- Quality of Life & Wellness
Does Anyone Like Gossip?
You know when someone has been talking about you when you see the reactions on others' faces. Especially when you see the blabbers' friends and family. They just can't look you in the eye. Or, they say things that let you know that they've heard something about you. They have a judgemental look and they act differently. You just know.
This is enough to tick you off. It makes you want to tell them off. Maybe that's what they need. They need to hear how hurtful they've been. They need to live with that. Then maybe they'll think next time they have something to say about you behind your back. You know though, you don't have to tell them how you know what they've been up to. It just seems that to get any satisfaction in the situation you have to say something though.
Keeping things private in today's world isn't as easy as it once was with all of the social media and all. So you must guard these avenues of information too. Don't give out your passwords to anyone ever. You never know what they might put up on your wall if they turn on you at some time in the future.
When you're talking to friends that may know the person don't go into details about the things you talk about for a time. You can have a conversation without wearing it all on your face. You'd be surprised at how much information you can convey while being vague.
One of the things you don't want to do is stoop to their level and gossip yourself. It's not necessary. If you have something to say, say it in front of the person to whom it concerns. Better yet, say to them when they're alone so there is no audience. Telling them how you feel will ultimately make you feel better. It may not solve the situation, but at least they have to feel guilty if they ever gossip about you again. So, if the problem can't be solved with one attempt to talk to the person who gossips, talk to them again. If that doesn't work defriend them.
After that you can make sure you don't associate with their friends and family. Most of all don't associate with them. Don't ever let them know your business again because now you know you can't trust them with anything.