- Mental Health
Maybe I Really Am To Nice?
Been thinking a lot about this subject
Is it possible to be too nice? I don't mean in the case where I am saying yes to everything anyone wants me to do for them, one of those yes women you hear about on Oprah Winfrey and such. I mean can you just compliment and tell people what you think of them (in a nice way) too much?
Last night, I kinda had a fight with a friend and I wonder sometimes now, I don't regret saying it because I meant it, but did I say something very sweet to him and I shouldn't have. I think my want to tell people what I think of them comes from the fact that I know that in an instant, that person may not be there. After all, it has happened to me at least twice in my life, my parents were okay one day and the next day, they were gone. I just don't want to be left with the thoughts in my head that this person may have no idea what they might mean to me or how i do care for them. I just know that people don't return what they think of me when I say it or normally compliment me back. And I am sorry, I don't understand it, I don't!
I always complain that people have gotten more and more ruder as time has past. I personally blame it, and I may have said this before, on the fact that we have cell phones, smartphones, computers, PDAs, Blackberries, etc to put in our faces so that we don't have to spend face to face time with people. Then, you can use that as an excuse that this is me spending time with you. I wonder, how many people that live close to someone that is, use that as an excuse to not to really talk to someone. Those dang devices have led us to be ruder to people because we forget our manners.
I think this also came into my head moreso recently because of where I work. I work in a pretty major retail establishment and I watch out of the corner of my eye, how people treat each other. I guess you would call me a student of people in some ways, hahahahaha. Yesterday, I watched this women come over to a clearance rack with her husband in tow. She started to look around and her husband you could tell had that Dear God, I want to go, why the heck did I have to come face. She was so caught up in herself that she didn't notice that he was not in the happiest of moods. She even went so far as to hand him her coffee cup and say would he hold that for her while she shopped, like he was a accessory, not her husband.
No, this isn't to say I think women or men shouldn't enjoy themselves while they are out and about. No, this isn't to say that I haven't seen men do this to their women and etc, but why couldn't you tell him he could go do whatever he wanted? But, that brings me to why the heck don't I have a man/husband and a lot of crazy, dumb, ugly, stupid women have men that they have no issues keeping. There you go, maybe most people like to be treated like dirt, lol.
Should I change who I am? Not tell people what i think and feel, what I want? Should I treat men like dirt? Should I treat friends like, I feel, they treat me? Maybe I just need to be so full of myself, maybe that will get me more attention from people.
So many questions, no answers.