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Loving the absent spouse. Tough Nails to Chew.

Updated on February 9, 2014

That is the sign and a picture of a child living in not just freedom, but sacrificial freedom.

That boy misses his mom. So we hug more and talk about how mom is the very best!
That boy misses his mom. So we hug more and talk about how mom is the very best! | Source

Oh hell I got no right to speak on the absent spouse. She is just gone this time of year doing taxes for serviceman.

But we saw her for a few minutes this morning and on Friday night so that is cool. It is not like a spouse on the front lines. No way Jose'. But she is nearby and yet absent from our lives and serving service men and women.

She is just a Tax Pro that specializes in servicemen and women -- oh yes, clergy also. It is not a job for her it is a calling, and my four year old boy and me are proud of her while we eat a meal in her absence. To us those who serve those who serve are heroes. And we try to accommodate her in her needs the best we can.

We think that those stateside workers that reduce troubles for those with family in combat are just awesome. We celebrate those like my wife that work behind the scenes to clear a path for calm and harmony for our fighters.

My son's grandpa fought with these men, that means one of my best friends and my wife's dad. Not some abstract notion.

Sometimes after a bath and dinner we stay up!

And we have these little American flags we wave when mommy comes home.

My Home Supports Our Troops. And we will not waiver.

This lady who helped to raise me, that little boy, lost her husband in Korea.

I hope my son has a choice, but by honor he may not.
I hope my son has a choice, but by honor he may not. | Source

My job is easier for the Veterans.

I just hike down in the local canyon with blankets and fresh water and check on folk. How easy is that? My son has done it a few times with me but at only four he gets a little scared. Some of these folks are not all the way back from combat and heavily self medicate.

My only job is love and I have a good time talking about Jesus and how he is not right for them. Truly too many have demons that do not need to hear that Christ stuff. But some are sane and we just chat about Obama and the Mayor and such stuff.

But like I say my job is easy so back to those who leave home.

Stand and stand tall, there is no good airplane that is not worth jumping out of for honor's sake.

Not all that support our troops go abroad.

Sometimes they just leave for a bit. But God bless those that travel the seas and leave us wholly. They are my heroes. And we work stateside to help as best we are able.

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She is an immigrant from a communist country.

Not just any communist country but one we fought hard in and lost 50 thousand men. And one her family saw a retreat from our politicians and people. Yet she works each night to help them understand their taxes and make the best of a situation.

Mostly she deals with spouses with babies bouncing on knees and all the distractions of the world and worry and patriotism. Without details I am so proud to maintain a home that produces such a patriot.

So about this time of year I am getting whooped being a single dad. It is hard. Sometimes I just get tired and stressed out. And then I put my son on my knee and explain that mommy is helping folk who protect us. And I cry. And then I remember all those souls that have my servicemen s back. And no matter the sinful nature of it I am proud.

And my home stands for something and that is good.

Are ya'll and angel or silent?

Oh my, one look at me and you know I am no angel, but I support one -- does that count?
Oh my, one look at me and you know I am no angel, but I support one -- does that count? | Source

I got nothin.

Truth be told I have only risked my life about 4 times, stretching it for my country, I would be what you call a desk jockey. But I do my best to do my best for those family members of those who do put it on the line. It is just something I think we should all do.

Tough guys are very cool. But sometimes the tough guy is just the one who gets up and faces another day and does his duty to God and country. And many times thank God that guy is just a gal.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise, my little boy had a little medical procedure done this morning so mom was off work. She insisted to take me to my favorite restaurant for lunch to thank me. Wow how great that made me feel. Does anyone have a billion dollars so I can get her everything she ever wanted for Valentines day?!

      Best for you and yours and thanks for commenting so I can back to share that.

    • denise.w.anderson profile image

      Denise W Anderson 

      4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Any time a parent stays home to care for a child in the absence of their spouse, they are a hero in my book! My husband did it for me while I went outside the home to teach music lessons. It made him appreciate the times when we were at home together. We each need that opportunity to learn what our spouse does and celebrate it! Cheers!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora, Thank you much, I am blushing.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Brian, Ft. Ord was about 5 miles away from our home. Now part of Miramar Marine Airbase. Thank you for your service.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Sounds like a lot of love, loyalty and appreciation in your family. Both wife and son are blessed to have you. Don't ever change unless you can improve what you're doing now. Well, that's for them to decide!

    • Brian Prickril profile image

      Brian Prickril 

      4 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Eric, I served three years in a light infantry division right out there in your backyard. That was when Ft. Ord still stood. I was damn young (18) years old. And I was also damn fortunate to serve in a relatively peaceful time. Hold the fort, single dad! And keep up the good work.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda we find our right place. And you are the epitome of love. You just make me smile! Thank you for you, we shall love you.

    • mylindaelliott profile image


      4 years ago from Louisiana

      I do other things but not for veterans or servicemen...


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