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The Power of Intention to Change Emotions and Turn Life Around

Updated on June 26, 2017
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Val is a life-long student of psycho-philosophy of living, and a devoted practitioner of many techniques enhancing personal evolution.

In an Instant We Can Make It All Better by Daring to Intend It that Way
In an Instant We Can Make It All Better by Daring to Intend It that Way

Opting for Entirely New Game

After the last card seems to have been dealt to us in this whimsical game of life, we still have a chance to ask ourselves if perhaps we are in a wrong game - rather than if we are playing it right. Namely, do we really have to feel at the mercy of that hand that is dealt to us?

Could we just yank ourselves out of that fatalistic attitude and try something like our own volition? And I certainly don't mean the one when we close our eyes and blow the flames out on our birthday cake.

And neither I mean that daydreaming ending up with a sigh spelling out "If only..." What I mean is an intention beyond which nothing is left to the whims of stars and Lady Fortune. Something like moment to moment insistence on what we want for ourselves, for our life.

Just Wondering "What Life Has in Store for Us"  -  Is Not Living It
Just Wondering "What Life Has in Store for Us" - Is Not Living It

Conscious vs. Unconscious Life

Would you be willing to believe that even what we feel at any given moment could be a result of our conscious intention? I am not kidding you. Any feeling imaginable is available to us at any moment, regardless of the current situation of life circumstances.

It's only that nobody is talking about it, because the great majority of people spend their whole lifetime switched on their automatic mode of functioning. Surrendering their conscious power of choice to it, they let it choose for them how they feel - out of the memory bank of similar experiences that may match in some even completely irrelevant detail.

Some of us may get an anxiety episode while waiting in a lineup where a person has a moustache similar to that of our elementary school teacher who once made the whole class laugh at us. Indeed, to a different extent most of us are living unconsciously, letting the life happen to us, allowing our conscious-self merely a role of pissed off observers.

Most of Us Spend Our Lifetime Sleepwalking towards that Final Edge of No Return
Most of Us Spend Our Lifetime Sleepwalking towards that Final Edge of No Return

Let's Face It - We Are Mostly Unconscious and Don't Know It

Since we are social beings, most of our emotional responses we learned from interacting with those around us. After years of seeing everybody imitating everybody else, we are bound to take it for granted that feeling good on Monday morning, or feeling happy on a gloomy, rainy day is like a heresy.

Something like a "conscious intention" is simply catering to those programs in our brain which we follow blindly like some traditions or "customary and appropriate" experiencing of life, without ever questioning their value for us. Yes, when it boils down to the basics of our processing the reality, we tend to be quite "mentally dogmatic" in our ways.

Then we naively talk about our "free will" which somewhat reminds me of a philosopher's saying that "if a thrown pebble could think, it would believe that it is deciding where to fall". Since over 90% of our mental activities are unconscious, we, as conscious beings hardly have a say about how to run our show - it's all pre-cooked and pre-chewed for us already, and we just have to swallow every morsel of our mostly toxic and negatively spiced recipe for living.

We Can Instantly Create some Fascinating Fireworks of Happiness in Ourselves  -  by a Simple Intent
We Can Instantly Create some Fascinating Fireworks of Happiness in Ourselves - by a Simple Intent

We Can Choose Our Emotions

How do we wake up? The answer is simple - by realizing that we are asleep. That act of conscious detachment from our experiencing and observing it makes us awaken. We are either in it, blending with it, identifying with it - or we are outside watching it nonjudgmentally, with a full power to either allow it to stay, or change it for something that intuitively makes more sense to us.

To the most of the people it is unfathomable that we can consciously change how we feel almost in an instant. Neuroscientists are telling us that during sleep we experience a time distortion, and a long dream is actually lasting just a few moments.

It's like brain has this ability to fast-forward its experiencing, which, for our purposes means that we don't have to "practice" to feel great but can fast-forward to that emotion. The problem may be in our tendency to question "how natural" it is.

Yes, it is, just think how "natural" it would be to you to make that emotional shift from a boredom to an euphoria the moment you found out that your lottery number is the winner of jackpot. You see, our inner program is allowing that exception, but not the one where you would out of the blue, and without a jackpot feel euphoric or alike.

For sake of our awakening we've got to realize that such a mental shift is possible to our nervous system, meaning that we don't have to "gradually practice" it. Once when we are clear about it, it becomes so much easier to accept that we can consciously "intend" to feel a certain way and have it delivered by our nervous system.

Why would we do it? Just because we can, and it's a fabulous way to live this life, while not having to "wait and see" what's appropriate to feel in certain situations. I have said it elsewhere and I will say it again here: "Mind is an obedient servant, but a cruel master".

Every Memory of Childhood Limitations Is merely a Mind's Construct, Not Present Reality
Every Memory of Childhood Limitations Is merely a Mind's Construct, Not Present Reality

No Need to Replay Traumatic Past

So your childhood did not spare you from some traumatic experiences, and now you think that your present emotional situation has something to do with it. Sorry, I know what psychoanalysts are telling us, but to me it's all like saying that the pain from hitting our finger with hammer "originates" from the pain from hitting a finger with a toy.

The qualitative pattern of suffering is there available to us whether we make it our experience in our childhood or in adulthood. It's only that our automatic pilot is bound to choose for us those patterns which "stick out" as more prominent in our memory bank - but we have to realize that we can activate any other at any time, no matter how much less it has been in use.

Thus, saying that we had an unhappy childhood and religiously replaying those patterns of experiencing - whether it's loneliness, feeling unloved, overly criticized and ridiculed... - we are surrendering our power to our automatic pilot to keep us in that emotional groove.

Contrary to saying that "we can't edit our past", I am telling you here and now that we can consciously decide to even turn all of it into a funny experience, dulling the painful edge of the past. Indeed, we don't have to escape from that past, but confront it with a conscious and awakened spirit and requalify its emotional content into something that doesn't feel bad at all.

If you look at those TV sitcoms, all of them are actually doing exactly that - turning the drama of life into a comedy of life, using those real human issues and making them insignificant. Everything, from handicapped folks to funerals has been shown in a light way - at times making us laugh to tears instead of crying.

Indeed, it's entirely up to us whether we choose our emotional responses to past consciously or unconsciously.

What Separates Us from Its Taste Is just Intent
What Separates Us from Its Taste Is just Intent

The Only Way is a Straight Way to It

Could we jump out of that grove by intending to start anew?

So far we only thought we wanted a better life, without intending it, and then we kept sabotaging it by beating around the bush. Let me give you a little metaphor, Suppose you are sitting on your couch and deciding to get yourself a glass of juice from your fridge - O.K., guys, I'll make it a beer for you.

So what do you do, if we are to compare it to our "attempts" to be a happier person? You get up, make a couple of rounds around your coffee table, wondering why it still doesn't feel like drinking that beverage. Then you look at the front page of the magazine sitting on your coffee table showing the commercial for your drink, and that picture still doesn't "taste" like it.

Then you finally give up and sit back, now pissed off because no one around you is bringing that damn beverage to you - or "making you happy" in translation, something that you refused to do for yourself by not walking a straight line to that fridge and taking out of it what you chose for yourself.

No matter how we want to philosophize about happiness, it all boils down to either igniting that emotion in ourselves by a conscious intention, or not. There is no other way around it, we have to "want" it for ourselves. I mean in a straight line from that want, now given an energetic charge of intent, and to that chosen mode of experiencing, no pausing, no questioning, no distraction.

Remember the metaphor involving that beer from the fridge. We can't get it if on the way to the fridge we take the TV remote control to check what's on the global news and how many people have been killed, raped, burnt in fires, robbed, molested, etc. We either end up having that beer or we end up being pissed off by something that others are doing.

Nothing Gives Us so Much Sense of Freedom Like the Power of Conscious Intent at Work
Nothing Gives Us so Much Sense of Freedom Like the Power of Conscious Intent at Work

A True Magic in those Intentions

Are you starting to get a picture of how much is possible to change in your emoting - and consequently in whole life, by a sheer intent, while meaning business and not beating around the bush with CD's, seminars, and other "gradual" re-conditioning and reprogramming?

For it only takes an instant, empowered by full understanding of this "technology of intention" to produce results beyond anything that we have "attempted" before. Intent is not about "trying".

And now that you know that getting that beer from fridge doesn't involve anything else on your way to the fridge but a shortest distance from point A to point B - you deserve to enjoy that beer. Cheers!

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      Hari - Thank you for leaving a nice comment. You are right, we all have to liberate ourselves and take charge of our thinking and emoting. - Val

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      MsDora - Happy to hear from you again, and even happier to see another wise human being who sees the importance of our conscious intentions. Have a great evening, and thank you for the nice comment. - Val

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      Linda - Once again, you brighten my day with your special talent to say these generous words of praise which make my four typing fingers itchy to write again. Thank you, my friend. - Val

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      Paula - Isn't it fun reading something and recognizing your own life long policies just expressed in different words? Thank you for your rewarding comment my friend. - Val

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      Lela - Just like yourself, many people of a certain "brain muscle" could be reminded about instances of their own intentional manner of handling life situations and circumstances.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 17 months ago from The Caribbean

      "We have to intend it to happen." Thanks for underscoring this message. A really persuasive presentation.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 17 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I truly believe that happiness comes from doing. For example, I have looked at my dirty patio windows since it turned warm, this morning I washed them and felt great. We can make things happen, but it takes getting up off the butt to get it done. Great philosophy, this piece of writing. Thank you..

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      Hari Prasad S 17 months ago from Bangalore

      It is kind of an eye opener lest the old habits would have returned, had this hub was not read. Nice hub. Everyone needs to be reminded about the right way of thinking and not get bogged down by the superstitions or self generated inhibitions pulling ones ownself down.

      - hari

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      Carolyn - I wish I had seen any of those "space" movies, but somehow I never developed an interest for them, and my imagination found its food in themes of unused human potential. But yes, no matter what movie characters said all that, they were so right. Maybe that kind of philosophy actually made them space travellers exploring the unknown.

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      Linda Robinson 17 months ago from Cicero, New York

      Good Morning Val another interesting, informative and mind boggling hub, terrific, you know all the ideal ways to grab the reader's attention and to hold it until the last word, and fully enjoying it. With your skillful writing you can visualize in detail what you are getting across. Amazing fun hub Val. Take care. Linda

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      Carolyn Fields 17 months ago from the USA

      “Do. Or do not. There is no try.” Yoda, in The Empire Strikes Back. Another quote that is often overlooked - “That is why you fail.” - which is Yoda's response when Luke says "I don't believe it." Yes, we must all decide to be happy, believe it, and find supporting actions. It's so simple - and so difficult - all at the same time.

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      Vladimir Karas 17 months ago from Canada

      Dr. Billy Kidd - What a fascinating testimonial to the power of intent!!! Bravo!!! You are so right, and you also concluded it with a right choice of words: "It's time to unlearn it!"

      Thank you my friend, it's great to know that someone else dares to put himself in charge of his emotions, not passively waiting for them to "happen" to him. - Val

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      Paula 17 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Wisdom and truth all on one page. Fabulous Val. I read it twice and soaked up every word both times.

      It occurs to me that right about this time of the night, is the ideal time to happen upon your latest piece of art.

      The perfect way to end my day with a bedtime story so inspirational! You're better than "Cinderella" or "Sleeping Beauty" and a whole lot more sensible & useful!

      Thank you my friend and Good Night, Pleasant dreams.....Paula

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      Lela 17 months ago from Somewhere in the universe

      It's the Nike slogan - Just do it! I have done that my whole career. I've known techs that would sit in the bathroom rather than do some actual work. I would always be the one saying, just do it, and get it done.

      It's like that at home too. I have to constantly remind Bob to Just Do It! It works for emotions too. Just feel happy and you will BE happy!

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      Dr Billy Kidd 17 months ago from Sydney, Australia

      I have intentionally decided to be happy. Just smiling changes my mood. I used to hear in my head "you can't." Then I intentionally decided to say "I can" when I heard "I can't." Then I just do it.

      I got that from the Special Forces saying, "when you hear I can't you've only given it 40% of what you can do." Now when I hear "I can't" I rate myself at 40. Then I go for 50 or 60. It brightens my sense of accomplishment while giving me a "runner's high."

      People learn to be powerless. It's time to unlearn it!