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Updated on April 4, 2017
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I don't know about you, but sometimes I just cannot sleep however tired I am. Recently I have been helping someone move house, go out and buy furniture, and literally run from one place to another, not even giving myself a break to do my own thing. It was on one of these sleepless nights, when my whole body ached, that I suddenly remembered how I always used to get myself to sleep.

A few years ago, whilst I was rushing around doing four jobs, taking my son to school, and doing general odds and ends, I suddenly slipped over and pulled the muscle in my right calf. The pain was excruciating and I couldn't walk on it for days. So I decided to do something about it.

I would like to ask you all a question first. When was the last time that you actually felt your body with your own hands? No, I do not mean sex with a husband or partner, In fact I am not talking about any intimate encounters at all. I mean, really touch your own body. From the top of your head, to the bottom of your feet.

I can actually hear your minds scrabbling for the answer! No seriously, I bet it was a long long time ago. You may say, well I always rub myself dry after having a bath or shower. Yes I agree, but you do not take time out to feel each toe, each muscle or bone in your foot.

How many times in your life, have you actually placed your fingers, both hands, stretched out wide from the palm of your hands, and put them on your head and gently massaged your scalp. Have you ever massaged your face? No? You don't know what you have missed. Here below is a few tips to get you started. And believe me when I tell you, when you have done it once, you will be doing it all the time!.

First of all, you have probably read loads of stories saying that when you massage, you must use candles to calm you down, and oils to make you relax and smell nice. Obviously these things can enhance your massage, and feelings of well being, but it is not necessary. If after a hard day, you really cannot be bothered with all the extras, and you just want to feel warm and relaxed, then my advice is to either just use your warm hands, free from any creams or oils, or if you find that it is a bit rough on your skin, just use your usual moisturiser to soften and silk your skin.

I find that if you have nothing between your hands and your body, like oils or creams, it is a much better way to feel your body intimately.

What do I mean, intimately? Let me explain. Every day we cover ourselves with creams and oils, spray ourselves with deodorant, and generally put a barrier between our skin and our hands.

The body has so many nerve endings, and our fingers have very sensitive pads on the top of each finger. We usually skim our fingers over our body to rub in oils and cream. Doing massage without these barriers actually makes you feel your own skin, probably for the first time in years. Every part of you has lines and muscles, ridges and mounds. Most of them go untouched for years! And each and every part of you sometimes needs to be brought alive with touch. Over the years how many of you have actually touched the back of your knees? Felt the small of your back, touched the top of your arms?

So shut the door, lay on your bed, or sit on your settee, undress or stay partially clothed. It is up to you.

It is entirely your decision where you start on your body. I prefer the toes, then you can work your way up.

First of all, get your hands warm, and then slowly start to gently glide your fingers over all of your skin, just to get the feel of it. Then reach down and start rubbing and massaging your toes. Feel them, imagine that you have never seen or felt them before. Feel each bone, massage the nails working your way up your foot, under the ball and getting to the instep. Really massage and pummel your instep. You will find that the more that you massage it, the harder that you will want to do it. The reason for this is because your feet have nerve endings that go all the way up your body. You will start to feel a relaxation in your tummy regions. I am sure that you all have had that feeling when you get a pain in your feet, and to your surprise you also get a sharp pain in your middle. Reflexology explains it better. A reflexologist will say that each nerve in your foot can help pain in other parts of your body, and that is why back in the old days, people used to put their feet in hot water and mustard! because the believed it would help them to fight of their colds! See it wasn't an old wives tale!

After doing each foot. start slowly to rub your hands in circles around your calf muscles, making sure to feel each line and muscle, touch and feel every bit of rough skin or smooth patch, and if by this time you haven't got your eyes closed, I want to know why! Just move your hands up your legs doing the same thing. Back and front. By the time that you get to your thighs you will probably want to go to sleep! But don't because you haven't got to the best part yet. Your face and head.

After the thighs put your hands on your buttocks and kneed them like dough! And don't forget the handles as we ladies like to call them, on the side of your hips. Really massage it.


Obviously you will not be able to do all of your back, unless you are a contortionist! but try to reach around and touch as much as possible. By this time you are probably beginning to feel very self concious, as the parts that you are massaging are usually touched in an intimate way, when having sex Forget it. That is the trouble with us. If we look at the body as a whole, instead of parts we would realise that each bit of you is still just you. Get over it! Don't limit yourself to your usual hands feet, legs and belly. Feel each part of you that never gets remembered. When was the last time ladies, that you massaged your ribs underneath your breasts? see what I mean. Do not miss your underarms, keep massaging. Now we get to the best bit. Your head and face. If you have never done this you have definitely missed out. Place your hands around the back of your neck and massage, going up further and further until you are in your hair. and just start to gently move your hands in circles. Don't rub. I know this may be a bit itchy, but try not to start scratching!! Go behind the ears, feeling each lobe, run your fingers through to the ear canal, and out around the back. then just continue up and over again. Trust me, you will be here for hours!

But now for the most important part. Your face.

If you don't want to pull the skin on your face, this is the time to put on a little moisturiser. But only use a little, you still want to feel the skin. And the main thing is, if you use cream, it will make your skin feel colder, and that is defeating the object. Okay, start to massage your neck, in circular motions, moving up and up until you get to your cheeks. Really kneed them, but gently. Then go around your eyes, and move up to your hairline. Don't forget the corners of your outer eyes, and around your nose. The most ignored part of your face is your moustache line!, I call it that so you know exactly where I mean! Then around your mouth and outwards towards the side of your face. Go slow, and don't pull at the skin. If you are anything like me, you will be doing this for about half an hour! Trust me, it is lovely. So There we have it.

By this time, you probably will not only feel sleepy, but all those tensed up muscles will be lovely and relaxed. Your breathing will be slow and steady, and your whole body will feel oxygenated and balanced. Make sure you drink a glass of water afterwards, to rehydrate your body, because all of the massaging will have released all the toxins from your muscles and cells. And this will also help to thin your blood. Most problems caused by muscle cramps and feelings of being unwell, stem from the fact that people are dehydrated even living in modern houses. We always believe that dehydration comes from being in a hot climate. This is not true. We can also get dehydrated in cold climates, caused by central heating, rich food and too much tea, coffee and cola's. Our body needs water. We must not forget that.

Okay, nearly there. Once you have reached your bed, turned off the light and snuggled down, give yourself one more quick hand rub over your body again, taking special care of the upper arms. This is the most soothing thing to do, to make you feel finally relaxed.

Dawn Peters Facial massage

© 2010 Nell Rose

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      Thank you for a well written and informative hub.

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      Keira7 7 years ago

      Hi my dear Nell, I felt very relax when reading your hub, then I watched the video, and I decided to massage my face when watching the video again. I feel wonderful. Thanks my lovely Nell for this very good hub. And I do agree with you, sometimes we just dont take time to do simple things that can make us feel great. Take care my dear good friend.:D

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      Informative writing and nice video. I spend a bit of time around my sinuses and neck. I bought a cylindrical "tumbler" that I roll on for my back, buttocks, and legs. I do a lot of self massage, although I do tend to rub myself and others the wrong way. Thanks Nell!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Hello Hello, glad you liked it, and thanks again, nell

      Keira, thank you so much for reading it. I am glad you tried out the facial massage. It is great isn't it? so relaxing, and just think what it does for your blood circulation. If we all do it, we will look all red and rosy!! ha ha thanks again for your kind words. Nell X

      Hey Mickey your so fine your so fine you blow my mind!!! sorry I have been dying to do that for ages!! ha ha I know what you mean about rubbing others the wrong way, I have an A level pass in that sometimes!!thanks again for the comment. cheers nell

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      sheila b. 7 years ago

      I'll have to try this.

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      men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia

      wonderfull... wondefull... great advice

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      Audrey Kirchner 7 years ago from Central Oregon

      Great information - you should do one for the contest now!

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      Hillary 7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Great advice, Nell. I feel nice and relaxed just reading about it :)

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      shazwellyn 7 years ago from Great Britain

      Wow.. Nell. Such common sense which we all seem to neglect and not even think about. Well done my friend - this will help lots of people!

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      carolina muscle 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Fine post!!!

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      CMHypno 7 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

      Great tips on self-massage Nell! I think that we all need to spend more time on ourselves and be kinder to ourselves. Touch is very powerful and a gift we can give to ourselves as well as others.

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      ehern33 7 years ago

      Excellent.. I have done my feet, legs, face and head. Very relaxing. But you are right, it has been years since. The benefits are plenty..

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, sheila, yes give it a go, you will be surprised at how relaxed you will feel. thanks for the comment. Nell

      Hi, men are dorks, thanks for the nice comment, happy massaging!! nell

      Hi, Audrey, I might have a go at the competition, not sure yet, are you going to? I had better get researching ha ha cheers nell

      Hi, Green Lotus, yes it is relaxing, isn't it? we should all do it more oftern. thanks again nell

      Hi, shazwellyn, yes it's funny isn't it how we all forget about certain parts of our body. I can't stop massaging my face now!! thanks again nell

      Thanks Carolina Muscle, get massaging!! ha ha nell

      Hi, hypno, yes touch is something we forget to do sometimes. thanks again nell

      Hi, ehern, well done! keep going, and you will be so relaxed you will fall asleep while doing it!! cheers nell

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      Pollyannalana 7 years ago from US

      Wow, this is good, sorry I haven't seen it. Have to admit though my husband gives my feet and calves a massage with lotion several nights a week and it is wonderful, I am usually passed out before he ever finishes the second foot. It helps lower my blood pressure too and I need that to get through the night. Now with your great ideas I will be set, great great hub!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, you lucky thing, wish I had someone to rub my feet! ha ha, but yes it is a good idea to do it yourself sometimes. hope it works, thanks again nell

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      Judy Olive Smith 7 years ago from Vancouver, Canada

      It's nice to be reminded to be kind to ourselves. Thank you.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Judy, thanks for reading it. Yes it is nice to be kind to yourself, if only because other people forget sometimes!! ha ha, but seriously, I have found this to be very helpful, especially when I get stressed. thanks again nell

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      Laura Deibel 7 years ago from Aurora

      Thank you. These are wonderful tips when we are feeling overwhelmed.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Laura, thanks for reading it. And I hope the ideas help. thanks again nell

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      daisyjae 7 years ago from Canada

      Great hub, I will be coming back to this one.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, daisyjae, glad you liked it. thanks for the comment. cheers nell

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      KenWu 7 years ago from Malaysia

      Thanks for this excellent massage tips. I've bookmarked this so that I can come back for reference :-).

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, KenWu, thanks for reading it. And I am glad that you liked it. cheers nell

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      K Partin 7 years ago from Garden City, Michigan

      Hi Nell, Great hub, but I would much rather someone else give it to me...We try to work in a one hour massage at least once a month or so, very relaxing for sure. Thanks again K.

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      Maxvon 7 years ago from U.K.

      Nice - I'll add this to my relaxation routine - thanks Nell - Best wishes, Max

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      Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

      Thank you, I could use this.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, K, glad you liked it. I should really book a massage, but I have never done it yet, so a bit scared! thanks again nell

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Maxvon, thank you so much for stopping by, and I am glad you liked it. cheers nell

      Hi, Sandyspider, I like the name! and the picture, and thanks for reading it. cheers nell

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      Thomas 7 years ago

      Hi, I like your hubpages. You have very informative tips to learn. I enjoy Thai massage myself.

      Thomas of http://www.shouldermassage.org

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Thomas, glad you enjoyed it. I will certainly check out your site. thanks nell

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      TINA V 7 years ago

      This is an informative tips to learn. It reminded me to do some pampering to myself to release insomnia and stress, too. I also like the video.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Tina, thanks for the comment. yes, I thought, well nobody else is going to give me a massage, so I'll do it myself! ha ha thanks again nell

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      Sage Williams 7 years ago

      Nell - I really enjoyed this hub, you did an excellent job in writing this. I have never really thought of self massage. If I get really bad, I go to a massage therapist, but I can't do that on a regular basis due to the cost.

      This is a great idea, with very helpful information. I loved the video as well. It really helps to see it done.

      Thanks so much for this wonderful gift,

      Sage

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Sage, I am glad you liked it. It came about because I hurt my leg, and I thought, well this isn't so bad now I have done this. The face massage I discovered purely by putting moisturiser on my face, and I thought that if I really massaged it in, it would work better. And I couldn't stop! made myself go to sleep! it was so relaxing. thanks again nell

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      Bryan Eaddy 7 years ago from Michigan

      This is wonderful Nell. It never crossed my mind that I could give myself a massage. Excellent information! Also, thank you for leaving so many great comments on my Amazon hubs. It was very encouraging. Thanks again, you've gained a new fan!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Bryan, I am just so grateful that you wrote something in an easy and understandable way, thanks again for that, and I am glad you liked my hub. thanks nell

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      JannyC 7 years ago

      Loved this!!! Great stuff here.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, JannyC, thanks for reading it. cheers nell

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      Granny's House 7 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

      Another grea hub Nell. I will have to give this a try.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Granny's House, thanks for reading it. I tried this a few times, and I felt so relaxed afterwards, I fell asleep! lol thanks nell

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      Pamela Lipscomb 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      This is a great hub. I sit down most of the day, this will help with my circulation.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, 2besure, thanks for reading it. I am glad it can help, I find massaging my face before i go to sleep, is a great way to bring on sleep. Thanks nell

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      writer45 7 years ago from Fargo, North Dakota

      Thanks I have been looking for literature on self massage. Well informed article.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Writer, I hope this is useful, as I try to do the facial massage when I am stressed. It really is relaxing. Thanks nell

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      massage business 6 years ago

      Massage and touch is just one of the best things in the world!

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, Massage business, thanks for reading it, and you are definitely right there! lol cheers nell

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      acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

      So glad I came across this hub, I have found it so interesting and am really going to make time for myself and to give massage a go. I shall definitely be bookmarking this page Neil Rose. Thank you for a great hub.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, acaetnna, thanks for reading it, it certainly does help, especially the facial one, I love it! thanks so much for liking it, cheers nell

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      Massage Business 6 years ago

      I should definitely try this one out. Lately I have been so stressed and a massage would do me wonders. I love the video. Such a very informative article. Thanks1

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, thanks Massage Business for your great comment, it is a good way to relax, I try and do this twice a week at least! cheers nell

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      chatswood massage 6 years ago

      I find this hub, informative and interesting to read, nice information about how to give yourself a massage for stress and strains.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Thanks chatswood massage for commenting, cheers nell

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      gaurav 5 years ago

      Im a guy and I have decided to do it too...though I feel relaxed already...Thanks :)

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Thanks gaurav, great for men and women! lol!

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      restrelax 5 years ago from Los angeles CA

      Great hub. Thanks for sharing.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Thanks restrelax!

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      smcopywrite 5 years ago from all over the web

      i enjoy massages and they are a great way to promote your health without vitamins or prescription pills. once you get one you keeping wanted one. great stuff. thanks for sharing

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Thanks smcopywrite, I think a good massage can really relax you, and it costs nothing if you do it yourself! lol!

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      mljdgulley354 5 years ago

      Thank you Nell for this wonderful hub. I usually go to a massage therapist but now I will have to try to give myself a massage.

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      cebutouristspot 5 years ago from Cebu

      I always get a massage at least once every 2 weeks due to my back. I try this stuff out hopefully increase the time in between massage :) Thanks for sharing

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, mijdgulley, its really good, and great for relaxing, thanks again, nell

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, cebutouristspot, I hope it helps, and thanks for reading, cheers nell

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I don't know that I could relax giving myself a massage. I'd be all stressed out knowing what a fussy customer I am. Honestly, though, these sound like great ideas and I'll give them a try. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, alocsin, lol! practice makes perfect! thanks for reading, and the votes, nell

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      restrelax 5 years ago from Los angeles CA

      people are dehydrated even living in modern houses. We always believe that dehydration comes from being in a hot climate

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, restrelax, yes you are right, its a fact that we don't drink as much as we should, 8 glasses of water a day is the amount that people should drink, thanks so much for reading, cheers nell

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      restrelax 5 years ago from Los angeles CA

      I know this may be a bit itchy, but try not to start scratching thanks for rose information.

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      Girish puri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      I agree, regular massage and touch can heal many problems and is good for the body, useful hub.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi girishpuri, thanks so much for reading, nell

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      Thelma Alberts 4 years ago from Germany

      Awesome! When I started learning massages years ago, I treated myself with a massage before the telly in order to know how my hands worked with the new massage techniques that I have learned. It was very relaxing that I have slept on the couch. Well, you can read the whole story in my hub. Nowadays I tried to massage myself at least once a week and it´s still good.

      Thanks for sharing your story Nell. Have a lovely weekend!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Massage works wonderfully on our mind and body. But I find relaxing when someone gives me a massage rather than self massage.

      Cheers

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks Thelma and Vinaya, glad you liked it, nell

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      chuck 2 years ago

      Nell your amazing. You did the worlda a great service

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      LOL! thanks chuck,,,I think!

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