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Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places. This is impossible. Fun song but terribly wrong.
Love is a miracle, but one you can create.
Please look for love.
We spend time looking for love. I imagine there are no less than a thousand sites for matching people up. I imagine there are about 1 gazillion singles bars." Looking for Love" is a wild sales pitch about something. Yes we can look for love and there is never a wrong place to look. Let me show you where to look. Even for just in your own married home.
People who are chronically single seem to miss out on love. Well let me rephrase that. People miss out on love. Why? The answer is so simple it is amazing. Hey now this is for you married folk also. Yep I promise if you read this you will have better love.
The boy had a big brother growing up and I mean big. He was an allstate, all American Basketball player in high school. He was not only two years older but 6 inches taller. He made his little brother practice with and against him almost daily pre-season. They lived at 7,000 feet so that meant he got to shovel the court of snow also. Broken nose, bruised ribs, busted or jammed fingers and concussions were not unusual for the younger. What the heck does this have to do with finding love? Read on.
I think this song is fun and funny.
I hope you are thinking something.
It would seem that you just read the paragraph about basketball and should be thinking about developing love through siblings. Well you would be correct. But that is not it about that story. Oh there was and still is great love between those to brothers. And certainly they learned to love each other. But that is not the big picture.
Love is life. Living it fully brings us to a spot of ability to love fully. Reservations, concerns, hesitations and fear keep us from living fully. And so they keep us from loving fully.
My good friend Michael just wrote a very cool poem about love --- that is just as much about life. I would highly suggest reading it, it is short and awesome: http://cleaner3.hubpages.com/hub/-Loves-Illusions
Can you imagine that cowboy looking all cool in a singles bar just thinking that if he looks real good the beautiful girl of his dreams will come up to him. And all the sudden he will be charming and dance great and know just what to say and his wrinkle lines will show happy and loving. ---- I do not think so. If he stands there practicing cool, that is what he will be, a standing guy looking cool.
(we used to laugh and say "Bill you are outstanding in your field. That is exactly what you are doing, out there standing in a field")
Where do you look for love?
If you want to find love where do you look?
Right down there is where love is found.
So here it is, here is the answer.
Now you will learn the secret to finding love.
Back to the basketball court and the younger brother. It turned out he became all city, all county and all state by his freshman year in high school. He played as MVP on a state championship team. So you find love like the little bro found success in basketball.
Practice, Practice and Practice and practice more against all the odds. Amazing isn't it. The cowboy and you cannot look for love with your eyes and expect to find it. You have to get out and love to become a lover. You have to practice with the homeless, the store clerk, the policeman, your siblings, your friends, your boss and your co-workers. Heaven forbid you even need to practice it at your place of worship.
If you stand there. You will stand there. If you go out and spread the love, you will love. Here is a funny one. This writer has been ready to marry about 10 times. I swear that I could get all hooked up with a hedgehog and give it so much love that it would work. I love loving.
Folks say there are a million types of love. I get it and have studied the types from Agape to Lust to loving money to loving risks. They all seem pretty much the same to me. Do not get me wrong I do not love my wife the same as puppy dogs but that is about the action I take. I swear that puppy dog loves me just the same when I am broke -- my wife not so much ;-)
I swear those two love each other.
So now get out there on that practice field.
Did I tell you that the little bro was born with a twisted leg and wore braces a lot until about 4 years old. And that he had no natural talent for basketball?
Some might say they are not made to love. Some may say "whoa me I shall never find love". Well with that attitude they will not. But if they wake up each morning and love something for 365 days I promise that they will find love on each of the 365 days. Love is not dropped on you. Love is an inside job. It is already within you. You just have to use it.
I have a garden with a few too many weeds. I have a shovel stored in the tool barn. The weeds will not kill themselves, and the shovel will not shovel with out my hands on it. The weeds remain where they are and so does the shovel. Unless I go out and get the shovel and dig up the weeds.
Why would love be different. And here is the fun part; those people are not weeds they are flowers. And you do not need the shovel. You just need to slow down and love the flowers. If you want them to love you back you just go right on out there and tend to them. Hey maybe just walk around and hum, maybe water or fertilize. Maybe pick some and put them in the kitchen. Smell them for sure. Or if it is raining just gaze at them from afar and share that with another.
I think love is a hunger.
Let me end with love for me.
I Love each morning for I am hungry to go get it and give it. My love is tainted and painted by my great spiritual master. That master is Jesus Christ. That is for me. I just think he is the epitome of Love and I like that. I think He is Love and keeps that love close to me.
I hope you find a place, space and guide to help you love. I do not care if it is a rock. Just love it until it loves you back.