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Is it possible to feel the presence of someone who has died? My new normal, part 3

Updated on June 12, 2012

Is it possible to love so deeply, and to be so connected, that we are even connected after our loved ones enter into eternity?

my mom at one of our annual Christmas outings...she was always ready to jump in the car for an adventure :)
my mom at one of our annual Christmas outings...she was always ready to jump in the car for an adventure :)
family birthday with mom and dad/nana and papa
family birthday with mom and dad/nana and papa

Is it possible to feel the presence of someone who has died and stepped into eternity?

Is it possible to smell their perfume, or actually hear their voice?

Prior to my own experience with the death of my mother and best friend, I would have said it was not likely and probably not possible. However, as we grow up in our lifetime, and in our faith, isn't it interesting how we as people can change our opinion based on having an actual experience with death?

For example, I didn’t know the pain of losing a child in the womb until I myself lost not one but two babies in the womb. Before this happened to me, I had no idea how much it would hurt and that I would need to learn to suffer this loss and grieve alone. Most people do not experience this loss and aren’t even sure how to offer comfort to someone who has. As much as I would have never chosen this to happen to me, I took comfort in knowing that not only would my child be waiting for me in Heaven, but that God may use me to offer comfort to others experiencing the loss of a baby.

As a family, we are comforted with the belief and faith that when mom took her last breath on earth, she took her first breath in Heaven. “We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5:8

I don't know how it is that we can sense her presence so vividly -- and at times I believe I smell her perfume.

I am not desperate for these occurrences, I am sad, grieving, in mourning... all of these things, but I have not begged my mom, or God to have her come back and check on us.

I believe it is more likely that the bond between our spirits is so strong, that we sense her presence even though she is no longer physically with us.

When she was in the hospital on life support, the doctor said she was fighting and he was optimistic. However at some point I was no longer able to connect with her while I visited her room in the hospital. I couldn't understand why I didn't feel comfortable in her room any longer. It was that evening the hospital staff broke the news that our mother had lost brain function and was no longer likely to live.

With this new information, I was suddenly aware that if my mom was no longer with us neurologically, then it was extremely possible she her spirit had left her body and was waiting for her body to stop fighting death in order to continue on to eternity.

I imagine a fine silver thread connecting me here on earth to my mom in Heaven.

Although I believe I feel her presence, my belief is that in some way I am still connected to her through our spirit.

The other day I found our favorite "secret" close parking place at Mejier and was happy that the spot was open and remembered how often I would see my mom's red Monte Carlo :) parked in that spot when I would pull in tio get coffee or groceries. That particular day, I backed into the spot and looked over to my right, and what did I see? The only other red Monte Carlo in our town that is like my mom's car, parked next to the "secret" spot.

Either she was smiling down at me, or God loves us so much that He would send encouragement this way. I look forward to seeing her again one day.

Tami

A wonderful song by the late Rich Mullins

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      Tami Fite 4 years ago

      The Tile Tuner recommended changes to my Titles, and I forgot to put the part 1 & 2 back in! Thanks for reading, this is #1 if you haven't read it already https://hubpages.com/health/My-new-normal-my-mom-a...

      Part 2 https://hubpages.com/health/My-new-normal-my-mom-a...

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      azure_sky 4 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

      I have searched for Parts 1 and 2 to this, as I find it very interesting reading....am I missing something?

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      Tami Fite 4 years ago

      Bless you -- your kind words and encouragement mean a lot to me -- the hubpages community has been so good for me at this difficult time. Each day a new day, some good, some not so good...I will look forward to reading your work! Tami

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      azure_sky 4 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

      Another great hub that I thoroughly enjoyed, Tami. Upped it, and clicked across most of the board, as has become the norm for your hubs. Although you are still grieving, you are coming out of it enough to see the messages that your Mom is sending to you. I wrote a poem about pennies from Heaven, as my Dad is always dropping them down for me to find......and I can't help but smile when I have to bend over and pick them up. I can't bring myself to pass them by......lol

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      Tami Fite 5 years ago

      An add on to this hub -- the other day I found our favorite "secret" close parking place at Meijers and was happy that the spot was open and remembered how often I would see my mom's red Monte Carlo :) parked in that spot when I would pull in to the Meijers -- that day I backed into the spot and looked over to my right and what did I see? The other red Monte Carlo like my mom's parked next to the "secret" spot. Either she was smiling down at me, or God loves us so much that He would send encouragement this way. :) Tami

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      Tami Fite 5 years ago

      Bless you Akeejaho.

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      akeejaho 5 years ago from Some where in this beautiful world!

      Tami, although I can't answer your question whether or not ones spirit can remain present after death or not, nor can anyone else, I might offer you a thought which may help.

      I can only relay to you what I believe. That being, that those who have been close, as your beloved mother, remain with you all the rest of your days. They reside in your heart and in your memories. They travel with you everywhere you go, close to you and your being.

      I have suffered a few losses in my time, and all were very difficult to accept. There used to be such a finality in death for me when I suffered those losses until I realized that although their physical being was no longer here, they still were with me. I could almost hear their voice, feel the warmth of their love. It was then I realized they would always be with me, for as I see it, as long as the love you had for them in life is still in your heart, and their smile and closeness is still within your memory, then they are indeed here, with you.

      Soon enough we will be reunited,, but for now, this is all that I need to know.

      Remember, laugh and love with them, for that is what they wanted for you then as now.

      Peace, love and light

      Akeejaho

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      KeriProctor88 5 years ago from Georgia

      I've heard a lot from my friends they have talked, seen, and smelled their loved ones before. So I think that it could be possible.

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      tarajeyaram 5 years ago from Wonderland

      Beautifully stated, “We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5:8. That's a beautiful sentence. Its important to pray during this time. And not cry. Its hard to rejoice and cheer, but praying keeps you focused on a send off to the heavens. When we love someone, they will always be in our prayers and thoughts. The soul never dies. Thanks for sharing your beautiful and enlightening insight. Voted up.