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Missing Michael Jackson - Is it Normal to Mourn a Celebrity's Death?

Updated on June 24, 2015
One of my Michael Jackson LPs
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Have You Ever Mourned a Celebrity's Death?

Someone recently asked a question about mourning celebrities. Do we mourn after celebrities die? While there has been mention of Michael Jackson, I haven't found too many people who really mourned his death as I have, although I'm sure there are more out there. Now, when I say the word "mourn," I don't mean that I mourn Michael Jackson's death in the same way I would a friend or family member's. Of course, the loss of someone we actually know in person is deeper to us.

Still, I grew up with Michael Jackson, so to speak. He was such an icon--the King of Pop! I knew his music, and as I grew older I watched his career, and, yes, his ups and downs, I survived the scandals, wondered about his guilt or innocence, but was at the same time awed at his seeming naivety and trust and genuineness. I held on to that feeling through it all. Something in me never condemned him.


Jackson's Comeback Tour

Boy, I looked forward to Michael's comeback tour. I was curious to see if he still had it--the voice, the dance moves, the command of the stage. I wanted to see if he still made me want to get up and do the moonwalk with him when I saw him move across the stage. To this day, I can put on his music and get my unmotivated self to start cleaning house with some actual pep. Now and then, I'll stop to do a little dance move, with or without my broom, with the dog looking on with that quizzical head cock that he gives me sometimes.

Have you seen the movie that was made after he died? Watching the movie that showed his preparation for his great comeback tour made me so sad. He was a person just like you and me. You can watch that movie and see how hard he worked and how in love he was with his work. You can see how he treated his employees and dancers, and how they responded back to him. He treated them like equals, respected them, and they showed their appreciation back. He talked about his new tour leaving a positive effect on the world. I believe that he really wanted that. I'm glad I have that movie to go back to, to see Michael Jackson perform when I need a "fix," but how I wish he were still around to do the real thing.


A Troubled Life

Sure, Michael Jackson had his share of troubles, just as we all have, perhaps some of which he brought on himself. People made fun of him for his effeminate traits, even speculating that his children weren't really his biological children. Look at them! If they aren't his children, then they had plastic surgery to look like him--come on, people! And as for his own excessive plastic surgeries. I do wish he had never changed that nose beyond recognition, I'll tell you that. Look at him in the red jacket from Thriller, and he looked great. I had that poster from Teen Beat on my wall along with the Billie Jean pic. A handsome young man he was.

And the really bad rumors about Jackson? I won't confirm them. None of us know the truth about accusations made against him. I don't know if he ever molested any children. I'd like to think that he didn't, that in all his naivety he truly just wanted to give them some happy times and spend time with them at the Neverland Ranch. At times, Jackson seemed--and talked--like such a child himself. My heart believes that he was so simple that people couldn't understood that he simply liked children and enjoyed the same things that they did. I know there are the doubters, and I understand that. But I have to go with the gut feelings that have led me all these years. Perhaps I just choose to believe what I believe about Michael Jackson. Then so be it. I'm not going to speculate any more than I already have, and I'm not going to judge.

You Are Not Alone: The Softer Side of Michael

Thanks, Mom, for understanding....

My mom sent me the most understanding email after Michael Jackson's death. She said something to the effect that she knew that it hurt me, as I grew up with Jackson as an icon, much like she grew up in the same way with Elvis Presley. This was, to me, incredibly insightful, as I hadn't even mentioned to her the surprising sadness I was experiencing after his death. Thanks, Mom. She understood what the celebrity might have meant to my growing up, even though he hadn't been a part of hers.

So, with everything, I just can't help it. After all this time, I still mourn Michael Jackson. He was only 50 years old and had a lot more talent to share with the world. The child in me mourns him, and the adult in me misses him, too. So, yes, I will admit it. I mourn for Michael Jackson and wish so much that he were still here.

Rest in peace, Michael. (August 29, 1958 – June 25, 2009)

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I always loved the "Beat It" video!

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      Victoria Lynn 5 weeks ago from Arkansas, USA

      Blake Li, thanks for your comments. I can totally relate. His passing was such--and is--a loss. :-(

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      Victoria Lynn 5 weeks ago from Arkansas, USA

      Good to see you, too, Paula! I'm not as active either these days. I keep thinking I will again when I have time! OH, time!!!

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      Blake Li 5 weeks ago

      I've been missing Michael so much in the last week, this feeling of loss and sadness is overwhelming and I searched and searched for an outlet. In the last couple of days, i felt myself slipping into depression. Today i googled ' missing michael jackson' and your page came up as the first hit. So grateful to you Victoria, for posting this. 8 years on and Michael is on my mind every second of every day. Just seeing that there are others out there that might be going through the same emotions is so comforting at this moment. Michael was an angel, and I know that he's smiling down from heaven and blowing kisses at us :)))))

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      Paula 7 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Hey Vee...good to see you as I also see this is 3 yrs old and I never commented. Just more proof I'm always busy and not on HP as much as I used to be.

      Don't be angry, but although I did like a lot of his music, I was never a fan of his, personally. I certainly felt badly when he died and even more, due to the "reason."

      I actually felt worse for the reported sad & abusive childhood he had, based on his demanding, ignorant father. The man pushed his kids over the limit for his own selfish motives and was especially cruel to Michael. Inexcusable! I believe his Nazi-like attitude & behavior caused most if not all of Michael's immaturity, naivete & insecurities.

      Vee.. I hope at least having his music, videos and memories forever, help you & all those who miss him so much. Hugs, Paula

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      Victoria Lynn 7 weeks ago from Arkansas, USA

      Elisabeth! Thanks for your beautiful comment. Yes, we are not alone. My mourning still comes in waves, too. Losing him was such a loss. He had such a kind soul and definitely was an amazing entertainer. Thanks so much for reaching out!

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      Elisabeth1982 2 months ago

      Thank you for this, I could so relate. I still mourn him too, it comes in waves. To me, there will never be another like Michael. His life and death are part of me.

      Like yours, my mother send me an e-mail the day after the Staples Centre Ceremony, titled "Just Because". Even though in the 90s, we fought about mine attending his concerts throughout Europe as a teenager. She knew.

      What makes it harder, are all the gossip and (in my strong belief) false rumours that continue to blur other people's views. They may literally grab me by the throat, the words that I wanna speak in his defense. I truly believe he was the very best and most beautiful entertainer, and the best person he could be.

      Reading your words, and 8,5 years since June 2009, I feel united in my mind and heart with those that share the same opinion. We are not alone.

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      MichaelOurKing 2 months ago

      Its ok to mourn about a guy who inspired lots of people. His death was shocking when i first heard it I was really looking forward to his "This Is It" tour i look back to some clips of him rehearsing the concert. When i saw it i knew it will be big it will be huge my mom bought a ticket when she was in london on June 1 2009 she was looking forward from him performing but turns out she wasnt able to see the magic. It hurts that i can only see him on tv or in my screen though i can see through all his concerts that he needs rest...

      The guy had Vitiligo and Lupus he didnt give up at all i have to be honest he was really a big inspiration to my life. I put on his song when im sad and all of a sudden i feel happy again he was truly amazing he was spactacular.

      Michael Jackson really made a huge difference to the world he told us to stand up and make a change for the world and for our children.

      I cant even see him doing those allegations i cant even imagine. He was child-like and i understand that he was a hard working man and spends his spare time with children. He appreciated them he was worried for them also he was scared for their future...

      I just know we still have a chance to save this world and Michael died doing it why not do the same?

      Michael Jackson Forever the King Of Pop and the biggest pop icon

      August 29 1958 - June 25 2009

      Love you with all my heart Mike. The world didnt deserve you

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      Victoria Lynn 17 months ago from Arkansas, USA

      I agree. I was so looking forward to the tour he was working on.

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      rayann jackson 18 months ago

      i miss MJ so much i can't stop thinking about him i will never forget him

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      Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      lia--I saw that performance they showed of him on some awards show the other night. Wow. It's amazing what can be done with technology. I so wish Michael Jackson were still really alive!!! It was great to watch him!

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      lia 3 years ago

      In youtube, we can find he is probably alive. Do you believe it? I believe it.

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      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Thanks, angel. That means a lot!

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      Cindy Pierre 4 years ago from Nevada

      Andy Gibb was my heart throb and John Lennon was my inspiration. I totally understand!

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      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      angel4967--I think Michael Jackson has hit me the hardest, since I grew up with him as one of my teen heart throbs. :-) I guess I wasn't familiar with Elisabeth Glaser. It's neat that you got to know her on a personal level. Thanks for sharing your story.

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      Cindy Pierre 4 years ago from Nevada

      I can remember exactly 3 times I cried and still feel sadness of a celebrity passing. John Lennon, Andy Gibb and Elisabeth Glaser. Because of my music background and they were my absolute favorites it was tragic and shocking at the same time they were both so young. Elisabeth became a friend when I did some work for her Pediatric Aids Foundation and I didn't cry for her right away, we all knew it was coming. The tears came when the rag mags started shredding her. She led such a beautiful tragic life, they had no right, even if it was "to sell papers". I have since gotten (much, much) older and have my share of sadness when someone famous leaves us, especially too soon, but I have grown to accept this is part of our life that we have no control over and sooner or later all will pass. Great story. Voted up.

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      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      James A. Miles--Thanks so much for your kind words. I would love to see that episode of Castle. That's a show that I do enjoy, and it would be neat to see how Castle deals with the issue with his daughter. I'm glad I'm not alone with those feelings. Thanks for understanding!

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      James A. Miles 4 years ago

      May I suggest you watch an Episode of the series "Castle" titiles "Famous Last Words" where Castle, and Becket try to find a suspect in The murder of a Singer, as Castle's Daughter is saddened by the loss of her idol.

      In the Episode Ceastle helps ease Alexis' pain by relating to her how she felt when John Lennon died.

      I higly recommend you watch it, and I know how you feel I fet the same way when I heard of the death of Thuy Trang from "Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers, I can totally relate.

      Micheal Jakson was a genius.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      I hear ya, Ashley. You expressed my sentiments exactly.

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      Ashley 5 years ago

      Deserves the 'legend' status.

      I'm not a big music 'fan', but MJ, WOW. I loved him, & I still do. Such a super person, caring & gentle. & in terms of his career, he was a genius. I still get upset. Love you always MJ. You had an amazing impact on all of us.

      x

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      heavenleigh--I, too, like finding people who feel the way you describe. Well said!!!

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      Heaven L Burkes 5 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Much love to you Victoria! It's lovely that people still feel his love - and miss his presence. His spirit is all around us. I'm so grateful for that. Thank you again for writing this. :)

      Yes KatsMeow - no other celebrity death has affected people in the way that Michael's has. A very powerful spirit. :)

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      TheKatsMeow--I can totally relate. I feel so sad, still, about his death. That's cool that your google search brought up this hub. VERY cool! Glad you read this!

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      TheKatsMeow 5 years ago from Canada

      Just today I was listening to Michael Jackson, and thinking about how I missed him, I typed that into google search and your Hub popped up. Thanks for sharing your feelings about MJ, I really enjoyed reading this Hub and it made me feel less sad. I have never felt sad about any other celebrity passing.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      heavenleigh--We're so like-minded on this topic! Interesting about your dad and Elvis, too. Thanks for the link, too!

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      Heaven L Burkes 5 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Dear Victoria Lynn - Thank you for stopping by on my hub so that I could find yours and you! Beautiful! Thank you for your thoughts and wonderful writing. I had to smile when I saw your shout out to your mom for being understanding. I was the one who called my dad when Elvis died. Thought he already knew, but he didn't. He was heartbroken about that. It is about growing up with them and how much they were a part of our lives. Great Hub! Thank you for linking to mine. I'm going to do the same with yours. :)

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      ALUR--I like what you said about false reality and mysticism. Yes, Whitney Houston, too, is sad. Thanks for your comments!

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      winbo--Nice sentiment. :-)

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      ALUR 5 years ago from USA

      I love those that have struggled and left behind a legacy. We often miss the souls that showed us promise regardless of their personal personas. We relate to them by their lyrics and opening a bridge between false reality and mysticism.

      I only wish they understood their own powers and didn't resolve to become ones that have passed, including Whitney Houston

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      winbo 5 years ago

      Always love you MJ.....

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      rLcasaLme--You're right in that MJ's legacy lives on. That part of him wil lnever die. Great comments--thanks!

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      thejovial--True what you say about MJ bringing people together. I think he wanted to do that, too!

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      You're welcome, teaches! Love that Beat It video! Glad you enjoyed the memories.

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      rLcasaLme 5 years ago from Dubai, United Arab Emirates

      I did not mourn but I was deeply saddened upon his departure on this earthly life. I'm a big fan ever since I was a kid. I sing his songs and still does.

      When his death was announced on the radio, I couldn't believe it. I thought he's going to live forever. I did not feel the guy's absence for months. Even though I know he's no longer around, I'm really not bothered that much at all. I thought I had to be. I really thought he still lives on. Strange, it is really.

      His music, his legacy, the memories, I thank him for all that.

      I'm sure he now enjoys all the greatness, all the glory, all the generosity that God had bestowed unto him now that he's with Him.

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      thejovial 5 years ago from United States

      I remember the day when Michael Jackson passed away and fans from all cultures got together to celebrate his music in the streets. Michael Jackson had that special ability to bring people together regardless of their differences.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      You are so funny and adorable, my lord! Love your comments!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      He made a lot of people happy and was a caring person. What a talented musician and singer! Thanks for the trip down memory lane and the posting of the Beat It Video.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Thanks, AEvans. Knowing he would be proud of what I wrote is a great compliment. Cool.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      brandrocker--I think Michael Jackson will always be googled. Yes, shocking, I agree.Thanks for the cool comments.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Daxman--Oh, I bet it was totally worth it! What an experience to see Michael Jackson in concert!

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      Hi Victoria,

      Michael is guilty of me breaking my assets in learning that moonwalk back in 84. So I was 'off the wall' since 79. Gladly I 'wanted to rock with life' all night..! Never thought that billy jean wasn't actuallu a jelly bean..! But Whoaah, The way he made me feel, was 'Bad' Who's bad??

      LORD

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Oh, 2besure, I didn't mean to make you cry! :-)

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Deborah--He just had so much talent. It's sad to see him gone so soon. Thanks for reminiscing with me. :-)

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      Julianna 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      I love Michael Jackson and so talented. Sometimes I find myself playing his music or going to youtube to see his videos. Thanks for a thoughtful and well written hub. ((Big Hugs)) to you , Michael would be proud of these thoughtful words. :) Thumbs up and shared! :)

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      brandrocker 5 years ago

      Kudos to you not only because you have created a great obituary of Michael Jackson, but for your opinion about his family life, all that odd allegations against him.

      And BTW I read a report that even Google server was surprised to receive lots of hits for search term "Michael Jackson".

      And it is shocking indeed. The world will never ever see such an incredible talent.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Thanks, Cags! I mourn the loss of any tragic end, not just celebrities, but I do miss his musical presence, and perhaps his passing reminds me of childhood with nostalgic. Thanks for reading!

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Gemini, I appreciated his great talent and enjoyed watching him. I feel sorry for the way he ended up, or for anyone who ends up that way, celebrity or not. Thanks for the comments!

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      Daxman 5 years ago from The Netherlands

      1996 Amsterdam - The Netherlands - History Tour

      12 yrs old back then, stole money from mom, went to the Amsterdam Arena to wait in line, pleaded to a guy to tell the ticket-lady we were with him (underage and alone), when we got in and the show started it was absolute magic and well worth being grounded for :) Michael will remain the king of pop forever.

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      Pamela Lipscomb 5 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Girl, don't get me to crying again....Michaelllll

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      I grew up with Michael Jackson too.. I remember he started with his brothers as the Jackson Five.. they were so good and so cute..He grew and only got better in all his music and videos.. Yes I miss him too.

      great hub

      voted up

      Debbie

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      Cagsil 5 years ago from USA or America

      Hey Victoria, I mourn the loss of a human being, but I don't do it because he was an icon or celebrity. He did make an impact on the world and that's shown throughout his album sales, his work around the world and his status. You wrote a pretty cool hub on him. Thank you for sharing. Voted up! :)

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Sunshine, I need to add his birth and death date, I think. Glad you mentioned that. I liked Farrah Fawcett, too. Thanks for the awesome comments and vote up! Rock on!

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      Gemini Fox 5 years ago

      Loved Michael Jackson, too! Loved his dance moves and a lot of his classics.

      On the one hand, it's hard to feel sympathy for celebrities because they have so much but, on the other hand, when you see where someone like Michael Jackson or Whitney Houston end up, it's hard not to feel somewhat sad.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      MJ left us with lots of memories and music. I don't mourn him even though I was and still am a fan. I'm a bit bummed that he died on my birthday and the same day as Farrah Fawcett who I'm also a fan of. MJ's music will always live on and his children will be entertaining us soon enough. Rock on MJ! Voted UP Grammar Geek!:)