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Living Simple: What Will Your Legacy Be?

Updated on August 27, 2013
Exploring an old graveyard.
Exploring an old graveyard. | Source
Bev on the hunt for history.
Bev on the hunt for history. | Source
Another of our great finds on one of our drives in the country.
Another of our great finds on one of our drives in the country. | Source

Bev and I are quite fond of drives in the country when time allows. We grab our cameras and head off to sites yet unseen in hopes of finding memories for the future. Inevitably we will stop to take pictures of old barns as we both have a love of all things old. The other place we can be counted on to visit is any cemetery we have previously not seen.

For years I have roamed cemeteries, reading the tombstones, trying in some small way to divine what each person must have been like during life. Usually I am disappointed because so little is written on the tombstone and it leaves me with a feeling of emptiness, like meeting someone you think you will like but never getting the chance to form a meaningful relationship.

When I was younger I would not have been able to explain this hold that cemeteries had over me but as I have grown older I think I understand a little bit better. I have grown to appreciate the human race and I now find fascination where once there was condemnation. I have come to realize over the years that we are all imperfect and we are all capable of acts of debasement but also incredible acts of kindness and love. We are, in fact, a marvel to me and I strive to hear or read as many stories of people as possible.

THE WHOLE PICTURE

To try to understand a person based on one act or several years of their life is a foolish undertaking. We are such complicated beings and the whole picture of a person cannot be seen simply by watching several frames of the movie that is their life. Imagine going to the movie theater and watching five minutes in the middle of the movie and then leaving for home where you will write a movie review for the local newspaper. How can that possibly be done? And yet so often we make a snap judgment about others based on one act or just a small portion of their life.

Rather a person is the sum total of all of their experiences, all of their thoughts and words and actions, and in order to truly know that person one must attempt, and here I am borrowing an old chess term, to see the whole board rather than just the movement of one or two pieces on that board.

WHAT IS A LEGACY?

Webster’s tells us that legacy means: something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past<thelegacyof the ancient philosophers>. In other words, a legacy is something passed down to others and in most connotations we are referring to something passed down after death, i.e. Jesus left a legacy of ’love thy neighbor’ to his followers.

Note that ‘love thy neighbor’ is one quality, belief or teaching used in this case to describe the whole man known as Jesus. There can be very little doubt that the life of Jesus was made up of hundreds of thousands of actions, words and thoughts but his legacy is generally considered having to do with a general them of love. In a similar vein it could be argued that the legacy of Martin Luther King was racial equality even though his life was much more complicated than that; if one were to take individual moments from King’s life one might see a different legacy, but viewed in totality the legacy becomes something altogether different.

WHAT IS MY LEGACY?

I would hope that I still have some time left on this planet in which to add to my growing legacy. I would also hope that my legacy is not based on any one action, word or thought taken from my life. This morning I yelled at the dog for chewing on my pant leg; I would hope that based on that action alone my legacy would not be that of an animal hater for in fact I have owned and loved many animals over the years.

What is my legacy? It is an interesting question to ponder as I skip down the road of life. Without a doubt I have had my dark days when I did harm to myself and others. Is my legacy those dark days when alcohol ruled my life? Is my legacy one of divorce and failed businesses? Perhaps my legacy is one of broken hearts, lies and promises left unfulfilled?

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Alcoholism-My-Personal-Story

On the other hand my legacy may be of the love I feel now, a love that is given equally to everyone I meet. It may well be a legacy overflowing with kindness and acts of service and mercy.

From my standpoint the beauty of all this is that I still have time to choose what my legacy will be and make no mistake about it, this is a matter of choice. I made the choice a little over five years ago to turn my life around. Gone is the alcohol; gone is the ego that so controlled my life. In their place I have substituted humility and empathy, compassion and love. I still have time, or so I hope, to re-write my legacy so that it is something I can be proud of when my days come to an end. It is my choice!

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Lifestyle-Choices-A-Matter-Of-Priorities

WHAT WILL YOUR LEGACY BE?

I will repeat a statement of fact: you can choose what your legacy will be. I have known some incredible people during my lifetime, people who have overcome horrible lives, some of their own making, and emerged pillars of humanity. They made that choice. One does not just wake up one morning a changed human being. Change so monumental as to be noticed during one’s lifetime and after death requires a decision to make that change.

Fate does not determine our legacy; fate is at times a determining factor or impetus that brings about change but the final decision is ours. I know people who have tragically lost loved ones; they had every reason known to man to become bitter and depressed and see only darkness and yet they have moved forward and not allowed the light to disappear from their lives. We often read stories in the newspaper of mothers who have lost children to cancer; instead of wallowing in grief they have taken up the cause and promoted cancer research. They made the decision that their legacy was not going to be one of grief but rather one of education and support for other cancer victims.

So I repeat: WHAT WILL YOUR LEGACY BE?

THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND YOURS ALONE

I have said often that I value empathy and compassion much more than I value sympathy. If I am able to understand how a person feels then I can act accordingly and be of some value to that person. To simply give sympathy and move on is to me a hollow act. It is much too easy to simply say “I am sorry” and then move on un-impeded to make my next sympathetic statement. Conversely, it takes some real effort to take the time to understand how someone feels, to share in that feeling and then lend a helping hand if wanted and needed.

Having said that I can tell you all that I completely understand grief, guilt and self-loathing. I have visited the darkness and allowed it to nearly smother the life out of me. I have chased the Almighty Dollar and I have gathered enough possessions to feed a thousand egos. It all left me empty inside and longing for something more, some glimpse of the light that had always held so much promise.

I found that "something more" when I embraced the Living Simple Philosophy.

Today I have found the light and it will guide me as I go about fashioning my lasting legacy. We all have the choice to do the same. The final chapter of our legacy will not be written until we have drawn our last breath and only then will the legacy be spoken about and remembered for time eternal.

The choice is yours! What will it be?

2012 Bill Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 3 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Dale! I appreciate the kind words.

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      Dale Anderson 3 weeks ago from The High Seas

      Thought provoking article, well done. You echoed something that I have said many times over some decades now "I don't 'snapshot' people. I look at their behavior over time." Keep the articles coming, I will be looking forward to reading more of them.

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Ziyena, welcome back. I love the higher path you have chosen. Best wishes on your journey.

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      ziyena 2 months ago from ... Somewhere Out There ...

      Well Well, Billy ... it's been ages, but I'm back and glad to see you have continued with your writing quest on Hub Pages. You have made me think here about my own legacy ... a personal story that I have shared outside of the Hub with so many people in the past few years. I've closed that sad chapter of my life and now devoting myself to a higher path, one filled with love, peace, and forgiveness. Thank You for this special article.

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      Bill Holland 3 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Peggy, I have no doubt people benefited from your short stay...and hopefully that short stay will be quite a bit longer. Thank you!

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      Peggy Woods 3 months ago from Houston, Texas

      As to legacy I would like to think that some people perhaps benefited from my short stay on this earth. That would be wonderful.

      My parents and grandparents were great role models and taught those who followed great morals and values. Those are great legacies!

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      Bill Holland 4 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Lots of friends here over lots of years, Tamara. It all adds up. Thank you for checking out my page.

      Have a wonderful weekend.

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      Tamara Moore 4 months ago

      Thank you for sharing this link and I am excited to check it out! (You have a lot of comments; I had to scroll a long way to find the comment box...lol...it's funny).

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Bill Holland 4 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Tamara, thank you for searching for me...here is my author's page URL

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      Tamara Moore 4 months ago

      1). I cannot find the button in which to follow you. 2). I found your e-book, and would like to know if you have a link to a listing of all of your books as I'd like to go thru them, and read what they are about, and possibly choose a few to purchase. The one I just looked at seems to be an excellent read!!

      Tamara

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      Bill Holland 4 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh gosh, Tamara, the book is only available as an e-book on Amazon....let me know if you can't find it. It's been so long since I published this one. :) Thank you and best wishes to you.

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      Tamara Moore 4 months ago

      Such a deep post. Where can I find this book "Living Simple Philosophy"? I would like to read it. It seems that I have been searching for something all my life... I wish I could understand what this "something" might be.

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Bill Holland 6 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Louise! It's the only way I know to write, so good thing people enjoy it. :)

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      Louise Elcross 6 months ago from UK

      Thanks Billy for such a heart warming lovely hub. I love the way you write from the heart and with such honesty. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 6 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sunil! I am so happy that you enjoyed my thoughts.

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 6 months ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      Great hub and I had a nice read. Thank you for sharing your views. Keep on writing such topics normally writers avoid. All the best.

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      Bill Holland 8 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Then HP it is. Have a great weekend, SA!

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      sannwi 8 months ago

      You're Welcome and Thanks :)

      Hubpages is the only "social networking" I do. So, we'll have to connect on HubPages :) I do have a Flipboard, but that's just to post articles from here (hardly a social site).

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      Bill Holland 8 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Beautiful, SA! Thank you for sharing Lao Tzu's words. I'm going to enjoy our online friendship. Look me up on Facebook if you get the chance. I'm under Bill Holland in Olympia.

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      sannwi 8 months ago

      Thought provoking and honest. Thank you for sharing Bill.

      “Simplicity, patience, compassion.

      These three are your greatest treasures.

      Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.

      Patient with both friends and enemies,

      you accord with the way things are.

      Compassionate toward yourself,

      you reconcile all beings in the world.”

      ― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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      Bill Holland 13 months ago from Olympia, WA

      And Bill, those are wonderful words of praise, and I thank you. I will try to live up to those words, my friend.

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      Bill Russo 13 months ago from Cape Cod

      The love of things faded and antiquated, is a path to a past sadly outdated. It's a way to peel back today's doors, and sit for a moment in a place and time not yours.

      In the same way, when one meets a very young person - whether a grandchild or the youngster of friends - he or she is able to pierce the restraints of the present and sit for a moment in a future era.

      No other writer can craft such evocative prose as you Mr. Holland. Invoking and provoking delicious thoughts and dialogues. That is your legacy!

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      Bill Holland 15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, Mommy, and thanks for stopping by.

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      Missy 15 months ago from The Midwest

      Interesting post. I enjoyed the chess board analogy. Thanks for acknowledging that humans are complicated beings.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Val, what a wonderful reflection for a 13 yr old to have. My goodness, you were light years ahead of me at that age. All I could think about were girls. LOL Thank you for sharing that wonderful story.

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      Vladimir Karas 16 months ago from Canada

      Billybuc - Let me join this long line of commenters by saying that you have touched a deep theme of our life's purpose. It reminds me of my own visits to the huge city cemetery back in my native Europe. Actually, the very first time for me was when I was 13 or so, as I wanted to defeat my childhood fear of dark once and for all - so, driven by the budding spirit in me I went to the cemetery by myself - at midnight. I sweated bullets sitting in front of an unknown grave, but after some time I was free.

      For the rest of the hour or so, I just sat there, looking down the hill at the neon cloud over the city, philosophising about life of all those down there destined to end up coming "up here" - while the great majority not appreciating their time still left to them.

      Thank you for sharing this interesting hub.

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      Bill Holland 18 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Gerimcclym, thank you for stopping by. I'm so glad you enjoyed this message.

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      Geri McClymont 18 months ago

      Billy: Your title poses a very sober and thought-provoking question, one I find myself reflecting on from time to time. It is, sadly, so true that we are often quick to judge others based on a single action or after knowing them for only a short time.

      I like how you used the example of Jesus as somebody who left a legacy of loving others.

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      Bill Holland 19 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Missy! Just asking the question occasionally gives me time to ponder my place and purpose in this world....and that, in turn, determines my direction.

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      Missy Smith 19 months ago from Florida

      This was an interesting read. I don't know what my legacy will be when I'm gone. I'll let the ones who knew me well decide that. I'll just be me while I'm here. I'll continue to live this life on my own terms, trying not to be swayed by others and their opinions and misconceptions of the person I am or should be.

      You and Bev must have great fun going out and discovering the world, and all the life in it, and the history behind us. Cemeteries have always intrigued me too. I bet you couldn't guess that about me. lol. There is this very old one that we used to take hay rides to on Halloween. So many buried there, but it was out far in the woods, and no one really kept it up; the headstones very old and vague with words. It does make you wonder.

      I love to read hubs like this. Just simply asking a question, so we can ponder the answer and reading the lovely adventures you and your wife take. I liked this one very much, Bill. :)

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      Bill Holland 20 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Deborah, a blip we are for sure....perhaps it just comes down to the quality of blip. :) Thank you for stopping by and Happy Monday to you.

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      Deborah Demander 20 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      This is such a great article. I appreciate the challenge to think about the legacy I will leave behind.

      We all want to matter, but honestly, we are just a blip in the cosmos.

      Thanks for writing.

      Namaste

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      Bill Holland 21 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Swalia. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Shaloo Walia 21 months ago

      A thought provoking hub!

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      Bill Holland 22 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Rumpled, thanks for stopping by. As for John Burns, I guess only John can say for sure. :)

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      A N Onymous 22 months ago from Wherever there is sincere fun and friendship being shared.

      Some gravestones tell a brief story of the deceased. I wonder whether this one did, or not: "John Burns."

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Stella, great line about getting older and stupider. It sure seems that way for some, doesn't it? Thanks for your thoughts...and the chuckle.

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      stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      We can continue to change for the better each day we have left on earth. It is our choice. I could never understand how people get older and still act stupid. Great Hub, Stella

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It does for sure, frozenink. I hadn't thought of my writing as a legacy until about a year ago. Now I smile when I think of it.

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      frozenink 2 years ago

      Nice. That's interesting. Actually, that is really a way to have yourself remembered. At present, you are also entertaining people as a proud writer of a thousand Hubs. That works as well. =)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      frozenink, I would have been clueless as a kid. Probably would have said entertain people as a professional baseball player. :)

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      frozenink 2 years ago

      Actually to think about it again, my dad once asked me long time ago about what kind of legacy I wanna leave behind; what kind of things do I want people to remember me by. I was a kid back then. I had no idea!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you again Frozenink. I think, at the very least, it is an interesting way to evaluate our lives while we are still alive...provided we are honest with ourselves. :)

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      frozenink 2 years ago

      Wonderful hub, Billy. I think it is fascinating for you to cover the variety of contents as well as the encapsulated emotions. I totally agree that we are the authors of our legacy, and not fate. And to live life meaningfully, one way is to first identify what kind of legacy we want to leave behind.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Deborah....I like your legacy. Maybe some day we'll make it back to the Napa Valley. I would love to see that cemetery.

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      Deborah Carr 2 years ago from Orange County, California

      If you and your wife are ever in the Napa Valley, you will want to stop by the St. Helena cemetery. There you will see the grave plots of some of the famous families in the wine industry ... Berringers, Gallo, etc. As for my legacy, I leave behind my children, grandchildren and the words I have written.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for your thoughts, Yalul! Interesting for sure and food for thought. I appreciate it.

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      Yalul 2 years ago from Philippines

      Yes we have a choice inasmuch as in shaping how we want people to remember us. But when we're gone we really can't know for sure if we are being remembered the way we wanted to be remembered. I think it is really up to the people who will remain to determine what our legacy is. In my case for instance, I am in a certain position in our organization, but I never allowed my stature to get in my head. So I am probably the most approachable one in my kind, because I have always wanted to be close to the people. Because at the end of the day, it is them who really keeps the organization running. But will my pro-people orientation be my legacy? Well maybe if I retire with my sanity intact and people will pay nice tribute to me, I will know. But I can't be too sure for now.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Word, I can't imagine a better legacy than to live a life of love. Pax vobiscum to you, my friend, and thank you.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Good morning billybuc, this was a nice read. I do so much that I'm not sure of a legacy. All I know is, I display a lot of love, enjoy doing the best of what I do and try to see the good in people. That's it. Have a great day!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, amazmerizing. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      amazmerizing 2 years ago from PACIFIC NORTHWEST, USA

      Excellent hub! I been there too, and I concur! Hat's off to ye!!! ;)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Besarien, thank you for reflecting upon that cemetery near Asheville. If I were there I would be one of those writing.

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      Besarien 2 years ago

      Beautifully said, billybuc! It is never too late to make a change for the better. All of us can find plenty of improvements to make as well!

      There is an old historic cemetery near to where I live here in Asheville. O. Henry and Thomas Wolfe are both buried there. It has above ground crypts, intricate stonework, angel statuary, ancient oaks, fountains and gardens everywhere. The grounds are immaculately kept. It reminds me that cemeteries are as much for the living- places to remember the past and plan for the future. It is an inspiring place too, very beautiful and sad. Lots of locals go there to write and paint.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PinoyMom, I love how you described it, and isn't that a wonderful thought, that our words will live on forever? Thank you!

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      Shiela Gerona 2 years ago from Philippines

      One of the best topics to be written by a writer is his or her own life experiences. This is something unique. Time will pass by, a writer's published article will speak in behalf of him or her. This is something that can be shared through generations. Great hub indeed. Voted up Sir.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      write-with-coffee, thank you so much...and it is a pleasure meeting you as well.

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      Maria K 2 years ago from Bangalore

      Thank you for this wonderful hub. I am in my early 30's but I can relate to some of the thoughts you have articulated here. I also look at graves and wonder about those people and their lives. Thanks again for this touching piece and it's great to meet you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Elsie! I'm so happy that you enjoyed it.

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      Elsie Hagley 2 years ago from New Zealand

      Thanks BillyBuc for a interesting subject, it has got me thinking about it, after reading this hub, what will mine be? as you said "the choice is ours and ours alone". Enjoyed it very much.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Merrci, I believe you are right for the most part. Growing older gives us a perspective we don't have when we are young and chasing our own tail....best wishes to you and thank you.

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      Merry Citarella 2 years ago from Oregon's Southern Coast

      So enjoyed reading this BillyBuc. I so agree that simple living is something to strive for. Perhaps it's age that brings that out. All the years working hard, accumulating, only to have to work harder to maintain it all, seems so unimportant at the end of it. My wish is that those younger could learn to appreciate simplicity early on. Bookmarking to read again later. Thanks for sharing!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Adventuretravels, thank you for the kind words and for the following. Welcome to HP, and I look forward to knowing you better, as a writer and a person.

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      Giovanna Sanguinetti 3 years ago from London UK

      I love this Hub. I believe in simple living. My legacy - I have no idea what that will be - but I do wonder!

      CONGRATULATIONS on your award. I really look forward to reading your Hubs and I'm very pleased to meet you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are very welcome, Pawpaw...thank you!

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      Jim 3 years ago from Kansas

      Everyone should stop to consider what their legacy will be. Thanks for reminding me to think about it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Social thoughts, that is very kind of you. Thank you! With his life, and with his death, I learned wonderful lessons.

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      social thoughts 3 years ago from New Jersey

      I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Social thoughts, I know that quite well. I doubt my father thought he would pass on at 49 yrs, but he did. I rarely forget that painful lesson, and I try to live each day to the fullest. I'm not always successful, but I do try more often than not. Anyway, thank you.

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      social thoughts 3 years ago from New Jersey

      I like this article a lot. It's more about exploration of self than just the legacy we leave. I don't think our legacy is as controlled as we want it to be. We don't always know when we'll pass on, so we just have to make the most of each day.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sandy, and I'm glad you are with us here at HP.

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      Sandy Mertens 3 years ago from Wisconsin

      This is very inspirational reading about your own legacy of life.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Express, I greatly appreciate you sharing that story about your father. Thank you so much for opening your heart so that others might learn.

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      H C Palting 3 years ago from East Coast

      I had to pop back and share a personal experience after the last two beautiful comments here. I was so warmed by the fact that at my father's funeral (he went far too soon) there was standing room only and some people who could not drive walked in the rain to pay their last respects, including a very elderly former babysitter of mine. I will never forget that. I admire my dad for being dad and many people, some of whom I'd never met, admired him as well for his kindness and generosity. I don't think I can accurately express how much that means to me to this day. Being remembered as good person, leaving a positive legacy, speaks volumes and matters more than fame ever could.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      2besure, beautiful reflection my friend. Famous is for other people...I'll settle for being remembered as a good person.

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      Pamela Lipscomb 3 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      I was asking the Lord only this to to help me leave an positive legacy when I die. I remember my Mom and my Dad's funeral and everyone held them in such high esteem. I don't want to be famous or anything. But like the old Baptism song, " Let the works I've done Speak for Me"

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mona, thank you so much. Oh my dear yes, I have done wrong, but at least I recognized it so I could correct it. I appreciate your kind words very much.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      I think the legacy you will leave behind is the sheer honesty with which you have shared your life in your hubs, and the fact that through it all you ended well. You know, like that Shirley Maclaine song, "It's not where you start but where you finish." Before I was always reading your latest hubs. By reading your older ones, I realize you are very different from the person I imagined you to be. I thought you were a good man who never did anything wrong. I'm so glad that I have gone through your older hubs to know that you are a man of depth and texture.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Debbie, what a wonderful comment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts my new friend.

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      Debbie Villines 3 years ago from Iowa

      Hello billybuc, I so enjoyed this hub, made me think of things in my life, and how many changes I need to make, I enjoyed this video too; nice choice, I wanted to thank you for following me.

      I need to become more active with hubpages.com.

      I also would like to add, I enjoy commentaries too; I have a close feeling with so many there, somehow, even just driving through them, if I could do my daily walks through them I would, especially where my mother and brother lies, peacefully...and my grandparents, and many other family relatives are sleeping in peace. Well some are at peace and some are restless souls, its hard to explain it, just is. thanks again; for stopping by my profile, and have a great day;) Keep on smiling and keep on dreaming.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Peg, and I love your comment...what will out tombstone say about us? Food for thought.

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      Peg Cole 3 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Stephen Covey tells us to begin with the end in mind. I believe that you found out this truth and used it to transform your life. Seeking out clues of the departed souls in graveyards is also a pastime of mine. It makes us wonder what our tombstone will say about us. Such a small space to sum up our lives.

      Congratulations on turning your life around. Well done.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      tireless, thanks for sharing that beautiful sentiment. I happen to agree with you. :)

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      Judy Specht 3 years ago from California

      My mother and father left amazing legacies. I must have something important to do or cancer would have gotten me some time ago. Sometimes you just do what you have to do. I strongly believe that looking forward is more productive than looking backward. Bless you once again for encouraging us.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Larry, a great reflection my friend. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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      Larry Rankin 3 years ago from Oklahoma

      I too have always had a fondness of cemeteries. Where some find only the backdrop to a horror story or a place of sadness, I always find solace and serenity.

      When we talk of legacy, the truth is so much in the eye of the beholder. So much of my life I put on success, and I don't feel very successful a lot of the time. As a result I shut out those I care about because I feel like a failure. You can lose all your time that way, worrying about what you could have been rather than what you can be.

      As always, Billy, a wonderful, thought provoking reflection.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Harishprasad, thank you so much for your kind words. Life is so simple, but we seem to have a need to complicate it. I am so much happier living a simple lifestyle.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Bill, a very interesting and thought provoking article ! You have rightly stressed on simple living and what an invigorating concept like leaving behind a legacy. To me, simplicity means just to be human and nothing less, nothing more. Legacy for me is our whole outlook of living and a total sum of our prominent actions and fundamental thoughts. Our actions and thoughts give directions to our life and vibrate the lives of all people around us. When we pack up, this legacy still works and influences the people known to us. This hub is so useful that we should take note of the valuable content of this in order to brighten our lives and others as well. I would love to read this beautiful hub again and again to savor it's great purpose. Thank you, Bill and much happiness and all peace. :-)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, I usually have something to add to a comment but you said it beautifully. Thank you for this wonderful reflection and truth.

      bill

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      howtopam 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      So many people appear to be driven from a young age to aspire to achieve the expectations of others without ever thoughtfully considering who they were created to be. It is usually only after many life experiences in an unsatisfied quest for fulfilment that people are persuaded to search their inner being for the answers to purpose in life that conquests in the outer world were unable to provide.

      It is through exploring our deepest passions that we discover who we really are and it is by exposing those desires to the world through our character that we begin to be seen by others as a person with a solid sense of being. We need to put less emphasis on developing a personal image of what we have been programmed to believe others are encouraging us to be. Living life should be a personal experience through which every human being can design their individuality. Until we get to know ourselves intimately our total purpose for existence is a make up of what we perceived that others have desired us to be. There is very little comfort in feeling compelled live a life designed by others and drives one away from their true destiny.

      Nice inspirational hub.

      howtopam

      Pamela

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shyron, I love your heart and compassion...thank you again.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      You are welcome. Wish I could help.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      No I haven't Shyron, but thank you for asking. That was nice of you.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Have you had any leads in finding your birth mother? I hope so!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I am, Shyron, although I'm adopted so I'm not betting any money on it. :)

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Yes it does. My mother was 1/2 Irish, 1/4 Cherokee and 1/4 Dutch. My father 1/2 Cherokee and 1/2 Sweed. That makes me a Duke's mixture.

      I would also guess that you are Irish.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sure sounds Irish. :)

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Could not tell, but guessing, I would say yes.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shyron, thank you for the drive by. :) Interesting sayings....Irish by any chance?

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Billy, I know I read this before, but somehow forgot how beautiful it is.

      I am still working on my family tree and what you write about the cemeteries, I like, but there are some sayings that I remember reading about. Like: "Under these trees, and under this sod, is the body of Johnathan Please, he is not here but only his pod, he has shell out his peas and gone to his God," or "Here lies a man whose crown was won by blowing into an empty gun."

      Voting up, UABI and shared, booked marked so I will be back to this one.

      Shyron