personal revelations add to the honesty of the 'choices'. Really great.

      On the subject of choice, I want to finish this comment with something that I had read many years ago and which had a profound impact on my thinking. It said,

      "What you meet in life is destiny, How you meet it is self effort" - Sri Sathya Sai Baba.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jatinder! I love that last quote you shared with us. Well done my friend and oh so true.

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      JPSO138 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

      Very creative. It's like reading a novel... I become an instant follower.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      JPS0138, thank you so much. You paid me a high compliment and I am appreciative.

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      Dee aka Nonna 3 years ago

      Like you, I am hoping I have enough time left on this planet to leave a real legacy. One that my family, especially, my grandchildren can be proud of. Great hub. Really enjoyed it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dee, let's hope we both have many more years in which to accomplish that task. Thanks as always and enjoy the heck out of your day.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

      Billy, I know I read this before, but somehow forgot how beautiful it is.

      I am still working on my family tree and what you write about the cemeteries, I like, but there are some sayings that I remember reading about. Like: "Under these trees, and under this sod, is the body of Johnathan Please, he is not here but only his pod, he has shell out his peas and gone to his God," or "Here lies a man whose crown was won by blowing into an empty gun."

      Voting up, UABI and shared, booked marked so I will be back to this one.

      Shyron

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shyron, thank you for the drive by. :) Interesting sayings....Irish by any chance?

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

      Could not tell, but guessing, I would say yes.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sure sounds Irish. :)

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

      Yes it does. My mother was 1/2 Irish, 1/4 Cherokee and 1/4 Dutch. My father 1/2 Cherokee and 1/2 Sweed. That makes me a Duke's mixture.

      I would also guess that you are Irish.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I am, Shyron, although I'm adopted so I'm not betting any money on it. :)

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

      Have you had any leads in finding your birth mother? I hope so!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      No I haven't Shyron, but thank you for asking. That was nice of you.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

      You are welcome. Wish I could help.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shyron, I love your heart and compassion...thank you again.

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      howtopam 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      So many people appear to be driven from a young age to aspire to achieve the expectations of others without ever thoughtfully considering who they were created to be. It is usually only after many life experiences in an unsatisfied quest for fulfilment that people are persuaded to search their inner being for the answers to purpose in life that conquests in the outer world were unable to provide.

      It is through exploring our deepest passions that we discover who we really are and it is by exposing those desires to the world through our character that we begin to be seen by others as a person with a solid sense of being. We need to put less emphasis on developing a personal image of what we have been programmed to believe others are encouraging us to be. Living life should be a personal experience through which every human being can design their individuality. Until we get to know ourselves intimately our total purpose for existence is a make up of what we perceived that others have desired us to be. There is very little comfort in feeling compelled live a life designed by others and drives one away from their true destiny.

      Nice inspirational hub.

      howtopam

      Pamela

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, I usually have something to add to a comment but you said it beautifully. Thank you for this wonderful reflection and truth.

      bill

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Bill, a very interesting and thought provoking article ! You have rightly stressed on simple living and what an invigorating concept like leaving behind a legacy. To me, simplicity means just to be human and nothing less, nothing more. Legacy for me is our whole outlook of living and a total sum of our prominent actions and fundamental thoughts. Our actions and thoughts give directions to our life and vibrate the lives of all people around us. When we pack up, this legacy still works and influences the people known to us. This hub is so useful that we should take note of the valuable content of this in order to brighten our lives and others as well. I would love to read this beautiful hub again and again to savor it's great purpose. Thank you, Bill and much happiness and all peace. :-)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Harishprasad, thank you so much for your kind words. Life is so simple, but we seem to have a need to complicate it. I am so much happier living a simple lifestyle.

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      Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

      I too have always had a fondness of cemeteries. Where some find only the backdrop to a horror story or a place of sadness, I always find solace and serenity.

      When we talk of legacy, the truth is so much in the eye of the beholder. So much of my life I put on success, and I don't feel very successful a lot of the time. As a result I shut out those I care about because I feel like a failure. You can lose all your time that way, worrying about what you could have been rather than what you can be.

      As always, Billy, a wonderful, thought provoking reflection.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Larry, a great reflection my friend. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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      Judy Specht 2 years ago from California

      My mother and father left amazing legacies. I must have something important to do or cancer would have gotten me some time ago. Sometimes you just do what you have to do. I strongly believe that looking forward is more productive than looking backward. Bless you once again for encouraging us.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      tireless, thanks for sharing that beautiful sentiment. I happen to agree with you. :)

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      Peg Cole 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Stephen Covey tells us to begin with the end in mind. I believe that you found out this truth and used it to transform your life. Seeking out clues of the departed souls in graveyards is also a pastime of mine. It makes us wonder what our tombstone will say about us. Such a small space to sum up our lives.

      Congratulations on turning your life around. Well done.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Peg, and I love your comment...what will out tombstone say about us? Food for thought.

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      Debbie Villines 2 years ago from Iowa

      Hello billybuc, I so enjoyed this hub, made me think of things in my life, and how many changes I need to make, I enjoyed this video too; nice choice, I wanted to thank you for following me.

      I need to become more active with hubpages.com.

      I also would like to add, I enjoy commentaries too; I have a close feeling with so many there, somehow, even just driving through them, if I could do my daily walks through them I would, especially where my mother and brother lies, peacefully...and my grandparents, and many other family relatives are sleeping in peace. Well some are at peace and some are restless souls, its hard to explain it, just is. thanks again; for stopping by my profile, and have a great day;) Keep on smiling and keep on dreaming.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Debbie, what a wonderful comment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts my new friend.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 2 years ago from Philippines

      I think the legacy you will leave behind is the sheer honesty with which you have shared your life in your hubs, and the fact that through it all you ended well. You know, like that Shirley Maclaine song, "It's not where you start but where you finish." Before I was always reading your latest hubs. By reading your older ones, I realize you are very different from the person I imagined you to be. I thought you were a good man who never did anything wrong. I'm so glad that I have gone through your older hubs to know that you are a man of depth and texture.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mona, thank you so much. Oh my dear yes, I have done wrong, but at least I recognized it so I could correct it. I appreciate your kind words very much.

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      Pamela Lipscomb 2 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      I was asking the Lord only this to to help me leave an positive legacy when I die. I remember my Mom and my Dad's funeral and everyone held them in such high esteem. I don't want to be famous or anything. But like the old Baptism song, " Let the works I've done Speak for Me"

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      2besure, beautiful reflection my friend. Famous is for other people...I'll settle for being remembered as a good person.

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      H C Palting 2 years ago from East Coast

      I had to pop back and share a personal experience after the last two beautiful comments here. I was so warmed by the fact that at my father's funeral (he went far too soon) there was standing room only and some people who could not drive walked in the rain to pay their last respects, including a very elderly former babysitter of mine. I will never forget that. I admire my dad for being dad and many people, some of whom I'd never met, admired him as well for his kindness and generosity. I don't think I can accurately express how much that means to me to this day. Being remembered as good person, leaving a positive legacy, speaks volumes and matters more than fame ever could.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Express, I greatly appreciate you sharing that story about your father. Thank you so much for opening your heart so that others might learn.

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      Sandy Mertens 2 years ago from Wisconsin

      This is very inspirational reading about your own legacy of life.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sandy, and I'm glad you are with us here at HP.

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      social thoughts 2 years ago from New Jersey

      I like this article a lot. It's more about exploration of self than just the legacy we leave. I don't think our legacy is as controlled as we want it to be. We don't always know when we'll pass on, so we just have to make the most of each day.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Social thoughts, I know that quite well. I doubt my father thought he would pass on at 49 yrs, but he did. I rarely forget that painful lesson, and I try to live each day to the fullest. I'm not always successful, but I do try more often than not. Anyway, thank you.

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      social thoughts 2 years ago from New Jersey

      I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Social thoughts, that is very kind of you. Thank you! With his life, and with his death, I learned wonderful lessons.

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      Jim 2 years ago from Kansas

      Everyone should stop to consider what their legacy will be. Thanks for reminding me to think about it.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are very welcome, Pawpaw...thank you!

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      Giovanna Sanguinetti 2 years ago from London UK

      I love this Hub. I believe in simple living. My legacy - I have no idea what that will be - but I do wonder!

      CONGRATULATIONS on your award. I really look forward to reading your Hubs and I'm very pleased to meet you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Adventuretravels, thank you for the kind words and for the following. Welcome to HP, and I look forward to knowing you better, as a writer and a person.

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      Merry Citarella 2 years ago from Oregon's Southern Coast

      So enjoyed reading this BillyBuc. I so agree that simple living is something to strive for. Perhaps it's age that brings that out. All the years working hard, accumulating, only to have to work harder to maintain it all, seems so unimportant at the end of it. My wish is that those younger could learn to appreciate simplicity early on. Bookmarking to read again later. Thanks for sharing!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Merrci, I believe you are right for the most part. Growing older gives us a perspective we don't have when we are young and chasing our own tail....best wishes to you and thank you.

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      Elsie Hagley 2 years ago from New Zealand

      Thanks BillyBuc for a interesting subject, it has got me thinking about it, after reading this hub, what will mine be? as you said "the choice is ours and ours alone". Enjoyed it very much.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Elsie! I'm so happy that you enjoyed it.

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      Maria K 2 years ago from Bangalore

      Thank you for this wonderful hub. I am in my early 30's but I can relate to some of the thoughts you have articulated here. I also look at graves and wonder about those people and their lives. Thanks again for this touching piece and it's great to meet you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      write-with-coffee, thank you so much...and it is a pleasure meeting you as well.

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      Shiela Gerona 2 years ago from Philippines

      One of the best topics to be written by a writer is his or her own life experiences. This is something unique. Time will pass by, a writer's published article will speak in behalf of him or her. This is something that can be shared through generations. Great hub indeed. Voted up Sir.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PinoyMom, I love how you described it, and isn't that a wonderful thought, that our words will live on forever? Thank you!

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      Besarien 2 years ago

      Beautifully said, billybuc! It is never too late to make a change for the better. All of us can find plenty of improvements to make as well!

      There is an old historic cemetery near to where I live here in Asheville. O. Henry and Thomas Wolfe are both buried there. It has above ground crypts, intricate stonework, angel statuary, ancient oaks, fountains and gardens everywhere. The grounds are immaculately kept. It reminds me that cemeteries are as much for the living- places to remember the past and plan for the future. It is an inspiring place too, very beautiful and sad. Lots of locals go there to write and paint.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Besarien, thank you for reflecting upon that cemetery near Asheville. If I were there I would be one of those writing.

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      amazmerizing 2 years ago from PACIFIC NORTHWEST, USA

      Excellent hub! I been there too, and I concur! Hat's off to ye!!! ;)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, amazmerizing. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Word 22 months ago from Chicago

      Good morning billybuc, this was a nice read. I do so much that I'm not sure of a legacy. All I know is, I display a lot of love, enjoy doing the best of what I do and try to see the good in people. That's it. Have a great day!

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      Bill Holland 22 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Word, I can't imagine a better legacy than to live a life of love. Pax vobiscum to you, my friend, and thank you.

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      Yalul 22 months ago from Philippines

      Yes we have a choice inasmuch as in shaping how we want people to remember us. But when we're gone we really can't know for sure if we are being remembered the way we wanted to be remembered. I think it is really up to the people who will remain to determine what our legacy is. In my case for instance, I am in a certain position in our organization, but I never allowed my stature to get in my head. So I am probably the most approachable one in my kind, because I have always wanted to be close to the people. Because at the end of the day, it is them who really keeps the organization running. But will my pro-people orientation be my legacy? Well maybe if I retire with my sanity intact and people will pay nice tribute to me, I will know. But I can't be too sure for now.

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      Bill Holland 22 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for your thoughts, Yalul! Interesting for sure and food for thought. I appreciate it.

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      Deborah Carr 21 months ago from Orange County, California

      If you and your wife are ever in the Napa Valley, you will want to stop by the St. Helena cemetery. There you will see the grave plots of some of the famous families in the wine industry ... Berringers, Gallo, etc. As for my legacy, I leave behind my children, grandchildren and the words I have written.

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      Bill Holland 21 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Deborah....I like your legacy. Maybe some day we'll make it back to the Napa Valley. I would love to see that cemetery.

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      frozenink 21 months ago

      Wonderful hub, Billy. I think it is fascinating for you to cover the variety of contents as well as the encapsulated emotions. I totally agree that we are the authors of our legacy, and not fate. And to live life meaningfully, one way is to first identify what kind of legacy we want to leave behind.

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      Bill Holland 21 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you again Frozenink. I think, at the very least, it is an interesting way to evaluate our lives while we are still alive...provided we are honest with ourselves. :)

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      frozenink 21 months ago

      Actually to think about it again, my dad once asked me long time ago about what kind of legacy I wanna leave behind; what kind of things do I want people to remember me by. I was a kid back then. I had no idea!

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      Bill Holland 21 months ago from Olympia, WA

      frozenink, I would have been clueless as a kid. Probably would have said entertain people as a professional baseball player. :)

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      frozenink 21 months ago

      Nice. That's interesting. Actually, that is really a way to have yourself remembered. At present, you are also entertaining people as a proud writer of a thousand Hubs. That works as well. =)

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      Bill Holland 21 months ago from Olympia, WA

      It does for sure, frozenink. I hadn't thought of my writing as a legacy until about a year ago. Now I smile when I think of it.

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      stella vadakin 20 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      We can continue to change for the better each day we have left on earth. It is our choice. I could never understand how people get older and still act stupid. Great Hub, Stella

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      Bill Holland 20 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Stella, great line about getting older and stupider. It sure seems that way for some, doesn't it? Thanks for your thoughts...and the chuckle.

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      A N Onymous 16 months ago from Wherever there is sincere fun and friendship being shared.

      Some gravestones tell a brief story of the deceased. I wonder whether this one did, or not: "John Burns."

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Rumpled, thanks for stopping by. As for John Burns, I guess only John can say for sure. :)

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      Shaloo Walia 15 months ago

      A thought provoking hub!

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      Bill Holland 15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Swalia. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Deborah Demander 14 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      This is such a great article. I appreciate the challenge to think about the legacy I will leave behind.

      We all want to matter, but honestly, we are just a blip in the cosmos.

      Thanks for writing.

      Namaste

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      Bill Holland 14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Deborah, a blip we are for sure....perhaps it just comes down to the quality of blip. :) Thank you for stopping by and Happy Monday to you.

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      Missy Smith 13 months ago from Florida

      This was an interesting read. I don't know what my legacy will be when I'm gone. I'll let the ones who knew me well decide that. I'll just be me while I'm here. I'll continue to live this life on my own terms, trying not to be swayed by others and their opinions and misconceptions of the person I am or should be.

      You and Bev must have great fun going out and discovering the world, and all the life in it, and the history behind us. Cemeteries have always intrigued me too. I bet you couldn't guess that about me. lol. There is this very old one that we used to take hay rides to on Halloween. So many buried there, but it was out far in the woods, and no one really kept it up; the headstones very old and vague with words. It does make you wonder.

      I love to read hubs like this. Just simply asking a question, so we can ponder the answer and reading the lovely adventures you and your wife take. I liked this one very much, Bill. :)

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      Bill Holland 13 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Missy! Just asking the question occasionally gives me time to ponder my place and purpose in this world....and that, in turn, determines my direction.

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      Geri McClymont 12 months ago from Colorado

      Billy: Your title poses a very sober and thought-provoking question, one I find myself reflecting on from time to time. It is, sadly, so true that we are often quick to judge others based on a single action or after knowing them for only a short time.

      I like how you used the example of Jesus as somebody who left a legacy of loving others.

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      Bill Holland 12 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Gerimcclym, thank you for stopping by. I'm so glad you enjoyed this message.

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      Vladimir Karas 10 months ago from Canada

      Billybuc - Let me join this long line of commenters by saying that you have touched a deep theme of our life's purpose. It reminds me of my own visits to the huge city cemetery back in my native Europe. Actually, the very first time for me was when I was 13 or so, as I wanted to defeat my childhood fear of dark once and for all - so, driven by the budding spirit in me I went to the cemetery by myself - at midnight. I sweated bullets sitting in front of an unknown grave, but after some time I was free.

      For the rest of the hour or so, I just sat there, looking down the hill at the neon cloud over the city, philosophising about life of all those down there destined to end up coming "up here" - while the great majority not appreciating their time still left to them.

      Thank you for sharing this interesting hub.

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      Bill Holland 10 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Val, what a wonderful reflection for a 13 yr old to have. My goodness, you were light years ahead of me at that age. All I could think about were girls. LOL Thank you for sharing that wonderful story.

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      Missy 9 months ago from The Midwest

      Interesting post. I enjoyed the chess board analogy. Thanks for acknowledging that humans are complicated beings.

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      Bill Holland 9 months ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, Mommy, and thanks for stopping by.

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      Bill Russo 7 months ago from Cape Cod

      The love of things faded and antiquated, is a path to a past sadly outdated. It's a way to peel back today's doors, and sit for a moment in a place and time not yours.

      In the same way, when one meets a very young person - whether a grandchild or the youngster of friends - he or she is able to pierce the restraints of the present and sit for a moment in a future era.

      No other writer can craft such evocative prose as you Mr. Holland. Invoking and provoking delicious thoughts and dialogues. That is your legacy!

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      Bill Holland 7 months ago from Olympia, WA

      And Bill, those are wonderful words of praise, and I thank you. I will try to live up to those words, my friend.

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      SA Williams 2 months ago from United States

      Thought provoking and honest. Thank you for sharing Bill.

      “Simplicity, patience, compassion.

      These three are your greatest treasures.

      Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.

      Patient with both friends and enemies,

      you accord with the way things are.

      Compassionate toward yourself,

      you reconcile all beings in the world.”

      ― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Beautiful, SA! Thank you for sharing Lao Tzu's words. I'm going to enjoy our online friendship. Look me up on Facebook if you get the chance. I'm under Bill Holland in Olympia.

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      SA Williams 2 months ago from United States

      You're Welcome and Thanks :)

      Hubpages is the only "social networking" I do. So, we'll have to connect on HubPages :) I do have a Flipboard, but that's just to post articles from here (hardly a social site).

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Then HP it is. Have a great weekend, SA!

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 7 days ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      Great hub and I had a nice read. Thank you for sharing your views. Keep on writing such topics normally writers avoid. All the best.

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      Bill Holland 7 days ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sunil! I am so happy that you enjoyed my thoughts.

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      Louise Elcross 7 days ago from UK

      Thanks Billy for such a heart warming lovely hub. I love the way you write from the heart and with such honesty. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 7 days ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Louise! It's the only way I know to write, so good thing people enjoy it. :)

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