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My Pearls of Wisdom - Moderation
Based on years of experimentation and facing consequences I have realized one thing in essence and that is, that anything in extreme will lead to an extremly undesirable outcome.
Some say that you can never be too careful but if you come to think of it then yes one can. Being overly careful is known as being paranoid. You just wont have any risk taking ability and will end up being a nervous wreck who wants to be perfect in every possible way and will inevitably burnout at the most crucial moment of your life.
You have been a perfect worker and a perfect husband but when your wife decides to leave you, you start considering yourself as a fool for being overly responsible and you start being less responsible to your children because you want your life back. Soon enough you will find yourself drifiting towards another extreme, and possibly this is the reason why many people take up drugs, become alcoholic or commit sucides. The only mistake one ever makes is to give complete control of their happiness in hands of people, situations or incidents beyond one's control.
Right from the start we are led to believe that without being an extermist we are a failure. We are taught to excell, even learn to play with puzzles and solve them quickly in order to get admission in a school. But then again who is to be blamed, afterall we are “victims of victims1”.
Such is the hypocrisy of society, on one side it cultivates extremists and on the other side it loathes them.
A terrorist is result of exploring oneself in extreme absence of oneself.
Why dont I, why dont you, why dont we all just “suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy2”, why are we so complulsively addicted to stearing everything in our favor. If you are a strong believer of having full control of your life then you are creating a perfect environment for a perfect failure because sooner or later you will eventually say this is not what I want.
I read my diary entry from over 10 years ago and I felt astonished, hardly amused by the extent to which I have changed, it was as if someone else wrote it, I was ready to disown my very own self and felt sad for giving up several believes which were lost along the way. What I learned was that no matter of what I think or would like the future to be like, it will be something different, and I have decided to be exicited about everything that will come my way.
Zen and the Art of Happiness
I had finished reading this book a couple days before I had a heart attack at the age of 24 and I would had a very different approach towards the whole event if I wouldn't have read this book. The whole essence of this book can be written in a few words, “What ever happens, happens for your own good”. This philosophy is hammered into your head and for a very noble reason, if you read this book with a guard and wont allow this thought to sink in then you are only wasting your time.
1 Victims of Victims – quoted from the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise L. Hay.
2 Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy – quoted from gosho Happiness in This World by Nichiren Daishonin.