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Open Letter to Cancer

Updated on June 1, 2015

Letter Writing is Therapeutic

You might be wondering, "Who writes a letter to cancer?" Well, I do. I have been writing letters for as far back as I can remember. I write letters to show appreciation, to show I care, for celebratory reasons.etc...

I also wrote letters to my parents to remind them to feed me since I was a middle child and often times I was forgotten about. But my parents always remembered to feed me, so my mission was accomplished.

Letters have a way of always living on. I still have letters that I had written and received while I was in school. Today we call that texting. I have no idea what it will be called next, but I am curious to find out.

When you write a letter you are sharing a piece of yourself. You are sharing a piece of your heart. You are expressing your inner most thoughts and feel relieved and pleased once the letter is complete. Some letters might be written and burned for therapeutic reasons.

Some letters might be to break off a relationship...never do that. That is just tacky. I know that now, I didn't know that back then. I actually wrote a letter to clear my mind and make a decision about the fate of a past relationship. I meant to burn the letter and at the same time I wrote a letter to my parents to remind them not to forget me when they left for our family vacation. Well, I ended up burning my parents letter and giving my parents my boyfriends letter and since they didn't like him they gave him the letter...oh my, it was an uncomfortable situation. But he and I moved on and luckily my parents remembered to take me on the family vacation.

My letter writing continued into my adulthood. It became a part of my life. So when cancer entered my life via my mother's diagnosis of colon cancer in 1997 and my husbands diagnosis of prostate cancer in 2008, I thought it was time to write a letter to cancer.

My mother was given 6 months to live after her initial diagnosis. She lived for 6 years. She fought hard. She was a trooper. My husband was given "death sentences" a few times, but it seems like he has more lives than a cat. He is more like a mountain lion.

I learned so much from my mother's and husband's battles that I felt it was time to share these lessons with other warriors and their loved ones.

Trust is important during a cancer journey, the doctors do the best they can with the knowledge that they have. There are always new discoveries and treatments to assist in your cancer battle. If you are given a death sentence, fight on. Do not give up.

Consider writing letters to de-stress. To make sense of the turmoil within your mind. Perhaps one of your letters will become a book one day. Imagine that!

Letter to cancer...

To Cancer; I'll get right to the point, you suck. There is nothing nice to say about you. You are mean, cruel and vile. Your destruction needs to be halted. Immediately. Realistically that isn't possible since you are a money maker for the pharmaceutical companies. You also keep oncologists employed. You continue to reap in the profits for hospitals even if they are a non-profit hospital.

What is possible is that modern medicine is slowly learning how to beat you. Scientists, technicians and laboratory geniuses are enhancing medical treatments which in turn allow cancer patients to live longer with a better quality of life. I bet that irritates you.

You are the biggest enemy to many. I wish nothing but the worst for you. I've witnessed you destroy loved ones by taking them to their knees. I've also witnessed total strangers bond due to your ugliness, but you won't get a kudos for that, that is due to patients and their families bonding to fight you back. You see there is something you might not be aware of...we, the people, are on this glorious earth to help one another, not hurt one another. You, while trying to inflict pain and agony might think you have the upper hand, but you do not. You are just a thing that is slowly being extinguished, not totally because like I said above, you bring in major bucks.

For instance, cigarettes are bad for the health. The government continues to tax them so the common people could no longer afford to smoke and will quit. They show TV commercials to scare smokers into kicking the habit and also scare young ones not to start smoking. But yet the government does nothing about stopping production of tobacco! Why? Because they are a money maker. The government doesn't give a crap about the smokers getting cancer! Why? Smoking and cancer together is a winning combination to line their pockets and the pockets of their buddies, the pharma and tobacco companies. By the way, all four of you suck! I get very ticked off when I feel injustice is being done. And, no, I do not suffer from any mental disorders, but you make me feel like I might be losing my mind at times, yet I always bounce back. I am stronger than you could ever imagine.

This letter is being written to you from an advocate's perspective. I've learned many lessons along my journey as a caregiver, cheerleader and supporter. And I take my job very serious. At times until I might get a bit delirious. But I do not back down.

A little about myself...I fight for what I believe in, I do not to stand in the sidelines and just whine and complain. I get things done, I don't just rely on others to speak up for me. I believe in myself and I know that with each battle I fight or help someone I care for fight, we could win the war and make a difference for others. I have faith in my passion and trust that my heart is leading me in the best direction.

A little about yourself...you suck.

The lessons I have learned have changed me for the better. You've caused worry, stress, anxiety, heartache and I refuse to let you control my emotions any longer. You see, I am a nice person. I refuse to allow you to make me bitter or mean. I just don't operate that way. I always look for the positive in every negative. I always find one too. Even when dealing with cancer. Each and every day that we rise and shine is a gift. You do not have the power to take that gift away from any one. If you happen to succeed in doing so, it wasn't your power that did so...it was the fact that the patient just didn't have the strength to fight, but they will get that strength back and then kick your ass once again.

I never imagined the destruction and chaos you could cause until I entered into your vicious world filled with turbulence and terror. You probably do not like yourself much. Or do you enjoy the power you have over others? It might surprise you to know that your power isn't as strong as you suppose it might be.

It makes my heart happy to see patients receiving chemo treatments while laughing and sharing funny stories. That would probably annoy you which makes me even more happy. You do not have the upper hand. Deal with it.

We are not put on this earth to see
through one another
We are put on this earth to see
each other through

-Gloria Vanderbilt

Lessons I've learned

I've learned that you not only affect the patient but you affect their loved ones, their friends and families. You are ruthless and can often take matters to the extreme. I witnessed my mother's battle. You were very mean to her. She lost the battle but she died a hero, she never backed down.

I'm still here to fight my mother's fight and advocate for her. As my husband and I continue our fight, we vowed not to allow you to win. Our journey is not all about you. We find humor in all situations. We ridicule you and talk behind your back. You are a big bully and bullies never win.

I've learned that I shouldn't let my guard down because you are sneaky and hide out waiting to attack again without notice. Have you ever considered the aftermath of your damage? How you have drained people not only of their emotions and strength but you've also exhausted their life savings. You have no clue, do you? You just set out on a mission to destruct and try your best to succeed. I applaud the survivors who beat you. They kicked you to the curb...did it hurt? I hope so.

I've learned that we should expect the worst but always hope for the best with each new test, exam, xray and doctor visit. It's also important to make memories along the way because we never know what will happen from one day to the next. Support teams are crucial. Whether they are family members or support groups discovered elsewhere. Accepting life one day at a time is mandatory. There will be good days and bad days. Relish the good days and learn from the bad days.

I've learned that some people are scared and fear you. I used to fear you, I don't anymore. I just detest you, that's simpler for me to do. There's no point in complaining to others, or whining or saying "why me" because no one really wants to hear it. Sympathy actually makes a person weak. Instead I've learned to nudge victims of yours forward and remind them to hold their head high. It's vital to have patience with cancer patients. You might be trying your best to take them down, but I bet you didn't expect someone like me to bring them right back up. Yes, you have some competition, are you feeling a bit inadequate?

I've learned to embrace the small miracles. The tiniest bit of hope is always welcome and appreciated. Each day that we arise (even though you are festering in someone's body) it's still a gift that you could never take away! I've never heard one nice thing about you. Not one. You suck, is my favorite thing and I hear that quite often.

I've learned to always ask questions. There are no silly questions! Doctors might think they have all the answers but no one knows your body better than you do. Yes, cancer even you don't have no control at times. There are new medicines available every day that can whip your ass. Maybe the doctor isn't aware of them yet and I could teach him something new to help another patient. I bet you don't want us to know all the updated potential treatments but guess what we have access to many new updates. Google rocks, but you suck!

I've learned that we should always take a family or friend to each appointment. No matter how much strength the patient says they have, an extra set of ears is extremely important. While the patient speaks with the doctor, the team mate could take notes in a journal. A detailed journal is crucial. I call mine the cancer bible. I never enter a doctor's office without it. I have supplied information to doctors before they even received it in their personal file. Yes, they were a bit shocked, but doctors only have so much time allotted per patient, I'm their helping hand.

I've learned to appreciate the medical workers. The nurses, techs and PA's. They are human. They are usually working in an understaffed environment and might seem a bit frazzled at times. I go out of my way to make them feel appreciated with a compliment or a smile. I've witnessed them being yelled at by stressed out patients and rushing doctors for something that wasn't even their fault. I place myself in their shoes and treat them as I'd want to be treated. Hey cancer...not even you could make me a hateful person! The more damage you cause the more strength I obtain to help others fight you! Did I mention that you suck?

I've learned that even though at times you might be pleased because you think patients and family members have lost control and are so frightened that they consider throwing in the towel, but you better not start celebrating yet. What you don't know is that even though these gentle souls might temporarily think they have lost all sense of control, they truly haven't...they bounce back after a short period and come back swinging. You see, warriors are stronger than you think. Their determination overrides your cruel acts of vengeance. They realize that it is okay to not be strong all the time. They lean on friends and family to hold them up. They ask for prayers and guidance. A simple hug or fist bump can give them the motivation they need to carry on. So, in reality, you are just a nuisance who is trying to rob them of their precious moments. but, once again, you fail.

I've learned that you find out who your friends are when fighting cancer. You also discover which family members can take the heat. It just might surprise you as to who has your back and who doesn't. Take my mother for instance, before she got sick her phone was constantly ringing while I was visiting her for the weekend. Then she got sick. I began to notice that her phone rang less. Her good friends didn't stop by as often. Sure, my mother was hurt...she was battling the beast and her friends couldn't deal with it. Maybe people think you are contagious, or just don't want to be bothered, or do not know how to act...but I have learned the strong people remain at your side during the journey. My mother had her kids and grandkids by her side. She died knowing she was loved. And that cancer sucks.

Then you have the families who no matter how much you try to keep them up to date on treatments and how their son/brother/father is doing...they just seem distant and can not be bothered. This is my husband's family. We reap what we sow. I stand by those words as that is a lesson I learned. You can not control the actions of others and you can not hope they finally realize the wrong they have done. You just wish them the best and hope they never, ever have to deal with you rearing your ugly head because obviously they can not handle you.

Dear Cancer, You Suck.
Dear Cancer, You Suck.

Never stop learning...

I've learned to listen and to learn from other cancer patients journeys. First of all I'm thankful for the survivors who are still around to share their survival stories and help me so that I could help others. Their stories inspire me to inspire others. Their stories give me hope to pass on hope to others. Victims continue to fight you daily, your strength is weakening.

I've learned to laugh more. Mostly at you! Like "in your face" kind of laugh. For a while you robbed me of my humor but it came back with a vengeance! It's a gift that I share with others who need a laugh. Laughter is therapeutic. Sure there are days when I don't feel like laughing, but I do my best to find a reason just to irritate you. Humor is truly the best medicine. For the record, you are mean.

I've learned that no one should fight their battle alone. If they do not have family support or friends to support them then should request help from a social worker at the local hospital or from the American Cancer Society. There are people out there who truly care and they want to be there for them. I hope they do not allow pride to stand in their way. Cancer fighters are already the bravest of the brave for fighting the fight. Not even you could stand in their way of being saluted.

I've learned that cancer patients should not be made to feel like they are a burden, even though you entered their lives and tried to take them down. Warriors will have some bad days and they will be cranky and might be a bit rude, but we keep in mind that it is the cancer that is effecting their mood swings. The pain alone that you inflict in them is beyond words. I wish we could inflict that same pain on you.They are battling a beast who is sucking the life out of them. Allow them their time to vent, rant and be snippy.

I've learned that cancer sucks! Yes, you suck! It would be nice if you could just slither away never to return, but you aren't going to do that because you enjoy the attention. You cause so much heartache, but you don't care. What bothers me the most is how you could attack small defenseless children who never had a chance in life. These innocent, beautiful souls fight you with valor which amazes me. The strength and determination of all cancer patients amazes me.

I've learned as I watched patients and their loved ones, sitting for hours while receiving chemo treatments, some would sleep, some would share stories, some would sit in a stupor...together they all had a bond..which was to kick your ass.

I've learned that be using my voice I have power over you. I could create a team and we could discuss how to alter the effects that you cause. I could use my voice to advocate against you by reminding others to get tested because early detection is the key to keeping you away. I could use my voice to suggest great doctors who know some tricks of the trade to beat you. I could simply use my voice to share words of wisdom to those who are in need of reassurance. Our voices can make a huge difference in the fight against you. I guarantee you those voices in your head are not your imagination.

I've learned there will be a multitude of hiccups along the cancer journey due to your annoying antics. The hiccups will test our faith. But, in the long run your antics will only be another learning lesson. Because faith does prevail, we might question it at times, we might feel lost and confused, but it is due to our faith that we carry on. And where you fail.

I've learned that there are ways to avoid you. You shouldn't consume the minds just because you are consuming the patient's body. Cancer fighters could exert the little energy they have into a hobby, a passion of their choice. Writing their memoirs, making a remembrance video or taking family photos are some options. Also listening to their favorite music or indulging on an audio book are all excellent escapes from you. While you are a nuisance you also have the power to force fighters and families to bond more because each day is so much more precious. No kudos to you because you suck.

YOU have taught us all many lessons. Lessons we wish we never needed to learn, but because of YOU we have learned how strong we could be when we needed to be. YOU do not get credit for our accomplishments...YOU get a kick to the curb.

Little by little the wonderful world of medicine is beating you, they are taking you down to your knees! Before you know it you will be history. Just dust in the wind. We won't say R.I.P.

On a final note...You SUCK!

Lessons Learned

All through life we learn lessons. A cancer journey is no different than any other journey we travel through. We might make mistakes along the way. We also might have regrets that we wish had never happened. We might cast blame to those that wronged us. These are lessons learned. We accept those lessons for what they are and learn from them.

We share our experiences with others in hopes that if they encounter the same obstacles we did, they could have a game plan. Lessons learned could be a gift to us if we allow them to be. They could also be a gift to whom might also learn from them. Sharing is caring.

Bonus letter....

Letter to all cancer warriors,

You are truly braver than you think. Your strength and valor is to be commended. You were possibly chosen to fight this battle, we do not know, we might never know. I do like to believe that I was chosen to care for my loved ones because I feel I have made a difference in the lives of others by sharing my experience. I also believe we are never given more than we can handle.

Fighting cancer is not for the weak. The cancer battle is for the strong. Always hold your head high and be proud of how far you have come. Try your best not to look backwards, going backwards doesn't benefit you. Behind you are the lessons you learned on how to carry on.

You do not have to be strong all the time. When people tell you, be strong, remind them they are not fighting the war.

When people tell you, that you don't look like you have cancer, ask them how exactly is cancer supposed to look?

Never lose your humor. At times laughter will help you make it through the most difficult moments. I have so many family and friends who are battling cancer, some lost the battle, some won, some continue to fight. You are all heroes.

I hope I inspired you to write a letter. Once you start chances are you might not be able to stop. Share your thoughts with your family members, with your medical team, with your friends or simply write a letter to yourself...letters are a wonderful gift to cherish forever.

What I write comes from my heart. It comes from witnessing the devastation cancer has caused. Do not allow cancer to define you. Continue to be the amazing person you were prior to your diagnosis and shine on...

Tim McGraw - Live Like You Were Dying...

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      Linda Bilyeu 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts David.

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      David 4 years ago

      cancer is just a abonamrl reproduction of your cells .your cells reproduce normally all the time .sometimes something happens that causes the cells to reproduce at abonamrlly high rates = cancer any and everything can cause cancer ..its practically natural .do you see what im saying, there will never be a definitive list of things that cause cancer .you may be able to tell for sure some things do .but plenty of normal things cause cancer ..my personal theory is that the more generations your family has spent in a heavily industrialized place the more likely you are to get cancer .for ex .if you were born and bred in the mounts of greece along with your parents, grandparents, etc you prob wont be a cancer candidate .now if its new york city, your prob a cancer candidate no real way to know though ..any and everyone can develop it Was this answer helpful?

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      Gail Louise Stevenson 4 years ago from Mason City

      Thanks, sunshine625.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Gail, I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your brothers family.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      twethymboth, The images are loading fine for me. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Gail Louise Stevenson 4 years ago from Mason City

      Cancer (bone) took my brother's life on April 1st of this year. He had been battling it for four years. It was so sad that he had to suffer from a terrible disease. His wife is very sad. It was really hard on the family to lose a beloved brother.

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      twethymboth 4 years ago

      Hmm is anyone else experiencing problems with the images on this blog loading? I'm trying to determine if its a problem on my end or if it's the blog. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. regzooka review

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you Gail and Vibe for sharing your comments, wishes and thoughts.

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      vibesites 4 years ago from United States

      Cancer really sucks! The battle is emotionally and mentally draining, but my prayers are with you, I hope you win against the big C.

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      Gail Louise Stevenson 4 years ago from Mason City

      Thank you, Sunshine625. I wish your family the best, too. Cancer is a rotten deal. I visited my brother and sister-in-law with my older sister, and my brother couldn't hardly wake up. They have him on medicine and it must make him really tired. He stays in his room a lot.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Wishing your family the best Gail. I know this isn't easy. One day at a time is how I deal with my husband's journey. Feel free to vent whenever you need to.

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      Gail Louise Stevenson 4 years ago from Mason City

      Thanks, they changed his medicine, but he's still in a lot of pain. He's always been a fighter, so I hope he is doing better. He has a wife and its hard on her. She has medical problems, as well.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Gail, Thank you for sharing your families journey. I feel for you and all you've been through. I hope your brother is doing better. Sending you positive thoughts.

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      Gail Louise Stevenson 4 years ago from Mason City

      I agree that cancer sucks! My mother died of cervical cancer in 1998. My older brother has been fighting cancer for four years. He had cancer of the esopaghus, and bone cancer now. Right now he's not doing good at all, and he may not make it past Christmas. He's in stage 4 and is on morphine to help control the pain. He's in a lot of pain-hopefully the morphine is helping. Cancer killed our grandfather back in 1960, Cancer is a vicious killer of the innocent. It does suck! My brother turned 59 on his last birthday in August.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Rema, Thank you for your kind and beautiful comment. You are a shining friend! :)

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      Rema T V 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Instead of just sitting there with a feeling of depression and frustration as most people on this planet do under such serious circumstances, you had the grit to stand up and put up a fight against this deadly monster that ruthlessly attacks the young and the old.

      I truly appreciate not only your fighting spirit but your heart of gold that makes the others around you smile and laugh. Bravo sunshine! Spread cheer and love all around as always. I am touched by this hub. Cheers, Rema.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Mary, Thank you for reading, commenting and sharing. The more people this letter reaches out to the better. I appreciate your thoughts.

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      I know of very few families that have been spared the wrath of this monster: Cancer! I wonder if a cure will ever be found. I'm at the age now where I have lost several friends and family members to this horrow.

      Written straight from your heart. I voted this Hub UP, and will certainly share. Mary

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Ish, Thank you for your kind words and support. I appreciate it.

      Martie, Thank you. I know you understand.

      Maria, I would be honored if you would share this letter with your students. I wrote this to help others benefit. I agree it should run for the hills.

      Thank you all.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Linda,

      Like Docmo, I have a need to share this letter with my students but more importantly with my dearest SIL (and my husband). You are a passionate writer, of this, there is no doubt...

      If I were that !@#$%^&* cancer, I would run for the hills. Every point you make is so beautiful and worthwhile and makes me love you all the more... Voted UP & UABI. Love, Maria

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Excellent hub, Sunshine, I've sensed your passionate hate for cancer, as well as your passionate wish for the well-being of your husband :)

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      A heart-touching hub! I see your deep passion in writing this letter to the very much unwanted cancer! Life would be more wonderful for many without this loathsome disease. Thank you for writing this powerful and moving letter! Socially shared

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      Costello 5 years ago

      Cancer can be fix easy.

      Costello

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you for your comment Kelly. I have bookmarked the website. I appreciate you thinking of me. I also found the page on Facebook. I will pass on the word. Wishing you good luck!

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      Kelly 5 years ago

      Sunshine625, you are a wise, beautiful and amazing person. Thank you for sharing your post with us. I would like to recommend a website called, "Healing Cancer Naturally"...When I was feeling hopeless and helpless due to a family member's cancer diagnosis, I searched the internet for everything-for ANYTHING-that could possibly ease the heartache that cancer had bestowed upon my family and me. "Healing Cancer Naturally" was exactly what I was hoping to find....This website is Heaven-Sent, as are you Sunshine625....

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you ps-orbis. I appreciate your comment.

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      ps-orbis 5 years ago

      You did an absolutely fantastic job on this hubpage! What a great resource :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I appreciate your comment Vinaya. Thank you.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Your experience is very inspiring. I salute your bravery and courage.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Dolores. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your journey. I appreciate your comment.

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      DoloresHerriot 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thank you Docmo. I lost my mother over two years ago to breast cancer. Life is never the same. I miss her every day but your letter to cancer made me cry and smile! My prayers are with your family and friends.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I'm sorry for your loss uzma. I appreciate you sharing.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      your writing reminded me of an ironic experience of my life when my father suffered this ruthless disease and he lost this battle. I lost my father and we were so unaware of this when it happened. ah!

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      Mohan Kumar 5 years ago from UK

      Thank you, Linda.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Docmo, Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate you taking the time to read my letter and I appreciate your message.

      I wrote this letter for myself and for those who will benefit from it, so please feel free to share with others.

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      Mohan Kumar 5 years ago from UK

      Linda, my thoughts go out to you and your husband. I am astounded and humbled by your courage, your eloquence and your sheer bravery and thoughtfulness against adversity. As family practitioner who specialises in continuity of care and also as a local advocate for holistic cancer care every word you have written resonates with me. I have many brave letters in my desk from sufferers and their carers who have appreciated the involvement and the encouragement our team has given them. I also teach communication skills and palliative care and I always say to my post grad Doctors that their science and evidence base can only take them so far but it is their humanity, their perceptiveness, their understanding of holistic care. their ability to interact with the family and friends of the patient, and the willingness to laugh, cry and share the pain is what that will make them excellent clinicians.

      I wonder if you'd give me permission to read this letter in my teaching lectures - ( I absolutely understand if you don't want me to) I 'll anonymise it of course so I don't break confidentiality- as this is the most erudite letter to cancer I have read for a very long time... the fight for Cancer is not just done with medicine- but it is the love, humanity and care of those close to us that binds it all together. I am truly humbled by your hub.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you Daisy! Your thoughts are appreciated.

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      Daisy Mariposa 5 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

      Linda,

      This is the most important of all the *letter* Hubs you have written. Your husband and you will always be in my thoughts, as will the mother and grandmother I lost to Cancer.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Wishing you good luck! Thank you for sharing to help others.

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      CARROLL MACINTOSH 5 years ago

      I AHVE HAD CANCER SINCE 2002 THYROID CANCER IT WENT TO MY LUNGS HOWEVER I REFUSED TO TAKE TREATMENTS I USED ORGANIC FOODS AND ORGANIC COCONUT OIL,HOWEVER, THIS CAME FROM A SUCKER PUNCH TO THE HEAD FROM MY EX HUSBAND THE XRAYS LOOK EVEN TODAY LIKE A MOUSE IS EATING THE BONES

      IN THE LEFT SIDE OF MY T MANDULAR BONE BEING SUCKER PUNCHED IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS IS NOT A JOKE REMEMBER SHOULD YOU GET BEATEN GO TO THE HOSPITAL CALL THE POLICE AND PLEASE PRESS CHARGES IT'S YOUR LIFE THAT IS BEING SAVED.AMEN

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Dana, I could so relate. You know how to find me if you need a shoulder. I'll keep you in mind also!:)

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      Dana Strang 5 years ago from Ohio

      What amazing strength you have to go through what you have and to write about it in such a strong and beautiful way. Truly inspiring.

      I lost my grandmother to lung cancer when I was 17. She was like a mother to me. It was devastating to me and the entire famliy. My boyfriend just lost a cousin and is losing a brother. A younger brother of mine might have melanoma. I have had two scares myself (cerivcal and esophagus, at only 30 years old!) My body has started healing before the cancer developed. Now it will just mean watching and hoping for the rest of my life. I am determined to live my life healthy and not give it a thought between checkups. And I am going to support my boyfriend and our brothers as best I can. This has helped give me the strength to do that. Thank you.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi HBN, Making memories is vital for the loved ones who are left behind. This is all they will have once cancer has won. I have a photo collage of my mom displayed in my foyer. It contains different photos from happy moments spent together. I look at it everyday and smile. Memories will never fade unless we allow them to. Thank you for your comment.

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      Gail Sobotkin 5 years ago from South Carolina

      Wow! That's quite a letter and having lost loved ones, friends and patients to this horrible disease, I agree with everything you had to say to cancer and am waiting for the day it will be eradicated.

      In the meantime, it's strong spirited advocates and loving people like you who help others through the ordeal of fighting cancer.

      I particularly liked what you said here: "It's also important to make memories along the way because we never know what will happen from one day to the next. Support teams are crucial. Whether they are family members or support groups discovered elsewhere. Accepting life one day at a time is mandatory. There will be good days and bad days. Relish the good days and learn from the bad days."

      Though, like you, I would not credit cancer for "teaching" those truths, it certainly can be the stimulus that makes us aware of them.

      Voted up across the board except for funny.

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      Justin W Price 5 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

      you're welcome, Linda. I pray for your continued strength and courage!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Very good point Eliminate Cancer! Oh how I wish we could do that. As I sat in the oncology room today and looked around at the many patients receiving their meds it made me sad, yet glad they were fighting.

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      Eliminate Cancer 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Cancer is a great teacher - if for no other reason but to reconnect us with our body, and how amazing it is that it can heal itself!!!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you Dee!

      Thank you Ge!

      You are both appreciated and awesome!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hello Rajan and Princessa, Thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate them. I am happy that the Cancer Resource Center will be using this letter in their newletter to help so many thousands of people. It's mission accomplished for me. That's awesome. Thank you for your support.

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      geegee77 5 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

      Have I told you lately that you are AWESOME!!!??? :) ge

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Anonymous, Your message means a lot to me. It's why I do what I do by being the best darn advocate I could be with the resources that I have. I witnessed to much sorrow and pain and I'm not the type of person to just sit on the sidelines and be a wallflower. We all have a voice...use it the best way you can. Thank you for your thoughts.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Sueswan, I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing with us.

      Hi Curiad, Thank you for your comment and thoughts. Always appreciated.

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      kayha 5 years ago

      Thank you for this inspirational hub. My prayers are with everyone who is fighting against it.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 5 years ago from France

      I can see why this letter has been chosen to be published by the Cancer Resource Center in Texas. It is written from the heart, clear and concise yet very powerful. Your positiveness shines trough your words!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Cancer is the most feared and the most hated disease, I'm sure. It takes a lot of guts and gumption to fight it. A positive approach and faith is the foremost requirement to tackle it. This is the most difficult part. I' m glad you and your husband are doing it.

      I echo all your sentiments in this hub. A very positive write and congratulations on your write up being included by the Cancer Resource Center, in their newsletter.

      Voted up, awesome and shared.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I love the way you have written this attack on cancer. It does indeed suck and you have conveyed that beautifully without giving in to its power. I think rather than weaken the cancer foe you have strenthened the will of its victims to fight back with positive determination and armed with knowledge.

      Your own journey is recorded with a real sense of the emotion and anger toward the enemy(cancer) and you have much to offer cancer victims as you advocate for them and empathise with them as a consequence of your experience in confronting the enemy.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      This is such an awesome testament to the tenacity of your spirit and the power of love! Thank you for writing this moving letter Sunshine!

      Voted up and Shared

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      Sueswan 5 years ago

      Hi Sunshine

      God bless and thank you for writing this letter to cancer.

      My grandmother died of stomach cancer in 1980.

      Cancer is running rampant in our society and I wonder why.

      Voted up and away!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you HSB and htodd. Your comments are appreciated.

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      htodd 5 years ago from United States

      That is really great letter to cancer..Thanks

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      Cindy Murdoch 5 years ago from Texas

      So sorry you have had to go through this but your spirit shines through. I lost my father to lung cancer. It was not pretty.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      PDX, Rebecca, Thoughtmonkey, Alifeof design... Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, wishes and wisdom. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

      Cancer Sucks.

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      Graham Gifford 5 years ago from New Hamphire

      You are kind to express yourself in this 'letter'. The people that posted comments are also generous in their sharing. Thanks to you all. I am a two-time cancer survivor and, indeed, cancer is cruel and relentless. I'm sorry to her how cancer has impacted your world....I wish you and your husband strength beyond measure.

      Best Regards,

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      ThoughtMonkey 5 years ago from United Kingdon

      I am in my thirties and until recently never lost anyone nor knew anyone with cancer. I got lucky for a very long time, sadly my luck did not last and I lost an aunt to cancer last year. Lovely writing.

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      Rebecca Mealey 5 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Very touching and interestingly written. It would be hard to find anyone who hasn't been involved in cancer's meanness in one way or another. I lost my Dad to colon cancer. He was only 71.Best wishes Sunshine. My prayers are with you.

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      Justin W Price 5 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

      cancer doe ssuckk and I wish you and your husband all the best in his battle. I lost my favorite uncle to cancer last year. It's no fun, though,he made the best of it. I did a review of his book, Two Copper Coins. if you haven't read the review (and the book) you may want to. It's very encouraging!

      Up and shared!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Linda, Thank you for your comment. I'm not sure who Samuel is but I thank them also for sharing this letter.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi alocsin, I'm happy to hear that you know many survivors. They kicked cancer to the curb. Well done!

      Braincancersux, I'm sorry to hear about your health issues. Wishing you the best of luck.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Ruchira, I'm sorry for your loss and your friends loss. Prostate Cancer is sneaky, yet can be treated when caught early. Men need to have their PSA checked yearly. That's another hub, but I thought I would mention that. Thank you for your comment:)

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      Linda Trempe 5 years ago from Colorado Springs, CO

      Beautifully written story Samuel, oh so sad but so very true. We've all been touched by cancer in some way, there's not a person out there who doesn't have a loved one or know of someone who's battled cancer. Some have fought their battles and won and other's bravely fought and lost.

      As a former insurance agent who specialized in cancer insurance I met scores of people all over the state of Colorado who had stories to tell. Cancer spares nobody.

      My only advice to anybody reading is that the statistics are not in our favor and I urge everybody to get your annual followups, annual pap tests for women, breasts exams as your doctor specifies and for men and women over a certain age followup on your prostate and colon exams.

      I recently lost a dear uncle to prostate cancer, sadly if caught early enough prostate cancer is one of the most curable cancers out there.

      Don't let your health, or your loved one's health go. See your doctor regularly.

      Linda

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      braincancersux 5 years ago

      I LOVE this! I am a 37 yr old wife and mom to two little boys fighting brain cancer. This hub was so well written and true. Awesome!

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I seem to be knowing more and more people, especially women, getting cancer. Glad to say, most of them survive it. Thanks for this hub. Voting it Up and Awesome.

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Linda this is such a kick ass hub...LOVED IT!

      I REALLY wish I could have kicked the ass of it from my dad.

      Anyways, can't bring him back into this life.

      Yesterday my friend's dad passed away from prostrate cancer so, I gonna fwd this to her.

      voted way way up as awesome!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Sam, Your Grandma kicked cancer to the curb! That's great news! Thank you for sharing.

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      sam209 5 years ago

      Proud to say my Grandmother is a cancer survivor! Great hub!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you vocalcoach for sharing your story. I'm sorry for your losses. Your words will be appreciated by the many people who read this letter. Our words are further proof that cancer truly sucks.

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      Audrey Hunt 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Oh Sunshine - This remarkable and well written hub touched me so. Cancer took my 42 yr, old son, Mother, ex-husband and more. These brave people all took care of themselves. It makes no sense and makes me angry. I commend you for your bravery.

      Thank you so much. Voted up and across!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      You are AWESOME Gangsta Granny. Our voices will be heard today on World Cancer Day and everyday! RIP Dennis and Christine.

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      Linda K aka Gansta Granny 5 years ago

      You are AWESOME Sunshine!

      In memory of my husband Dennis Kelly 2/16/50-1/10/12 and my sister Christine Maxwell 3/9/48-2/20/02

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you all for sharing your comments, thoughts, stories and journey's. Those who read them will learn from them, relate to them and understand them. Something we could all agree on is that cancer sucks.

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      Jamie Brock 5 years ago from Texas

      Sunshine, this hub is very touching.. We lost my Paw-Paw (grandfather) to lung cancer in April of 1986. I was very young but still remember him coming home from work and giving me the apples he saved for me from his lunch box every day. He quit smoking several years prior but worked around Asbestos a lot at the Air Force base where he worked. It was the asbestos type cancer. I miss him. Thank you for this hub :0)

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      TIMETRAVELER2 5 years ago

      This says it all. I am a Cancer survivor, so I definitely identify. I just hope one day they find the cure.

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      Kathy Sima 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      What a beautifully written and inspiring hub! Cancer does suck - thank you for writing this hub that's obviously struck a chord with so many people that have been affected by cancer.

      Voted up, awesome and sharing far and wide.

      Keep up the good fight!

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      BEAUTYBABE 5 years ago from QUEENSLAND AUSTRALIA.

      I loost my best friend to breast cancer last year. She battled with courage and conviction for two years. I was very hard to see her so sick in the end. It went to her bones so fast because the Oncologist said she had it some time.

      It wasn't found until she had gone through menopause. They found something in her mammogram and she hadn't even felt a lump. It was very aggressive and even though they told her she didn't have long, she actually lived longer than they had predicted.

      The sad part about this was that she had four children and six grandchildren. Her youngest grandchild was only born eight weeks before she passed away. At least she got to see her.

      I think we can all say that somehow just about all our families are affected by cancer to some extent. Sometimes it is good and people win their battles. At other times, people fight with a vengeance to the end to no avail.

      Thank you so much for writing this amazing and awesome hub Sunshine. You have touched so many lives with this and I congratulate you for putting down in words what so many of us feel and also relate.

      God bless you love Beautybabe.

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      ChinaDoll32BX 5 years ago from Bronx, New York

      This is a great hub my Aunt is battling cancer so I understand the pain that it causes. Never stop fighting

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      Audrey Howitt 5 years ago from California

      This is such a personal piece and yet your journey affects so many of us--thank you, thank you!

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      SUNSHINE ~ YOU ROCK! This is awesome. You are awesome. You got my votes for sure. Thank you for writing this important message. You know I am one of your cheerleaders ~ stay strong my friend!

      Sharyn

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      Joanna Chandler 5 years ago from On planet Earth

      My you did give Cancer i good whipping. Yes it SUCKS ALOT its one of the worst decease ever and people scorn AIDS but Cancer eats away every fiber of your inner being if it gets a chance to. I've seen lovely healthy people dwindle away by this cruel sickness. Someone i know died recently of it so sad it brings so much pains and suffering.

      May God keep that sickness away from me. Hope things goes well for you.

      Thanks for sharing your story :(

      Keep in high spirits

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      Elizabeth Rayen 5 years ago from California

      Fabulous Sunshine! I lost my brother and my father to cancer and my sister is dealing with breast cancer. I applaud you for attacking this awful disease!

      Thank you so much for this well written Hub. I'm very touched!

      Blessings,

      ~Lisa RusticLiving

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you apple, felix and GClark for sharing your thoughts. Always appreciated. Cancer sucks!

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      GClark 5 years ago from United States

      Thank you for your well-written ferocious attack on cancer. It certainly sucks and can change one's life almost in a heartbeat. Have dealt with it myself personally and have know others currently fighting the good fight plus some who have lost it. Believe once our medical system starts looking at wellness and prevention of disease as their main goal we will begin making major strides in this battle against cancer and other horrible diseases. Meanwhile we should also applaud those involved in alternative treatment research for their part in the front lines fighting to make new information and treatments available. GClark

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      felixtroll2 5 years ago from Manitowoc, WI

      I love what you wrote about cancer. Yes it really sucks and the treatment costs are awful.

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      Apple Guy 5 years ago

      Extremely well written, I could feel the emotion as I read it.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Kx...You are in the majority. I've witnessed the costs of the drugs, oncologists, procedures and all else that goes along with cancer...it's insanely ridiculous. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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      kxdorey 5 years ago from Beverly Hills, California, USA

      Fantastic writing. Maybe I'm in the minority here but I'm sure they have found a cure for cancer. There's just too much money in the drugs. Anyways, I really enjoyed that piece. It touched my heart.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you bakingbreak for the info! I'll help spread the word.

      I'm sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks!

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      BakingBread-101 5 years ago from Nevada

      My Sister fought and lost her battle after 3 years. She endured ovarian cancer. Cancer sucks.

      For all of you I ask you to pass on the following information to your loved ones.

      CFOA.org is Cancer Fund of America. Have your loved ones sign up and their doctors sign it. Cancer Fund of America will FREE OF CHARGE send to their door a box of necessities EVERY month, including a birthday gift. This is free of charge and it does not matter what their income is. Please pass this information on to everyone who might be in need of it. Thank you.

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      Steven Gray 5 years ago from Pensacola, Florida

      Thank you for this hub. I've lost many family members and friends to this disease.

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      Raquel L Pierson 5 years ago from Lancaster Ca

      Great hub! I wrote a hub on cancer as well if you're interested! 'Cancer in all forms.' I voted up and truly related to this one! Thank you for sharing!

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      elanger333 5 years ago from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

      Empowering.