My Little Kitty
Little Kitty waiting to be called for dinner
Sometimes, when we may least expect it, stress creeps into our day to day lives, grabs hold, and refuses to let go. Finding ways to identify the source or sources and acknowledging what it is can be the beginning of reducing it. But not always. And sometimes after you've identified it the stress wants to hold on even tighter.
Remember our greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.— William James
What is it?
What is stress? It is our body's reaction to changes that may occur in our life. They can be emotional or mental or physical or all of those. Stress can be a positive thing or negative thing. It becomes a negative thing when it is a constant presence in one's life.
According to my.clevelandclinic.org : "stress is a response that causes physiological changes to allow the body to combat stressful situations. This stress response, also known as the "fight or flight response", is activated in case of an emergency. However, this response can become chronically activated during prolonged periods of stress. Prolonged activation of the stress response causes wear and tear on the body – both physical and emotional."
No doubt, each of us experiences some degree of stress daily.
Little Kitty has Stress, too
Not being an animal psychiatrist I'm only speaking from my general observation. But it seems that animals have stress in their lives also. Kitty who is shown in the photo must feel stress when she's chased by the outside kitties. One thing however she does not have to stress about is where she's going to get her next meal.
She also gets lots of loving from her Momma (me) and she gives me love in return as she purrs and snuggles with me.
Always on hand
Why "silly putty"?
Why not "silly putty"? I keep it on hand and mindlessly squish it in my hands throughout the day. It seems to divert my thinking, if but for a moment, away from whatever stressor of the negative ilk that may try to intrude in my mind.
What are some common stressors?
Hurrying for an appointment/ meeting
Illness: your own/another person's
Expectations of you for others & vice versa
Lost eye glasses
Death of loved one or friend & yes, beloved pet
What may trigger stress?
The table shows only a limited number of stress triggers. The page could have been filled with triggers only. What may stress you may not bother someone else at all. Some things may be a minor annoyance to you but for others may be huge.
What to do...
Recently a stressful situation has settled into my life that is unlike anything I have ever encountered. It is one that never in my wildest dreams did I feel I would ever be forced to face.
It is a situation that I am unable to distance myself from no matter what I try.
It is bigger than I am. Much bigger. And, while I do struggle to completely trust in divine power, I am after all NOT divine and have human failings. One of them being that no matter what I do, I am unable to resolve this present situation.
I am unable to distance myself from this. It is there when I lay my head on my pillow each night. As I awaken in the morning, it once again shows its ugly head to me. At present, I am just trying to breathe.
Snuggle with your pup to help you relax
And so how do I go forth
Faced with the uncertainty of how this present stress will be resolved, I am forced to move on, go forth, keep on trying to breathe.
Each day, after once again realizing that it is a new day for which I am eternally grateful, I begin anew.
Trying to keep busy helps. It does not remove this obstacle that is present but it helps.
Walking is one way that I can sort of get away from this nightmare that has become a "daymare", if there is such a thing. I plug in my ear buds and listen to some music I adore and walk and walk.
It helps...it does.
What else can I do
Keeping busy. Yes, it is so important to me.
Tending to my many plants in my yard is a great distraction. They provide me joy and while most do not require a lot of attention, they offer me a connection to Mother Earth which is calming.
The mischievous, abundant weeds do require attention. Some of them really are reluctant to let go of their home in the rich and comfortable loamy soil so struggle with me to see who will win. Usually I am quite satisfied when the last root of one of those invaders is removed from a flower bed.
A plus while I am tending to the plants is company. Little Kitty comes to me when I am working and snuggles up with me. She also makes me laugh. When there is a good-sized pile of debris I have trimmed off of a tree or a pile of weeds, this proves to be a great place to wriggle up into and wait for me to acknowledge her. It is just so cute.
Little Kitty "hiding" in a pile of debris
There are other ways that I strive to distance myself from this unwanted intrusion in my life.
- Writing on HubPages*
- Coloring in adult coloring books
- Reaching out to Angels who listen
- Spending time with Little Kitty
*Writing is difficult as I have no internet where I live. I am in a very rural spot so I use data on my phone (unlimited, of course) but it is quite a chore and not STRESS-free to compose on one's phone.
Getting stress out of your life takes more than prayer alone. You must take action to make changes and stop doing whatever is causing the stress. You can learn to calm down in the way you handle things.— Joyce Meyer
Each day I search for new ways to confront what I am facing.
One thing I know for certain is that there are so many others who are beset with issues they find beyond their control.
Saying...'do not dwell on it' is so simplistic. If only it were that easy.
In distancing oneself from uncertainty does come some peace and calm.
As I have written this I have been searching for answers from others and from within my own little mind.
To some extent, I feel somewhat relieved. That is a good thing.
Natural beauty is calming
Look at a tree, a flower, a plant. Let your awareness rest upon it. How still they are, how deeply rooted in being. Allow nature to teach you stillness.— Eckhart Tolle
Those of you who have read a number of the hubs I have shared on this site would know that I often would be termed Pollyanna.
For the most part, that is who I am. Seeing the glass half full, seeing the ultimate good in whatever comes my way, finding joy in simplicity. So for me to have written about being in despair may make you want me to go back and reread what I have written.
And, I have. And I have read and continue to read positive thoughts and mantras shared by others.
Each day is a new opportunity to relish the beauty in this transitory world. Recent events not withstanding, there is still so much wonderful to behold.
Perhaps one day I will be able to share what has caused this turmoil in my life.
Meanwhile, keep on keeping on everyone of you.
An example to me about being calm
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