- Mental Health
What Should You Do With Anger?
Thigh high stockings, garter belts, and low cut bras can make you think of anything but anger. If you dressed this way all of the time would there be any anger coming your way?
Look at what happens when you express anger. Right away things get worse.You feel you should have kept your feelings to yourself. Is that what we should do? It seems to me that feelings are meant to be expressed. The problem is in the "how" of it all. It's all about how you express yourself that matters. Are we supposed to do this gracefully? How can that be done? When you're what most people call "mad" you probably aren't at your best in anyway.
So what are we all supposed to do, take anger management classes. Well, most of us won't get around to it because we don't think our communication is ineffective. What we're left with is anger and no way to effectively deal with it.
If it's there and we don't deal with it we feel like we're going to explode. Instead of this we could come up with a plan to take care of it. What does that mean, you say? Well, some sort of manner in which we are going to act when this emotion takes us over. I guess we could think about it ahead of time, and when it happens we can have an efficient and effective way of dealing with it.
I don't know, some people scream and yell. Others send an email or a text, or leave a message for someone so they don't have to encounter that person. But this way they can express themselves. Real angry people like to have face-to-face confrontations. Others like punching a bag, or working out.
Punching anything though seems like you're trying to beat someone or something up. It just seems that way to me. When it comes to leaving messages for people you have to know that you're not going to get a response. If you feel angry you want a response, Those face-to-face confrontations can be problematic due to the fact that at some point the conversation has to end. If you don't agree at that point what do you say when you part?
Last, but not least I must mention screaming and yelling to get your point across. Well, it just turns people off. After a short time they don't even care what you're angry about. Think about it. If someone yells at you do you really want to hear it? Do you even care what kind of problem they're having?
Planning out what you're going to do in response to any of your emotions could be the answer here. It's managing your anger. Everyone does it differently. My Uncle used to count to ten slowly. By the time he reached ten he'd be calmed down. I don't know how he did it. I used to work for him in a little pub in Troy, MI. There I saw a lot of people try and stir up the anger in him. But somehow he ran a smooth ship.