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Living Alone Tips: How to Be Solitary in Style
Single-person households are exceedingly - there are well over 31 million single-person households in the U.S. That's nearly a third of all households.
Living alone can be dreary or fabulous. It all comes down to the decisions you make and the way you run your single-person household. What follows is a guide to maximizing one's solitary life. The key, you will find, lies in quality, quantity, cleanliness, indulgence, and socialization.
Indulge in High Quality Things
One of the key benefits of living alone is that you do not have to share anything. This means that you have every excuse to ingulge in the best of the best in every department- from food to fabric.
Focusing on all-around quality when living alone is also pivotal in that it draws the distinction between fabulous living and dreary survival. Living alone need not be depressing or lonely, but you can bet your bottom that it will be if you pull on stained, boring clothes every morning and return to a shabby, un-chic domicile every evening. If you do not turn your home into an indulgent retreat, it will seem like an isolated jail.
It is therefore pivotal that you...
- Stock your fridge and pantry with the best of foods (healthy, fresh, and delicious!)
- Fill your closet with excellent clothing
- Furnish your pad with comfortable, tasteful furniture
- Invest in a good entertainment and sound system
... and indulge in any other household feature (from fun kitchen appliances to top of the line gaming systems) that help to define your personality and help you unwind.
If you're concerned about the cost of filling your solitary life with top-of-the-line items, do not worry. That issue is pretty much resolved with the next solitary-living rule of thumb about quantity.
Though it is a good practice for EVERYONE to keep personal possessions to a minimum, it is particularly important for singles to do so.
Those living alone have the particular advantage of being more flexible in their lives. It is much easier for them to relocate or change careers or change apartments because they do not have to agree with husbands or wives or boyfriends or girlfriends or friends or roommates. Housemates provide a hefty amount of logistical ballast.
Those living alone are free of the logistical ballast that comes with housemates, but that doesn't mean they may take on things that weigh them down. Physical possessions are the most common barriers to flexible living that can weigh single-lifers down.
Avoid this extra burden by simply minimizing the amount of things you allow yourself to hold onto. Only keep your best clothing, best furniture, and best decorations. If you're buying everything fresh, focus on quality and just get a few good things. They'll be more expensive, but they'll also be of higher quality and shall last longer.
Keep it Clean
One of the major perks of living alone is that you are free to make and clean up messes at your own pace. As someone enjoying the privileges of solitary life, you should feel free to exercise your right to make a mess and leave it around, or keep your diggs as clean and immaculate as possible.
That said, you should, on the whole, do your best to keep your home clean. This should be fairly easy to do given that you should (1) have stocked your home with only the highest quality things, and (2) you have paired down your possessions, but it is easy for even the best of us to slip . To avoid letting any clutter or grunginess sneak up in your home, make a habit of doing a cleaning overhaul at a certain recurring time every week or month.
Why bother with keeping things clean? First, keeping your home organized allows you to keep your life organized- the home in which you live constantly gives you mental cues that affect the way you think and behave. Second, should people come to visit you or see your home, they will think much more of you if you show how well your living. Even if you do not care much about what others think of your place, consider how people might use the messiness of your home as evidence of your "sorry, sad, lonely state." You do not want people thinking such things of you, so don't give them the fodder!
By living alone, you are allowed to truly get to know yourself, as you will not be defined by those around you.
Utilize this opportunity to develop your unique persona. Decorate your home with the things you love most. Choose some unique, fun art that reminds you of who you are and who you want to be. Don't worry about what other people might think of your decorating choices- they're not the ones paying the rent!
Turn Your Home into a Retreat
Once you have a clean, uncluttered, unique home filled with high quality possessions, you are ready to crown it off by turning it into the utlimate retreat.
Single-person households have a particular advantage as retreats as they are always places where one can get away from it all. When returning home every night, the solitary individual will not be hindered by roomies, housemates, significant others, or anyone else, and can therefore turn their places into super indulgent spa retreats.
Take advantage of the opportunity by stocking your home with the accouterments required for the ultimate you-tailored retreat. This might entail having bath salts, face masks, and scented candles on hand, or it might involve creating the ultimate video game and movie library in a media cave equipped with mind-melting surround sound and a top of the line flatscreen. No matter what you have on hand, make sure it makes being home alone not just a concession, but a privilege.
Socialize and Show Off
By turning your home into the ultimate you-tailored retreat, you might make it extremely tempting to just spend all of your free time alone! Though doing so is perfectly fine, life is far more satisfying when it is enjoyed with other people, hence I encourage you to, from time to time, share your lovely home with guests.
When you feel like it, invite people over for dinner, parties, brunches, games, and get-togethers. Because you live alone, doing so will be splendidly easy, as you do not have to garner permission from anyone else!
In addition to having a good time with friends (without having to go anywhere), you will be spreading the understanding that living alone is not only fashionable but fun. And that's a good thing indeed!