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Mental Illness Call Her Crazy!

Updated on May 19, 2011

Call Her Crazy?

Well here we go, most people who have lived with someone mentally challenged need support. Most people hide it.They do not want people to know there is something wrong. I know because I have lived the experience. My name is Sandy when I was growing up I always knew something was not right with my mom but everyone in my family was in denial. Especially my father. When we think of someone who is mental we think of white rooms with a straight jacket being locked up. This is what most people invision. It's a horrible thing so my family would make excuses for my mom and her behavior. My mom is also hard of hearing so they would blame alot of the way she acted on her disability.

When I was growing up it was extremely difficult. She would get extremely upset over little things. For example, if I accidentally spilled a glass of milk she would go off about it for days. Its was not normal and very destructive. I felt invalidated as a child for years. There's more but I think you get the picture. I realized that over the years that her mental illness has alot to do with her past and how she grew up. By the grace of God I was able to get her help. People who are mentally ill do not think there is anything wrong. So it is very hard for them they will blame it on other things. This is very important. They cannot confront that. All you can do is be real to them. What does that mean? You listen to them because that is their reality. If you tell them or disagree with them they will get upset or hostile.

How I got my mom help. I asked her to see a counselor she would not go. Like I said before she did not think anything was wrong. My father had past away so I did not receive help from anyone. I went to the mental division thru probate in my city. I had to have proof she was mental. I had to prove she was a harm to herself. It was difficult because my mom took care of herself. Probate said if I felt she was a harm to herself I could have her arrested. I couldn't find it in my heart to do that. I waited but things got worse she was calling me and talking to me in a different voices. It was horrible she told me that my father was using her body to talk to me. I decided to tape record the conversation. She would also tell me that there was a devil and ghosts in her home.

I decide to go to her home, when I got there she showed me marks and deep cuts on her legs. She said that worms were eating her. I thought I was going crazy. I was embarrassed I didn't know who to talk to. I also didn't want anyone to know. I had her come spend the night at my home. I hid all the knives in my home. I was very afraid she might wake up in the middle of the night and harm my family. She was cutting herself God only knew what she could be capable of. I did alot of praying. She did mention that she wanted to see the priest that gave my dad last rights before he died.She wanted to talk to him. I thought she finally wants to talk to someone, this is my chance. I called him and little did I know he was a priest in a mental division of a catholic hospital. He just came back from a long journey. I begged him to meet with me and my mom and explained the situation. He agreed. he told me to meet him at the hospital. I told my mom he was working at the hospital. She agreed to go and meet with him. We met him in the gardens of the hospital she told him everything. He took me a side and said we needed to have her committed. I agreed he took my moms hand and said to trust him and went upstairs to the hospital . She thought he was going to bless her. My mom really did not realize what was happening. When she did she went off in a rage and threatened to kill me. She was out of control and they had to strap her down. It was the most horrible but loving thing I ever did in my life.

I felt joy to finally get my mom the help she needed but felt sad all at the same time. So don't give up it took 30 years for my mom to really get the help she needed. It has been 7 yrs now. She is on a low dose medication and she is able to think rationally. she has her moments but on a scale of 1-10 she is at a 7. She enjoys her life she goes to church and doesn't have her explosions of anger anymore. Its like she is a different rational person. I hope this article helps someone. If you need help get involved with a support group in your area or talk to someone spiritual. Don't ever give up hope.

Sincerely,

Sandy


Dealing with Scizophrenia

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