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Living With An Addict - There Is Help

Updated on June 19, 2013

My Story

Here's my story...

If you are living with an addict you are not alone.

In the fall of 2004 I met the love of my life. I was online one day and this guy sends me an IM. No picture, no cam... I'm not too interested. Then he says he just got out of rehab... definitely not interested. I let him know very quickly I was not in the market for a man or even a new online friend. Drugs scared me, still do. I, personally, have never done drugs, not even pot. Addiction and drug use was completely foreign to me. I wanted no part of it.

Something about him, I guess persistance, got me to talk to him. We clicked immediately. I still was a little worried about him telling me he just got out of rehab. But, then.... he got a webcam. Sweet, smart and hot! Who cares if he used to have a drug problem, right? I'm not gonna marry the guy, one date won't hurt.

We got married 2 years later.

We lived together about 8 months. He was clean. We were happy. Drugs were in his past. The perfect couple.

Let's fast forward about a year... We had just bought a beautiful new home. He had a wonderful job. We were even talking about having a baby. Then, one day I notice he's a little... weird I guess. A little slurred speech, a little off. I ask him about it and he says he's just tired. I gets worse and worse. I suspected drugs but he stuck to his story. He was clean, hadn't done anything.

One day I went into his truck to get a cigarette lighter. I opened his console and there I found a little baggie of pills. I freaked! Called my friend, she googled them and found it was methadone. This wonderful friend of mine happened to have an addict as a spouse and happened to have a drug test. I went to my husband and asked him if he wanted to tell me anything. Nope. I pulled the bag of pills out of my pocket, "now doy uo want to tell me anything?" He says "Those aren't mine, they're a friend's, give them back!!!" I walked to the bathroom and flushed them. Apparently, I found out through him yelling, I flushed something very important and very expensive and he would never forgive me. The I pulled out the drug test. I have no idea how I got him to pee for me but he did. He failed for 3 kinds of pills. That was the beginning of it.

I knew he was using . I could tell by just looking at him. I would ask him about it and he would get mad and lie. How many times should you have to ask the same question? How many fights is it worth? I stayed on him, I was not going to let him just use drugs.

Things got progressively worse over the next few months. According to him he had been sober for over 2 years. He would assure me of this as he drooled on himself and fell asleep in his food. He would assure me of this while I gave him a bath and kept him from drowning. He couldn't stand up long enough to take a shower. I bathed him, clothed him, watched him, helped him. When he smoked he would fall asleep just afte he got it lit. He would burn himself, his clothes, blankets, furniture. If I left him alone I had to take his cigarettes and lighers with me so he wouldn't set the house on fire. Living with an active user is a full time baby sitting job. Not only are you having to take care of them but you are having to watch them slowly die. You are helpless. They are helpless. The person you love, you can not help.

One day he came home and was in the best mood. No slurred spech, no drool. What was up? I didn't know it at the time but meth was up. The next day we were back to the drooling and sleeping, Vicodin and xanax. He was out of it for 7 days. He could not function. It was like waching him die. He took so much that I had to stay up all night and make sure he didn't quit breathing. It was the worst thing I had ever seen and to this day he is still the same.

I told him he had to go to rehab, he had to get help. I was supportive and loving and let him know I would never give up on him. He gave up on me. Two months after the 7 day incident he left me. Married less than 18 months and he leaves me for a... I will try to put this gently... a fat, old, ugly, pill popping, drug addicted maried woman who is 20 years his senior. I am not saying these things about her because my ex is now with her. I am saying these things because I have never seen her even able to walk. Makeup smeared all over the place... not hot.

He leaves me and moves in with her, her husband of 26 years and their small child. The husband is also a pill popper. In about a month the husband is kicked out and takes the child with him. Now my husband and this old lady can have the privacy to do drugs. I tried and tried to ge him to come home. I could not give up on him. Eventually I was unable to find him or get ahold of him. He showed up a couple months later 40 lbs thinner. He said he had been sleeping in his truck and had nowhere to go. How do you tun away the man you almost had babies with? I had to feed him. He looked like hell. So, dumb me, took him in, fed him, gave him a place to stay. He was reasonably soberr and we were able to talk for the first time in months. He said he wanted to get sober, wanted to get help. He spilled his guts to me that night. He told me he had never really been clean. He was doing meth from day one of our relationship and pain and nerve pills to come down so I wouldn't know. The man I loved had lied to me since the day I met him. Did the person I married even exist? Was it all a lie?

This is probably not news to you but addicts are lairs. They will tell you anything to get what they want. And this time he wanted money. He had pawned or sold everything he had. He pawned his truck title and it was about to be reposessed. I'll admit it, I fell for it. I love him. I paid the truck bill. I also got some things ou of pawn for him on his word he would move back to his mother and father's house. He told me he was going to go over to he place he had been staying, get his things and be back. He was going to spend the weekend with me and his mother would pick him up and take him home on Monday.

Five days late he called. He said he had taken some pills and fogot to come back. I let him know it had been 5 days. He had no idea. And at this point I realized something. Something extemely hard, extemely sad and extemely distubing to me. I realized he was a drug addict and there honestly wasn't a single thing I could do to help him.

At some point you have to decide what you want for you. I know, when you live with an addict the last thing on your list of priorities is yourself. Make a new list. Their addiction can actually, physically kill you. I am on wo kinds of nerve meds and heart meds because of the stress he put on me. I am physically sick. I had to pick... me or him. I realized I could no longer let his addiction control my life. I can do nothing about his problems. An addict has to want help. If love could fix it, he would be healed of it.

As I sit here tonight, alone in our home, I do not know where he is. I do not know what he is doing. I do not know if he is safe. I do not know if he is alive.

He chose to leave. He chose to do drugs. He chose to say no to my help, my love. He chose to say no to his family. It kills me to think of what has happened to this wonderful man. I feel like a failue as a wife, a friend and a fellow human being for not being able to help him.

I pray eveyday that he will wake up and get the help he needs.

I don't know if you agree with the decisions I've made or the opinions I have on drug use. If you live with an addict I am sure you have felt the same ways I have. I am sure you feel helpless, hurt, resentful, emotions you can't even describe. I can not tell you what to do. But I have told you my story and what my personal feelings are. The only thing I will say is if you have children in the home with an addict, think of the things they are seeing, absorbing, learning. As adults we can handle a lot. Children cant. What they see is what they know. You set the example for them. They will look to you and your decisions as instructions as to how ot live their life. Do you want them to think drug use is just a part of life?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

YOU ARE MORE IMPORTANT. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

YOU CAN NOT HELP AN ADDICT UNTIL THEY WANT HELP AND EVEN THEN YOU CAN NOT HELP. ONLY PROFESSIONALS CAN HELP THEM.

SAVE YOURSELF. SAVE YOU CHILDREN.

IF YOU ALLOW AN ADDICT TO LIVE IN YOU HOME, EAT YOUR FOOD, WATCH YOUR TV.... YOU ENABLE THEM TO DO DRUGS. YOU ARE TELLING THEM IT IS OK.

Some helpful links...

www.Al-AnonFamilyGroups.org

www.sobercircle.com

www.naranon.com

www.nar-anon.org

www.drug-rehabs.org

Before and After

Our Wedding  7-1-06
Our Wedding 7-1-06
Dec 13, 2007 - The day before he left me.
Dec 13, 2007 - The day before he left me.

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      beth 3 years ago

      I cried reading your story. I have/am going through similar roads as you (my husband walking out on me for another user older than him, returning for help, getting possessions out of pawn). It has truly broken my heart as I have been with him for 11 years and love him wholeheartedly. We are currently still together and I dont know what to do as after he returned he someehat changed to become a better man. He is a hard worker, working a full day to support me and our child. He is a good father to our child and a better husband, helping out in all areas when needed. However despite these changes of becoming a better person, he is still addicted to heroin and uses. I don't know to stay or leave. It is a truly hard situation as he has shown changes but he just can't kick the habit.

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      Jenna 3 years ago

      Walk away from an addict, and save yourself. I guess with your own children that would be different, but even then there must come a time when you have to let go, and let them do what they insist on doing.

      My mother ruined my life to this very day because of her addiction. She is dead now, due to it. I am told to let go and do differently to her, and I do, but what she put me through from a very young age, to the next 30 plus years, was horrendous. I am now late 40's and mentally screwed up due to what I went through. I have never touched drugs not am I an alcoholic. I am anything but my excuse for a mother, however the lasting damage she caused to me, has in a way taken me to the grave with her. I should have walked away from her at the age of 17 and never returned, but I stayed put, and helped her in many ways, as she got older.

      Get away, from addicts, who you just know from experience are never going to change. They will drag you down to their level.

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      Tracy 3 years ago

      Hi Tina,

      I am a mother of an addict (meth drug of chose.) My 21 yr old daughter has been clean for a year and a half after four years of living hell. I know exactly where you are and my heart feels your pain. We are finally in a good place but honestly I am always looking over my shoulder...the first year of soberity was awful and our family was (still is but not nearly as intense) looking for the other shoe to drop. I too did not want to give up on my daughter but I did have to save myself and the rest of my family (will explain later what we did to help save ourselves.) Before we got to where we are today we made every mistake in the book in what we thought was helping our daughter. She has been through a DUI (which we got sealed and paid for an attorney), two stints in inpatient rehab, 2 outpatient rehabs, 1 car stolen, 2 cars wrecked, homelessness, 5 stints in jail (last time served 3 months.) Our rock bottom came when my husband and I finally had to kick my daughter out of a rental home (we were paying for.) This was the final drawl...we couldn't have her actively using in our home or a rental home and we couldn't watch her kill herself so we did the only thing we could do. This ripped our hearts out...while we were going through everything my daughter become my addiction / obsession as I would track her phone, numbers, contacts...researching became my life in an attempt to do what I thought was saving my daughter. I would frantically research year long programs and became frustrated at the lack out quality programs..we have great insurance but of course they don't want to pay the high cost anything past 30 days of treatment...unfortunately I found 30 days gets them just a taste of what they need to recover. The day we kicked her out of her apartment the next day she was arrested and served 3 months. My husband was so hurt he did not visit in jail. I did however and it was torchure....the come down was tough to watch and she was in solitary for at least 2 weeks (at which time she spent her birthday in solitary.) The day she got out my husband and I decided to open our hearts once more and we waited for her to be released at 5am in the morning...we gave her the option to either come with us or she was only her own...she knew that coming with us meant living by our rules...you are clean, going to school or working a full time job...while looking for a job volunteering at local agencies that we arranged...and going to a pyshictrist specializing in addiction. She chose us...even though she did look over her shoulder to see if one of her so called druggie friend would pick her up. The days were long over the next year and it was a constant battle with depression, not caring, parnonia...it was a struggle keeping her in school...but slowly things turned around, and her confidence started to blossom...today she is dreaming of the future and hoping to transfer to a university, just got a job and is strictly focusing on herself...no boyfriends. I think its a knee jerk reaction to always be worried and I know I will do this for the rest of my life. My daughter is finally in control of her life (for the time being), she knows where she wants to go and even though she has a dual diagnose (bi-polar as well as an addict) we just take one day at a time...

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      Tina 3 years ago

      Hi I have been reduced to tears reading some of the posts. My son is 22 and has been on drugs now for 6 years ( Cannabis and Cocaine). He has been clean for 1 year but recently split from his girl friend and is back living with us for the last 6 months. We have had 3 replapses in this period and the last one only in the last week. He says he doesn't feel anything now and doesn't care about how he is hurting people he loves. I don't know what to do and how to help him. I have said that I cant just sit back and watch him fall and that he will have to move out if he chooses to live this lifestyle under our roof. I love him dearly but hate what he is doing. I have tried so much to talk and reason with him but he says that he feels that that he will always end up taking and that what ever he try's it will be this way in the end. HELP

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      Kelly 3 years ago

      My ex (we broke up approx 26 hours ago) - anyway we would have been together for 8 years next month. So this is all really raw to me at the moment...I am hoping writing it down will help. We were in our own bubble and so happy for the first 5 years, then in late 2010 she started hanging around with her aunt who is kinda shady to say the least. And things started to change between us...just slowly to begin. She was out all the time, and her attitude towards me turned from caring to not giving a dalm. She had started gambling, that was the first thing I found out. Then I had looked at her phone one day and she had text her aunt 'u got that message fr me aunty'. (Message here means anything..could b shopping or basically any object). So I was suspicious and began keeping an eye out for more suspicious activity - after I asked her about the text message she began deleting her messages all the time. Weeks and months passed and then one day I decided to turn my mattress around...im sure u can guess what I found. Wee baggies with slight powder residue - I have never taken drugs but I knew instantly that she had started taking them again - speed was he number 1 drug of choice (she took drugs when she was younger, told me a few horror stories about it when we first got together). I confronted her and she tried to deny it but eventually admitted it. She said it wasnt regular it was just a one off etc etc. So eventually we moved past it - but out relationship still was not the same and she was still out all the time. Anyway I stuck with her in the hope that I could get the person I met back. A couple of years went by and we had alot of ups and downs. ..family bereavements being the worst. I think over time I just gradually let her away with being a total arsehole to me. Bit by bit I let her treat me with no respect. But through all this we still had out good times and loving times and I genuinely wanted to grow old together. She started working again in December and I was really happy for her and thought it could help things between us. Then in January my world fell apart, I found out she had been having an affair with someone she worked with (she had known this woman previously too). I was devastated. She begged me for another chance and after a few days I gave in to her because I didn't want things to end. So between then and now we had our ups and downs - her behaviour was still irratic and a couple weeks ago I found a massive bag of speed - coupled with the fact that the day before she had had a huge nose bleed - I finally realized she has a much bigger problem than I thought and there is nothing I can do to help because she doesn't want to stop. The nail in the coffin came when she started messaging flirty and inappropriate things to a new work colleague. In hindsight I should never have let things go on for as long as I did but love is blind eh! As soon as I called it a day she ran away to the first woman she had the affair with....they do speed together so she probably happy as larry...for now. I am gutted that I couldnt get her to stop and I am sad to think that she is throwing her life away. I absolutely blame the speed for the person she has become - she is a stranger to me and would never ever been this way when she was clean - I am convinced she has wound up with some sort of mental health problem thru it all. So it just goes to show you...it doesn't take heroin or crack to ruin your life. (Theyre obviously much more detrimental - I dont say that disrespectfully).

      I consider myself lucky to have always had the inclination to stay away from drugs. There is no healthy way of taking any drug - they all impact peoples lives negatively.

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      Anonymous 3 years ago

      This story was helpful. My boyfriend and I were best friends before. I knew him because my family became close with his 3 years ago. I never met him because he was always out with friends, and same with me at that time. I would see him around but he would always leave to go be with friends. I knew he had gotten in trouble once for using drugs. I didn't want to get mixed up with this kid. Till a year later, I had finally met him. We became really good friends. He had told me all his stories of what he has done (which is pretty much everything). When we became friends I was only 18 at the time. I didn't want to get mixed up in his actions, and I thought he was crazy. But the closer we became, the more my feelings were developing. But him doing drugs was what prevented me from wanting to be with him. I liked him, but not so much as to where I wanted to be involved in it. As time progressed, I noticed a change. He had slowed down on doing drugs. We were always together, always having a good time. Heck, I had even forgotten he had did drugs. Till one day he had told me he quit doing drugs. He had decided that something like that wasn't worth ruining his life over. That right there made me feel proud of him. As a friend, I knew he was making the right choice. A few months after that, everything had changed between us. He became my boyfriend. We were happy, always laughing, having fun. I fell in love with him, same with him. We were each others' first love. I know I could never lose him. Then after a while he met some new friends. That's when things changed. He began to smoke weed. Ok.. well I didn't like it.. but at least it wasn't all the hard stuff he used to do.. but after a while it became constant It then lead to doing more. It lead to pills and opium. We were always fighting because he couldn't stop and I would always be mad at him. Till one day he had stopped. He said he would quit. He had stopped seeing or talking to those friends. Then the same thing happened all over. He would do good for a while, smoke weed when he could get it, and then started doing more. We would start fighting. The second time going through this, my parents finally found out, as did his. They no longer wanted me to be with him, as did his parents. My dad had told him that if he wanted to continue seeing me, he has to stop. His parents had said the same. So he did stop. This time he stopped for a long time. Everything was good. It all went back to normal like how it was. Always laughing, having fun, no problems. Till he had gotten his medical card. Again, I wasn't happy. But whatever as long he had promised that he wouldn't do anything else. Nope. Now it wasn't till recently that he is at his all time low. I had never threatened to leave him, because I don't want to. I love him, and I won't give up on him. Till yesterday I saw him and he couldn't even function. He couldn't walk right, he was slurring his speech, he would talk slow, couldn't eat right, and that right there just made my decision for me. Now what I hadn't mentioned is that he is in the one who had fought to get me to be his girlfriend. He has done everything for me. He had gotten a good job, gotten a car, we plan to move in together, he spoils me, takes care me, gives me anything. He hates to see me sad. He hates if anyone mistreats me. He cries when he finds out he is the one to hurt me. He tells me he loves me everyday about 100 times a day. He cries tears of joy because he says he's happy to be with me. That he's lucky to have someone like me. Someone who accepts him for who his. He cries when he just tells me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and start a family. Says that I'm the one good thing that has ever happened him. But the one thing he hasn't done for me is give up drugs. For someone who reassures me everyday that he loves me and wants to give me the world, why can't he just give me this. Materials is not what makes me happy, its him. Just him and the fact that he loves me. The one thing I really want is for him to quit. His one big fear he has is losing me. And I know the reason he keeps doing what he's doing is because I still stay. He knows that I will get really angry with him, but will get over it and he can just continue his drugs the next day. So seeing how he was yesterday helped make my final decision. When I was trying to talk to him for him to stop taking drugs, he just kept laughing it off. It was all a joke to him. Till I had grabbed him by his face and looked him in the eyes. I cried because it was really hard for me to say, but I told him that if he didn't stop, I would leave. I was giving him one last chance. I can't live like this anymore. Seeing him how he was made me realize I don't want to be stuck watching the man I love like that everyday. It kills me to see him that way. This is the worst I had ever seen him. But I refuse to go down this path. I am graduating from culinary school next month, I'm going back to school to pursue other things. I want to have a bright future and I don't want something like this to get in the way. When I had told him I was leaving him, he didn't laugh anymore. He finally took me seriously. He cried. He had told me that no one understands how hard it is to stop. He finally admitted he's scared of the withdrawals. That it hurts him. But that He can't lose me. It wasn't till today that he finally admitted that he needs help and wants help. His family and mine are trying to help him find a rehab center. He wants to go. And I'm glad he's making this decision. The hard part for me is that I don't know how I'll be not being able to see him. I had been searching this whole time to find other people's stories on how they dealt with this. This story was really helpful.. I'm hoping that this will help him to get over this. I don't want to give up on him. I can't leave him in his time of need. I just don't know how I will be without him, but one day I will eventually not have him if this gets worse. If he doesn't learn from this, then he has made his choice. Thanks for sharing your story. He hasn't gotten that deep into it to where he doesn't look like himself anymore, but I don't think I would ever want to get that point. This story helped me realize if that's something I want to go through, and to be quite honest I don't.

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      jackie 3 years ago

      I also feel all of yall pain. I have been married to my husband approximately 17 years married him twice like a fool. He said he was delivered the same thing each time crack cocaine. They uses u like leeches.. I would tell anybody let them go. A drug addict will sleep with anybody. He has given me 3 different std diseases. Right now I have gential warts n he swear it didn't come from him. In seventeen years I have been faithful. We took test I have warts n he have none yet I know he gave this to me. Women let these men go I am sixty n he is 48 I have had a stroke,high blood pressure etc.. they will destroy u don't pay bills I am on disability have to pay all the bills. This was not the plan I could go on. But victory is mine! Praying for us!

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      Rich Welch 3 years ago

      After 6yrs of helping my son fight his heroin addiction,I don't know where he is or what he is doing. He walked out of rehab after 2 days.....rehab he asked for. All of this started because of a hospital stay,a month of oxycoton....deloted....morphine....all prescribed and given in a hospital. After surgery to fix mistakes caused by another doctors negligence,which almost cost him his leg. He had insurance but in spite of an agreed upon plan to slowly reduce meds,one day they stopped giving him his pain meds because his insurance ran out. Still in legitimate pain....he turned to oxy he could get on streets. When that no longer worked he turned to heroin,and that's when I've had to stand by and watch him slowly kill himself. After kicking it twice,he is gone again. Last month he had a job,was doing well in college and today I have no idea where his is. I will never turn my back on him and will continue to hope he will call. I have come to the realization that I have been sacrificing my health to help him. I am disabled,all of this has had a extremely negative affect on my medical issues . I have made the hardest decision of my life,my health and welfare are more important than the person I love that is killing himself. The original problem was not his fault,but the continued use is his responsibility. He has chosen to continue down a path that leads to prison or death...or both.

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      Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

      Who keeps posting all this bs about spells? It's ridiculous. How insulting that you people post that when people have poured their hearts out on this thread by being so heart broken from the lives of addicts! It's disgusting!

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      janet 3 years ago

      My name is Janet from usa,i want to say thanks to dr abiza for how he restored my marraige back within three days.My husband left me and two kids for eight months to stay with another woman, as if that was not enough he stoped paying our bills. One faithful day as i was browsing through my laptop i came accross a testimony by Mr Robert of how he gain his wife back after two years of seperation with the help of a great spell caster called Dr abiza through this address (drabizaspelltemple20@hotmail.com).so i decided to give it a try and i contacted him through the email address Mr Robert pasted along with his testimony. After some minutes of chat with the spell caster he told me what to do which i really did. To cut my own testimony short, my husband came home after three days as said by the spell caster on his knees begging for my forgiveness for the ill treatment he gave to me and the kids.Now am happy with my family again.

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      KATHY 3 years ago

      My name is Kathy Gilbert from United States My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to United Kingdom for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from United Kingdom.He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him testing her one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr.alulu for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him to miss me to where he wanted to get back together again. He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr. alulu contact him through his email: alulukataspelltemple@outlook.com

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      emma Wilson 3 years ago

      I am glad to hear that i am not alone my thing is that i use to use drugs also that's how we met we got married he got locked up 1 month later i got clean so

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      independentminded 3 years ago

      Megan; It sounds as if you and your 6 year old daughter are in really tough straits and are going to need some help in getting out of this totally unhealthy situation, for your sake and that of your young daughter. This is not a healthy environment for either one of you. Both you and your daughter deserve something far better than the hell you're both being put through by your drug-addicted boyfriend.

      Good luck. Keep everybody posted.

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      cecillelajoie 3 years ago

      If you don’t believe in magic, I think you are mistaken. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve had my doubts, too. But then I found otubaspelltemple@yahoo.com I was having family problems with my husband, and a good friend of mine referred me to him. I owned a shopping plaza, and I was a little behind on bills. I had already sold half of my stocks and couldn’t afford to lose any more all in the name of seeking to get my husband back. if you know what I’m saying. I was in some real trouble with my husband.After Dr OTUBA cast a spell on me and i was able to get back my lost husband for year back, I was living easy. I no longer have to worry about my shopping plaza, and I also am increasing my stocks quantity quickly. I couldn't have done it without you doctor Otuba and in case you need help you can contact Dr via otubaspelltemple@yahoo.com

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      megan 3 years ago

      My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. He says things will change. He is addicted to opiates. We have six week old daughter that doesn't deserve the hell he has put me through... the lies and heartache. How do people actually deal with watching someone you love deeply kill their self off daily? I've watched him go through withdrawals over and over but never suceeds. I've always stood by his side no matter what he has done to me. I try to be his support group but I'm not enough I guess... I cry daily. I'm a nervous and emotional wreck I never know what might happen next... he has had several of his close friends die of ODs . I have been to three funerals with him since we have been together... all I can think about is he will be next... or why ain't this a wake up call? I fear for my daughter not growing up with a daddy around or visiting him in a grave yard or prison... and if he is still around when she's old enough to ask him about his track marks on his arms, what will his reaction be? Like you, I also met him online... we rode the school bus in middle school together but reconnected last winter and hit it off so good! Little did I know about all this! Sometimes I wanna give up but I'm scared of what he will do... we don't even have the money for the electric bill this month due to pills and I have been out on maternity leave. What do you do? Idk... I love him dearly but maybe its gonna take loosing everything to realize what you had. Someone please email me that can relate... I need someone to talk to. mhare1216@gmail.com

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      Nick 3 years ago

      Wow, just all the stories. I FEEL foe all. My problem is my wife....for the last ten years ha been on doctor authorized drugs along with drinking bouts....for 6 months or more. We sent her to several rehabs (7) or so...cant remember. However included in this mix is a mental problems from both her parents....the mother was just a nutcase who thought she knew everything. To cut a long story short...when talking about political things she would stand up and scream at opposing parties at the top of her lungs how stupid we are. The father was always right even if he was caught in bed with another women or doing a DUI check point.

      I just dont know where to go but get out and walk away from a lifetime of what I thought was love and responsibility. Walk away from everything from money, pets, family........dont know it is hard.

      My email is njmjc@msn.com....need some advise...maybe someone in a similar case????

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      Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

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      Erica1721 3 years ago

      Rebec i was with my ex for almost 9 years cant count how many times i had to go to court with him for him losing his license for traffic violations & court for childsupport its never ending problems with addicts & they seem to think they cause none of it its everyone else the whole world is against them poor poor them. Do what u need to do for yourself if hes serious about staying clean after he gets help you'll see that but dont neglect yourself your wants & needs anymore, you'll just get deeper into the whole codependancy thing & only focus on him which wont work. Let him know youll still be there for him & u care but your no longer going to neglect yourself. Littlebit28@hotmail.com if ya need to chat.

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      Erica1721 3 years ago

      I completly know where your coming from they know we care about them & want to help them & they will do & say what ever to get the $ out of us or what ever else they want, there just munipulating us & will continue to as long as we give in. My ex sends my a pic of him& his 2 kids on newyears eve saying he hopes im having fun & being safe. Because he knows leaving the kids is really hard for me so just another mind game of his that i also caught on too. Sad i ran into an old friend of his & the ex told him people are after him im sure he screwed another person for thousands. So as i see him wrecking his life even more im so glad i made the decision to leave because if i didnt id b sleeping with 1 eye open next to an empty shell of a man. Instead of laughing with my friends & feeling my confidence coming back more & more everyday im away from all that drama & negativity & loneliness.

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      Kelly 3 years ago

      I also date(d) an addict and I try to help him and I thought that if I put him in a stable environment he would do better - I like to have a few drinks but I don't want to lose my job or house etc. = but he goes on binders - mostly like we get in a fight so he leaves and doesn't answer the phone for days and doesn't even show up for work - If i get mad I still get to my job but thats the difference between an addict then he tells me its my fault that I kicked him out and he was sad - He has done all of the above bs that you guys have stated in a variations. I also had a successful job and nice car and money in the bank and he hit me and took the car that I was late and nobody in the corporate world wants to see a huge blackeye I have gained weight and my health has deteriorated and sometime I think that is why I stay cause who gonna love me now. Even now he is recently in treatment but only to appease the court system - he waited to the last minute to not go to jail to go in and once there he milks it - says he has anxiety and guess what they give him benzo's to come down he is a liar and has been a liar and I see it but I get drawn back in - its almost like he is my drug - I mean who the heck wants to baby sit a grown ass man and the most disgusting part of this is that I had other choices that treated me like a princess they are sober and educated and for some reason I choose /chose the loser alot of my familoy has lost respect

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      rebec 3 years ago

      I need help. My boyfriend and I who are both 25 years old have been dating now for 7 months is a heroin addict. A month into dating he told me about how he went to rehab for it and that he was all clean. I believed him when he told me he was starting a new clean life and I supported everything he did. A month later he got into an accident and hit two parked cars, when he called me and told me what happened, I drove to the accident only to find him in handcuffs in a cop car..the police told me he was under some kind of influence. When he got home that night, he admitted to me that he started using heroin again. He told me that he was going to quit for real and that he needed my support. I cared for him very much and said I would stick with him through this...but things kept getting worse..He thought buying subs off the street would be a smart move and he convinced me to give him 100 dollars to buy them and he would pay me back over time. While he was waiting to go back to court, he was working a part time job as a busy boy for a local restaurant, but all the money he was making somehow was no where to be found. I tried convincing him to put money aside as a savings, but he would always tell me he needed it to buy gas or food for work...but he would somehow still ask me for money for gas or food. He also started to form a cough that would leave him gasping for breathe. He had this cough for over a month and when i would tell him to go to the doctor he would refuse....he went to the hospital within that month. That's where the doctor told his mom and I that the heroin is causing the cough. He promised his mom and I that he was stopping once and for all. His mom took Him to a suboxone doctor where he was given suboxones..it seemed like things were better for a few weeks until one night I got a call that he was arrested for possession. I warned him twice before that if he didn't change i would leave, but once again I stayed because I have fallen madly in love with this guy. I have supported him through all of this and have never left his side because I believed he would get better in order for us to have a future.. I have sacrificed my classes in grad school and have watched myself fail my finals because I wasn't studying but spending the time with him to make sure he was ok. In the past month the cough has returned and he admitted to me and his mom that he needed to go back to detox and he would come out a new man. I believed him and told him i would stand by him through all this. He is there now and won't be out til Tuesday, but on mondsy I received a message on fb from one of his friends saying that I owe him money...( I have no idea who this guy is) apparently my bf borrowed money from this guy and said that I knew and that I would pay this guy back..I had no idea about this. And on top of that, his mom called me and told me that my bf was caught stealing at a grocery story and has to go back to court....unfortunelty I can't even talk to my bf about this because he is detox til Tuesday. I am sitting here crying because I am afraid for him and for myself and I don't know where to go and who to turn too. His mom has been my only support system and if i told my friends or family about what's going ( though my mom is becoming suspicious because of his behavior) they would flip out. I love him so much but I am starting to see a different scarier side to me and a scarier side to him. I am so lost in emotion. He told me if I leave I will be abandoning him....please someone help me

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      Erica1721 3 years ago

      Yea i know the feeling janice i got called every name in the book when i'd confront him that he was high or got caught in a lie would swear on everyones lives he wasnt using. Its very hard & ya want so bad to help them & get them on the right path but if they dont want help or is ready for help nothing will get them to stop & everything will stay exactly as it is now. I feel so much better about myself & finally feel my life will amount to something instead of standing still never growing & constintly being sad & lost.im sorry to say but in the 9 years i was with him nothing changed for the better everything just got worse no matter what i did untill i left. I finally feel strong again & can accomplish anything. I cant tell u what to do only you can make the choice for yourself to leave or stay. But no one should ever make you feel like your being used & worthless misery loves company. Look within yourself & decide what u want for yourself & life & if u have children do you want your kids to feel like you do? I hope you find the strenth to make a decision so you no longer have be on the emotional roller coaster ride.

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      janice conklin 3 years ago

      my husband is pills i get call names and put down i am toll you need to go and get some money were i can get me apill and if i do not i can stay in my house he will not and i pay all the bills can i get out

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      Erica1721 3 years ago

      Yea i think your right been thinking about that for a while, they are going to florida to visit with his other son that lives with their mother so im hoping she sees hes all messed up & if she doesnt im calling.. Conveinant i went to get some things last night told him im putting all my furniture in storage & took my dog he of course freaked out saying im not taking my futniture after i told him id give him my couch & bed & he has a tv the only thing he actually owns , telling me how screwed up i am that i walked out on his son & that im screwing up his head. They always say something to hurt us what they know bothers us..everyones telling me he getting scared that this time is becoming to real that im not coming back this time & that might just make him hit his bottom..its very strange the signs ive been getting since i left telling me i definitly made the right decision 1st was my chinese fortune cookie that read ' your troubles will cease & fortune will smile upon you' my second sign was recieving a call from my cousin that my uncle let me a big chunk of change in his will, not knowing anything about my situation. If they arent signs someone is watching over all of us i dont know what is. That call couldnt have came at a better time, all though im very sad & miss my uncle very much he saved my life & showed me there is hope for us all

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      itneverends 3 years ago

      Erica maybe you should call social services, anonymously even, to let them know about the 9 year old son. He could end up abused living with a drug addict/alcoholic. He may be better off in foster care or maybe they would place him with a family member. The foster care system can require the dad clean up, and be tested to confirm he is clean if he wants to get his son back. That child cannot handle his dad any better than any of us could. Please send some help for the kid.

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      Erica1721 3 years ago

      Aw im glad i did thats what we are all here for to help one another, love & learn from our mistakes so we can all grow. email me if you need to chat

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      Heidi Delbert Bivens Templeton 3 years ago

      You will never know how much you have helped me with your story. I finally have the courage to do what I should have a long time ago. Thanks Hon as you may have saved my life and definitely my sanity!

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      Erica 3 years ago

      Hello everyone im so touched with everyones story that theres so many good kindhearted people too love & care that much about another human being to stick around & endure all the pain that comes with an addicts life. we all try so hard to help them, protect them,show them they were loved,make them feel they werent alone & make there lives easier when our lives are getting harder because of the pain they were inflicting. But there does come a time when all the pain we feel is just to much for our hearts & minds to hold on too. My time was up 3 weeks ago when i just packed a bag & left everything i had &loved & knew for the past 8 years, my fiance his 9 year old son my animals my belongings our home. that day was a day i'll never forget. it started off with the electric being shut off & me asking my step mother to borrow $800. & him of course not being home, he came home 15 min before the electric company was closing we rushed down there & had to pay it with our rent that was due that day that again he didnt have all the money for so i paid it. i knew he was on something was slurring his words kept repeating himself but he didnt show any emotion about the whole ordeal. we got home & i was so over welmed i went into my bedroom so his son wouldnt see me cry, he comes in after a while sees me crying & asks me what he should tell the landlord twice than walks away mad mumbling that i just couldnt answer him.that just broke my heart. i didnt wanna say anything with his sob there so i text him asking him how he can just watch me cry & walk away like i was nothing at all & his responce was he needed to charge his phone it was dead.. i said im leaving i have to get out of there for a while & he says he gotta go pickup $ & will be back in 2 hours, like always 5 hours went by he missed his sons school conference that his son was excited about because he'd be getting his report card which was good, i sat there in my room crying for 5 hours knowing that was it for me i couldnt feel like that anymore, Which totally told me what i needed to do.i called his son in as i could barely talk & i couldnt look at him knowing i was leaving him & told him i had to go out that i wasnt leaving because of him & to call his father & tell him i left.. i knew hed come home if i did that so i walked out & waited behind the house for him to come home so his son wasnt really alone, & had my girlfriend waiting for me. So here i am living with her in her tiny room out of my bag & a drawer & cant thank her enough,that is a true friend someone thats there for u at the drop of a hat like we all were for the addicts in our life. Its very hard knowing i left his son there & that he has to now deal with the mood swings alone that i cant try & hide him from bad ones& the being left at his friends house till his father gets home & not being cared for like he should be.. But i no longer feel like i walked out on my fiance when he needed my help because he doesnt want my help to be clean hes not ready to be free of his addiction, i made it to easy for him he had a babysitter,a maid a cook,someone to split all the bills or end up paying them while his$ is spent on his drugs.. I had it all when i met him a house, credit, a nice bankaccount, cars to living out of my bag & a drawer in my girlfriendsroom with no $ no car.. but no more waiting for him to come home, bo more wondering what his doing for 14 hours, no more wondering if hes cheating, no more seeing his sons face when hes disapointed that his fathers not home again or he sick on the couch & dont wanna b bothered, no more wondering if hes in jail or overdosed & thats why hes not answering my calls or texts.. no more walking on eggshells, no more picking up his mess, no more wondering who he texts all day when he was home, no more being nervous hes going to burn the house down when hes smoking & nodding off. No more finding brillo pad pieces around knowing thats how he smoked crack,No more listening to him lying to me or anyone else. no more telling me i do nothing but sit in bed than the next day he doesnt know what hed dowithout me.The list goes on & on. I think theres still a good guy in him somewhere i did see him sometimes & felt him. But ive watched him go from alchol to percs to heroine to oxycodone &xanex to coke than crack while being on methadone the whole time, now still oxys & adderall & coke when he picks it up. I cant watch him kill himself anymore now knowing i cannot help him that nothing i did helped but gave him the freedom to do what he wanted when he wanted. We were given our lives to live,love& learn not to let someones addiction take that from us as well as them.we can all only do so much to try & put someone on the right path & show them they are loved & have a life to fight for & people that love them to fight for, but they have to feel it & want it we cant make them see.... Erica If anyone wants to vent or needs to talk feelfree to email me at littlebit28@hotmail.com

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      janice 3 years ago

      i am withsome one that is on pill i would like for him to go some were but not here he will not go i payfor every thinghe will not pay for one thing so yow i get out

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      Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

      I did not read all the responses to this hub. I'm really sorry for all that you went through, but I believe you made the right decision. You tried to help someone you love(d), you cannot force someone to care for themselves or sobriety, addictions are horrible, and wreck many lives. I'm glad you chose not to let his addictions ruin yours.

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      itneverends 3 years ago

      At the end of our long term relationship my significant other fell off the wagon and has been on an off for 8 long years. He lives with me, I buy his food and supply him a car. I spent 6 years living with another person and continued to keep a seperate place to live for my ex to live in as he could not support himself. I am now almost into a year long relationship with a new man, still supporting my ex an he still lives with me.

      He is finally working again as of 1 month ago but does not make a living wage so his rent, auto, food and medical expenses are still up to me to cover. I have worked basically 7 days a week to cover his expenses and mine for the last 8 years. The man I lived with for 6 years and the new man I am currently involved with for a year both were and are unhappy that my ex lives in my home and I support him. It is a mess that I do not know how to mercifully end. There is little place for my ex to go, outside of back to his parents home which he does not want to do as they were abusive to him as a child.

      He is a sweet and freindly guy, was a good life partner in our past relationship and a very supportive freind, so I would like to remain good freinds with but I am just tired of paying his expenses. It's like I have a child. I would like to live more of my own dreams and save for retirement and have medical care, none of which I can afford as I am taking care of him. My freinds tell me to stop taking care of him yet they do understand my compassion and motivation for doing it. I do worry I am getting older, so my time is growing shorter to accomplish my own life goals. It's like he is an anchor and it seems so unfair to be stuck with his problems yet the same time I worry about him dying if I do not support him.

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      Letty 3 years ago

      Read a lot of this stories. I live with and addict, methadone. Meet him 4 years ago. I didn't know what he was doing. I know how all this people feel. It is the most devasting and painfull feeling. Seem him destroying his life and everybody around him. Scared me just to thing I have to get home and see him like that. I love him with all my heart. But I need to leave him. If I do not leave I will die. He getting aggressive . He just want to inject him self. Right now he been in the bathroom for over and hour. I'm watching tv but I paying attention to what his doing. Because like the other person said they fall as sleep. And they can die any moment. Because they don't have control of there body . There legs get weak, there breathing get to slow and he just can stay still. I'm very sorry for them because this is a illness. They need help, but how can we help them if they do not let us.

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      sarah 3 years ago

      I want to say thanks once again to this great man called Dr Samura and his spiritual way of helping people am Sarah Jude from Japan i lives in USA with my husband we love each other and also he care about me always look forward to make things easy for both of us 9 years after our wedding, we both work harder to make a family greatest surprise, we have a kid after some times again, we have another one so with this, we live in peace and he was so honest to me shortly, he started misbehaving that i don't know what is going on then i asked him. Darling what is going on? you are so strange to me this few days hope i have not offended you? he said no. Not knowing he have and affair with one lady out side who promised him a car an apartment in one estate were i cannot see him also when he cannot see me i manage to stay with him pleading him he should forgive me if have wrong to him he started complaining he has no money that he has lost all his money in his business that he needs some money then i asked him how much is this money you are looking for? he did not know i can afford it. Then, he said $14,000USD i promised him i we give it to him just for him to care about his family. My greatest surprise, the next day, i went to work and our two kids were in school not knowing his going to leave the house before i come's back i met some of his things outside i was waiting for him to come back he never come back i cried i miss him so much and he have taking all my money away i was only left with $800USD. One day, as i was ready a blog i saw a testifier made by someone in Australia called Julie telling people about how this man call Dr Samura helped her and the man's contact email was there and his mobile number then i contacted him for a help and really, he brought back my husband now am so happy my brothers and sister if you are in such relationship problem kindly via Email samuratellerspell100@yahoo.com or call +2347030410643 he we help you solve all your problems Sarah

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      sarah 3 years ago

      I want to say thanks once again to this great man called Dr Samura and his spiritual way of helping people am Sarah Jude from Japan i lives in USA with my husband we love each other and also he care about me always look forward to make things easy for both of us 9 years after our wedding, we both work harder to make a family greatest surprise, we have a kid after some times again, we have another one so with this, we live in peace and he was so honest to me shortly, he started misbehaving that i don't know what is going on then i asked him. Darling what is going on? you are so strange to me this few days hope i have not offended you? he said no. Not knowing he have and affair with one lady out side who promised him a car an apartment in one estate were i cannot see him also when he cannot see me i manage to stay with him pleading him he should forgive me if have wrong to him he started complaining he has no money that he has lost all his money in his business that he needs some money then i asked him how much is this money you are looking for? he did not know i can afford it. Then, he said $14,000USD i promised him i we give it to him just for him to care about his family. My greatest surprise, the next day, i went to work and our two kids were in school not knowing his going to leave the house before i come's back i met some of his things outside i was waiting for him to come back he never come back i cried i miss him so much and he have taking all my money away i was only left with $800USD. One day, as i was ready a blog i saw a testifier made by someone in Australia called Julie telling people about how this man call Dr Samura helped her and the man's contact email was there and his mobile number then i contacted him for a help and really, he brought back my husband now am so happy my brothers and sister if you are in such relationship problem kindly via Email samuratellerspell100@yahoo.com or call +2347030410643 he we help you solve all your problems Sarah

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      Darren68 3 years ago

      I`ve been with my fiance Michelle for six years this year.I`m 45,she`s 44.I lost my wife,soul mate of 22 years and mother to my two boys(16 and 10) in 2007 to ovarian cancer.Michelle it happens is my dead wife`s second cousin.We met when I was 17,she was 16,through Leanne my then gf who I was infatuated with and later became my wife and soul mate.We were always best friends.But there was a silent undeniable spiritual and physical attraction between Michelle and I at that time when we were teenagers but we didnt act on anything,Leanne was my priority and Michelle tho I didnt know it had a bf back home.But there was always this underlying feeling that one day,maybe one day,who knows.Over the next 22 years I never saw Michelle again,she went about her life getting together with a guy,having three girls and playing happy families a fair distance away but Leanne had a regular connection with her every now and then.Leanne and I did the same,built a loving family of our own together and loved life and our kids until cancer came into it in mid 2007,she would die by the 25th of Sept leaving us lost,completely lost,depressed,angry with little feeling for life but I was aware I had to be strong for our boys then only 10 and 4 years old.She died 3 weeks after her 40th birthday,I was 39.Mum was their best friend I felt gutted and helpless for them as I did for Leanne with the aggressive cancer riddling her rapidly deteriorating health.I was superiorly angry with an aspect of our lives,I was determined to find out the identity of the family member who systematically abused my dead wife as a child,it affected Leanne`s life in a way that I utterly resented as her soul mate and partner.I got a name through one of her uncles.'Linlee'.It was familiar,I searched through the photo albums and found it,a funeral card of Linlee Thompson,Michelle`s dead father!I thought "WHAT".I jumped on the phone to call Michelle regardless of the fact that I maybe wrong,to let her know what I`ve discovered about her father.She was surprised to hear my voice,and she even recognised who I was straight away even though we hadnt spoken to each other since we were teenagers.She also was gutted with Leanne`s death,she never got the chance to see her before she died which made it harder to deal with.When I told her what good old uncle Peter told me about her fathers abuse of Leanne as a child she was surprisingly calm and confused,her dad actually killed himself at the age of 40.She told her mum,she was also confused yet calm about it.In the end I discovered good old uncle Peter led me down the garden path and just gave me a random name that just happened to be very similar to Michelle`s dad`s name which left me feeling not just a fool but extremely aggressive towards uncle Peter for lying about such an issue that meant as much as it did to me.Anyway this led to the ice breaker between Michelle and I and it was prior to Leanne`s funeral,that`s where we laid eyes on each other again after 22 years,and nothing had changed.That undeniable attraction had gone nowhere.To cut another long story short we ended up together by the end of that year,thrown out by the father of her three girls then aged 10,16 and 19.They also had a 21 year history together.The reality of that one day had arrived and was sinking in,it lifted me out of the deep depression I was in after losing Leanne,happiness felt so near yet there was an underlying feel of so far as well.It was happy times for us in the early days,we were strong and confident of dealing with all the animosities that arose from our union which we did,although Michelle found it a little tougher be labelled a slut,a mother that gives up her children and basically no good by my mother,someone that did not even know her at all.We battled through,and there were some really tough times.She almost killed herself smashing her car into a parked car and putting her head through the windscreen at 4.30 am on her way back from the emergency dept of hospital when she fell ill for days earlier,vomiting black bial,not leaving my bed and not wanting any help.Her explanation for the accident was brake failure.It wasnt.She finally admitted to her mother,two sisters and three daughters after they came to help get her out of my place and pack her things that she has a massive pill addiction(sedatives,pain pills) and has had it for that last twenty odd years.It turned out she dropped a total of 50 sedatives in four hours during her wait in the emergency dept.Hospital staff discharged her not being aware of it and she fell asleep at the wheel of car just five minutes from home.She opened up to me about her addiction to pain pills,sedatives,occasionally morphine or anything with codeine.There were various reasons as to why she chose to become so addicted and dependent,but none that actually made any sense whatsoever.She blames her nan for introducing them to her as a child whenever she would complain to her of a headache,which sounded like a copout.She blamed the so called awful life she had with her ex partner and took them in order to block her mind,and she also had an evil long time best friend who would constantly encourage her take whatever pharmaceuticals they could get their addicted hands on.It`s been six years now.She managed to get off and stay off the sedatives after the realisation I think of her own denial to herself,that she fell asleep at the wheel.Thankfully doctors and the medical community is more alert to morphine addiction and have taken serious steps to curb the availability and need of the drug amongst addicts,though it seemed to be the most effective treatment for her migraines,the disadvantages far outweighed the benefits,and it served to only keep the frequency of her migraines at a constant.Now she doesnt have the morphine option and the migraine frequency has dropped.

      I can seriously relate to every aspect you mention with regard to feeling like a baby sitter.Everything you said about having to constantly watch them is exactly what I feel I need to do with Michelle.As I type I look at the burn marks on my keyboard,the mouse,its all as you say.I constantly worry about the possibility of her burning down the home of my boys and us,addicts of this sort of stuff are so damned vague.She wrecked and wrote off another car of hers and a parked car in a fast food carpark since the first accident.This time I was with her,and I could not phathom the amount of damage she created.My immediate thought was for the safety of any occupants in the other car,thankfully it was empty.Her excuse was "she thought she was putting her foot on the brake"when it was on the accelerator,but the amount of time she had to realise the fact seemed to be forever.It seemed as if the lights were on but nobody was home,she was so vague.

      Something I`m finding harder and harder to deal with on a regular basis is the fact that pain pill addicts appear to feel no appreciation whatsoever,no appreciation of themselves or loved ones.It`s as if the blocking out process of years of abuse has also blocked out the ability of regular feelings that we non addicted take for granted in order to function and appreciate all we see,hear,taste,smell,love and do in our everyday lives.And deep down I think I know,but I dont know what my next step is to do about it.

      I`ve been holding onto the serious thought for the last five years that maybe love will hold out and break this thing,but in this case I think that`s a one street.I realised an addict cannot love,not even to save their life!

      Many thanks for your story,you tell it well.

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      Ali 3 years ago

      I just found out that my husband is using oxicontants. I'm so at awe, i can't stop crying. He just ad mitted to me.

      How to deal with it?

      What to do?

      Should i end this now since I just found out and know there is a long road for him?

      Should I respect our father Gods marriga commitment through sickness. through health?

      I'm so herart and confused. what do i do? there is times he is so violent to me. I never though i would be wityh a drug addict. IT SUCKS.

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      Nicki 3 years ago

      Glad to know I'm not alone, my drug addict husband is not leaving...trying to get a divorce, its not good, but I will be ok,.

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      Michele 3 years ago

      Hi im married 2yrs and it my husband was a recovering addict until we had a car accident and now its Vicodin Xanax and addderall he takes so many he gets mean and we fight he has put his hand son me thrown me i say thign i should not say but im so hurt i love him btu i cant do it im so tired and if i leave i truely have nobody to help me at all. no body he is my only family. funny isnt it the one i need cant help me.

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      jessica 3 years ago

      I had already tried three different internet spell caster’s services, but

      all the guys I met were jerks and scams. Then my friend told me about

      Priest Elegbeda. I wasn’t sure anything would come of it, but I thought, why

      not take a chance? I cast a Love Spell, and the very next week a gorgeous

      guy came up to me at a club and asked me to dance. He is caring, kind,

      romantic – everything I always wanted. We’ve been together for six months,

      and we’re talking about getting married. I’m a believer!” If you requires

      any assistance, you can contact him through priestelegbedajagun@live.com

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      james 3 years ago

      My Name is JAMES.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don\'t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he\'s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she\'s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven\'t seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to okutaspellhome@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don\'t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he\' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good okutaspellhome@gmail.com ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: okutaspellhome@gmail.com

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      Alison 3 years ago

      I want to testify to everyone on how my husband and i got children after our 5years of marriage. we got married and we could not conceive a child we have been to several hospitals for checking and the doctors always say that we are okay that nothing is wrong with us, we have been hoping for a child, my husband was beginning to keep late night outside and pressure from the family for him to marry another wife and divorce me, i was always crying and weeping because i was loosing my marriage. so i visited my friend in Florida and she told me that she also have been through this same situation but she got her help of getting her own child from a great priest of fertility from Africa, so she told me that she will contact me to the priest and he will do some fertility spell for me to have my own child, i spent 4days with her in Florida and we both email the priest and he said i should bring all my information to him and he said in 2days after the spell will be completed. so i waited and i went back made love with my husband and i conceive. so i am very greatful to the priest for his help and miracle that help me save my marriage. please for same help, conatct him on fertilitytemple@yahoo.com

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      Vera 3 years ago

      HELLO TO YOU ALL OUT HERE,

      My name is Vera i never believe that my EX will ever come back to me after all that happens,well all thanks to DOCTOR SAKURA,i married to one MR Williams we got married at our early age of 20 we love our selves dearly,but after 30 years of our marriage my husband change and turn into some thing else it look like i married to a stranger,i was confuse so i don't know what to do my children was aware of what is going on between both of us,they talk to there father and still yet he continued i later found out that my husband is seeing some one else i found out who this person is i discover she was just a little girl that is up to be my daughter's age mate,she followed my husband just because of money and she was far younger than me could you believe my husband said to my face that am too old for him he need some one younger in his life that he needs a divorce he said to me is all over that he have nothing to do with me any longer,but i don't know what to do i still love him some much not only for the love i have for him but for the children sake,how can some one from no were come into my house to ripe were she did not sold,i surf erred with my husband to get every thing we got today i came to think about it and i said to my self no i can't let go just like that,i have always hard of a spell caster he have helped meaning of my friend to get there love once back and help then in different area were they are having problems,so i contacted him online and i share my problems with him he helped me out and my husband later come back to me with love and care just as before,once again thanks to DOCTOR SAKURA if you need his help contact him with this email: sakuraspelltemple@gmail.com he can help you to solve any of your problems okay.

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      matta 3 years ago

      Thanks for making my family happy again, my father came back home and he can even take us out, something he never think of before! i wonder Dr egbenakheu are you god or what? amazing you make things happen! i will .Thank you very much. from Holland if you need his help contact email address Dr egbenakhuespelltimple@gmail.com

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      matta 3 years ago

      Thanks for making my family happy again, my father came back home and he can even take us out, something he never think of before! i wonder Dr egbenakheu are you god or what? amazing you make things happen! i will .Thank you very much. from Holland if you need his help contact email address Dr egbenakhuespelltimple@gmail.com

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      ChristinaBatchelo 3 years ago

      As I sit hear and read my story over and over again and all I can do.is cry. It has been since Friday night now so.this time it is going on 4 days. He has are only car and I just knew he would be here by this morning to bring our daughter to school. I am so angry, hurt, worried, scared, etc. Let me give you some backround of myself. I am 33 and have know about addiction since I can remember. My mother wa an addict so I ended up in and out of foster homes until 9. Thank God she got into recovery. Lets fast forward. Around 16 I myself became addicted to pcp. I had a baby at 16 at 18 I started selling crack 19 I had another baby and lost both of them to the system. Now all I thought was my.kids are safe and I am free. With no responsibility I went wild. I met a man Keith when I turned 21 and 6 months later we were married. Still smoking pcp I never knew my husband was an addict as well. His choice crack. Now all.this time I never knew I had a problem. I.could maintain. I had a job I.was in school and I was good right? Well then I lost my daughter for good she was put.up for adoption. I found out I was pregnant again. Throughtout the five years me and keith were together he would go on missions gone for days at a time. I.would.be so worried. I would always go out and find him and bring him home. In 2005 he got so bad the violence started. He slapped me and busted my face I needed 9 stitches. Two weeks.later we were so behind on bills he sold his truck and gave me the money. I gave him a hundred dollars and hid 4000.That night he broke my jaw. I went to visit my.family and when I came home he was gone. I checked where I hid the money. It was gone. I.called him flipping. Telling him I hate him he was a crackhead that I hated him and I wanted a divorce. This time I didnt go look for him. I got the phone call 2 days later. He was found overdosed in a hotel. That sent me into overdrive. With the state getting involved again they took my soon because they drug tested me. I was so hurt filled with so much hurt anger all I wanted was to get high. 3 months later I met Marcel. Boy can I pick.them. by this time I was selling.a whole lot and getting.high. I.gave up on life. They ended up.adopting my.son too. A few months into.dating Marcel I find out.he also smokes crack. But in my.crazy mind all I.thought was I can change this one.and.help him. 2 years later we were just down hill I lost everything. Marcel was way worse in his addiction. So we decided to change. We moved from CT to FL. Best and worse decision of my life. Ok let me bring you.up.to.speed. we have been here for almost 6 years and I am clean. Not from rehab not.from na but For me it was the will to live the will to.want to.change. I had two more babies down here and I thank them for helping.me. Now as for Marcel. He has been in and out.of.jail since we been here. Everytime he relapsed it just gets worse. But I.can change him. I wont give up on him like I did keith. I love him, I think. He had 11 months clean wow this is the longest he has had. Yes I can finally have the family I always wanted. He is a great father and we love him. Well a month ago it started all over again. The lies, the bad additude, disappearing. Now as I sit here wondering how will I get our daughter to.school tomorrow all I.can do is cry. I know addicts only want to get high but to not come bavk to bring your daughter to school I am dumbfounded. I have been clean for 6 years and fighting his addiction for 8. When will I get enough? Why cant I love me more to let him go. I am in pain. I cant eat cant sleep I am just so depressed. But I am clean shouldnt I be happy? I want to report the car stolen but I dont want him to go.to jail. I am about to pack all of his stuff and put it at the door. Whenever he comes back he has to leave or go into rehab. I love him but I can not live like this anymore. Please pray for not only us but everyone else afflicted with this horrible disease. My email is kbchrisb@gmail.com and add me on facebook Christina Batchelor

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      vicky 3 years ago

      HELLO to my friends out there i am testifying about the good work of a man who help me it has been hell from the day my husband left me i am a woman with two kids my problem stated when the father of my kids travel i never help he was living but as at two weeks i did not set my eye on my husband i try calling but he was not taken my call some week he call me telling me that he has found love some where easy at first i never take to be serous but day after he came to the house to pick his things that was the time i notice that things is going bad i help he will come back but things was going bad day by day i needed to talk to someone about it so i went to his friend but there was no help so i give it up on him month later i met on the the internet a spell caster i never believe on this but i needed my men back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it for doing sake but after three day my husband called me telling me that he his coming home i still do not believe but as at the six day the father to my kids came to the house asking me to for give him the spell work to said to my self from that day i was happy with my family thanks to the esango priest of (abamieghe)esango priest he his a great man you need to try him you can as well to tell him your problem so that he can be of help to you his content email is this esangopriest@gmail.com indeed you are a priest thank you for making my home a happy home again. remember his email is esangopriest@gmail.com

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      David Nancy 3 years ago

      I don't just know how to start am just short of word's Due to the help of Dr laco,This Dr laco has brought back happiness into my life that i have lacked for year,My name is David Nancy am from the United State of America,Am just so happy today and today has been the happiest day of my life and this happiness has brought me joy and am so happy,Because Dr laco brought back my lover Scot into my arms without any delay,After my lover left me for good 2years,i was in deep pain and always thinking because i truly loved Scot,Until a faithful day listen to the radio due to tiredness,Then in which i had a lady shouting in happiness about the great thing Dr laco has done how Dr laco brought back her lover back into her arms within 36hours,when i had that goodness i decided in contacting Dr laco immediately,Because i was desperate in getting in touch with him,So i got in touch with him,Which then i told him my problem and he promised in bringing back Scot back to my arms within 24hours,And then when i had that Scot would be back to my arms within 24hours i was so happy and waiting to feel Scot,And really Scot came into my arms within 24hours,Begging me for forgiveness,i was so happy when i saw Scot now my lover is fully back to my arms due to the help of this great man Dr laco who has bought back happiness into our great country(USA)Please friend in need of help you don't need to go far all you need to do is for you to kindly contact Dr laco for help,Because he his trustworthy and straight forward,You can contact(lacopowerfulspellcaster@yahoo.com) he said he can cast the following spell , such as, to bring back your love one,lost money,get rich,get go result,get good job,get good husband,build and buy a car. etc, just contact him and tell him what you need, i am so happy to advertise for him

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      hanna john 3 years ago

      I am happy because of what *DR. UWA* has done in my family, I want to share

      my testimony which goes like this, I marriage to my husband about 3year

      without no issues, i was praying that some one should help me out of this

      problem, my marriage get broken because of no child issues, my mother inlaw

      came to visit us in town one day she called she told me i should pack out of

      she son house, she started calling me a witch, bare woman, I was carrying

      I did not no what to do, even my husband supported her for throwing out

      my belonging, I was carrying for help, one went I was browsing in the

      internet, I saw this great man which is called *DR.UWA* who i lay my

      problem to and he side his is going to help me form that problem, He side

      I should give he just only one day he is going to get back to me

      immediately he said after one day he called me I should go back to my husband

      house he cast out spell, I believe him because is spiritual doctor, to

      cut every short I put to birth, I am now happy with husband and my mother

      inlaw, to contact uwagreathappyhome@gmail.com or call +12348063927671

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      Caezar 3 years ago

      It seems that I am the only one that will comment from the other side.. You are no matter how you feel a very strong person for standing beside your love.. Weather you can have a relationship or not at this time is not the issue , the love is.. I can tell you from my own experience that I lost everything that I loved and thought loved me back.. Long story short . Car accident after that I didn't even realize there was a problem until 3 months later when I stopped taking everything I ended up in hospital for two weeks for what they believed at the time may have been h1n1 that's when I had my eyes opened too what I had become... And rather than ever fell like that again I got lost inside myself for years. I had ALLWAYS had large amounts of money so for me money had no relavence but because the longer you are like that and are in that zone the colder and more numb you become.. Even now I am one of the hardesteople too impress ... I have too literally every day try and remember that their has too be a flower that might look good today.. Or someone may intrest me.. It's literally impossible to have a relationship when you are this way . Especially over as many years ... And when I saw that the people around me didn't love me anymore cause how could they I don't

      LOve myself. I became a Howard Hugh's a recluse .. Maybee talk too five people I'n my whole life never leave my condo have people that work for me bring my food... It's horrible .. I don't know why I decided to tell you this since I have never in my life contacted anyone on the computer other than email... But I wanted you to understand that it's not your fault and for the fact the you still love the person and cry for them daily he is blessed because even thou you may not be in love with who they have become you love them as a person.. And would be there if they were to try and stand up again.. That is rare.. I may be able to buy people but what I would give for someone to be able to know me and love me for the real me. There is no way to have any relationship when you are this way bacause the person has to come out of the fog first. I would be no good for anyone I was with right now romantically ... All I would do is hurt them.. So I don't bother.. If you take or anyone takes anything from this . Realize that it's not your fault addiction personalitys are all consuming it's a love hate relationship within your own psyche and feels like your insane and would do anything to make it stop.. How can you think of another person when you can't even think of yourself... Take care of yourselves and let go of the things you can't control.. Good luck I hope this helped in some way

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      Amanda B. 3 years ago

      Hello!!

      I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU for your blog!! It literally brings me to tears reading your story and everyone else's story. It makes me feel a little better in my situation. I feel like my life is in shambles right now.

      I have known my fiance and father of my son since middle school. We went to high school and worked together as teens. We dated and had a little connection but eventually just went our own ways.

      Fast forward 8 years later and I bump into him again. I had 2 children from a previous relationship (My ex was a horrible, verbally abusive, drug addict) When i met him again, he was so soft spoken, seemed so patient and just was an over all good guy. He didn't have a great job, but I saw something in him and felt like he just needed some guidance. I stressed to him that I did not want to be with a drug addict and how important that was to me. He had told me that he used to smoke weed but he didnt anymore and I believed him and things were great. After 3 months of dating, I became pregnant. We both got great jobs and seemed to be on the right path and had goals. He worked very hard, working a lot of overtime and I felt like he was the man of my dreams. He vowed to take care of me and my kids and they saw him and still see him as their dad. He wanted to eventually adopt them and love them like his own.

      He was introduced to synthetic marijuana by one of the guys at his work. He started smoking but it took me a while to find out. Once I did find out I was already in love with him. I was about 6 months pregnant when I found out. Things slowly have gone down hill from then. He ended up getting laid off and has had more jobs than I count on my hands in just a year. Once he was unemployed his drug use worsened and got bad to where he smokes every 30 minutes. I took on the financial responsibilities for the most part while he would get jobs and quit them or get fired. He has f'd off so many potentially good jobs.

      My kids are young, I have a 6, a 4 and one year old. He is a good father for the most part. Well when he has his fix. He is very close to my kids and is very very close to our son. The kids favor him more than they favor me.

      I worked hard to get us a house and we have been there for almost 3 months. He has totally become a different person that I can't recognize anymore. He relies on drugs to get through the day. I have cried, begged, kicked, screamed, threatened, bargained. He has spent bill money, sold copper, donated plasma, took money from my purse and the list goes on!! He is literally living out of his car and has no clothes, no toiletries, no job, no money and his car is about to break down!And he tells me he will let me know when he is ready. WOW! All the drama all the back and forth and him being away from the kids and that's not enough to make him stop. As soon as I pressure him to quit and get his life on track he leaves and I dont hear from him for a couple of days. He calls says he will stop and comes back and does the same thing over and over again.

      I'm so drained and depressed and tired. I am the only one fighting for my family and relationship and i'm going in circles. I love this man more than anything. And I ask God why he would bring him back in my life just to tear my world and heart apart. I feel like this was my only chance to give my kids a father figure because I dont ever want them to be confused. I feel like I can never ever get married and have a different man live in my house because I don't want to put my kids through that. I feel like I am pulling him to stay and am dumb for thinking that he was ever going to be there for me. I feel so alone and so much pain to where I dont know how I will be able to recover from this. My kids cry for him and I don't know what to tell them . People ask about us and what am I supposed to say? Im in love with a drug addict. I am chasing a fantasy of a man that is not there anymore. I hope that I can heal from this and I hope that eventually he will snap out of it and be the man and father that I know he can be.

      My heart goes out to anyone and everyone who has every had a loved one that is an addict. Its the most heart wrenching feeling watching the person that you love the most spiral down and not care about his life or anything. My heart is with you all tonight!!

      ~Amanda

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      bruno 3 years ago

      Hi My name is Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn't want to loose her but everything just didn't work out... she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce... I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out... I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice... He did special prayers and used roots and herbs... Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news... Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need's it... You can email him via akhidenorlovespell@gmail.com Don't give up just yet, the different between 'Ordinary' & 'Extra-Ordinary' is the 'Extra' so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it's truly worth it.

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      Vera 3 years ago

      HELLO TO YOU ALL OUT HERE,

      My name is Vera i never believe that my EX will ever come back to me after all that happens,well all thanks to DOCTOR SAKURA,i married to one MR Williams we got married at our early age of 20 we love our selves dearly,but after 30 years of our marriage my husband change and turn into some thing else it look like i married to a stranger,i was confuse so i don't know what to do my children was aware of what is going on between both of us,they talk to there father and still yet he continued i later found out that my husband is seeing some one else i found out who this person is i discover she was just a little girl that is up to be my daughter's age mate,she followed my husband just because of money and she was far younger than me could you believe my husband said to my face that am too old for him he need some one younger in his life that he needs a divorce he said to me is all over that he have nothing to do with me any longer,but i don't know what to do i still love him some much not only for the love i have for him but for the children sake,how can some one from no were come into my house to ripe were she did not sold,i surf erred with my husband to get every thing we got today i came to think about it and i said to my self no i can't let go just like that,i have always hard of a spell caster he have helped meaning of my friend to get there love once back and help then in different area were they are having problems,so i contacted him online and i share my problems with him he helped me out and my husband later come back to me with love and care just as before,once again thanks to DOCTOR SAKURA if you need his help contact him with this email: sakuraspelltemple@gmail.com he can help you to solve any of your problems okay.

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      Eric 3 years ago

      Sometime things we can never imagine happens.i was in a stable relationship and well paid job for three years then suddenly my lover broke up with me without any explanation.I was confused and heart broken,the job i love was not going smoothly too,at the pick of giving up when my friend who knew things about spell caster told me about this specific spell caster who can make my lover or job come back to you within few days. At first i just laugh over it not giving it much thought then i saw testimonies of people who the same spell caster Dr Ijebu has helped then i decided to give him a try. Now my lover is back and my job back into my arms.I am just so happy now and thanks to Dr Ijebu thank you so much for you help.advice for those who might also want to give him a try.email address: ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com

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      Kathrine 4 years ago

      Whoever is reading this should share from my unending joy. I feel the same way as any other woman with heartbreak and What could I have done if not for DR. orinoko, I'm Mrs. Kathrine, I was married to my husband for 8yrs and we were both blessed with 2 children, living together as one until 2013 when things was no longer the way it was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 3 months after with the help of my doctor, although my husband was not aware that i had contacted him, he started sleeping outside our matrimonial. until i was helped by the Dr. again to that did a love spell for me, and now he is better that he used to be today. get the dr by email on grandprinceoflove@gmail.com

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      vanessa 4 years ago

      My name is Vanessa i am from LONDON am here to testify the great work of doctor ZUMBA,ZUMBA is a powerful spell caster who helped me in getting the love of my life back,i and my boyfriend were in a relationship for over 10 years since our high school days we live and grow up together as one we love and care for each other so much,we assist each other in time of problems and financial needs i love him with the most deepest part of my heart i never thought that any thing could happened between both of us,so after schooling we graduated same year we were both working and we earn good money monthly the most surprising part of it was that my boyfriend never thought of we getting marry in mind i thought that is not yet time for that,because we love each other in my believe he can never betrayed me,so few years back i travel to USA to pay my uncle a visit i spent 2 months their so when i return i discovered that my boyfriend is having an affair with some one else this person am talking about happen to be his manager in the company were he works so i believe she most have use her money and her fiances to get him,i feel the world was over for me because they were even planning to get marry very soon i was confuse i don't know what to do because i can't afford to loose him to another woman after 14 years of our relationship so now is time for we to come together as one family bring up our children together now he what to live me and go for another how can i love again? i was about drugging my self to death one day i feat sick my parents took me to the hospital for treatment i spent 3 days in the hospital the doctor said to my parents that am under going a broken heart through the hands of a trusted love one,i latter head that my ex boyfriend and his new lover are about getting married,i cried day and night every day of my life i feel like living this world because i don't have any reason living again on this planet called earth,one day the nurse that was taking care of me when i was in the hospital came to visit me at home i told her all my stories about my broken heart from a trusted lover,she feel petty for me and she advise me,she introduce me to an online spell caster called DOCTOR ZUMBA who also help her when she was having problem in her marriage,i followed DOCTOR ZUMBA online and i obeyed him and i did every thing he ask me to do he is a kind man and he is harmless,DOCTOR ZUMBA cast a spell for me after 7 days my ex boyfriend came back to me and beg me for forgiveness,so 2 months latter we got married as am talking to you all now we are the best couple so far,spell is real and there are still real spell caster,all thanks to DOCTOR ZUMBA,if you need his help you can email him with this email: zumbaspelltemple@gmail.com or call him +2347067609217

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      mark 4 years ago

      hello everyone am here to testify to the world that there is still a good spell caster in this world, but i never knew that there was before till i get to know this man that help me out. he is for reel if you should need his help, you can contact him through this email address : ekpensolutionspellcasting@gmail.com.

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      vike 4 years ago

      MY HIV HEALING TESTIMONY

      My mouth is short of words, i am so so happy because Dr olokun has healed me from HIV ailment which i have been suffering from the past 5years now, i have spend alot when getting drugs from the hospital to keep me healthy, i have tried all means in life to always i can become Hiv negative one day, but there was no answer until i found Dr olokun from the paris of african who provide me some healing spell that he uses to help me, now i am glad telling everyone that i am now HIV Negative, i am very very happy, thank you Dr olokun for helping my life comes back newly without anyform of crisis, may the good lord that i serve blessed you Dr olokun and equip you to the higher grade for healing my life. i am so amazed. so i will announced to everyone in this whole world that is HIV positive to please follow my advice and get healed on time, because we all knows that HIV disease is a deadly type,contact Dr olokun for your Hiv healing spell today at: drolokuntemple@gmail.com.... He will be always happy to assist you online and ensure you get healed on time, contact Dr olokun today for your healing spell immediately, thank you sir: drolokuntemple@gmail.com

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      ane 4 years ago

      Thank you Dr olokun for saving my marriage, i and my husband have been looking for a male child for the past 18 years we had 4 daughters and their was no probability of giving birth to a male child and my husband was frustrated to the extend that he wants to divorced me, he said that he needed a male child in his life that will take over him and keep his family name in existence, i did not know what to do again i also went mad because of this male child issue after 4 daughters even my doctor told me that if i should be pregnant again that it must still be a female child, it was their i lost all hope, so i told a friend of mine who also passed through this king of problem and now she is a mother of two male child, then she told me that it was Dr olokun Medicine that help her bear her two male child she have now then i ask her how did it happen. then she told me that they deal with root and herb purely that their medicine is blessed and it working for real that after she have took this their medicine that was when she had a first male child after 5 female children, so i decided to contact them also then they told me all i need to do, they send me the medicine in my country i made use of it and i was pregnant again i was afraid to go for check up if it was a female child again after the 7 month my doctor asked me how did this happen that the child in my womb is a male child their i knew that this medicine is real and it works, i deliver a baby boy and i want you all my fellow women who are looking for male child so badly or desperately to contact Dr olokun she will help you out and also women having the problem of bearing children just contact he and he will put a smile to your face, he email is drolokuntemple@gmail.com

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      esther 4 years ago

      MY NAME IS ESTHER WALLACE FROM HOUSTON,TEXAS.I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS, MAGIC, OR MAGIC MONEY UNTIL I MET THIS SPELL CASTER ONCE WHEN I WENT TO AFRICA IN DECEMBER LAST YEAR ON A BUSINESS SUMMIT. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE, LOST, MISBEHAVING LOVER LOOKING FOR SOME ONE TO LOVE YOU, BRING BACK LOST MONEY AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB, BEAUTY SPELL, AND SO MANY MORE.I'M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE MAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS... I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED, SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO TEXAS, MY BOYFRIEND (NOW HUSBAND) CALLED ME BY HIMSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND HE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN'T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY BOYFRIENDS NAME WITH PHOTO AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO THE MOST WONDERFUL THINGS..OH MY GOD, WE NEVER BELIEVE I WILL BE SO RICH SO FAST AND SIMPLE. I APPRECIATE YOUR cocoma SHRINE AGAIN AND AGAIN. THANKS FOR THE POWER OF WEALTH YOU GAVE TO US.. THE RICHNESS MANIFESTED LESS THAN THE 7DAYS HE GAVE US. WE BECAME RICH ON THE THIRD DAY. NOW WE HAPPY AND GLAD ... WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS ayokospellcaster@gmail.com ......HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT.

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      trace 4 years ago

      Divorce Spells should be used in extreme cases only and only if for example your husband or wife has disturbed you a lot and you are tired of his/her tortures, you need a divorce but he is not giving you and thus your life had become miserable in such case you may go for these powerful Spells but you need to be extremely certain and sure because they are very powerful in that their extreme might not allow you to return it otherwise, these spells can also be used to prevent a divorce, if there are people who are not happy with your happy family life and are trying all possible means to separate you from your family and so are insisting on a divorce then these divorce spells should be used to protect you from all such evil people and i can even turn everything that they have been doing back to them. hurry so that you the happy life that you desire but in their extreme if you were divorced these divorce love spell can reverse the cast if you still feel love rooming in the air for you and your partner. email adries ayokospellcaster@gmail.com

      Are you one of those women who have tried all means but do not get pregnant this usually create fights in your relationship as every one starts blaming the other which end up with partners cheating to prove a point so to solve all that you need my powerful fertility love spell. You have tried all means possible and spent your money on all those medicines but nothing is happening. My spell will protect those who are at their first pregnancy but they are scared, miscarriage fears will be prevented and i know how the fears are for ladies to have a miscarriage so you need this spell to protect the life in you. My spell also will help you to have the right baby that you need in the right way it is the right spell for a couple starting their marriage.email adriss is ayokospellcaster@gmail.com

      My name is kate, I want to testify of the good work of a spell caster called Dr. peter . I and my husband were happily married with two kids, a boy and a girl. We have been together for 6 yrs now. Three months ago, I started to notice some strange attitude from my husband and a month later I found out that my husband is seeing someone else outside my matrimonial home. He started coming home late from work, He hardly care about me or the kids, Sometimes he goes out and doesn't come back home for one week. I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the internet I came across a website that suggested that Dr. peter can help. I felt I should give him a try. So, I contacted him and he did a spell for me. Three days later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my family are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr. peter If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will never disappoint you. For those that are interested, this is his email address:ayokospellcaster@gmail.com

      kate

      Name: STEPS ON HOW TO GET YOUR EX LOVER BACK TO YOU

      Date: 01/22/13

      Message: My Name is jude ..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she's going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years.So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos h ave tried so many spell casters and there is no solution.so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she's with a man and that man is the reason why she left me.The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this.he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing and she told me she will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and my wife got pregnant a month later..we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid..This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him..he has helped many friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him..This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster have ever experienced in life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out..you can reach him here: ayokospellcaster@gmail.com...... CONTACT THIS POWERFUL SPELL CASTER TODAY VIA EMAILayokospellcaster@gmail: .com

      Anonymous writes: Hello every body out there my name is trace am from uk i want to share a testimony with every one on how God used a man named Dr peter to help me in retrieving my love i was in love with a boy and both of use where living happily suddenly i did not know what happened my love started developing hatred towards me one day which was on Monday 6/10/2010 my love just came back from work and told me that first thing tomorrow morning am living his house i was so shocked and i was so surprised because i did not offend him in any way, i did not know what to do next i decided to plead with him but he insisted not to see me around him again, so the next morning he parked my things out and told me to go, i pleaded with him and ask him to forgive me if i have wrong him unknowingly but he never agreed with me so i decided to go to my sister's place and stay, i love this boy so much even when i was in my sister's house i was still call him and plead with him all the time he told me to live him alone he even changed his line just because of me. That was how we brooked up but i still love this guy so much i have been looking for solution on how to get him back for years, one day i was going through the internet when i saw how great dr peter help a girl in getting back her love so i decided to contact him because i have been looking for help for years just to get him back when i contacted him i told him everything and he told me not to worry that my love will be back in just 2days i did not believe him at first because i said how could you just bring back somebody that has gone for 2years, he said that is very possible that he is the one that is going to do it that i should not worry that my love will be back in just 2days that he promise, so i said ok then he told me what to do and he casted the spell, in the next 2days after he has casted the spell which was on Sunday morning on the 10/2/2013 i heard a knock on my door i did not even think if he would be the one, that was how i opened the door and i saw him he went on his knees and started pleading begging me to forgive him i was shocked and was full of surprises and at the same time filled with happiness and i accepted him without wasting anytime because i love him so much, and we celebrated the valentine together and now we have gotten married and now we are living happily than ever after. Thanks be to you the great dr peter can contact him through his private mail: ayokospellcaster@gmail.com

      Once again thank you sir. Name trace Country UK

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      Olga Maxwell Mckay 4 years ago

      My dream came true!!! Because i can't finally believe i got my Josh back after been scam by lot of spell caster's promising me false hope not knowing all they really wanted was my money.. I have been trying to get my ex lover back because i'm nobody without him but he seem to be drifting away from me until when i saw a post in here when Sophie posted on how Dr. Wicca help her get her man back after 2 years. After been scam by lot of spell caster's promising me false hope not knowing all they really wanted was my money..

      I'm so happy today and am also thanking Sophie for posting this early. Dr. Wicca, you are truly a man of your word. I'll never ever forget all the happiness you gave me. I highly recommend Dr. Wicca to you for whatever problem you are experiencing whether is love, money or psychic powers. He is powerful. You can contact him on dr.wiccahightemple@gmail.com or www.wiccanlovespells.net or his personal cell#+2348097350565.

      Olga Maxwell Mckay......... Canada

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      tripod396 4 years ago

      With regards to Jason's post regarding marijuana:

      I have a 25 year old son who is now so deep into marijuana use that he blows his ck buying weed and made new friends who do the same thing. It started 2 years ago when he started to get into it as he started to hang out with stoner much older than him. I have had failed spinal surgery and have to deal with chronic pain and prescribed ALL sorts of narcotic pain killers. In the beginning, I didn't take notice that my pills were missing until I found out that he was selling them to buy weed.

      My son has been my caregiver and a very lovable and caring person. His marijuana use however has changed everything! His entire demeanor has changed and all that matters to him now is to hang out and be with his newfound friends.

      He stopped checking on me through text that he used to do all the time and gives me all sorts of excuses that you would normally give or say to a child while I can see him texting all day long even while driving. He stopped giving me my meds, stopped coming home for dinner, stopped taking me out of the house....I pretty much have to fend for myself.

      He has this so called friend that actually is just using him and he falls for it all the time. He eats, sleeps, and breaths marijuana. He drives to work high and comes home to go straight to bed and snores. Now, there is no time of day that he doesn't smoke especially when he feels it fade and would want more and more.

      His interests and priorities have all changed. His whole perspective in life has changed and all revolves around marijuana and getting high with his newfound friends. I barely see him except when he goes to bed and snore. EVERYDAY, this is his routine.

      I'm afraid that one of these days I will receive a call either from the hospital or the police.

      Marijuana has changed his entire being right in front of my eyes and I can't do anything about it. I spoke to him one time and in response, he yelled at me and said that he's an adult. This is a part of him that I never even knew would exist in him. I wish I dealt with this when he was in high school rather than now that he's an adult and acting like a HS kid.

      It all went from a simple get high/happy feeling to something uncontrollable and turned him into a completely different person.

      How then can marijuana be good for anyone?

      I grew up in the 60's and 70's but today's marijuana is so much stronger and chemical induced compared to what we had back then.

      I can now only wish and pray that one of these days he opens his eyes and accept that he has a problem. Biggest problem to be solved is to get away from these people he refers to as "friends".

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      mali 4 years ago

      my lover is back with the great help of priest okdou he help me cast a spell that brought her back to my arms, in just one days. my lover left me with our only kid and now they are back, once again i want to thank priest okodu for his wonderful spell am now a happy man. you can contact the great spell caster on his email: okoduspelltemple@yahoo.com

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      Prisca 4 years ago

      My situation was hopeless me and my husband was on the verge of divorce. I was in a awful state and felt that I was not able to cope with life any longer. I found Dr.Muku Love Spells and tried one. Well, he did return and now we are doing well again, more than ever i so much believe in him email to contact him is here below mukumukushrine@gmail.com

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      atanasia 4 years ago

      Hello, prophetsalifu I want to thank you for the returning spell you did for me my wife is back to me after using you returning love spell and she said there is no need for the divorce again thank you so much, i we never forget this great happiness you brought to my life. if you are in need of this powerful spell caster you can reach him through this Email address: prophetsalifu@gmail.com I must tell this to the world you took a sad man like me and make me happy.

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      mercy 4 years ago

      I can't thank you enough for all that you have done for me. About a year ago I my partner split up, we had both made BIG mistakes in our relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was relieved when I found your email on a site about what you have done. I requested 3 to 4 day casting of the reunite us love spell and within 4days mark company had relocated him back to our hometown where I still lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other. Our wedding date is set for Summer 2012. Expect to see your invite in the mail!.thanks to upesaspelltemple@yahoo.com

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      kihara 4 years ago

      what a wonderful man who has brought light to my life,my god will continues to bless him for his work of spell caster because he has help me with his spell caster work.i must confess that this man is bless with his wonderful power as a spell caster and i must thank my friend judith who introduce me to this wonderful man the spell caster who make me find happiness in my life again,after 1 week when this wonderful man cast spell for me my life change automatically my ex wife who has left me for another man for the pass 4 years came back to me for forgiveness which i never hesitate to accept him back and now my family is very happy that we are together with my two kids contact him his name is Dr cool and sell phone number +2348076664332 or email him via:lovespelltemple@yahoo.com

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      mercy 4 years ago

      If you don’t believe in magic, I think you are mistaken. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve had my doubts, too. But then I found upesaspelltemple@yahoo.com I was having money problems, and a good friend of mine referred me to him. I owned a shoping plaza, and I was a little behind on bills. I had already sold half of my stocks and couldn’t afford to lose any more. Otherwise, my business would be residing in the great pasture in the sky, if ya’ know what I’m saying. I was in some real trouble. I needed money and fast. After Upesa cast a money spell on me, I was living easy. I no longer have to worry about my shopping plaza, and I also am increasing my stocks quantity quickly. I couldn't have done it without you I was having money problems, and a good friend of mine referred me to him. I owned a shoping plaza, and I was a little behind on bills. I had already sold half of my stocks and couldn’t afford to lose any more. Otherwise, my business would be residing in the great pasture in the sky, if ya’ know what I’m saying. I was in some real trouble. I needed money and fast. After Upesa cast a money spell on me, I was living easy. I no longer have to worry about my shopping plaza, and I also am increasing my stocks quantity quickly. I couldn't have done it without you

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      4 years ago

      Dearest helptemple

      With my heart and soul I thank you. You have given me the strength to perform the work that was making me emotionally, psychologically and physically ill. I have yet to finish but I am thankful I have made progress. People came into my life to help me. They helped with my bills, my mental well being so that I was able to make good decisions. Today I received the highest rating at my job even though last year was the most horrible year of my life. I have never been rated lower than far exceeded during my entire career and I thought for sure it would happen this year. With that comes a lot of responsibility and I hope I do not fail as times are still tough and sometimes still feel sad and helpless. I wished that I could feel like a women and a person again. To be able make good decisions and get through this paperwork. Any help financially I would be extremely grateful. If it was more than I needed than I would do good with it. I have been provided with all that I prayed for.

      I am extremely grateful to you and all that you do. You are very gifted and I will never forget you. I am also grateful for the Blessed Mother, Jesus, God and St. Anthony whom I also pray to.

      I hope that my journey in this life continues with a clear mind and an open heart and soul so that I can do good for my children and this world.

      Again I thank you and send to you all that is good.you can as will email him helptemple@yahoo.com

      D. from USA

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      mark 4 years ago

      I will never forget the great work of Dr. OMO in my life. I was terribly ill and the doctors confirm that I can’t be healed completely for this I was frustrated and my increases as time pass on. When I meant Dr. OMO online I discuss my situation OBESITY with him, and he said nothing is impossible. He ask me to send my photograph which I did and he bought some materials which he used for me and I was able to regain my normal health after a week. When I went to my doctor for check up he was surprise and said unbelievable that my health is normal and my body weight equally normal. My greatest thanks to Dr. OMO if you which to contact him, his Email alteroffiretemple@gmail.com

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      Hayley 4 years ago

      Why are people on here advertising witch doctors? Shame on them making up fake stories to exploit people who are going through so much already. Do not trust these people or give them money. They should be removed from this blog.

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      sharon 4 years ago

      Thank you thank you DR OPOPO for what you have just done, for helping

      me geting my husband who left me with two kids april last year to me

      i thank you so much the great DR OPOPO of opoposolutiontemple@gmail.comfor

      bringing back my family i am greatfull and will always be if you also

      need his help his email( opoposolutiontemple@gmail.com)

      I had already tried three different internet spell caster's services, but all the persons I met were

      jerks. Then my friend told me about DR OPOPO Spells. I wasn't too sure anything would come of it,

      but I thought, why not take a chance? I cast a Love Spell, and the very next week my ex came back

      knocking. He is still caring, kind, romantic everything I always wanted. We've been together for six

      months now . I'm a believer!" If you require any assistance, you can contact him through

      opoposolutiontemple@gmail.com

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      lizzi 5 years ago

      Hi My name is lizzi just want to share my experience with you on how i got my love back and saved my marriage, so that you can also get back your lover into your life okay.

      I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn't want to loose her but everything just didn't work out... she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce... I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out... I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice... He did special prayers and used roots and herbs... Within 7 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child...I have introduced him to a lot of couples people and also the young once who are involve in relationship with their problems across the world. so him me and help so many of my friends help me to thank him is a great man. i want you to contact this man so that HE CAN GIVE YOU MORE advice on how to get back your boyfriend and that you can still be together Email:EGOGOTEMPLE@YAHOO.COM

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      Hope this helps 5 years ago

      To all of you agonizing over what to do, or feeling guilty for giving up on the addict in their life:

      Many people have to give up and get away for their own sanity, and no one deserves to have their lives, hopes and self worth swallowed up by another person's addiction.

      If you can support you're loved one without it destroying you that's one thing, but if you can't or don't want to anymore then you shouldn't feel guilty for giving up and wanting to live your life. If you have kids, RUN and don't look back.

      Do what you have to for your and (if you have them) your kid's happiness. You never know, seeing you are happy and living your life may give your addict some perspective, make them see that it's up to them to change and you are not to blame or responsible for their actions. Seems to have worked for many on here who have got clean.

      Best wishes to all, and well done to those of you who've been strong enough to move on with your lives whether you're escaping the addict or the addiction! xx

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      Emily Canipe 5 years ago

      This touched me so deeply. I really believe that God has to intervene with an addict. My best friend all through high school, moved away after graduating to pursue a career in nursing, had a job in a hospital in NY, had a brand new cadillac and everything... she was introduced to heroin, and that was it. She moved back down to NC, we reunited, and I automatically knew something was wrong. For 2 years, I watched her turn into this beautiful italian girl, into someone that literally looked like they walked out of a concentration camp. I never gave up on her. I never gave into her either. I took her in oneday, after 5 days of detox. She had people threatening to kill her because she knew where their meth labs were. It was so disturbing, but I took her in. I prayed with her during her seizures, I prayed with her during her convulsions... and I am here to say that God heals. Today, she has her color back, she isn't 90 lbs anym0re - she is 150lbs. She loves life, and she worships God daily. She went from homeless, to approaching 200 days of sobriety, Vanessa has learned to love herself. Right in the middle of an addiction that was killing her, she found God. and God is so good. We cannot change addicts, we cannot make them do anything.. ALL we can do is pray. & pray passionately. I cannot even count how many times I prayed for her, on my knees begging God to just intervene. I told Vanessa everyday that it does not matter what she does, God hears her. and he did. and he showed up right on time. Right when I just knew I was going to bury my best friend.

      May God be with you all. Pray for these people. It isn't hard to love an addict, it's just hard to watch the person you care for literally kill themselves, right in front of you.

      Kings Mountain, North Carolina

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      Jessica 5 years ago

      Hello,

      My husband of a 11 years is addict I have dealt with his addiction for 11 years and his lying for that long I finally kicked him out. I'm so tired of the lies and him slowly killing everything he touches I feel so hurt and so much pain I wish I didn't love him, I know I deserve more then a liar and a drug addict that spends every moment figuring how he can fool me and still smoke meth he has been a good provider that yells and screams at me calls me names and in the past has hit me. I had to just write that out because the pain the drugs always done. I'm scared right now because I was in a car accident a couple of years ago that has kept me from being able to work and he is the only one thats been bringing money home I have no family and I lost all my friends because of him I have no one.

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      Jason 5 years ago

      Let me tell all of you who are staying with addicts and wonder why they lie and dont stop. It is because you or someone or something is enabling them to keep doing what they are doing. If you are being around making sure people are breathing when there sleeping trying to show love and comfort to them this is enabling. Giving money a place to stay all enabling. Its easy for an addict when they are enabled and nothing changes they make thier addiction your problem guess what stop enabling and all of a sudden it becomes thier problem then they will need to make a choice on fixing it or not after they make that choice you then can decide if you stay with them or not.

      Also Marijuana is not a drug so dont lump it in with pills coke meth and alcohol because marijuana has never killed anyone is not physically addicting and is not bad for you. There is no come down.

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      Anonymous 5 years ago

      Wow , I'm sorry to hear all you went thru.

      An addict will never know the hurt and pain and damage he causes

      I've been thru hell and back with my first love at age 16 we broke up at age 20 or 21 till now at age 30 well go thru periods of not talking 5 years , 3 years etc and every time we find each other or run into each other well talk hell seem ok and better and working keeping a job etc and I'm like wow finally mayb we can be together because I really feel he is my soulmate and I've tried dating all types of men I couldn't stop wanting my love this beast of a man , down the line the truth unfolds I catch him nodding of and I simply ask are you using again he says no I just f'd up today little bit I'm like really !!!

      Way the hell a week ago were talking bout the possibility of getting back together getting our families involved talking marriage kids etc and this again it all feels like a bad nightmare I'll never wake up from , I can be without him but my soul will never let him go I tried being and living someone else I just can't and 14 years later I still feel connected even him gone or not a part of my life sometimes I wish I never ever met him .... Not only is he damaging his life I'm a sober person always have been not even a drink or Advil even my life in the men and family kids marriage department is shot , I could never be w anyone else no matter how I try and try this man is my heart I'd jump thru fire for him, I just don't get it he can have what he wants a good life etc but you choose a quick fix that prob don't do it for you anymore after years and years of use , I tried to n friends even and that can't work , I just don't understand how a beast this junkie this drug addict , how deep down inside of him how can he care for me in the ways he does how can he try and protect me in the ways he does how can he even being separate from him all year years je knew and made sure I was ok , kept in contact w my mom etc why ! Why would you do these things and hold on when you can just get high and say f$&k it !

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      Me Too 5 years ago

      Sorry to hear everyone's stories here. I can definitely understand the pain you're going through. YOUR NOT ALONE! My wife and I have been married about 15 years, much of which she's been addicted to various prescription medications -- pain medications, muscle relaxants, valium and sleeping pills.

      She is miserable as I assume most addicts are. She expects me to be loving and doting over her and doesn't understand that being around someone who is stumbling around, slurring her speech and wanting to have long incoherent conversations makes me miserable.

      She's overdosed two or three times and I've had to call the paramedics to take her to the hospital. A couple of weeks ago my son had to walk her out of a restaurant while I went to get the car because she could barely walk -- that was extremely embarrassing. She just tries to say "well it doesn't happen all the time so it shouldn't be a big deal". Well it should NEVER happen!

      If I left and took the kids, I know she wouldn't survive. Staying with her is no picnic either. The kids are affected badly either way. Neither option is good!

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      Penny 5 years ago

      I have been with my husband for 21 year we became friends in high school. I was the bad girl and he was the good guy. We got together about a year after we finished school and i smoked pot and drank and he was clea. One day some thing clicked andwe were driving and i rolled the window down a threw my pot out the window and looked at him and said from this moment on im never drinking or smoking again! He was so proud of me thin a year later he started ssmoking pot. I was fine with it no harm. Boy was i wrong!! He started tryng more drugs but was still a great guy. Then we had a child... i noticed he started changingand putting his friends before me. I went out with co-works one night and when i got home he had friends over and i noticed our daughters baby pic laying flay on the dresser and when i picked it up it had white powder on it so i asked him and he said ya i used it to snort coke off it with my friends like is was no big deal!! I lost it thrw everyone out and said how could you use your child pic to snort dru with your friends!! It kept getting worse so i cheated on him and was going to leave him. When i told him he freaked out and promised he would change and i thought he was changing then he asked me to marry him and said he would stop all the drugs!! Well that was a lie.. but i ignored it like a fool. Then my oldest sister died from a dotor giving her the wtong med combonation. And my other sister who was on drugs was hi and crashed her car in to a semi truck and died 8 months after my other sister. I was devistated!! In those 8 months i attended 4 funerals all related to drugs one way or another and i thought it would wake him up but nope!! We have faught so many time we even had a fist fight infront of our daughter over his drug use. For a while now he's been great so i thought... i started noticing the dark bags under the eyes then i start finding the hidden straws and foil of course there not his!! And i shouldn't be going through his things. A week ago i walked in on him in the bathroom and noticed he had a scared look on his fave so i moved the towel on the floor next to him and wouldn't you know... foil!! This morning i picked up hi shorts and a baggy of pill were in his pocket the look like morphine or oxys so i hid them and got back in bed well when he woke up he was all ilove you and mr nice then he relized his pills are gone he went from nice to asshole in a split second. And demanded his pills back so i said its me or the pills.. well he said he wasn't giving up his pills or me and i told him he couldn't have both he said he was staying on his drugs!! So i told him to take his cloths and stay at his dealer house and he said this was his house and he'd come and go as he pleased.. so no i don't know what to do!! His elderly dad lives with us and he has no ideal his sons an addict and i cant tell him it would break his heart. I have no where to go and my husband took all the money when he left for work this morning. I dont know if he's coming home or what i know if he comes home it will be a fight..shiuld i call the cops and have him arrested i found all his parafinalia...would tbey arrest him for that?? I Dont have a job because he got me fired becwuse he called wanting me to come home for lunch and i couldn't so he called back in a rage yelling at my boss who happened to be his sister!! I was so humiliated being fired in front of the whole office by my sister in law. I feel like im trapped and i cant let him do this to me any more but i have nothing and no where to go... i feel so alone!!!

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      ouiza 5 years ago

      My nightmare started 3 years ago. From thinking after nearly 30 years with my husband (both us aged 54, I found out that he had started snorting methamphetamine. He hid it from me for ages unitl I caught him with it one day and asked him what the hell he was doing? He said he started through boredom, which I found so hard to believe as we had a really good relationship, did lots of entertaining and have two wonderful kids (26 & 20)who are very close to our hearts and we had a beautiful relationship. He said something was missing after he had to give up playing soccer, was plagued with injuries and had avoid in his life. He has promised so many times to stop and has done (as far as I know) a couple of times. This has driven me almost mad, I dont have any trust, I check up on him all the time and even check his phone records to see if he has contacted the dealer. He says we need to trust each other! There have been so many things that have happened over the last 3 years, one mistake I made was to tell him that I had had a one night stand with another man 25 years ago. Everytime I brought up that he was using he would always say that I had been dishonest in the past and seemed to think this was a good reason for him to do as he was doing. I denyed it for so long but eventually I told him. I was hoping that with this truth of mine he would be more truthful with me and we wouldnt have the mistrust between us. By was I wrong!!! After telling me he woould never bring it up again, everytime I confront him with drug use, he brings uup that I was unfaithful, it was only on one occasion and I have regretted it ever since. This is his only weapon against me, but tries to make me guilty and pass his wrong doing on to me. We have been to see drug councillors but he decided he could stop on his own. We both stopped drinking and things were looking good. When I say drinking,it was just socialble and maybe sometimes we would go "overboard". I am by no means an angel and dont profess to be so, all I do know is this is ruining our once happy household, with the lies and deceit. It as if he is having an affair but not with another woman, its with his drugs. I have even tried not caring as all the stress was making me ill and really affecting our relationship, so I left him alone and said nothing, hoping he would find the old him and make the realisation that it was all a mistake. This didnt work either! We had a birthday party here for a good friend and he disappeared, I get a 6th sense and can tell when something is amiss. I brought it up the following day, just saying that we both needed to get help, he didnt bring it up again all weekend so I spoke to him again on the Monday. Denial, denial, denial, and blaming me for my dalliance all those years ago. Then he tells me he will be fine and I must trust him and he will show me. Well I am still waiting!!!!

      I am really happy to know that I am not the only one out there facing the same problems, but so distressed that we all have to go through such a devastation!!

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      TheSameBoat 5 years ago

      I am learning that addiction is a lifelong struggle for my husband. It will not change tomorrow or the next day. He couldn't come home from a 'picnic' last night because his friends told him to take a nap. I am glad he did not drive and put himself or others at risk, but I'm not sure how long I am willing to continue on this roller coaster.

      Like many of the others, I knew he a had a problem in the "past". He wasn't an addict, he said. He can handle himself, he said. Now, it is I who cries and wonders what tomorrow will hold. He doesn't care. He only wants to know how messed up he will be able to get.

      I suppose we can only help as long as we can help. After that we have to help ourselves to a better life.

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      David 5 years ago

      Hi I read your story and I can relate in a different way I'm the addict cocaine my wife just left me we have two weeks separated I went through loads of drugs and alcohol just to get to where I'm at now rock bottom I love her I want her back but she won't talk to me I want to die bad I just want her to help me I want to stop but the only thing that helps with the pain I feel because she is gOne is cocaine I need advise before doing something stupid here's my number text me 4694324958 I'm David all I need is a chance thank u and I'm sorry for even bothering u all

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      mommieof4 5 years ago

      My boyfriend is addicted to crack cocaine and heroin (girl). His family decide to keep it from me because they didn't want to interfere ... but I feel like they didn't want to deal with him so why not put him off on me .... I am trying my best to hold on to all the anger and everything he has put me and the kids thur and just totally turn my back on him. ThaT LAST ABOUT TWO WEEKS .... EVERYTIME like clock work he comes with this song and dance pony show that he want to get clean and he so tired of getting high. A part of me believe him and let him come back home to get cleaned up and eat because he does look so bad ... well he stays clean for about two to three days and then cycle starts all over again. I know I can't help him, he has to want to help himself. All the cursing, crying, screaming, pleading and begging will never do anything. So its Memorial Day weekend I decided I would cook and he promised me he would stay clean enough to cook the meat well I'll say this meat not cooked and both of our family will be here in the morning ... About midnight I'll send out cancellation text because honestly I just can't do another family gathering and going thur all the questions, stares, and pity. Sometime I feel I should have be able to return him where I found him at ... His brothers house... lol! I have to find some humor in the situation to keep from crying. The kids think the world of their dad thats only because their toddlers and they don't know any better .... well here the dog and pony show comes ~~ Pray for me to gain teh strength and guts to walk away!!

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      muminlaw 5 years ago

      All these stories are so sad. I honestly dont know what to say except to protect yourselves. The addict you love will not stop till they want to. I feel like its a puzzle trying to piece together the truth...very confusing. Who knows what will finally be the trigger they need. There will always be lies, doubts and pain. Its is sad that love is not enough for some. Walking away seems the smartest and most painful choice. Good luck and stay strong.

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      Heather 5 years ago

      Hi Everyone,

      is there any way to chat with people or get in touch with them? I need help as soon as possible. My husband and father of my four young kids is still using heroin and I'm so devastated. It's a long story but I'm having a hard time giving up on him, no matter how he treats me....Anyway, I do go to Alanon but I never meet anyone in my same situation, believe it or not, and I need someone to talk to, or even email with. Please. Thank you.

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      brandi lee 5 years ago

      I am a recovering addict and i have been in the same relationship for 2 years he is an active addict i moved out and he seemed to be doing great then little by little things changed i swore he was cheating then realized he headed back to jail or even death he calls me begging me for help when he is high hell talk but sober he wont open up im currently studying to be a drug counsoler but this situation is too close for comfort never thought id be in the position i put others in it is the worst hell avoid my calls and lie straight to my face the thing is even when i was using in the beginning of our relationship i was always honest with him i loved him too much to lie to him so i feel like he doesnt love me no matter how much he tells me he does i feel so betrayed as if he was cheating in a way the drug is his mistress i just want the old mike back i tell him please dnt ignore my calls even if ur using i will help him but he has to at leastr answer but he keeps hanging around the wrong people i blame everyone but my boyfriend i no im an enabler at time and as a recovering addict i should know better then at times i feel like it hurts too much to leave him i think ill just settle then i also know i have sobriety and cannot allow anyone to mess up not even myself i guess it comes down to i finally need to be selfish but in a positave way not the selfish i was when i was using im so confused

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      shortyvspvsp 5 years ago

      I see a little of myself in each of these post. But I have one question. My husband had the drug problem why do I feel it was me? I miss and love him and he will never know how much I'm hurting inside because of him. He has moved on and now he is living with a girl that he broke up her marrage and now they are having a baby.

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      tryingtomoveon 5 years ago

      I usually don't post about my life, but maybe this will help me to move on. I've been separated from my husband of 7 years for the last 14 months, yet I haven't filed for divorce...even though I'm done with the marriage, but some how afraid that divorce will be the end of him. I met my husband 11 years ago, we were young just out of college, we partied a little, drank alcohol on the weekends and he smoked weed. Little did I know he was also using cocaine and Xanax during that time too. We moved in with each other and got engaged; things seemed good. We stopped partying and settled down and started planning our wedding and our lives. The day before our wedding I found him with weed and a couple of xanax (the 1st time I knew about Xanax). I was mad, hurt, and thought about calling off wedding, he reassured me the Xanax was for his wedding nerves & the weed was from his bachelor party...of course I bought it, I wanted to believe it, I was getting married to the man I loved. My parents and family had been suspicious of him for awhile and my dad even know me my marriage wouldn't last 6 months, of course that made me want to prove them wrong and stay together. Shortly after we married (like weeks) we decided to move 2 hours away from my family and start over on our own. Within 2 months he lost his job and was on unemployment. I was working 2 jobs to just make it. My month 4 he had emptied out my bank account and over drafted a $1000 all for drugs. He said he would make it right and sell an expensive gun he had to cover my account and take me on a short vacation. When we got back things were good, he got a job, started helping around the house, and no signs of drugs. This went on for about a year; then the little signs started showing again...missing work, not helping with bills, missing money, and him always at a bar or a buddy's. I couldn't stand the sight of him and tried to avoid him at all costs...working late & living pretty much like roommates. Of course a married couple can only live this way for so long before it explodes, so when I confronted him he went into a rage and punched holes in our walls, smashed a kitchen chair over a table, and started breaking dishes. He started to hit me with a pool stick and then he realized I was already bleeding from a broken dish that had hit me. Blood was every where, he just froze up and set down and cried. He couldn't even help me stop the bleeding. I told him then I wanted a divorce, he begged me not to leave & that he would get help. Things got a little better, but not really. He took a job out of State and I stayed in Ohio for awhile...seemed liked the distance made our love stronger and we wanted to try again. I moved with him, withing a week he was arrested for a DUI, but some how got off on the charges. He kept on working, I was a stay at home wife looking for a job. Things soon went back to how they were in Ohio, living like roommates. Him partying with friend or being so wasted he slept through the whole evenings and weekends. Soon he started missing work, always angry, and always broke. He would leave me for days alone and travel back to Ohio to party with friends. Then one day he announces to me we were moving again to Indiana and I had no job or no family so I had to go too. We moved to Indiana for about a month, it was horrible! I felt homeless since we had to live in a hotel until we found an apartment, thank God (and I prayed daily for his help)he lost his job and we had to move back to Ohio with his parents. Once we got back to Ohio I found out I was pregnant & soon after I missed carried...some how this horrible loss led me back to my family. They took us both in and seemed to want to help us both get back on track. We lived awhile with my grandmother, we both got good jobs, and was able to get our own place. He stilled used weed, but nothing else and even though I didn't like it I could live with it. I got pregnant again and we were so happy, life seemed perfect! The week before my daughter was born my brother found my husband passed out in our drive way in his truck with Xanax in the ash tray. I confronted him and he told me he would quit. I knew he wouldn't but our baby was coming in a week, how was I going to leave now. Our daughter was born a week later, he was at the delivery and stayed the night with us at the hospital the next morning he left and didn't come back for 24 hours when they dismissed me. The next day was Christmas, he left again his wife and 3 day old baby girl and didn't come back for a couple of days. I was overwhelmed with a new baby, healing from a c/section, bills, holidays, and of course my drug addict husband. I developed post partum depression even though I would never admit to it, my only concern was caring for the baby everything else I didn't care. I would cry for hours and when he was around I could barely function...just looking at him high would make me so angry & I would start a fight or I would just cry. He would disappear & I would take the baby out at to go look for him & bring him home. He would destroy our home & I would clean it up. He would threaten me and push me around (never really hit me even though he came close a couple of times). He uses was coming obvious to everyone around and I was about to leave again, when his parents intervened and helped him to get clean again. Things got better again, seemed like the good times were back. I got pregnant with our son, he was working, I was working, our daughter was perfect, got a bigger home, and we were all happy. Then it seemed like the same nightmare starting over again, right before my son's birth I found a pill in our garage, not a Xanax though, this time Oxy. My husband had stopped Xanax and started Oxy he was never clean he could just hide it better, the Oxy even made him stop weed. I confronted him and kicked him out, he got clean and like a fool I let him back. 6 months later on Christmas night he tells me that he's back on Oxy and needs to go to detox, oh by the way our bank account is empty (he went through $7000 in 10 days). I set up detox and told him that this was it I was done, while he was in detox drug dealers started showing up at my home looking for him. Of course when he got out he was a NEW man and wanted to be with our family, and I took him back. After 2 months of being clean he was back at it. I found him at a drug house getting high with a woman and man, the woman who I didn't know, tries to be friendly with me and tells me I have beautiful kids...really she knows my kids. I lost it and assaulted several people including my husband...I left that night and never went back to our home until he was evicted a month later and I retrieved my furniture and items. My children and I have been living with my parents for the past year. All my stuff in storage. I couldn't get my own place because of drug dealers looking for my husband & my parents were afraid they might break in my house or worse. I am currently looking for an apartment. My husband has been in and out of treatment, on suboxone and back on the pain pills. My children visit him weekly at his parents home (supervised by them) when he's not strung out, otherwise he will go weeks without calling or seeing them. My daughter loves her dad and my son hasn't bonded much with him, since we left we he was only 9 months old. As of yesterday my husband has been clean for 7 days again, but he told me that he hasn't been paid in 8 days and gets a check today...so my guess is he's no longer clean. That's my story, sorry so long but I need to see it all written out without any lies or excuses. I need to let this part of my life go, I need to cut ties with him, I feel at this point my children would be better off with no father than the one they have.

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      kim 5 years ago

      my babydaddy is on crack he comes home everynight but he lies about him still indulging he also tries to stop for days but when he go back he does it worser and worser i love him but i have 4 kids and i want out now

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      muminlaw 5 years ago

      my son in law is a heroin addict. he came into my daughters life in 2009 they married the end of that year. by 2010 they were battling his addiction with methadone, which he lied to clinic to up his dosage, then suboxone, apparently shooting or trading his meds for dope, and of course therapy. all the while he stated how much he wanted help and he did it before, but in the end he blew every opportunity for help. he would use sometimes multiple times daily or every couple days. by 2011 he was in jail 5 separate times totalling over 6 1/2 months. he has been on parole and has now extended that by violating. he overdosed twice once @ a friends house, once @ my own house while on work release, that time my daughter saved his life sobered him up and returned him to jail. she wasnt going to let him come home after jail but had a change of heart, probably my fault for pitying him. since nov 2011 he has been back and forth with her, each time vowing to stay off the dope. had her make a list that he would no matter what follow after christmas. but of course he failed with using and lying constantly. he was unable to go more than 2 weeks without using and thought that was a major accomplishment. in february his parole officer came, he was smoking synthetic weed and let them in the house. my daughter foolishly had some weed (she normally didnt have) they smelled something and detained them both. he was wasted on the synthetic and said i dont smoke marijuana and looked directly at her then them. basically thru her under the bus so he would remain free. the next day he got $500 from income tax refund and went to use. (he shot up in front of his 16 yr old nephew) and returned the next day. the following morning he demanded more money, threatened our family, she grabbed his shirt and bumped him into the wall, he then shoved her across the room bruising her all over and smashing her feet causing damage that still exhists. she did not turn him in. he left and moved an hour away with the friend he was with when he od'd. they said he would get clean cuz he didnt know anyone there. he called me on mothers day after 3 months gone. said hes clean (but he does fake drug tests by flushing.) but denies using for months before she kicked him out. i know this is not true. he called again to see her kids (they are not his) and is now acting like she is being a bitch for not letting him see them. she says he is using and trying to fool me as he has before. she wants nothing to do with him except a divorce. i guess im wondering if he is in recovery why would he deny what we know he has done, say his sister lied about using in front of nephew. why would he contact me? shouldnt he be feeling some remorse for what he has done?

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      miss_kelly_anne 5 years ago from Northeast Alabama

      Thank you everyone for all the comments and for leaving your email addresses and communicating with one another. There is no sense in trying to get through this alone when there are so many people who are going through it too.

      I don't check this blog but once a month or so, it's a little sad for me maybe. But, I do respond to anyone to sends me an email. I have made some great friends over the years from this blog. Pain can really bring people together.

      I have had a lot on my mind this week and since this is the place to come to share... here I am!

      First a little update on The Ex-Husband's life. I haven't talked to Charlie in months and for some reason decided to call him last Friday night. Found out his mother is dying of cancer. She was in really bad shape. She passed away on Sunday, Mother's Day. I am so sorry for his family. I worry he will turn to drugs to ease the pain. He has a great fiance and a little boy who is about a year old. I pray those two people can pull him through this hard time.

      A little update on me....

      Well, the thing about me is I am a nurturer. I tend to be drawn to men who need my help. That is my downfall. My mom and I joke I take in boys like it's a halfway house, fix them and send them out into the world to be productive husbands and fathers. Since October I have been dating a very nice man, a drug free man. He's so good to me, has a job, takes care of what he needs to take care of. I am lucky to have him. But... As I said I am a nurturer and he doesn't need fixing. My ex boyfriend who dumped me a year ago to be with his ex wife needs fixing. I was only with him like 6 months or so. Well, was his ex wife but they remarried last fall. He is 43 an alcoholic, drinks 12-18 beers a day, unemployed, lives with his parents and doesn't have a car or $1 to his name. His wife kicks him out and of course he calls me and I start talking to him and seeing him. Not sexually but just meeting up with him and visiting. I got drawn back in even though I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me. I knew I shouldn't be talking to other guy. I knew it was inappropriate. I'm not a cheater and have never cheated on anyone. But, for some reason... I was stupid. The sweet boyfriend found out about it and I had to make a choice. I had to choose to be a grownup and be in the relationship that was good for me or to go back to my old ways of dating the exciting, very handsome, mess of a man. I made the decision for the first time in my life to take the right road before turning down it and having to make a U-turn after he had driven me nearly insane. I said goodbye to the ex and told him I couldn't fix him, I couldn't help him. I am very proud I have been able to break a pattern in my life. This decision, as easy as it sounds to make, was not easy for me.

      We all have our struggles and things about ourselves we need to work on. It's not just you... we're all a work in progress. I don't know if you're a Christian or believe in God but he gave us this free will thing and it's very difficult sometimes.

      I learned this week that what we want isn't always what is good for us at this time in our life.

      Always find a lesson in your struggles. Even the little ones.

      Oh... if you wanna add me on facebook just search for miss_kelly_anne@yahoo.com or Kelly Anne McNutt

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      legalbeagle 5 years ago

      As an addict myself, I will say that, without a doubt, you hit the nail on the head when you said that an addict has to WANT help before anything changes. That said, I encourage you to take comfort in the fact that you went above and beyond your wifely duties for this guy. You gave him more chances and more love than most spouses of addicts. So please - do not think of yourself as a failure. You did not fail at marriage; your loyalty, concern and love for this man was/is absolutely touching. You are a remarkable person to give so much to another. I am so happy that you have now focused that love on yourself. You did the right thing. There is nothing more you could have done. I put myself in treatment two times for prescription medication addictions. My husband is ashamed that I have had addiction issues and in spite of the fact that I recognized both the initial addiction and the relapse quite early (just a couple months into active addiction both times) and sought help, he is so embarrassed that he refuses to educate himself about addiction and assures me that he will leave "if I end up at rehab again." I would give anything if my husband had the kind of faith in me that you had in your husband. It is truly his loss that he did not embrace the love, faith and support you can him by seeking help and turning his life around. Bless you for being you!