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Love is a Core
Love is not an outside in job, it is an inside out proposition.
Love is a Core
Have you ever stopped to think about the core of an apple? It is the reason for the apple. It houses the seeds to make more apple trees and therefore more apples. It is said that one seed of an apple has more nutrients than the rest of the apple. I believe this and eat all the seeds. Of course I believe that sunshine is really good for you and that anything eaten within minutes of being picked is enormously better for you than anything after twenty minutes. Call me a country bumpkin with a doctorate and you would be about right.
So love is also our core. One seed of love is more important than the rest of the being. One kernel of our heart is worth more than a pound of our understanding. Love does not require knowledge or logic or even intelligence. Yet at the core it will provide all these things. It is a giver of things and not a taker. It requires nothing and in fact is more abundant in a nothingness state of being. Love comes up from our core in meditation and prayer and in giving. It does not come up in intellectualizing or analyzing. It is incorruptible by principalities of man. It reigns in solitude and in assembly with others. What can be more core than that?
Love is not what you see in a movie scene or what media would tell you.
Little children teach us much if we watch and listen.
The default position.
When children are young and normal and all things are normal they love. It just is what they do. They are not taught love they just do love.* Perhaps later in life we will develop conditioning and reactive behavior based on our environment but in the normal healthy life love just exists. A child will hug someone even though that person is not hugging them. One can say that this behavior is simply some sort of clinging out of instinct. But I dare say that those people have either not experienced what I am talking about or are themselves to cold to feel what it really is.
My point is that at our original core there is love. It need not be taught or conditioned into our being. Now later on when our mind takes total control of our feelings we can convert that love and shut it down. It may not even be a voluntary reaction. It very well may be a survival instinct based on some sort of the notion of fight or flight. But in reality love must be "overcome" for it to be "absent" in a normal person. And it is not really absent at all but rather repressed.
This normally would and should bring us to the appreciation that love is always present in our core. Absent conditioning to the contrary love will be our default position. There really is no on or off switch to the love that is inside of us at our core. There are only layers and layers that we grow to stifle love, much like an onion has layers. And like the onion we can peel back the layers until we reach the most pungent part of the onion which is the core. And yes to some that core is sweet and sought after and to others nothing but tears and stench.
I choose the core and to me it is the sweetness of life both because of the warm fuzzy feelings and because of the absence of self at the real core.
*Leave the weird "science" of B.F. Skinner and Pavlov out of this as they are not welcome in my hubs. Although the notion of reinforcing has some validity, but not to the extent that these folks would have you believe.
Even the tough brute has love at his core.
How do we nurture our core?
Well it is a dichotomy of sorts. We must intellectualize and then we must lose the intellect to really venture into the love that is at our core. Outside experiences can make us happy or sad but true core love is not effected by these matters. It is a constant. We have barriers and defenses to both love and external stimuli. So we must understand that we must break down these barriers but then let go of the intellect and an external understanding. Shall we say that we must set our feelings free in order to really experience the love that is at our core.
There is chaos in the world. There is stress and there are valid reasons to maintain a facade and to "hold things together". These matters should not be trivialized or minimized they are in fact a reality. (some would go all metaphysical and deny that they are in fact reality and merely all facades) For the common man they are matters that must be dealt with daily. And so it is that we must make time to "escape".
There is a triplet of sorts that can have many variations but boil down to simple concepts. Prayer, meditation and mindful exercise. At the meat of these three there becomes a let go of the pressures to maintain our layers of defenses and our suppression of true love. When these are practiced they allow for a freedom of our core. They allow for us to experience love.
And it is with great effort, but worthy effort nonetheless that we can bring this love into our daily being. That we can release our core love. And then carry that message and goodness to others that this world has us come into contact with in our routines.
How about you?
Can you get in touch with your core?
I love you, but not that much ;-)
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