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Love is a Core

Updated on December 4, 2014

Love is not an outside in job, it is an inside out proposition.

Love does not know exteriors or age or differences. It revels in sameness of itself.
Love does not know exteriors or age or differences. It revels in sameness of itself. | Source

Love is a Core

Have you ever stopped to think about the core of an apple? It is the reason for the apple. It houses the seeds to make more apple trees and therefore more apples. It is said that one seed of an apple has more nutrients than the rest of the apple. I believe this and eat all the seeds. Of course I believe that sunshine is really good for you and that anything eaten within minutes of being picked is enormously better for you than anything after twenty minutes. Call me a country bumpkin with a doctorate and you would be about right.

So love is also our core. One seed of love is more important than the rest of the being. One kernel of our heart is worth more than a pound of our understanding. Love does not require knowledge or logic or even intelligence. Yet at the core it will provide all these things. It is a giver of things and not a taker. It requires nothing and in fact is more abundant in a nothingness state of being. Love comes up from our core in meditation and prayer and in giving. It does not come up in intellectualizing or analyzing. It is incorruptible by principalities of man. It reigns in solitude and in assembly with others. What can be more core than that?

Love is not what you see in a movie scene or what media would tell you.

Little children teach us much if we watch and listen.

Why do little children love?
Why do little children love? | Source

The default position.

When children are young and normal and all things are normal they love. It just is what they do. They are not taught love they just do love.* Perhaps later in life we will develop conditioning and reactive behavior based on our environment but in the normal healthy life love just exists. A child will hug someone even though that person is not hugging them. One can say that this behavior is simply some sort of clinging out of instinct. But I dare say that those people have either not experienced what I am talking about or are themselves to cold to feel what it really is.

My point is that at our original core there is love. It need not be taught or conditioned into our being. Now later on when our mind takes total control of our feelings we can convert that love and shut it down. It may not even be a voluntary reaction. It very well may be a survival instinct based on some sort of the notion of fight or flight. But in reality love must be "overcome" for it to be "absent" in a normal person. And it is not really absent at all but rather repressed.

This normally would and should bring us to the appreciation that love is always present in our core. Absent conditioning to the contrary love will be our default position. There really is no on or off switch to the love that is inside of us at our core. There are only layers and layers that we grow to stifle love, much like an onion has layers. And like the onion we can peel back the layers until we reach the most pungent part of the onion which is the core. And yes to some that core is sweet and sought after and to others nothing but tears and stench.

I choose the core and to me it is the sweetness of life both because of the warm fuzzy feelings and because of the absence of self at the real core.

*Leave the weird "science" of B.F. Skinner and Pavlov out of this as they are not welcome in my hubs. Although the notion of reinforcing has some validity, but not to the extent that these folks would have you believe.

Even the tough brute has love at his core.

In order to carry on our own ego we develop masks that cover our love.
In order to carry on our own ego we develop masks that cover our love. | Source

How do we nurture our core?

Well it is a dichotomy of sorts. We must intellectualize and then we must lose the intellect to really venture into the love that is at our core. Outside experiences can make us happy or sad but true core love is not effected by these matters. It is a constant. We have barriers and defenses to both love and external stimuli. So we must understand that we must break down these barriers but then let go of the intellect and an external understanding. Shall we say that we must set our feelings free in order to really experience the love that is at our core.

There is chaos in the world. There is stress and there are valid reasons to maintain a facade and to "hold things together". These matters should not be trivialized or minimized they are in fact a reality. (some would go all metaphysical and deny that they are in fact reality and merely all facades) For the common man they are matters that must be dealt with daily. And so it is that we must make time to "escape".

There is a triplet of sorts that can have many variations but boil down to simple concepts. Prayer, meditation and mindful exercise. At the meat of these three there becomes a let go of the pressures to maintain our layers of defenses and our suppression of true love. When these are practiced they allow for a freedom of our core. They allow for us to experience love.

And it is with great effort, but worthy effort nonetheless that we can bring this love into our daily being. That we can release our core love. And then carry that message and goodness to others that this world has us come into contact with in our routines.

How about you?

Can you get in touch with your core?

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I love you, but not that much ;-)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I had to almost lose it all in order to reach my core, but now that I found it, I'm not leaving, baby!!!!! You know I love this message.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great words of love and so true.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I reckon I did lose it all. At least all of what I thought was important. And here I am happy as a clam.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you DDE your encouragement means a whole lot.

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      cleaner3 2 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      glad to see you still trying to send the message and spread the Word..keep fighting the good fight ..my friend

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you friend it is great to see you around a little lately. It is good of you to drop by and leave a note.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Eric your point is passionately made that "at our original core there is love." I like the illustration of the apple seed and your ideas on nurturing our core. Thanks!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Look at that "tough brute" there so full of love from his core ...

      Speaking of love, I truly love this lovely hub here on love. You are sharing such great insight, as it is an inside job.

      Love your great photos you have shared here too.

      If we can all stop and take a minute to hear the words that are coming out of our mouths, for out of the mouth, the heart speaks ... is your heart speaking love or something else ... Thank you for getting us to stop and ponder.

      Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

      (((Hugs) and much love to your and yours

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      I believe the old saying "love conquers all." But I would add "love and singing conquers all." (Just had to add the singing.)

      Absolutely a superb hub! I agree with every word. Love is so easy and natural. I rarely vote up, useful, awesome, beautiful and interesting - but I did on this one. Sharing too.

      And speaking of love, sending mine along.

      Audrey

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora, It is easy to be so passionate when you are so passionate ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Happies to you and yours Faith. Isn't it interesting that being writers we can now say that out of the heart we write. You clearly are very in touch with you core! Thank you very much for your awesome support it lifts my spirits.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Audrey to you up in the mountains. I hope you got just the right amount of snow from our recent storm. I promise you that we sing in this house and we sing daily. Thank you for your votes and sharing, I just love to get them and feel honored when someone shares.

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      Mary Craig 2 years ago from New York

      How could anyone disagree with the need to love (and be loved). I totally agree, we are born loving and nurturing that love makes it grow until it encompasses all we see and do. Yes Eric, love is certainly at our core and please God it always will be.

      Voted all but funny.

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      Susan 2 years ago from India

      Wonderful message of love. I always love reading your hubs.

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      SAQIB 2 years ago from HYDERABAD PAKISTAN

      Love is in the air perhaps.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Mary, we are very blessed first to have love and then to appreciate it as you do.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Susan thank you for dropping by and giving me such positive feedback. I really am happy that you like reading my hubs, makes my day.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Saqib, indeed I think it may just be in the air. Thank you for the thought.

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      Dana Tate 22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Good morning man of God: How blessed I was to wake-up this morning and find this hub among my emails. I have been going through them lately now that my computer is fixed so don't be surprised that I'm now commenting on hubs I received months ago. Back to the point; I woke up this morning thinking about love- and the need to be loved. Love is the core of our being. Our Creator is love. We were created in love and, the most beautiful part of us we have to offer is love. Love is patient and love is kind. A child's love is the most precious's love next to God's, it's perfect and pure. Love must be nurtured and respected. Okay, I'm ending this long comment- I just wanted to say thank you for brightening my day.

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      Eric Dierker 22 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well I'll be. I did not get this in my normal notifications, so I am late responding, but it must be on God's time because I needed this now. I was starting to let in tiny resentments toward my lovely wife. I could just feel it blocking the love. A gentle reminder by a good friend, you, and I am back on track. An angel you are.

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