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Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places. This is impossible. Fun song but terribly wrong.

Updated on October 29, 2013

Love is a miracle, but one you can create.

Love is no accident.
Love is no accident. | Source

Please look for love.

We spend time looking for love. I imagine there are no less than a thousand sites for matching people up. I imagine there are about 1 gazillion singles bars." Looking for Love" is a wild sales pitch about something. Yes we can look for love and there is never a wrong place to look. Let me show you where to look. Even for just in your own married home.

People who are chronically single seem to miss out on love. Well let me rephrase that. People miss out on love. Why? The answer is so simple it is amazing. Hey now this is for you married folk also. Yep I promise if you read this you will have better love.

The boy had a big brother growing up and I mean big. He was an allstate, all American Basketball player in high school. He was not only two years older but 6 inches taller. He made his little brother practice with and against him almost daily pre-season. They lived at 7,000 feet so that meant he got to shovel the court of snow also. Broken nose, bruised ribs, busted or jammed fingers and concussions were not unusual for the younger. What the heck does this have to do with finding love? Read on.

I think this song is fun and funny.

I hope you are thinking something.

It would seem that you just read the paragraph about basketball and should be thinking about developing love through siblings. Well you would be correct. But that is not it about that story. Oh there was and still is great love between those to brothers. And certainly they learned to love each other. But that is not the big picture.

Love is life. Living it fully brings us to a spot of ability to love fully. Reservations, concerns, hesitations and fear keep us from living fully. And so they keep us from loving fully.

My good friend Michael just wrote a very cool poem about love --- that is just as much about life. I would highly suggest reading it, it is short and awesome:

Can you imagine that cowboy looking all cool in a singles bar just thinking that if he looks real good the beautiful girl of his dreams will come up to him. And all the sudden he will be charming and dance great and know just what to say and his wrinkle lines will show happy and loving. ---- I do not think so. If he stands there practicing cool, that is what he will be, a standing guy looking cool.

(we used to laugh and say "Bill you are outstanding in your field. That is exactly what you are doing, out there standing in a field")

Where do you look for love?

If you want to find love where do you look?

See results

Right down there is where love is found.

Love begins inside but must be nourished from the outside.
Love begins inside but must be nourished from the outside. | Source

So here it is, here is the answer.

Now you will learn the secret to finding love.

Back to the basketball court and the younger brother. It turned out he became all city, all county and all state by his freshman year in high school. He played as MVP on a state championship team. So you find love like the little bro found success in basketball.

Practice, Practice and Practice and practice more against all the odds. Amazing isn't it. The cowboy and you cannot look for love with your eyes and expect to find it. You have to get out and love to become a lover. You have to practice with the homeless, the store clerk, the policeman, your siblings, your friends, your boss and your co-workers. Heaven forbid you even need to practice it at your place of worship.

If you stand there. You will stand there. If you go out and spread the love, you will love. Here is a funny one. This writer has been ready to marry about 10 times. I swear that I could get all hooked up with a hedgehog and give it so much love that it would work. I love loving.

Folks say there are a million types of love. I get it and have studied the types from Agape to Lust to loving money to loving risks. They all seem pretty much the same to me. Do not get me wrong I do not love my wife the same as puppy dogs but that is about the action I take. I swear that puppy dog loves me just the same when I am broke -- my wife not so much ;-)

I swear those two love each other.

Brother and Sister reunion is only a moment away.
Brother and Sister reunion is only a moment away. | Source

So now get out there on that practice field.

Did I tell you that the little bro was born with a twisted leg and wore braces a lot until about 4 years old. And that he had no natural talent for basketball?

Some might say they are not made to love. Some may say "whoa me I shall never find love". Well with that attitude they will not. But if they wake up each morning and love something for 365 days I promise that they will find love on each of the 365 days. Love is not dropped on you. Love is an inside job. It is already within you. You just have to use it.

I have a garden with a few too many weeds. I have a shovel stored in the tool barn. The weeds will not kill themselves, and the shovel will not shovel with out my hands on it. The weeds remain where they are and so does the shovel. Unless I go out and get the shovel and dig up the weeds.

Why would love be different. And here is the fun part; those people are not weeds they are flowers. And you do not need the shovel. You just need to slow down and love the flowers. If you want them to love you back you just go right on out there and tend to them. Hey maybe just walk around and hum, maybe water or fertilize. Maybe pick some and put them in the kitchen. Smell them for sure. Or if it is raining just gaze at them from afar and share that with another.

I think love is a hunger.

Let me end with love for me.

I Love each morning for I am hungry to go get it and give it. My love is tainted and painted by my great spiritual master. That master is Jesus Christ. That is for me. I just think he is the epitome of Love and I like that. I think He is Love and keeps that love close to me.

I hope you find a place, space and guide to help you love. I do not care if it is a rock. Just love it until it loves you back.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That makes my day!!! Thank you for letting me know that you enjoyed it.

    • Susan Recipes profile image


      4 years ago from India

      Simply awesome hub. I super liked it. Voted up.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Faith I was so blessed to be so loved growing up. Yes the brothers are me an mine. That old long gone court was kitty corner from my home, on my school playground across the street from my church and boy scout place and all my youth group life.

      He is always there inspiring and teaching and just being like a brother.

    • Faith Reaper profile image

      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, I just love how you love and know about love and just love!

      Dear Eric, this is a beautiful hub here. Thank you for sharing about that brother.

      Yes, indeed, He first loved us, so we are able to love others. As I truly believe, the answer is simple ... love!

      Yes, Michael's poem is very beautiful indeed.

      Up and more and sharing

      (((Hugs))) and much love to you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Such happiness is found when love is given. Of course I believe it is because God is Love. And when we love it is like trading hugs with God

      Thanks MsDora for sharing a little love here.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      It's all in your conclusion, Eric. God is love. When we receive His love, we stop looking and begin to share. Another good lesson from you!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My Cook Book, I just scrunched my overly wrinkled forehead and said to my own self "where dat friend be all dis time". Thanks for making my fine eve. And so with this I shall leave.

      My Cook Book has a look nook, now you'all get on down and have a fun took. -- meaning go see what is cooking down at that good lookin home and profile. Now ya'll git on over there and learn about health benefits at:

      Happy days to have you here.

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      Dil Vil 

      4 years ago from India

      Hello Eric am back to HP after a long time. Happy to see your hub and glad to read and comment on the same. Simply perfect, i am feeling like am gonna have a great start for the second innings on HP with your hub... Thank you for the above great read.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We are open you and I, Lastheart. We look and receive. And then we claw back and give back as only we can. We are lucky folk for we are "IN" love.

      (the bikers are from a family property balcony in Saigon)

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Brian, passion is in us. that passion deserves out attention. From the smallest broken twig to the largest broken man. I do not have your gifts, and I am happy for that --- for in you I find love, hoorah for us both.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise, How blessed we are to just wake up and be loved and love. Jesus just gives me that gift every single day.

      My children and I sing a song "love love the magical thing the more you give the more you bring. (yes that is a takeoff on the beans one)

      Happy day

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Marlene you really bring me great joy when you come by and leave a comment. I just really feel like it brightens my day. I will drop by and see you soon.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      I think this has become my favorite hub from you. Very nice...hope others read and get the message in their life. Thanks, this has open my eyes.

      Great photos, especially the bikers.

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      Brian Prickril 

      4 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Eric, you are turning into one of the most interesting people I have ever known. You know a little of this and a little of that and a little of everything. I feel your love from the opposite coast. It radiates through your word. God bless.

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      Denise W Anderson 

      4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      What a profound thought, love something until it loves you back! I have found that to be very true in my own life. I thought that if I gave love to everyone, I would soon run out. I found that the opposite is true. The more I love others, the more I get in return. Love is a great healer. It is only through the love of our Savior that we can be healed of the many hurts we have experienced in our lives. Great hub!

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      Marlene Bertrand 

      4 years ago from USA

      I enjoyed reading your thoughts on love today. I really like your photo caption, "Love begins inside but must be nourished from the outside."

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Frog Prince. I likewise am enjoying yours.

      If we are complacent we not only miss much but contribute too little.

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      Great writing Eric.

      The Frog

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well your opinion starts out my day every day. I just loved the one today on that rascal we call loneliness:

      No doubt you are full of "it", and I like it.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My day can begin; Eric has been here and fed my soul.

      Love is an inside job; once it takes up residence then looking for love comes as naturally as breathing. :)

      Just my opinion, and sometimes I'm full of it, but this time I think I'm right on.


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