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Miscarriage And Stillbirth, Is There An Easy Answer?
The Disappearing Baby Act
This article is about how to recover after a miscarriage or stillbirth.
What To Expect When Baby Never Comes Home
After my third miscarriage I was Inconsolable. I can remember my mother telling me that every thing was going to be alright, but her attempt to ease my pain fell on deaf ears.
In the meantime, my sister has given birth effortlessly and is now the mother of three children, with her fourth child on the way.
I enjoy being an Aunt, but I desperately want a child of my own . At times I feel as if I'm being punished by God. My pregnancies are nothing but disappearing acts, Will this pain ever end? Joanne.
I carried Piper in my womb for 32 weeks. I can remember going into labor on a cold rainy day. The pain penetrated through my entire body like lightning. My husband took me to the hospital. When I arrived, my doctor examined me and shortly after I was wheeled into the delivery room. My daughter who we decided to name Piper, was stillborn.
After the loss of my child, nothing seemed real. . I keep asking why? Yet this question continues to go unanswered.
Everyone tells what to expect when your expecting, but no one tells you what to expect when your baby never comes home.
Dealing With Grief
My heart goes out to all women who struggle with this tragic misfortune of sudden emptiness. The Facts given by most doctors indicate, that three-quarters of all miscarriages if not more occur in the first 12 weeks. According to research 60 percent are due to some abnormality of the embryo not destined to root properly.
Further research indicates that miscarriages are more common in women who have had several miscarriages, in young women (under the age of 21) and older women and in those with endometriosis .
Doctors report that If a cervix is abnormally weak, as it may be in women whose mothers may have taken the synthetic hormone diethylstilbestrol (DES) during there pregnancy, it may dilate prematurely and the baby can be lost.
Warning Signs To Look Out For During your pregnancy:
- Passing Blood Clots or tissue
- High temperature
- Leakage of fluid from the vagina which may mean your membranes have ruptured.
- An absence of fetal movement for 8 to 10 hours, especially if the fetus is normally active.
In such cases listed above contact your doctor immediately.
Keep Moving Forward!
What would you tell a mother who has lost her child through stillbirth or miscarriage?
There Are No Easy Answers. However There Is A Light At The End Of The Tunnel
There are no easy answers when the subject surrounds the loss of a child. through perseverance the desire of your heart will prevail. Leaning on your faith, an unshakable expectation as Hannah portrayed, gives all grieving mothers a prayer of hope.
Encouragement from those who have experienced such grief can be a needed source of healing as well.
- Find a support group.
- Be positive discerning other options to secure your destiny to motherhood!
- Embrace the though of new beginnings!
- Depend On Faith!
- Don't blame yourself!
- Ty again!
- Invest in professional advice and medical care and resourceful doctors.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
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Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery
A faithful woman Sammantha Maraquin helps other women through their grief brings awareness through a book filled with knowlege about how to recover through the pain and high emothons that a miscarriage can cause.