Small Mistakes That Can Ruin Lives
People make mistakes all the time. In many instances, they don't even know they're doing so. This is because, as human beings, we each have our own set of values. This makes it easy to unknowingly do something that creates negative impressions that can be serious enough to affect many aspects of our lives.
One example is the man at a local truck stop who approached a driver, told him he was hungry and asked if the man would give him some money so that he could buy lunch.
The driver, an adamant non-smoker, noticed that the beggar had a full pack of cigarettes in his pocket. A pack of cigarettes cost several dollars at the time of this event.
The trucker, who worked very hard for his money, told the man to forget it. If he could afford to smoke, he could afford to pay for his own lunch!
Today cigarettes cost about $80 or more per carton. A carton holds 10 packs of cigarettes. This means that someone who smokes a pack a day is spending $240 a month or $2880 per year.
So, not only is the beggar spending more than he earns (if he's earning anything at all), he's also slowly killing himself.
This is a perfect example of someone who is making what appears to be a small mistake, but who really is ruining his life!
Dropping Out of School
In today's competitive world, people need all the help they can get in order to succeed. This is why getting a good education is so important.
Unfortunately, the high school drop out rate in many places in the U.S. is higher than 40%. This means that 4 out of every 10 students are leaving school without completing their education, and this means they are leaving without even the most basic social and educational skills they need in order to function in society.
Kids who fall into this trap suffer the rest of their lives because they cannot get good jobs, do not make enough money to live on, are forced to live in substandard housing and drive garbage cars and are constantly falling back while others move ahead.
How does this happen?
It begins with parents who have done a poor job of parenting because they
- had children when they were too young,
- also dropped out of school,
- don't have time to raise their children or know how to do so, properly,
- had too many children,
- have a bag full of their own problems that get in the way of raising their kids
- and suffer from addictions, health problems and poverty.
In short, the young are pretty much left to their own devices and are ill-prepared to take care of themselves.
Without a good role model or any discipline, they lose their focus.
School offers these things, but children such as the ones brought up by the above-mentioned parents don't want them. They want to do what they want, when they want, and there's nobody to stop them.
Thus, they start avoiding homework tasks, arriving late to school, going off campus for lunch and eventually not showing up at all.
What they do not realize is that the educational setting is the only thing that will give them any hope for a decent future.
They learn this later, but by then it's too late.
School has become a place to socialize, but not learn and thus becomes a joke to them. Unfortunately, it is a joke that will leave them in the same, exact position as the parents who ruined them!
One of the worst mistakes people make, and one of the most damaging, is not having the ability to control their tempers.
They don't realize how offensive this type of behavior is to others, but it's one of those behaviors that drive people away.
Nobody wants to work with or have someone work for them who cannot control his temper, especially these days because a bad temper can lead to all sorts of problems that include but are not limited to
- getting sued,
- violence of all sorts,
- road rage,
- auto accidents and
- abuse of many types.
People who cannot control their tempers wreak havoc with their families and their places of employment. The results of their behavior seems natural to them. They think this is normal. It is not. It is a trait that makes others not want to be around you, which means it keeps people from being accepted into social groups, hired for important jobs or given pay raises.
Few realize just how damaging having a child can be when you are not prepared psychologically or financially to do so.
Although having children may seem normal, doing so is a huge risk. If things go wrong, the parents are done for. Many times their marriages fall apart because the financial consequences of having children are immense.
In today’s world it costs more than $200,000 to raise a child from birth through high school graduation, and this is if all goes well. However, what if a child
- is born with a major health issue,
- becomes an addict,
- participates in criminal behavior or
- is badly injured in an accident?
These things happen more often than most people realize, and when they do, they are devastating.
A parent with a severely crippled child spends his entire life caring for him and loses all hope of living normally.
For this reason people should carefully think about having kids. If things go well, that will be great, but if not, life as they have known it will be over.
Practicing Risky Behaviors
We only have one life, yet many act as though their lives have no value.
They drive too fast, drink too much, experiment with drugs, have unprotected sex and participate in all sorts of risky behaviors.
They like the thrill they get from doing such things, but unfortunately, don't consider the consequences because they don't think there will be any.
What they don't realize is that it only takes one wrong move to create permanent damage or even death to themselves. These are things that cannot be corrected, and all people, somehow, should be forced to face up to this fact.
I had a friend who loved to ride motorcycles. He did so successfully for years until he had an accident, was thrown off his bike and went head first into a curb. Even though he was wearing a helmet, he was paralyzed from the neck down for the next two years of his life, after which he passed away.
In 2018, 4985 people died in motorcycle accidents, so the example above is not an unusual one.
When I watch people skydiving, riding bulls, and drag racing (among other things) I cannot help but wonder what in the world they can be thinking?
Is the thrill really worth the potential consequence?
People really need to think carefully about this issue because they have much to lose and little to gain.
Do you think young people need to take be more careful with their behaviors?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2019 Sondra Rochelle