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My Candidate Lost - Get Over It!
Last night we had a victory part at my daughters house to celebrate what we were sure would be a resounding win for Mitt Romney. We come from a long line of fierce Republican roots and even though I personally do not support EVERY policy within the Republican platform, most generally you could say I’m a die-hard Republican.
Over the last couple months my boyfriend and I have spent a great deal of time talking about the election and issues going on in the country right now. We were passionate about the change we felt was essential to change our countries direction. So, it was no wonder that around 11PM last night we were stunned and saddened when it was clear that “EVERYONE” else did not seem to agree with us. Before last night, to us, it seemed like a no brainer who was going to win this time.
Remember the OJ trial? During that time, I shared an office with a good friend of mine. We listened to the OJ trial every day, on the radio. Since we got in a couple of pretty heated debates about the evidence and the lawyers, we agreed to listen but keep our comments pretty low key. Finally, the verdict day came. We brought a TV in and everyone gathered in our small office to watch the outcome. My conviction of the verdict was solid. NO ONE could see it any other way. The facts were clear. But to my amazement, the verdict came in differently. Afterwards, when I got over the outrage of it, my office mate and I had a long talk about it (you see she agreed with the verdict). It was so hard for me to understand how two people, with generally the same background and outlook on life could see a situation so vastly different. To this day, our outlook on the end result of this trial still comes up in our conversations as a paradox of the human thinking mind. It has always been a big head scratcher for me.
Today, I am starkly reminded of this trial with the outcome of this presidential election. As hard as it is for me to believe, it appears that a majority of people do not embrace my world view on things. However, unlike my reaction in the OJ trial of resisting the outcome and standing aghast at ignorance (in my opinion), I wanted to look for the further blessing in this personally deflating defeat.
See, when I woke up this morning, I felt hopeless and began a litany of self-talk like, “What the hell am I doing thinking I could do this or so and so……” You get my drift of where my mind was going. I felt deflated. I felt like my world is fighting me, resisting me, and I just can’t beat it. Then, like I do every morning, I began to meditate and contemplate myself as a spiritual being and lo and behold, I had an epiphany.
It occurred to me that this last year I have viewed the world as a divisive and struggling world. Even though my work as a metaphysician embraces a personal and spiritually empowering methodology, my political and world views contained an element of powerlessness, divisiveness, and ignorance. It is easy for me to see the direct relationship of my thoughts and actions towards my daily living, like if I feel anger or bitterness towards another person, I am going to experience anger and bitterness in that relationship. The intention to live the principles of what you wish to experience in your life has been demonstrated to me at a personal level over and over. But at a world level, I am just one little gal, right?
This morning I realized that I mattered to the world as well. How do I see the world? That’s what I will experience. My world view is the beginning of my contribution. Is it cold, harsh, and divided – why yes it is, if that is my viewpoint. This morning, my job is not to change the world, my job is to change my view of it. How could I honestly expect the world to act any differently than what I just spent the last year saying it would?
I told my boyfriend this morning after I had this epiphany that I am sure that the loss of the presidential election was not a world event designed to just teach little ole me a lesson, but wisdom is there all the same. And, this does not mean that I turn into a Democrat either, it just means that I must “Be the change I want to see”, as Gandhi tells us. If I see the world divided, it will be. This does not imply that I concede that the “other side” is better, stronger, or even correct. Accepting is not “giving in”, it is moving on to the next opportunity and to express your beliefs through your actions. It means that if I really want to heal the nation (or my spirit, or a relationship, skills, mood, or anything really), I must do it through acceptance and by manifesting, with thoughts and actions, the qualities I wish to experience in the world. To resist the outcome is to hug it closer to my psyche and keep it uppermost in my mind. To deny it or ignore it is just delaying the feelings to be addressed at another time, which may or may not even have anything to do with the originating problem. But, to accept and move on to view the world as changing, growing, learning, expanding, is something that can only benefit me and others. Talk about a no brainer.
Today is a new opportunity for me to let go of the divisions I so clearly saw before and choose to live a life of freedom, openness, and peaceful resolutions. It must start with me or it is simply not possible for me to see it anywhere else at a sustainable level. I use this phrase all the time to others I am counseling through hard times – “It’s not the problems that are presented to us that are the problem, it’s what we do with the problems.” I will be taking my own advice then and using this challenge of a limited mindset to change the way I think about things. It’s tough; my ego keeps calling me to wallow in bitterness and resentment. But I am not letting go of this opportunity. I’m done playing small ball, like a country divided defines my being. It does not matter where I live or what the conditions of my environment are, my choice to live in freedom and peace come from within. I need to get over it, and I am going to do just that.
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Joleen (Bridges) Halloran is the author of . This book represents over 10 years of research and inspiration in the topics of personal and spiritual empowerment and provides readers with a pathway to overcome limits and discover authentic divine qualities in their lives and to live a life of unlimited freedom. . Finding Home - Breaking Free from Limits
Beyond Joleen's professional life, she is an avid reader and researcher of books related to her special passion, which is metaphysical and spirituality topics. You can find out more about Joleen's book at her books website,www.breakingfreefromlimits.com. Additional articles of a spiritual and inspirational nature can be found at the book's website as well.