- Death & Loss of Life
Is it possible to feel the presence of someone who has died? My new normal, part 3
Is it possible to love so deeply, and to be so connected, that we are even connected after our loved ones enter into eternity?
Is it possible to feel the presence of someone who has died and stepped into eternity?
Is it possible to smell their perfume, or actually hear their voice?
Prior to my own experience with the death of my mother and best friend, I would have said it was not likely and probably not possible. However, as we grow up in our lifetime, and in our faith, isn't it interesting how we as people can change our opinion based on having an actual experience with death?
For example, I didn’t know the pain of losing a child in the womb until I myself lost not one but two babies in the womb. Before this happened to me, I had no idea how much it would hurt and that I would need to learn to suffer this loss and grieve alone. Most people do not experience this loss and aren’t even sure how to offer comfort to someone who has. As much as I would have never chosen this to happen to me, I took comfort in knowing that not only would my child be waiting for me in Heaven, but that God may use me to offer comfort to others experiencing the loss of a baby.
As a family, we are comforted with the belief and faith that when mom took her last breath on earth, she took her first breath in Heaven. “We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5:8
I don't know how it is that we can sense her presence so vividly -- and at times I believe I smell her perfume.
I am not desperate for these occurrences, I am sad, grieving, in mourning... all of these things, but I have not begged my mom, or God to have her come back and check on us.
I believe it is more likely that the bond between our spirits is so strong, that we sense her presence even though she is no longer physically with us.
When she was in the hospital on life support, the doctor said she was fighting and he was optimistic. However at some point I was no longer able to connect with her while I visited her room in the hospital. I couldn't understand why I didn't feel comfortable in her room any longer. It was that evening the hospital staff broke the news that our mother had lost brain function and was no longer likely to live.
With this new information, I was suddenly aware that if my mom was no longer with us neurologically, then it was extremely possible she her spirit had left her body and was waiting for her body to stop fighting death in order to continue on to eternity.
I imagine a fine silver thread connecting me here on earth to my mom in Heaven.
Although I believe I feel her presence, my belief is that in some way I am still connected to her through our spirit.
The other day I found our favorite "secret" close parking place at Mejier and was happy that the spot was open and remembered how often I would see my mom's red Monte Carlo :) parked in that spot when I would pull in tio get coffee or groceries. That particular day, I backed into the spot and looked over to my right, and what did I see? The only other red Monte Carlo in our town that is like my mom's car, parked next to the "secret" spot.
Either she was smiling down at me, or God loves us so much that He would send encouragement this way. I look forward to seeing her again one day.