- Quality of Life & Wellness
How To Be Successful, Beautiful and Rich
It All Comes Down To You
When you wake up in the morning, do you despise going to work? Do you dread going to bed in the first place simply because you can't stomach what the next day has in store for you? Do you go to work and simply go through the motions until the day ends so you can get home and watch Netflix, again?
Did you know that you can still do something? You can, in fact, do anything. You can be anything. Become anyone that you have ever dreamt about becoming. I want you to think about it. Hold it in your mind, who do you idolize? Why? If you could change anything about yourself what would it be? Why? I don't want you to dwell on what you aren't and what you could have been. Think about what you can be, who you will be and what you still have to accomplish. You are not required to continually be miserable and overworked. You can, in fact, change this at any moment.
People often ask:
"How can I be more successful? I work hard day in and day out and don't seem to be getting anywhere. My treads are just spinning in place."
To that, the only statement that ever enters my mind is an old quote from Henry Ford that says:
"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."
Take this to heart as your motto for change. The only way to get something new, is to try something different.
This statement honestly changed my life. Let me give you a clear picture, I used to have pretty severe social anxiety. I used to not even be able to order food at the McDonalds counter because of how terrified I was of any kind of social interaction. This led to multiple obvious issues: depression, lack of a love life, lack of friends and especially a lack of life experiences. I would dread having to even leave the house most times. I was angry and disconnected from the world. I didn't realize that the entire time I felt this way, I was actually in control of my own fate. So, one day I sat down and took an honest look at myself. And I asked myself, if you could change this one aspect of your life, how much could your quality of life improve. And that's what sent me screaming down the road to recovery. I have also written an article in regards to social anxiety and some of the tools that I had used to conquer it here: Conquering Social Anxiety
The point I am trying to make is that it is completely possible and within the realm of your capabilities to stop being who you don't want to be and to start changing in to the person you do want to be. I want you to look at yourself, really take a good look and decide right now. What is one attribute about yourself that you wish you could change? How much would your quality of life change if you could improve just this one area?
The Comfort Zone
Everybody has what I would call a personal comfort zone. These comfort zones certainly serve a purpose. They make us feel relaxed and well, comfortable. They give a sense of belonging, a sense of this where I can control the outcome of situations. No one wants to be stressed or fearful even intimidated. However, the problem with these comfort zones is that they begin to make us lethargic, lazy, almost too comfortable. Think about it this way. When you want to get in shape what does it take? You have to get up, go to the gym or go for a run. You have to push past the desire to sit on the couch and veg out. You have to do something different in order to achieve the results you are hoping for. The comfort zone is the same exact philosophy. You have to often push the boundaries of your own comfort zone in order to move towards becoming the person you want to be. You have to see past the boundaries of what makes you who you are so you can push your comfort zone to the point of who you want to be.
The path to becoming who we want to be and where we want to be requires us to dare to be better than who we currently are. Today, I dare you to be better. But it is only when you dare yourself to be better that change can happen.
What do I mean? I mean you need to dare to be better than who you were the day before. Dare to be smarter than you were the day before. Dare to be more active, more involved, more caring. Whatever it is that you are striving to improve. You need to double dog dare yourself to get out of bed and be the best damn version of yourself than you have ever been. So that when you look back at yourself tomorrow you know where the goal post is and what you need to do to push past that point today.
Game Of Inches
Ok , so you've taken the challenge. You have dared to be better. You have declared to yourself and to the world:
"I am in control and I will be who I want to be."
So now what? Action. Thinking about being the person you want to be should be an ever present reality. It should be entrenched in your psyche that, this is where you are going, this is who you want to be and this is what you want to work towards. Your thoughts are what direct you, but your actions are what define you.
A good way to make this resound in your mind is to remind yourself as often as you can of your goals. Make sticky notes and place them on your mirror, so when you wake up in the morning and brush your teeth, you see "Be a better person today than you were yesterday" or make a poster of your goals and post it on your wall. Post something on your ceiling so when you are laying in bed, staring at your ceiling, you see your goals, your ideas, your ideals and what you strive for. You are what you think. And your thoughts must begin to be formed to that which you wish to become not that which you are not or feel as though you cannot be.
The hard part is action. To begin to take steps to achieve these goals to make these a reality instead of a notice.
Every single action you take has repercussions. Some are large, some are small. That's life. Sometimes your actions have unintended consequences. Just know that every single inch counts when you are moving forward. Every step is another achievement in what is now your repertoire of being a new you. A better you. The you that you have always dreamed of becoming. You should know that change does not happen overnight. Change is gradual and may only appear great given enough time. It is important that you always look at and recognize the accomplishments and progress that you make regardless of how small. The main point is to improve day after day moment after moment. And understand and begin to see that you are indeed capable of doing this.
Nothing comes easy and nobody said you wouldn't have to work in order to get where you are going. Just know that the destination is worth the travel. The view from the top is always a million times better than the view from the bottom, when you see how far you still have to hike.
In The End
Understand that there are always setbacks, there are always failures. You are not a failure until you give up. Until you stop trying. Every single time you fall, is an opportunity to pick yourself back up. Every time you fail, is an opportunity to improve your next attempt.
Some day you are going to die. You need to understand this. You need to embrace this. On an infinite timeline, anyone can do anything. We do not have infinity, we have the here and the now. If you do not start attempting your goals, if you do not start attempting to rectify your life. Who will? No one can pick up the pieces but you. No one can tell you the magical answer to open the gateway of success and riches. Only you can account for the actions that you took during your lifetime. Don't you think it's time you got started? If not now, then when? If not today, then when? You are the only person culpable for the circumstances that beset you. The only thing that stands between you and success is doing it. Carpe Diem.